She sends the dreaded hey bud text.. Am i permanent friendzoned?
If a girl texts "hey bud" am I in the friendzone?
She sends the dreaded hey bud text.. Am i permanent friendzoned?
I'm right there with you man except my girl is in her 20s and likes to befriend a lot of guys while looking for "the one". She told me exactly the same as what your friend told you. If she looks like she's trying to make you jealous at some point and talks about how she's going to be meeting a new people because her friends set them up. Run. But dont run too far because sometimes they put you in the friendzone for a good reason. So while most likely your permanently friendzoned at this time there is hope. For me, sadly, I'm my friends safety net.
If you really like this girl, just be her friend. Dont force it or you will lose her. Trust me, I almost lost my friend and took her a month (as of today:D) to finally start talking to me again (just doesn't want to hang out with me yet). Value her as a friend and if you used to talk to her on a fairly constant basis like myself, tone it down. You don't want to act needy or clingy otherwise that'll push her farther away and you farther into the friendzone to the point where you're no longer "friendzoned" just "zoned".
If she starts talking about "guy troubles", just listen and be the friend. It'll hurt at first but eventually it'll be easier to take. Though with my friend, whenever she has guy troubles is when she contacts me to hang out or whatever because she knows I'll be there for her when she needs me to be. (I've actually had to threaten a guy that she met once.)
I would also meet new people and make some more female friends. Hang out with them a bit more and see how she reacts. She may just be waiting for the right time. She wants someone with experience maybe.
This is all experience from what I've learned through trial and error regarding my friend whom I care deeply for and am currently in the process of gaining her interest back. (Accidentally said "You invited me out here but don't look happy, if you dont want to hang with me just say so."She was tired that day... fml. So yea man, I understand fully.
Yes you are. Unless you could value from her as her friend, I suggest not talking to her for awhile, because it will sure suck when she texts you about her "guy troubles".
I dont really text her much. Just asked what she was upto this weekend and she says hey bud.
First time ever..
She doesn't have guy troubles cause she hasn't been in a relationship and will only get in one to get married as she is oonly 16 atm.
Try being fun around her, flirt a lot, and see where things go. Keep the conversations short and meaningful. When hanging out, don't hold back and be afraid to be physical. If she still isn't interested, then oh well. From your point, your college years will be great!
You are both very young, still wet behind the ears, and even though you 'Like her,' she is being this Honest John in telling you what her feelings are in all of this. To me, that is being straight as an arrow.
Go with the flow of things. Start off as friends. The best relationships which are nurtured and nursed Begin as Being 'Hey buds.' And if the chemistry is there, the seeds have been planted, then Old Mother Nature will sow them some more, Reaping Romance that you wish for down the ripe ol' line.
Yes, you are in the 'Friend zone' Fact at present, but don't give up altogether, leaving yourself a broken heart. Cupid may play a trick on her one day, and before long she may suddenly Wake up, telling you she's 'Ready' And-------Doesn't want 'Me' to miss out on my first date with you...
Good luck. xx
I dont get broken that easily :p. Im pretty conditioned now.
If i have to move on i will. I told her i was interested in her and wanted tto get to know her better.
But because i invited her out ttomy prom/gormal i stated my intentions. she's cool with it but doesn't want the real thing yet. I wanted that initially but i went ttoo fast.
I can still meet new women but if i am only her friend then so be it. Ubtil we are comitted then we can ttalk. What do you think?
Good outlook, wise man for your age... Yes, don't stay sitting for her if she is not into anything real right now... If you have a chance to do the real thing and date others, then go for it.. Who knows... Putting a carrot over the pony may spark a whinny and a whine from her... xx
Not necessarily. Depends on the type of girl you're talking to.
I call everyone dude. Including guys I like. So if the girl you're talking to is anything like me, her calling you "bud" gives absolutely zero indication as to whether she likes you or not.
I think you should just keep hanging out with her and see how things go. Do exactly what she told you to do. It could be years until she's ready to date. So if you're looking to get a girlfriend right now then she's simply not going to be it. And don't stay friends with her with the ulterior motive of it becoming more. If you're going to be friends with her then you're going to need to be able to just let things work themselves out and if anything more blossoms from the friendship then okay.
I know when I say stuff like that to a guy, I nicely declined his offer and friendzone possibly brozoned him
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Thats definitely friend zone...
When i'm not interested in a guy, I call me bro, dude, buddy. big bro or little bro...
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Well its not tthat she's not interested. she's never had a bf and is busy with school and study.
She only wants to date to get married.
Comforting to hear. But yea, im still meeting women. Not committed yet.
I hate that friend zone shit
Not necessarily.
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