A Quick Note To The Ladies Who Send A Contradicting Message To Others

[Stacyzee]

Don't stare at my breasts!

If you do, I will label you a pervert!

Why must you turn your head all the way around, to get a good look at my ass?
Do I look like I am for sale?

Why is it that these men seem to have a one track mind?

Doesn't a woman have a right to wear whatever she decides?

Ladies,

You have the authority to wear whatever you please.

The way you dress is an expression of your individuality.

I've had my days where I've dressed elegant and classy.
I've also had other days where I bare almost all, and I'm quite a bit flashy.
Ladies, when you dress a certain way, sexual looks and comments will come with the territory.

You cannot feel shocked and disrespected, if men take a liking to your looks
and have in their minds that they want to see you undressed.
A lot of women that bare a significant amount of flesh, get infuritated with others reactions,
they operate in major distress.

They seem to get offended that men look at them as objects,
If this is the way you feel, cover up and "show your truth", that you can be just as sexy,
but instead with your mind and not your body's design.

It's human nature to react to stimuli.

To every action there is a reaction.

If comments don't bother you, then dress as you please!
If they do, then your selection of clothing isn't for you!

[LittleSally]

True... I never got the 'I'm going to dress like a slut and nobody better comment on it. I'm a 'feminist'!' Hahaha

[farscryer0]

lol, too true

[Chief16]

A woman is entitled to wear what she wants, the rest of the world is entitled think whatever they want about her.

[red324]

Correct, but many women don't understand this.

[Chief16]

@red324 works both ways, just as much as what she wears is none of our business, what we think about her none of hers.

[GreatnessRevamped]

Truth, you speak

[Bloopy]

@GreatnessRevamped truth it is

[hellionthesage]

Thank you, that was always something that bothered me. Dress provocatively and get upset at the provoced response (yet if she doesn't dress provacatively then she is upset that no one is looking). Its really odd that so many women find this concept confusing. I have also heard them say its for comfort, which is strange because I dress comfortablly all the time and it doesn't require me being half naked to do so.

[FatherJack]

This is precisely why most men have trained themselves not to even look at women , let alone approach , have witnessed women launch verbal tirades & even physically assault men that had the " audacity " to even glance in their direction , worked as door staff years back & saw this numerous times , as well as groups of young women brutally shooting down guys for " fun " This blog post is food for thought. edumckaytion.com/blog/men-notice-women-anymore/
Another great take , Stacyzee , you deserve Editor status

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Good take I can see (probably wrong choice of word LoL) both sides of argument and I agree with both sides. As you say women can wear what they want and hope to expect a mature reaction from men but men can expect not to be judged for reacting. Utopian world men be more mature and women less judgmental when a guy appreciates maturely. It is probably one of those situations where a few idiots on both sides ruin it for everyone else.

[ShaeNielson]

She can wear whatever she pleases, even if she is almost bare it is never okay to touch or verbally assault her, however, you can't prevent men from looking. If a woman wears a really low cut top with her breasts pushed up personally I look at her rack, I just can't help it it's in front of my eyes so it's hard not to look at that particular part of her at all, and Im a straight female so imagine being a straight male, impossible not to look and that's okay.

[SunsetRose]

If you put it out there for all to see, don't be surprised if they look.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

That's not always true about the way women dress do not dress sexy at all and I have had a random ass guy approach me for casual sex before

I even had another guy try to talk to me while he was in his car and he kept tryiny to talk to me even AFTER I ignored him

[ikissedtheskyonce]

*I do not dress sexy

[ikissedtheskyonce]

*trying

[SunsetStar]

Unfortunately, a lot of guys will perv no matter what you wear - I've honestly not noticed much of a difference in how much skin is showing. I mean, I've seriously had a guy follow me around masturbating when I was wearing my church clothes, which were most definitely NOT revealing.

[Mustachekitteh]

Boobs that huge are distracting no matter what gender you are. Your brain just isn't able to not look at them. It's like trying to not look at something so horrible yet that pull to make you look keeps nagging at your brain.

[Satisfyd]

100% agreed. They make tops that don't show skin. They make bathing suits that are larger than a piece of string. If you're gonna show it to me I'm gonna look at it. Your fault for showing it to me, besides the female body is art so I'll just smile and stare.

[normalice]

I've actually never had a girl ask/tell me to not look at their boobs or butt. To be fair, that could be because I'm really sexy and they dress that way specifically because they want guys like me to notice their... finer attributes..

Or, and this is more likely, I'm just very good at being subtle about it.

[redeyemindtricks]

"I'm just very good at being subtle about it."

^^ Keep telling yourself that.

No, really... Please do. That way, everyone wins. <3

[jjmarvin]

I agree to thoughts and looks, but not comments. Showing skin and looking at said skin are very indirect and unintrusive. Comments are direct and intentional, involve a higher level of thought... yeah that's too much, maybe even threatening or scary.
But i do agree that if im not staring or forcing myself into someone's life then yes, i can look at whoever i want for whatever purpose i choose, because it's my mind and my life.

[AEther]

i'm so sick of being objectified by women when i were my mesh vest and banana hammock to the shops!.. my face is up here ladys! gosh!

[IceEverest]

Lol... haha

[Anonymous]

True, but: I know this skinny hot looking girl with huge breasts and for a long time I thought she dressed trashy. Unless another big busted girl complained that everything looks trashy when you have big boobs. Then I realized the hot girl only wore plain shirts with high or average necks combined with scarfs and/or a jacket. She didn't dress sexy, it was just her body type and she got a lot of undeserved hate and unwanted attention for it.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think it is nothing more than a power play by women who think that their only appeal to men is their appearance and who resent that "fact" (perception.)

[SüßeJäger]

A lot of truth in that. The door does swing both ways.

[FakeName123]

Honestly - I think the majority of girls who complain about that just want something to bitch about while they actually enjoy the attention. Also I wouldn't call those ladies.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Do not show them if you do not want them stared at, it's that simple

[DarkHumorRUs]

As long as I don't get in trouble with the law for observing nice knockers, I don't care if women get offended at me staring.

[joeb73]

well said now if they would only listen to what you just said.

[GreatnessRevamped]

What women don't realize is that dressing sexy is suppose to invite male gaze. It's a evolutionary thing.
She only complains because she's getting it from guys she doesn't like.
*sigh*
Women: can't live them...

*walks out the door* lol.