Why do girls suck like they do?

[breman]

I'm 26, and I've been dating/trying to date for 13 years now. Why is it that the attractive girls (this means slim, pretty, nice curves, soft skin, pretty hair... heck they can even be just average looking) are never available, lead me on, don't respond on dating sites, don't give me a good reason why they don't want to talk to me anymore, are always too sick or busy to go out with me anywhere, always see me as "more of a friend", or are lesbian? They seem to always turn down the good guy who treats her right to go out with the supreme douche of the popular crowd, like popularity takes precedence over being a gentleman. But they'll tell you the opposite is what blows my fucking mind. Then they get fucked over by those guys and boo hoo about there being no good men left and all men are dogs when there are good men all around. It seems like only fat girls, who are the ones that no one else wants, are available and healthy ALL THE TIME!! They're always the ones who mean business when it comes to getting to know me better and dating me. It just seems like the only route that I have to getting a girl whom I find attractive enough to have sex with is to hire a prostitute. Now that I recall, those are the only attractive girls I've had. Being that, once I start making good money, I will start getting the girls I want finally (everyone says this and I've witnessed it), that will of course mean that they want me for my money, not for me. So wouldn't it make sense to just cut straight to it and just hire a prostitute instead of paying money AND having to say the right things at the right time, having to look your absolute best, having to be patient and all this other crap?

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+1 y

Ok. I AM NOT about to respond to ALL of these damn posts, so let me take down a thousand damn birds with one stone in one place: Yeah being a gentleman toward women and treating them with respect, being honest with them, and never playing games

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with them is SOOOOO disrespectful! Oh yeah I really need to get my act together on that don't I? Maybe if I played girls, didn't give a fuck about them, and knocked them up and left them single parent, I'd have my act together then huh?

[MrOracle]

There's no female conspiracy against you. If all girls are acting the same way towards you, it isn't the girls, it's YOU.

You talk about "treating her like a gentleman." As a former Nice Guy (tm) myself, I know that this is code for "desperate doormat." You might not think so, but that is exactly how girls see you, and why the only ones you are able to attract are OTHER girls who are just as desperate.

The girls you want are in high demand, and like in any transaction, if something is in high demand, the person with that thing can ask for more in return. Rich and/or celeb guys tend to date nothing but hot girls, because THEY CAN, and hot girls have their choice of nearly any guy, so she's going to pick the ones who are MOST attractive to her.

Turn it around: let's say I dropped you into a room with 100 women who all wanted to date you, but you could only choose ONE, and 10 of them were 1's, 10 were 2's, 10 were 3's, etc. Would you really give every one of those girls an equal chance, or would you focus on the 9's and 10's? Hell, you'd probably ignore the 9's and everything below, and focus exclusively on the 10's. Well, guess what? Everyone wants the best that they can get.

So, how do you get a better girl? You need to become a better man. You need to increase your value to women so they will value you more.

Here's the hard part for you to understand and accept: women use a different value system than you do, so you're going to need to think differently than you do now, and that's something a lot of men are simply unwilling to do. That's why they're single.

Most women want a man who is a MAN - that's their TOP priority. That means the man is CONFIDENT, and TAKES CHARGE, even over her. That means that, sometimes, he acts in ways that don't SEEM to be "gentlemanly" towards her, by telling her "no" or telling her what to do. He isn't mean about it, but he is forceful and direct. I would bet big money that you don't do that to hot girls.

[MrOracle]

And, let's be clear: I don't mean you act like an a-hole to them, but rather, YOU make most of the decisions.

Back when I was a Nice Guy (tm), I used to think that I was being nice by letting a girl make the decisions - where to go, what to eat, what to do, etc. How could she not be happy by getting to do what she wanted? I couldn't have been more wrong. Girls HATE to make those kinds of decisions, and want a STRONG MAN to make them for her. Sure, that guy should consider her desires and feelings, and sometimes he should decide to do things she wants, but HE should always be the one making the decisions.

Once I realized this, and learned to put it into practice (and it took a while to learn new behavior), my success with women skyrocketed.

Why? Because women want a guy they can RESPECT. And as Ferris Bueller famously said, "You can't respect someone who kisses your ass."

[breman]

I can respect someone who... as you and Ferris Bueller put it, "kisses my ass". I just don't see the need to run over people just b/c they're soft. I never got that. To me it's just down right cruel, but I guess girls having a vagina or something automatically makes them right even when they're really wrong.

[breman]

Now when I say I can respect someone like that, I mean someone who's kind and laid back, not someone who's a suck up. Even then, I'll just try to discourage it, not take advantage. For the record though, I do make the decisions. She just doesn't go along with them. And a key problem I'm having is that I'll be the one doing all the question asking and elaboration in convo whereas she never does; all she does is respond. Seems like she's not interested. So there, it's not my attitude/personality. Must be looks/lack of money or something. Hard to come up with good convo once you've gotten to know everything about each other and now it's time for you both to go out and have fun yet she never wants to or she ever can b/c she's sick/too busy. But I do have assertiveness.

[breman]

you and most on here have the wrong idea about me. I'm no doormat. Used to be, but I'm not now. And I make that clear to girls I talk to. I AM a true gentleman to them; I hold doors, pull out chairs, listen to them, try to keep interesting convo, make decisions to go out and have fun, pay for the dates, get her a gift for special occasions or just b/c, I don't lie or cheat... the list goes on. I have spine. I stand my grounds firmly. Now if she still thinks that's a "desperate doormat" then I just plain fucking give up. It doesn't make sense. I understand your 3rd paragraph. But then these guys they want are in high demand, and they can dog her ass out when they get ready b/c she might JUST BE AVERAGE (I think you missed that in my original post). And you've confirmed that her criteria don't include what's important; they include the superficial things, which means she lies when she asks for a good guy. There's about a 1-1 ratio of men and women in this country.

[breman]

Therefore, I'd think that there are about as many attractive guys as there are girls, no? So if I'm just asking for a 7, and it's still hard for me to get one, then somehow I'm below a 7? I don't see how myself. I'm not ugly, fat, uneducated, or unconfident. I've told you about my character, so I don't see how I should be having so much problem. By increasing my value you must mean get even better looking and richer b/c I don't see what I should do with my character. I will have a good job once I'm a doctor, but I don't wanna marry anyone who's only gonna be there for my convenient times and not be there for rough times too. The vows say for rich or for poor, better or worse, NOT just for rich and better. How should I think differently? If I do that, I'll end up being someone I'm not, and not for the better either. I know how to say "no" and direct the situation. Hot girls won't even give me the chance to do that... or even average girls.

[MrOracle]

Obviously, I know nothing about you - I've never met you and have never seen you interact with girls. My response was based on the limited info you provided, and what I commonly see with guys who struggle with girls. It's possible that your issue is something else, sure.

Start asking GIRLS to tell you why they wouldn't be interested in dating you. Ask them to be brutally honest with you, and then SHUT UP and LISTEN to what they say. Don't get defensive or argue in any way, just say "thanks for letting me know."

Ask as many girls as you can, and see if there is any consistency in their answers. Anything that's coming up frequently can be considered a legit issue for you FROM WOMEN'S PERSPECTIVE, even if you and other guys totally disagree. Remember: what YOU think, and what other guys think, is completely irrelevant, because it is GIRLS who are sizing you up as a potential partner - the only thing that matters is how THEY perceive you.

[breman]

I've ALWAYS asked girls why they aren't interested. Do you think they even respond?

[breman]

Look, I know you would like to think women are just wonderful, but they are not, truth be told. They're shallow, inconsiderate, selfish whores. They've proven this to me too many times. I tried to be a great guy to them, but they just won't like it. They like the guys who dog them out though. So I figured, hey, what the heck, I'll just give them what they're used to. So once I'm a doc, I'll get 'em, fuck 'em, and leave 'em!

[rocksongwriter]

“Why is it that the attractive girls are never available…”

Because they’re in high demand and in limited supply.

“…[they] don't respond on dating sites…”

Because there are 5,000 messages in their inbox. Give them time.

"…or are lesbian?”

If the women on dating sites are lesbians, you are in the wrong section of the dating site and need to adjust your search criteria to “women seeking men”

“They seem to always turn down the good guy who treats her right…”

Define “treating her right”. Is it being clingy and calling/texting her all the time like a crazy, obsessed person? Letting her run the relationship and doing whatever she says and being a doormat? What do you mean by “treating her right”?

“... once I start making good money, I will start getting the girls I want finally…”

Guys give gals a lot of trouble over this one, claiming they’re gold diggers and whatnot. I think the key here is to view things from her perspective. Suppose you’re a woman. Now, you realize you’ll probably end up married someday and you’ll have children and you’ll be responsible for providing them with food, clothing, and shelter for at least the first 18 years of their life. Knowing this early on, do you want to have children with somebody who is broke and unmotivated, or do you want to have children with somebody who has wealth and is ambitious? Your choice. If I was the woman, I’m picking the person with wealth 100% of the time.

“So wouldn't it make sense to just cut straight to it and just hire a prostitute instead of paying money AND having to say the right things at the right time, having to look your absolute best, having to be patient and all this other crap?”

Are you talking about hiring a prostitute full time? That sounds expensive.

[breman]

No, treating her right means being a gentleman, being there for her, NOT clingy... look I know you're thinking that I'm the normal "nice guy" with no spine and all that shit. Well I'm not. I have spine, I'm respectful, well mannered, I sound interested, I'm open minded, give the benefit of the doubt, honest, hard working, AM CURRENTLY IN MED SCHOOL, stay in decent shape, ... THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME! Oh I may be a little boring; hard not to be when she's not trying to engage in covo or spark any of her own and always is too busy to meet up to go do something.

[breman]

And I never said that these lesbian chicks are on the dating sites. You misunderstood. I'm talking about out in public as well there boss. But all that you think is my idea of treating her right is ABSOLUTELY FALSE for me. No, I'm a real man to her; I put her in her place when she cuts out of line, I stand up for myself, as I said I have spine, I make decisions... most of them, etc. I get that females want someone who can provide, but then again I though women and men were equal? Hmmm... maybe everyone just lies about that. If she already has a good job and all, then why is she all in my damn pockets then? I'm a student! I live off of borrowed funds FOR RIGHT NOW! There are girls out there who do the same thing, yet they're still too good for me. AND THEY HAVE NO CHILDREN! Prostitute full time? NO! Dude, who does that? But of course I will be if I marry a chick when times are convenient for her, i. e., once I'm a doc.

[breman]

So I mean, since I'm a student right now, does that mean I have to be celibate until I'm a doctor? Oh yeah, that'll be convenient for THEM at least, but then what about my needs while in school? Am I not still human while in school? Or do I even fucking matter at all? She's NOT the only one who'll be in the relationship. The world does not revolve around women's asses ya know? (though we seem to be on our way towards that). I will be able to afford a comfortable living for myself and my future family, but I'd just LOVE to have a woman NOW who will be with me through the rough times while I'm a student as well as through my easy times. That's called unconditional love. Would you marry a woman who only dished out CONDITIONAL love? If you would, then you're fucking mindless and heartless and you don't love yourself or your future kids.

[breman]

So it's not like I'm a loser or anything, I'm just getting there still. Why can't "women" appreciate that? Only a real woman would. So please, advise females around you to NOT kick good men when they're still struggling to come up. Advise them to stick by that man through thick and thin, better or for worst, rich or for poor, sick or through health, instead of shitting on those vows to get to what she wants: the money! Best long lasting relationships spring from couples who were there for each other NO MATTER WHAT bro!

[rocksongwriter]

Wow, you're extremely intense! Instead of giving me a three or four line response, you gave me a 556 word rant. I've found the problem!

Another sign of your intensity is when you talk of unconditional love. I mean, the goal is to just go out and have fun with women and see where it goes, and then maybe you'll hit the unconditional love stage waaaaay into the relationship. At that point you'll probably already be engaged/married to her.

"but I'd just LOVE to have a woman NOW who will be with me through the rough times while I'm a student as well as through my easy times. That's called unconditional love."

See what I mean?

No woman who barely knows you is going to give you unconditional love "now".

Well, I take that back. There are women mentally unstable enough who would latch onto you and say they love you unconditionally, but these same women will stab you in your sleep after they have a dream about you talking to another woman.

[breman]

Dude, you can't be engaged/married w/o first have the unconditional love. What I meant was if she's only there for me when times are convenient, then that's a big ass red flag that she's probably gonna jump ship on me when times get rough in the future. I don't want that kind of female.

[breman]

I'm expecting the woman to be there for me although I'm still a student. I would for her. What, does that just mean I'm a better person? Love means having respect and being open and honest. It also means that she can still leave me IF she has a good reason. If she doesn't, then there's no love their. I only ask of them what I'd do for them myself. You should be that way towards EVERYONE. What would a female look like if she just comes out open and honest with it and told me "I don't want you now b/c, although you can pay for dates and buy me simple gifts sometimes, you can't buy me a Benz or pay my rent. Although I'm an independent woman, I still expect you to do that for me. But since you can't now, fuck you, and hit me up when you're balling one day." THAT'S what the truth is for a lot of these girls.

[FreyaDiermayr]

I wish I could choose the mho because this would be it

[rocksongwriter]

Thanks, Freya!

[loveisbeautiful]

Instead of the usual rambling I'm gonna try and get straight to the point.
As of tomorrow I'll have been on here 3yrs and in those years I have seen
plenty of people ask questions such as yours and be very heated in the way they ask
the question. Which leaves the people on here (for what ever reason) thinking
this person is horrible human being, when really they're probably just really
ticked and wanted to vented. Are some of the words you used to describle women
offensive, sure. Does that make you a bad a guy and reason you can't get
a date, no. Truth is, we know no nothing about you and we don't get to make
character judgements about you because of one question you asked out of
frastration. So, try to ignore the people on hear yelling at you. Because they
do that to everybody.

Now, to answer your question. I don't know if you've ever seen Steve Harvey's talk show,
but I have. And, in the three years it's been on. He's had guest who do the EXACT
same thing men on here complain woman do. He's had women who lists that
went from the ceiling to the floor of what they want in a man and looks, a nice car, money,
etc etc. Is always at the top of the list and things like someone respectable, caring, loving,
etc etc are at the bottom of the list. So, all the things men come on here and say women
do. They actually do. So, though we could all use a little self improvement. Just because
those girls aren't interested, doesn't mean it's your fault or even there fault (depending
on the situation). It just means you weren't compatible and it's probably a good thing, things
didn't work out. I know it can be a daunting when you try and try, but nothing works out.
But, you can't give up because eventually it will work out and you'll be glad you didn't
throw in the towel.

[loveisbeautiful]

As far as the protitution thing goes. I would never recommend for someone
to hire one, just because though they may show you a "good time', there's a lot of
risk in having that "good time". Also, when men go to them they're guys who
REALLY just want to get laid and move on. If you're a guy who REALLY wants
a relationship but things haven't been working out, so you figured you'll just
settle for sex. Don't do it, because you most likely won't be very happy with that
especially if you want a deep meaningful relationship, sex will just be a poor
substitution for that. I know the whole relationship thing can be painful and
fratrating and make you just want settle for less then you really want and need. But, as I
said above. You can't give up because one day you'll find a good woman who
likes you for you and gives you a chance but if you give up, you'll never find that
girl. So, give don't up. It will work out, you just have to believe. Good luck : )

[breman]

You, my lady, have one of the most mature, intelligent, real, human responses on here! I love it! THAAAAANNKK YOOUU for being someone who FINALLY gets most of what I'm talking about here!

[loveisbeautiful]

You're very welcome : ) And, thank you for what you said about me.
Most people on here call me names and tell me I'm stupid. So, I
appreciate what you said. Thanks : )

[breman]

Wow, people do you like that too? Maybe this site is for assholes only or something, ya think? lol But settling for sex is something I wanna do for now b/c it will make me feel a bit better since I've been on such a long dry spell and I just want to know what it's like to have sex with someone I really want... physically that is. Meanwhile, I'm not gonna give up looking for a good woman. Maybe I just need to try overseas one day or something! lol

[loveisbeautiful]

Yes, they do. But, it's not just here. I'm shy and quiet and kinda of a loner,
people don't like that. I was bullied for 3yrs because I'm shy. On here, people
just don't get me. I;m different then most and definitely different then most
people my age, they don't like that either. So, though it hurts to be called names
and have people make snap judgements about me, it's nothing I'm not use to. And,
this site is filled with judgmental jerks. But, I think that's just the state of the
world lol. Everybodies out themselves these days, this site isn't any different.

As for the casual sex thing. If that's what you think is best for you, for the time
being. Then go for it. Just, A) makesure it's what you really want and B) that
you're careful. You know what's best for you and your life now, so do what's
right for you. Good luck : )

[breman]

Ah, well, thanks again! Once again, you're spot on. Hey by the way, is that you in that picture? Whoever she is, she's quite pretty.

[loveisbeautiful]

You're welcome and yes, that's me in the picture. Thank you, that's nice of you
to say : )

[SquantoGuy]

Hey, I had to make another acct, but just to let you know I would've so awarded this Most Helpful!

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks, that's makes me happy to know. Glad I could help you in some way.
If you ever need any more advice, just ask. I'd be happy to help.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

why is it that guys who can't get hot girls are always talking about what such good men they are and better than any other guy. I would think if you were that amazing of a gentleman you wouldn't be so shallow and only going after girls outside of your league. I would also think that you wouldn't consider a prostitute as a reasonable substitute for dating these women... but oh wait - all you want to do is fuck these hot girls. you don't really care about having a deep emotional loving mutual connection with a woman. you just wanna get laid by the top notch hot babes.

so how exactly are you different than the other guys you judge as douches and bad boys? your no different than those guys on the inside, you just aren't desirable enough for these girls to want to fuck you the way you want to fuck them. so get off your high horse and stop judging when you are in no place to. if the only girls who want you are the fat ones that no one else wants look in the mirror because you must be on their level. think about it, the only difference between you who couldn't get laid by a bad bitch unless he paid for it and the douchebags who fuck hot popular girls on a regular basis is looks. because you sound just as douchey as these guys you judge. your just not as good looking as them so you can't attract the bitches they attract.

your solution: pay for a prostitute or look your absolute best and get some game. if you are not alpha to do the latter, make sure you leave the money on the nightstand :)

[breman]

Outside of my league? Excuse me? NO ONE is outside of my league. And I know I'm a good man, I'm not being pretentious, just demonstrating the confidence that sooooo many females claim I didn't have, NEVER did I say I'm better than others, and I'm NOT shallow. I've tried fat girls, and I never could get "ready" with them. So why would I go after them again? I'm only asking for one of 60-70% of all girls out there, sorry for being so picky!! Then if I take just any damn girl, oh I'm desperate! Why can't people just admit that I'm a guy with standards that can easily be met by most?

[breman]

You apparently didn't read my passage very well: The reason why I only wanna get laid by the at least average girls NOW is because I tried to establish a loving, mutual connection with them in the past (and continue to do so), but THEY don't want that with ME. So yeah, stop getting everything twisted. NO one's on a high horse here. I think I remember you going off on me before without reading my passage very carefully. I am NOT fat myself; I'm 18% body fat, 5'10", which is normal for a guy. So back the hell up off me there! Game? Hell all game is act and good talk. Talk is cheap. But you proved something, and thank you for pointing this out: so-called "women" are stupid and shallow enough to fall for talk and shallow ass acts and would rather have that than have a good, loving, caring, loyal gentleman by their sides. Finally, I believe we could both agree that the fat girls only go after me because I'm a last resort since they can't have what they really want.

[breman]

Therefore, why would I be with someone like that? I'm sure if the fat girl was in a hot bitch's body, she wouldn't give me a chance either. These hot bitches claim they want good men, but they run after someone with damn money and a good time, and once I become a doctor I'll be that someone with money and a good time. She will not have been there for me when times were rough, so why would I love her and she won't and never did love me? That'd be stupid wouldn't it? But I will still want her body, if she hasn't gotten fat by then, so I'll just bang her as well as her younger cousins and sisters! :) So no darling, I'm NOT as douchey as those guys whom I don't judge but know are assholes; I just... well... make sense!! ;)

[AlexCab]

Man, she gave you a tough answer but I'd say pretty pretty real. I wouldn't go as far as to pay for sex, I'm sure you can get whatever you want if you put your mind to it, but to be honest I believe the world is filled with beautiful women. "Top notch" is just another way of distinguishing and at some point, discriminating them. Not good bro. They are all beautiful even if you wouldn't date some. Try to be cool about reality for a change.

[breman]

She gave me a tough answer? She's a damn troll!! Cool about reality? I was and still am! Who said I wasn't? I'm just stating facts here. I've put my mind to it. I'm telling you man, I've done nothing wrong! I know the truth hurts, but we gotta admit here, GIRLS AIN'T SHIT! At least the American ones aren't... generally speaking.

[breman]

And what is this "top notch" deal you're talking about?

[Gemstone2411]

Butthurt.

[SquantoGuy]

Can't counter argue cause he's right! :)

[Izzex3]

Couldn't have said it any better myself.

[ElHenaut]

Amen, this dude's whole attitude and grasp on reality is wrong.

[TheFullestThrottle]

@ElHenaut how so?

[TheFullestThrottle]

@Gemstone2411 regardless what he said was true shit. He being butthurt, if that is in fact what he is, does not change the truth. So get over it rather than trying to use shame tactics

[LavenderBlue2721]

First of all, you don't want the girl who want you for the money and the looks. Because they'll just leave you once you run out of money and/or start to age and lose your looks. Also girls like that are judgmental hypocrites. They'll say stuff like, "Oh there's no good guys in the world left" after they broke up with they're jerk boyfriend and before that a sweet guy comes along and they ignore them. Or "I'd totally date a nice guy if I ever met one". But when they do, they'll date them for a while before getting back into the old routine of dating jerks. Anyway, you don't want that type of girl. They're the kind who probably hang out on dating sites and clubs. Don't try so hard. Some day you might be at work or at the coffee shop and see a pretty girl. Be brave, strike up a conversation with her. Take a pottery class, join a gym, or volunteer at a soup kitchen or animal shelter. You'll find a nice and pretty girl there. Or have a friend set you up with maybe they're sweet cousin or something. There's plenty of pretty girls out there looking for a nice guy. You're just looking in the wrong places. Anyway, I hope this helped you. And good luck! :)

[breman]

I'd only get with the girl who wants me for money because I'd just wanna bone her. I know not to get deeply involved with anyone like that. I don't try that hard, but I do try. I strike up conversations with many of them but they seem to not want to carry on convo with me. They'll be yes/no responsive and that's it. No elaboration, which means they're not interested, but just being nice. People say I'm looking in the wrong places all the time, but what place is the right place when I've looked all over already? College, med school, work... no luck! And if there are plenty looking for a nice guy, then why have I yet to run into one? But thanks for your input anyway.

[Betwyn]

1: That is nearly impossible to read. Paragraphs are your friend. Organisation is sexy.
2: Just because you find someone attractive, does not mean they find you attractive. The converse is also true.
3: Maybe they are just too nice to tell you that you are boring or creepy to them?
4: Just because someone isn't a douche, does not mean they are a good guy.
5: Sometimes, we need a string of asshole douches first, to appreciate a good guy
6: You have something against fat girls? Ever think they feel about you, like you do about the hot girls?
7: You don't have to play the game, you're right, you can just buy the prize instead of earning it.
8: Please, don't ever raise kids.

[WhoTheHellKnows]

Lmao!

[zombiebabe]

100%agree

[Prof_Don]

#4 is an absolutely epic statement! :)

[breman]

Everyone who agrees with this is a stupid asshole too. Who said I wasn't a good guy who earned a great girl? I am that good guy who has always been done like shit by females in general. How the FUCK am I in the wrong? Yeah, going out with cheaters, players, and douches who will leave you knocked up and single parent are SOOOOO much better!!

[Betwyn]

1: That is your opinion.
2: Well, you actually said you haven't earned the girl. otherwise, you'd have her and wouldn't be here crying.
3: If a guy, is really and truly a "good guy" all around.. he will find someone.
4: How are you in the wrong? I'm guessing you are either blind to, or in denial of, your faults.
5: I've gone out with douches, assholes, nice guys, decents guys, bastards, jerks, even a White Knight or two.. and you know what?

Not a single one of them has left me pregnant and a single mother.
Not a single one of them, has stuck forever.

Until you can look at yourself, and be brutally honest about what the problem is, no one can really help you.

Maybe you have an unfortunately placed mole or birthmark.
Maybe you have chronic bad breath.
Maybe it's genetically bad teeth.
Maybe you are a pushover.
Maybe you are creepy
Maybe it is one of a thousand other things.

[Betwyn]

But WE don't know you.
WE can only conjecture

Based on WHAT you tell us. and HOW you tell us.

[breman]

It's VERY easy to read. You're the first to complain about this mind you. Why did you even bring up number 2? Being too nice = being unthoughtful and not wanting to help someone out. Depends on what you define as douche and good guy. Number 5 is just fucking hilarious! Yeah, you need to give your first, best, and all to the asshole douches first so that you can give the sloppy seconds to the guys who will make you a great husband and wonderful father to your children. VERY thoughtful and unselfish. I'm not fat, and I've at least given fat girls a shot. Can't say the same for AVERAGE/hot (not just hot) girls. Again, what's wrong with me? I haven't found anything, and no one has told me anything (except for you mindless pricks on here who don't even know me). I've earned the prize, but it wasn't given to me, and again, stop being judgmental bitches without getting to know me, b/c ANYONE in my life will tell you that I'm GREAT with kids.

[breman]

@ Betwyn When tha hell did I say I didn't earn a great girl? In my situation, it's like a hard working guy who gets almost not didly shit for his hard work, and then he sees some lazy douche doing nothing with himself who gets to live off of the hard worker's hard earned tax dollars, getting welfare and foodstamps. Doesn't seem fair does it? You're trying to make this out to be MY fault when it is anything BUT that! I'm a good guy, and I don't deserve to be left alone and high and dry. But I am. And all you all wanna do is humiliate me even more. Sooooo thoughtful and helpful of you I ever so sarcastically say

[breman]

@ Betwyn You should know good and damn well that women don't always give good men what they deserve. As far as your number 3, yeah he'll find someone alright, AFTER SHE'S BEEN USED UP!! Again, we don't deserve that! Blind to my faults? What faults? Please tell me what they are cause I sure as hell don't see them! Only fault I can see is that I may be a little boring at times, but is that really worth ditching a good guy for? Is getting with a cheating, lying bastard really worth the little bit of short lived good time you'll have with him? Is being knocked up by that guy and left single parent really worth that little thrill of the chase after a guy who doesn't seem to give a fuck about you? I AM brutally honest about everything! You swear you got me figured out and you absolutely do not! I'm not just telling you the side of the story I want you to hear. I'm telling you EVERYTHING!!

[breman]

Finally, NONE of those things that you've listed are problems with me. Girls never say there's a problem with me, even when I ask them. I'll try to find out what the problem is, and they won't even fucking respond! And if they do, you know what they'll say? "Oh, it's not you, it's me", "oh, you're such a great guy, and I don't wanna ruin our friendship", or "oh, you're such a great guy and you'll make someone a wonderful husband, but you're just not my type; it's not you, it's me". NOW does it sound like I'm the problem or that I'm a douche?

[jenn33]

totally agree with #5

[Betwyn]

1: Just because I'm the first to complain, does not mean I'm the only one.
2: Being too nice = not wanting to tell you hard truths, hurt your feelings
3: Not every guys is a douche or good guy, it isn't an either/or thing.
4: first, best and all? Who says you won't be the best? or maybe the guy after you?
5: What is wrong with you? Like I said, we don't know you. All we can do is go off how you are portraying yourself here and with generalizations and possibilities.
6: If you'd earned the prize, you'd have gotten the prize. No prize means you've fallen short somewhere. Maybe you've come close. Maybe you have no idea what to do different. Maybe you are chasing the wrong prizes.
7: Calling us "judgmental bitches" speaks volumes about your character.
8: Being good with kids, doesn't mean you are a good guy to date. Some guys, are good with kids, because they are basically a kid still themselves.

[Betwyn]

9: Not everyone on welfare is a scammer. Not everyone who works hard, is worth promoting.
10: I understand you think you are a good guy. and hey, you might be 80% right. But here is the thing. With you and all these girls, what is the common thread? You. I don't know whether it is something physical, mental, behavioural about you, but something is getting in the way of your success. At some point, you NEED to look hard in the mirror.
11: No one deserves to be alone. Conversely, no one deserves to be with someone. It isn't a right. and, "Fault" is maybe to strong and negative of a word here.
12: I'm not trying to humiliate you. I am trying to help you. You need to really look inside yourself. See what is there. What is good. what is bad. and what you can change.
13: No one "deserves" anything. If there is no chemistry, it doesn't matter how good of a guy you are. If you have a fatal flaw you are blind to, it doesn't matter how good you think you are.

[Betwyn]

14: There is no such thing as "used up" we don't have expiry dates. We don't have limited uses. We are people. We learn and grow throughout our lives. I am not the same girl I was in high school, even if some of my behaviours seemingly look the same.
15: I can't tell you what faults they see in you. I only know you here, in this thread. Here, you are hurting, and well, lashing out. If this is just a slightly amped up version of RL you, well, then, maybe women can tell this about you, how you feel about women. How you think they owe you. If this is really just pain talking, and frustration, that you are not the women hater you 'sometimes' seem to be here, then it is something else. It might be one fatal flaw. It might be a myriad of small flaws, that combined, are a dealbreaker.
16: All the women you like have dated player/cheaters that have left them single and pregnant? really?

[J-junk]

Tell it sister!

[Betwyn]

17: The women won't tell you what is wrong. Some, say it's not you, it's me. Some, don't respond at all. ok...

"It's not you, it's me" is sometimes, true. and sometimes, its a soft let down. Even if we say it's a 50/50 split.. have the girls are saying that it IS you. More to the point, you ask what the problem is, and a girl NEVER responds.. the problem is you.. (or she died before she could respond)

It might be something like hygiene and they feel awkward telling you that you need to brush your teeth or shower more. and something like that, is really fixable.
It might be how you look, who you are, or how you carry yourself. Those are harder to fix. Those are still awkward to talk to guys about. Especially if you will still be in their life afterwards. It is easier to tell a hard truth to someone you won't see again. and some people, can never tell the HARD TRUTH.
18: Type could be true, but it can also speak to #17

[Betwyn]

#19: ""oh, you're such a great guy and you'll make someone a wonderful husband"

This could be a soft let down, or, it could be a real kernal of truth here. You might be looking for something different then the girls you are chasing. Or, you might be looking to go more serious to quick. You might be in "settle down, have a family" mode, while they are still in "have fun mode"

The last guy that kicked me to the curb, wanted kids. I don't, and don't think I ever will. We were a great fit otherwise. But this caused him to end it.

[breman]

@J-Junk OMG! This pro feminism bs! Cut it out already!!!

[breman]

@Betwyn My passage CAN'T be that hard to read. But I'm done commenting on that. A lot of guys ARE straight douches or straight good/nice. I was referring to her giving HER first, best, and all! In other words, she gives more of her attention and she is more excited/happy with those jack asses that she's with now than she will be with me in the future when she comes looking for me after she's tired of the jack asses' shit. And what you defined as being too nice: EXACTLY as I said! Being unthoughtful and not giving a shit about helping me out. Structural criticism is key to success.

[breman]

And I get no answers other than I’m doing the right thing and I’m just fine and they will flock my way when I’m a doctor. Now I don’t know if ALL of these people are just being nice, but I agree with them. As I said (to you or someone else), maybe I’m a little boring at times, but I believe that’s a much, much more minor problem that what girls will be putting up with when they deal with the douches. For 11: Why would she deny me something that I want that she could give me if she knows I’d be worth it and there’s no good reason not to give it to me? I wouldn’t do anyone like that. Then again, maybe I’m just a better person. You WERE humiliating the shit out of me! You think your audience is going to listen to you if you talk to them like shit? Just like paragraphs are MY friend, TACT is YOUR friend. And I’m still trying to get a good answer as to what’s so damn wrong with me. I’ve explained myself already, so where’s the problem?

[breman]

If I had a “fatal” flaw, I’m sure it would have surfaced by now. It’s funny how girls seem to have chemistry with the low life dirt bags who are fun and exciting yet who will do her like shit soon or later b/c he only wanted her as another notch in his bed, isn’t it? By used up I mean she’s emotionally damaged, got somebody else’s kids (perhaps, there’s a big chance), and in my mind, the bad boys’ she fucked before minds, and her mind, she was with them and they had her first. I’m the last to have her. That’s what I mean by used up. When I come at a girl and try to holler at her, she doesn’t know any of this that I’m saying to you all now! And I forget all about this and give her the benefit of the doubt because she’s a new woman and it’s a new fucking day! But boy doesn’t it backfire on my optimistic ass! Again, whatever other flaws I may have I’d LOVE to know, but I can’t if everyone’s too damn busy being “nice”.

[breman]

It’s not nice to withdraw vital info from someone that you’d like to “help out". For #16, no, not every one of them got knocked up, but some more will, trust. Not all have gotten played…yet. Your number 17’s a joke! She didn’t respond b/c she knows the real reason why she won’t be with me is shallow as shit and she doesn’t want to admit it and/or she doesn’t want to be confronted. A confident, righteous person should WELCOME confrontation, not hide from it. It DAMN sure ain’t hygiene. Those who can’t tell the hard truth are WEAK! I myself don’t mind telling anyone the hard truth. One more time, tact is key here. A lot of people love sympathizing with women about being weak about telling the truth. This is not a good idea; you should encourage them to do otherwise. FINALLY, (I’m tired as shit) “soft let downs” is a sweet, convenient disguise for a filthy ass LIE. And if it isn’t a lie that I’ll make a great husband and all, then why the hell would she pass that up?

[breman]

Apparently good men aren't so hard to find after all huh? And for the record, married couples can still have fun ya know. Just not the filthy, low life go- fuck- any- and- every –kind- of- guy- you- can- before- you’re -married fun that those who are still in “have fun mode” want.

[Betwyn]

You know what..

You are either wearing blinders, or trolling.

Either way, I'm done.

[breman]

Looks like I'm right huh? Nothing else you can say cause I successfully counter argued everything you had to say. However, you could work on your admit to me having a good solid point and not try to insult me YET AGAIN on the way out! Oh, and by the way, for tips on how to respond to people with a bit more tact and consideration, refer to loveisbeautiful's response up toward the top.

[CuddlesWillDie]

Dude you sound just like me, even the same age lol. Well i think the reason why girls like a guy who makes money is because usually thats a good sign that he's a man and not a boy (Most jobs require us to be mature acting) Seems that looks alone don't cut it. Girls like "douchebags" temporarily because they give off the impression that they can take charge and make decisions but I see girls breaking up with them all the time when they get sick of their arrogance. In this order this is what women prefer:

#1 Well-balanced gentleman who's a nice guy but strong, not afraid and takes full control over what happens in his life
#2 The cool guy who's mean to those he doesn't care about but who's exciting to be around and upfront about his intentions
#3 The whiny frustrated loser who allows bad things to happen to him and has no control over the events in his life or even his own emotions when things don't go his way

So it's important to be comfortable with who you are (And the ideal you, not the lazy you) because women want a guy who makes decisions, protects them, provides for them and who is courteous to both her and other people too (Good signs of him capable of raising a family)

[Alice_Infinity]

I like this answer a lot :)

[breman]

Well I suppose I'm just a "boy" because I'm in med school. Yeah, not very mature of me at all. I don't agree with your number one. If that were the case, I wouldn't be ranting now. I'm upfront about my intentions, and it's hard to show how fun I am when she won't even have time to go out with me in the first place. And I don't blindly follow society; I'm a free thinker, and I'm a leader. I think about everything I'm gonna do next; I don't just do what the "cool, popular hip hop artist" or wtf ever is doing. Funny how these guys who do this though get more girls than I. And I'm EVERYTHING in that last paragraph you wrote. People on here assume that I'm not b/c no one on here knows me. They are just basing their judgment about me on the rant that I've provided.

[breman]

BTW, it's not that I can't provide for myself or that she can't for herself, she has no family to take care of, neither do I, and I can afford the dates, soooo... why would my finances be a problem here?

[CuddlesWillDie]

Well it does sound like you're very frustrated man, sounds like you've tried a lot of things to win a girl and they haven't worked and you're thinking "WTF why don't I have one, why do these ugly guys have one instead of me?" (Fair point mind you) Problem is, women do not like an emotional in-balanced guy, at all, I was once one myself and my ex detested me, since I started getting along with more family members I began to feel less angry and happier so my root cause to frustration was the fact I felt my family were against me. Well if you're anything like me, and have tried to change yourself or your circumstances to hopefully reap benefits, you're actually better off fixing up things you've done in the past and making it up to people you've wronged, karma tends to smile at those who do, plus it does give you an emotional boost knowing you made someone else happier, it takes practice man, but you'll get there

[Alice_Infinity]

I agree with CuddlesWillDie, from your questions and your answers you just sound really emotionally imbalanced. From the personality you're portraying here, I wouldn't date you if you were a billionaire..

[SquantoGuy]

@ CuddlesWillDie Again, you all are missing a VERY important point: I'M NOT RAGING AT THE GIRLS THAT I TRY TO DATE LIKE I DO ON HERE!! So these girls don't even know that I'm mad. Heck I really never have been until now! I mad at girls turning me down for no good reason. I give girls a reason as to why I turn them down; I only ask the same in return. Sooooo sorry if this is too much to ask!

[SquantoGuy]

@CuddlesWillDie Again, you all are missing a VERY important point: I'M NOT RAGING AT THE GIRLS THAT I TRY TO DATE LIKE I DO ON HERE!! So these girls don't even know that I'm mad. Heck I really never have been until now! I mad at girls turning me down for no good reason. I give girls a reason as to why I turn them down; I only ask the same in return. Sooooo sorry if this is too much to ask!

[SquantoGuy]

I never thought "... why do these ugly guys have one instead of me?". Again, I AM NOT a generally frustrated individual or anything. I'm just like that here because of how everyone's responding to me.

[SquantoGuy]

@Alice_Infinity Read what I told CuddlesWillDie

[SquantoGuy]

maybe I do bring that bitchery out in them, but it's just b/c of something so small like me being a little boring. Oh and dig this, this girl I was talking to recently said that "you texting me at 6am was off putting". That's why she stopped talking to me for a couple days. Ain't that some shit? This is why they don't like a good guy. BUT, hold account, they will put up with a lying, cheating, abusive fuck face who will not even look after his own kids he had by her all b/c he's not boring. Now I'm not boring all the time, just sometimes. That's a small ass flaw that could be easily corrected if she just simply spent more time with me. And we all have flaws right? So if you have to put up with some kind of flaw, then why not put up with small ones instead of big ones, right? But I guess in the illogical female world, worse flaws are better.

[Alice_Infinity]

@SquantoGuy you need to not take rejection so personally. Remember, it's not necessarily about you, there could just be another guy in the picture that they decide to pursue instead. Stay positive, keep looking, I'm sure you'll find someone, I believe in you :)

[been_waiting]

Girls don't go for guys BECAUSE they're cheaters and liars and abusers.
I've said it a thousand times on here. You don't know someone is a cheater, liar, or abuser right off the bat. If you think it's that astonishingly evident, then you must have the mentality of a small child, because people are not so black and white. It isn't JUST obviously COMPLETELY GOOD guys and obviously COMPLETELY BAD guys. These guys that girls are dating that end up treating them wrong... will appear to be good guys initially, will treat her nicely, entice her... and end up being douchebags. Girls DO NOT like being treated like crap. I'm so freaking sick and tired of hearing that girls want to be cheated on, lied to, and physically abused. NO girl wants that, except some who are very mentally ill and have some sort of desire to be degraded (and that's a very small percentage of women AND men.)

And JUST because you are not a cheater, liar, or abuser, doesn't mean you're dateable. It takes more to like someone than the absence of bad traits. The absence of bad traits does not imply the presence of good ones.

[been_waiting]

as for someone being rude for not giving you a chance... YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO A FREAKING CHANCE!!! !!! I'm sorry but I'm tired of hearing that girls owe guys a chance. No one owes you a chance, no one owes you their time or love or affection or sex... no one.
And I don't have to "Give a guy a chance" to decide whether or not I like him. If I don't like you, no chance.

[been_waiting]

And based on how you worded your question, you're not the nicest guy yourself.

[cphiecekslee]

I can understand why a lot of women on here could find this offensive in some way, but as a female with a lot of genuinely great guy friends who have been through the ringer with women, I have to say I can understand your frustration and need to vent. Here's the thing you have to understand - a lot of people are shitty. Of course, its all a matter of personal perspective, but chances are that the more intelligent you are and genuine you are, you're not going to like a lot of people. Its fucked up but true - a lot of people in this day and age are obsessed with being cool, in whatever form it may take. People strive to live like celebrities more than ever, and our current celebrities are for the most part terrible idols for anyone. Many people have naive, immature mindsets for longer nowadays, I've noticed. We reward beauty so highly in this age that we are teaching beautiful people that they don't need a personality or smarts - they can get everything with their looks.

That being said, the chances of finding a pretty girl who is also nice are probably going to be slim - anyone who has had everything handed to them will never know the hardship of earning something or having to endure suffering, and thus will never be able to truly empathize with others. That's not to say that all pretty girls aren't kind - its just a lot more rare. If that physical attraction is so important to you, I recommend looking for girls who are pretty but have also been through some shit and come out okay. I know, easier said than done, but that's the best base for your needs, I think. I was homeless the first four years of my life and bullied for glasses and braces/general nerdiness in middle school, but once I hit high school and college I developed into a beautiful young woman and ended up modeling for a while. However, since I had already experienced cruelty at the hands of others and had already learned the value of learning, I never was cruel to anyone else and never had a higher

[cphiecekslee]

Commitment to anything outside of education and loyalty to my friends.

To give you another viewpoint, though, I want to add that in high school and college, I ended up dating some terrible guys. I knew they were terrible, but I felt so bad wanting to leave them once I realized it (they all "loved" me or so I thought back then, though I can see now they had no idea what love truly was) that I had a very hard time breaking up with them because I was afraid it would ruin them psychologically. I thought maybe I could help them, but I learned the hard way not to get with or stay with broken people. The point is, everyone makes mistakes (even the smartest of us) because there is no guidebook when it comes to relationships. Almost everyone has some idea that a relationship is supposed to be like it is in the movies, which is just so far from the truth. So we fuck up, all of us, for some amount of time. Some of those girls might still be in the learning stage, but a lot of them are

[breman]

Wow, another wonderfully written, mature response! Thank you for that! These types of responses are rare on here. It's sad when you have girls (I can't call them women) in their 30's having the absolute shittiest responses ever known due to ignorance and deliberately trolling but yet there are a few of you WOMEN who are b/w 18 and 24 or even under 18 who respond so much more maturely and with so much more intelligence!

[breman]

And yes, finding girls who are pretty but have also been through some shit and come out okay hardly exist. I mean I've been with some fairly attractive girls, VERY few and VERY far in b/w, but they were damaged. They had horror stories to tell, one of them cut herself on a regular (plus she was a dark skinned black girl which is another reason why a lot of guys didn't go for her, I'm sure) and had issues with her breasts sagging, one had jacked up teeth and bad breath and her baby died from SIDS and she was broke, another had bad ass allergies to everything known and broke out a lot and ended up testing my man hood to see if I would put her in her place for her cutting out of line (that's how we broke up; I failed), and the other one was pretty much just a bipolar whore. All of them were broke and... well... to me it seems that ALL girls are bipolar, but they sure as hell seemed like it.

[breman]

now don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with the girl having allergies or that girl who's baby died of SIDS, or with any of them being broke, or with the dark skinned girl have somewhat saggy breasts, but I had problems with the other things. But most men in general, excluding me of course, would have problems with all of the above b/c to them it's just baggage, baggage, baggage.

[cphiecekslee]

Thank you :) yes it is rather sad, but honestly for me, my last "bad" relationship I threw my hands up in the air and said "fuck it!" and decided not to try for a guy anymore because I was honestly fed up with dealing with the bullshit. Best decision of my life - I was way happier alone and kind of learned how to have a blast with friends or by myself and I stopped trying to find a companion. Once I did that, the perfect man for me fell into my lap. I think that people make a mistake when they are in a mindset that they need to find a partner asap, and subconsciously let things that they actually aren't okay with slide because they want this next person to "be the one". I've noticed that people always glorify their partner for a while, and then when they really start to settle into the relationship all the things they didn't like originally start to become more and more of an issue as that initial excitement wears away. If you aren't looking or wanting another person though, it

[cphiecekslee]

Is way easier to find someone who is perfect for you, because you won't be subconsciously elevating the great things about them beyond reason or ignoring the bad things. The right person will become apparent to you much faster if you aren't actively looking for that person. Kind of weird and might sound illogical but I swear its true :)

[SquantoGuy]

Ya know, yes that is weird and illogical. But a few have told me this. Kinda hard for a great girl to fall in a GUY'S lap (lol) since guys usually go after the girls, but it hasn't happened for me yet. Maybe it will. Who knows. But it's VERY hard to keep my mind off of having someone special cause having a girlfriend is MUCH different from handing out with guys!! lol

[VanillaSalt]

as a rule the more passion you put into saying something the more passion is used to argue against you... i agree partially with what u say... women can be fickle... women naturally flock to a man with good looks and a good job... and as a man u should be able to take care of them... be responsible enough to have a job a vehicle a home.. care about yourself enough to take care of your body... so change to meet what they want... i think your biggest problem is that attitude... i can tell u dont handle criticism very well at all... u feel the need to argue against w/e u dont agree with... this won't help u get a woman dude...

as for guys being fickle... i dont like fat chicks myself... best case their sick and can't help it these women come with a lot of baggage because of their illness... worst case they dont care how they look and live unhealthy... if i got to know a fat chick and liked her i could work around looks but being attractive looking usually sparks the interest and pushes u to take the relationship beyond..

u lost the minute u mentioned a prostitute.. of course the women will mention that and bitch about it... ure sexualizing them...

learn the tricks instead of bitching... ull get further... here's a link to help

www.youtube.com/channel/UCFns-k9UgOhVRnKHdynzU2A

[GryffindorGirl]

Wow... I don't know, maybe you come across as desperate and the girls you've tried to be in a relationship went didn't like that?
And I mean, I could say the exact same thing, I could say "Why are guys so horrible?" and I would get a shiton of hate because I would be generalizing and hating on the majority of a large group of people. To be honest, don't be surprised when you get a lot of hate for this. Because really, just... wow.
Don't give the impression that you feel as though the girl in entitled to date you. She can date whoever the hell she wants. If you give the impression that you feel as though the girl is entitled to date, then you're actually gonna make them even LESS attracted to you. Some girls date dicks, so what? Then accept the fact that she doesn't like you in that way. Yeah, you are allowed to feel bad about it, but don't express that feeling in such a way that's gonna get you so much hate, because I'm pretty sure you know that the way you worded all this was gonna get you hate.
Most every guy in my high school were dicks, but does that make all guys, or the great majority of guys on the planet, dicks? No. Most every girl has decided to date an asshole over you. Does that mean all girls, or the great majority of girls on the planet, are horrible? No.
And just so you know, when you reply to this, I'm not gonna reply back, because I can tell that every attempt I try to get you to change your mind isn't gonna work, and that you'll just get angrier and angrier at me. So I must be a bitch, right?
Thank you for taking your time to read this, and please, be careful of your wording in the future.

[Falling4UTC]

I am sort of a victim of this. I like the nice guys, but I dont feel an actual attraction to them. Some guys who I find attractive are really nice too. But right now I like this guy and he is popular and I don't know I have just fallen for the trap because I actually feel attraction. He doesn't feel the same though, and made an excuse about it (that he needs to concentrate on his sports and education and that he rarely talks to girls) I dont know, he isn't the worst guy, he is actually kind for the most part. I think girls these days want to be kept on their toes and they feel pressured popularity wise on who they date. Sorry I am at fault for this, I really really dont mean to, its just hard to control.
Now just asking politely however, why would younot date a larger girl? I may have misread that, but it seems as though you want a popular girl yourself. Am I inncorrect? Again not meanig to offend you, I just want to clear that question from my mind :)

[breman]

You know, for your age, you're actually one of the most civilized responders on here. Thank you for that. And thank you for admitting that about you. Not that I condone it because I'm a firm believer in self control. However, to your question about me not dating big girls: I don't date them b/c I used to date a few and it didn't work out due to a lack of physical attraction. So whenever she wanted to get intimate, I couldn't perform. So I wasted my and her time and I frustrated us both. See? I made a mistake doing that then b/c I tried to look passed looks and it failed when it came to sex. So I do in fact have a good heart. But it's just never a good idea to get romantically involved in someone to whom you're not physically attracted. Also, I'm not into popular girls. I'm like most guys; I like good looking girls. Good looking girls just so happen to be popular, so one could be mislead into thinking that I want the girl for her popularity instead.

[Falling4UTC]

Well thank you very much, I appreciate the feedback :) I just try to be truthful and look at the big picture. Thank you for the answer, that cleared up a lot for me. I comprehend what you mean, and I apologize ifI did sound offensive for that part, I just wanted to clear that from my mind. I understand where you are frustrated with girls. Some of us like to block the other persons side of the story out. We really do have to take chances and not to base everyhing off looks.
On the plus side, I did get over the popular guy finally after months and months of it. I just want to live out my purpose in life and just embrace oppurtunity. If a guy tells me he likes me and I am just willig to take a shot, than sure I will go for it. But for now I am just going to not pay attention to love. I hope your dilemma ends up with a solution soon.

[breman]

Why thanks. And you weren't offensive at all. Just a tid bit of advice though: never block love out. Love is ALWAYS good ;)

[Falling4UTC]

It is my pleasure :) And thank you for the advice. I guess I am not one to take chances, and maybe once I should and see how it turns out. Thank you so much :) :)

[SquantoGuy]

I had to get another acct, but I appreciate your answer much! Just to let you know, I would've awarded your answer Most Helpful as well, but I can't now since my acct got deleted.

[Falling4UTC]

Thank you so much :) It means a lot to me, but I am just glad I couldhelp :) Thanks to the people who gave me an upvote! :)

[SexxBunnyy]

First off, you're trying to get with a girl for the wrong reason if you just want a pretty girl to Jane sex with. Have you thought to yourself what's under the cover of the book you're trying to read? If you're trying to date a good looking girl, or even an average looking girl, just because they look good, you're just as well off playing Russia's Roulette. The really pretty ones can be highly conniving, and this is some girl talk that was passed to me by a good friend of mine. They use their good looks to get what they want from guys because they know that that's what the guys like. And they'll use those assets to get to the nice guys and take advantage of their kindness. ESPECIALLY if you think making more money will help you get a girl. They'll eat you up like a fruit and leave you reduced to an abandoned seed.

Secondly, regards to the girls who only date the popular jerks, more girl talk, it's because either:
- 1. They love attention and think that dating the "cool kids" will bump them up on the reputation scale, or
- 2. They try to change the bad guy into a good guy, because they think they can recreate him into somethIng she wants. Which if you think of it like that, she's not dating him because she loves him at all. If she loved him, she would let him be him and love him as he is.
My advice to you, re-evaluate why you want a girl to call your own, and look past just having a girl that's attractive just to have sex with her. Because if you keep on your path, you're Gibbs end up disappointed or screwed. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

Thirdly, what you got against the heavy girls? Big people need love, too, and they give the best cuddles~

[MikeyJones]

You're completely misunderstanding like soooo many people on here. I don't JUST want a pretty girl to screw. I actually and have always wanted much more, but I realize that getting that is impossible, which is why I've resorted to just settling for sex. Sure I can get a loving woman... IF SHE'S FAT! Now why do you think THAT is? I won't date the fat girls b/c I HAVE BEFORE. When it came to romance, we BOTH ended up disappointed and wasting time. I don't wanna do that again. Also, I know they're being nice and sweet unlike the good looking girls are b/c they're merely compensating for their lack of looks. And yes, you're right about girls using their looks to their advantage, and too often in a bad way. Now about me getting them once I have money: I never said I'd let them eat me up! I know me; I'll just give just enough to get in them panties and once I'm done, she's out the back door like shit in a slop jar!

[SexxBunnyy]

Well, if you think it's impossible, and are willing to give up in your pursuit for more than a just a woman to screw, and settle for just sex, then it's even more clear that you're trying to get in a relationship for the wrong reasons.

[SexxBunnyy]

@SinduHal Well, if no girl wants him until he's a doctor, what makes you think THAT'LL be any more true love than him finding a girl that ACTUALLY LIKES HIM FOR HIM AND NOT HOW RICH HE IS? Regardless which one of those two come his way, neither of them will have shared those hardships with him.

I describe "True Love" as the heart-felt bond between two individuals who can really feel that strong connection of wanting to be together because they love each other for them, not for what they have. Of course, keeping in mind that if we wishes to enhance that relationship (if, when, or how it comes about) and raise a family, he will need to keep a steady and fair-paying occupation. And it's very true that money is a powerfl thing, given uuuuu CAN actually buy someone's love (god forbid...) But if he's going to become a doctor, or do something with a high income, just to get with the girls he wants, then it won't be true love at all. It's just purchased affection at most.

[ironeddie]

Geez calm down. You're not looking at this subjectively. It's not that all women suck. Maybe the ones you want do. I don't know.

It could be that the woman see you as you are. A guy who lacks confidence. Is unwilling to take a look at what the common denominator in your situation is. You blame the women for your failings. Your perception of the world and your life sucks donkey balls. You're unwilling to make changes. You've created a superiority complex towards "fat girls" because of your failings. All you're doing is throwing a pity party. Which will add to your anger. Why? because no-one else is going to show up. You are a weak, angry human being. Is it any wonder you can't find a woman. Can't say I blame them.

Take a look at yourself. Before pointing fingers at others.

Or maybe all women suck. I don't know *rolls eyes*

[breman]

The ones I want, everyone else wants. And they SUCK!! The ones who don't suck are the fat ones, the ones no one including myself wants. Putting 2 and 2 together... I don't lack ANY confidence! I've looked at the common denominator, and I've discovered that it's DEFINITELY not me. If I were the problem, I think someone would've told me something about myself by now, but all I get is that I'm a handsome, good guy. Do girls not want that? Who tha hell said I was unwilling to make changes? Dude quit putting words in my mouth, and stop ASSuming so much!! Why are you just here to put me down? Go do something else with YOUR pathetic ass life!!

[breman]

You can't blame them? Do you even know what exactly goes on between me and these bitches?

[ironeddie]

You're right. Your two replies have made me see the light. There is no way you might be the problem. So sorry. My bad.

smh

[SquantoGuy]

@ironeddie Maybe I do bring that bitchery out in them, but it's just b/c of something so small like me being a little boring. Oh and dig this, this girl I was talking to recently said that "you texting me at 6am was off putting". That's why she stopped talking to me for a couple days. Ain't that some shit? This is why they don't like a good guy. BUT, hold account, they will put up with a lying, cheating, abusive fuck face who will not even look after his own kids he had by her all b/c he's not boring. Now I'm not boring all the time, just sometimes. That's a small ass flaw that could be easily corrected if she just simply spent more time with me. And we all have flaws right? So if you have to put up with some kind of flaw, then why not put up with small ones instead of big ones, right? But I guess in the illogical female world, worse flaws are better.

[jackyct]

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hahahaha, you know what the problem is? its you.
you're not even looking for a relationship, you're looking for a free fuck with (only) hot chicks.
you say you'll finally get them as soon as you make money, so?
these women are bitches. gold diggers. they'll eat you out moneywise and leave nothing good.
but if that's what you want, then it fits to your shallow attitude.

you know what, i never succest this to anyone, but go and get a hooker. you don't have to take them out, or be nice to them, just pay them and fuck some bitch. that's all you and so i guess that's rather your thing

[breman]

A lot of folks say that "it's you" and that's just simply bullshit. See, you didn't get the background: I was a nice guy (with backbone) who genuinely wanted a nice girl with at least average looks. Apparently this was just too damn much to ask. This is why I'm like fuck it, I'm just gonna get laid when I get money one day, fuck em and leave em. They're worth only that anyway apparently. A girl just told me that it was "off putting" to text her (not call, text) at 6am. That's why she stopped talking to me. AND she's one of those "Christian" kinds of girls. That sound very "Christian" to you? That's the shit I'm tallking about. As far as me being a doctor and all goes, I'm talking about fucking them after I've reeled them in with a little bit of "bait" (money). I didn't say JACK SHIT about letting her DRAIN me!! Again, like most, you're getting me WAAAAYYY fucked up!

[breman]

So it's not like I initially JUST WANTED SEX AND NOTHING ELSE. That's just how I feel about it now b/c of what THEY did to ME. Oh but somehow I'M the bad guy! See how fucked up everyone is to me now? I did right by the girls first, and they did WRONG by me first.

[matrix124]

Because women also care about looks. Just like you care about finding someone who is above average, or average, so do those women. Many women go through the same problems that you do, that they are nice & all, but men don't them the time of day because they are average or below average. I heard a guy say that he was fooling around with a woman, she treated him like a king & was wonderful to him, but when she wanted to get serious, he kicked her to the curb because her face wasn't pretty enough. It happens for both genders, I wish personality was enough, but it isn't when it comes to romantic relationships.

[breman]

But I'm not ugly.

[breman]

And why do they have to lie so much saying "looks don't matter" when they good and damn well do? I've been called handsome, cute, etc. a lot to be ugly. And if I do have any ugly features, I wish someone would finally point them out rather than keep them a fucking secret because that's not gonna help me. Finally, in your example, that's exactly what I mean when I said "It seems like only fat girls, who are the ones that no one else wants, are available and healthy ALL THE TIME!! They're always the ones who mean business when it comes to getting to know me better and dating me.".

[matrix124]

I don't think they should lie about it. I can imagine they do because in our society people look down on others for caring about looks, they call it shallow. As far as the women who are "fat," they would try to have the best personality that they can because many men wouldn't be with them for their looks.

[breman]

Well of course they shouldn't lie about it. So you're saying they care about what society thinks. Now should we do that? Or should we be free thinkers and just do what we think is right instead of blindly following society? I'm the latter type myself. Yes, fat women, don't get me wrong I love them to death, but I can't be anything more than friends with them because they're unattractive to me (I've even tried sleeping with them, and it didn't work if ya know what I mean) and I know they only wanna get with me b/c they have no other choice other than to be single and lonely. If they were in the hot girls stilettos, they wouldn't want me either.

[breman]

I left out something: so why does society look down upon people who regard looks as important? Isn't obvious as hell that all of society considers looks as important? I mean people get hired at top positions b/c of their looks. Women keep up with their hair and nails and tight skirts even when they don't really have the money to spend because looks are so important to them. And fat women, again, I love 'em, but let's face it, they over compensate for their lack of looks with personality.

[matrix124]

I believe people should do what they feel is right, & not care what society thinks. Unfortunately, some people care about what others think, & want to look "good." I think people need to be honest, & not hide what it is they really want. Another thing is, some people really do care about personality but they also care about looks. So they feel the need to say they care about personality, but fail to mention they care about looks as well. This confuses the opposite sex, & makes them think that person is lying. The person isn't lying, they just left out a very important part.

[breman]

Absence of the truth is a lie.

[breman]

Now me, I'm a mature adult about my shit, I'll tell ya that personality AND looks matter. But Idk, maybe I'm just a grown ass 26 yr old who should still be a little scary fucking kid like all others in my age group. (sigh)

[matrix124]

I thought you find this video interesting, good luck https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rZu-tBi7DM

[breman]

Yeah that video doesn't apply to me at all. I'm not a push over/doormat, whimp, little bitch or anything. How can a girl know how great of a guy I am if she won't even text back or go out with me anywhere? How can she know whether I'll take charge, make decisions or not? How can she know about my spontaneity and adventure? SHE'S GOTTA GIVE ME A CHANCE!!!

[matrix124]

I just thought you'd find the video kind of interesting

[Account]

You sound like the perfect catch.

Let me tell ya something.
Women are not machines, whom you insert niceness coins and they reward you with sex.
Just because you act "nice" (code word for desperate) towards them, doesn't mean that you are entitled to sex from them.
Would you have sex with her --> cdn.gunaxin.com/.../FatGirl.jpg
if she was ""nice" towards you?
Right, I didn't think so, Tim. Plus, people who are genuinely nice do NOT flaunt it.

[Bandit74]

I'd have sex with her. I don't know why, but that "deer in the headlights" look really turns me on.

[Account]

@Bandit74 That was hilarious. I wish we could upvote comments!

[Bandit74]

Yeah they should add that feature. I thought the picture was funny so I just couldn't resist leaving a sarcastic remark ;)

[Account]

Okay, calm down, Peter. I am too lazy to read all that.
Anyway, have a good day!

[breman]

correction: "... why do you THINK that is?" Nice is NOT code for desperate. You know some of us guys are genuinely nice, good, warm hearted, sincere and kind people who get done like shit NOT b/c WE did anything wrong but b/c most females out there who look worth anything, especially in this country, are stuck up snobby assholes (like you must be). Oh, and you need to do this as well: refer to how loveisbeautiful responded to me and TAKE NOTE on how to respond to people WITH TACT!!! She did a swell job, and I suggest you stop being an ass and do the same! I never even said I was fat/ugly or any damn thing!

[Account]

You sound lovely. People who are genuinely nice do not feel the need to flaunt it like you do. They are nice towards ALL people not only towards women because they expect sex in return.
You are just angry because women do not have sex with you. Well, lots of women are turned off by arrogant people so...
Anyway have fun and good luck with your life.

[breman]

@Account But you weren't too lazy to get this damn picture now were you? So now I know what your objective was: TO FUCK WITH SOMEONE!! I hope you had fun.

[Account]

Lmao, whatever you say, you caveman.

[breman]

Stop Trolling!!

[Account]

B-but I could never troll!
P-peace?

[TheFullestThrottle]

You're mistakingly going off of the asker being pissed. What is he flaunting? This is NOT how he would usually sound on a date, ms. Not so thoughtful one. We nice guys don't just expect sex in return. Why do so many dumb ass girls think that? We expect a fucking RELATIONSHIP, hence NICE GUYS! The bad boys you all love so damn much expect just sex! girls are turned off by arrogant people? Then why do you fuck bad boys so much?

[pineappleshortcare]

What are you throwing out there to bond with people? I don't mean doing favors trying to fuck hot chicks (your main objective it seems). That doesn't make you much different than the so-called douches you hate. A lot of guys who pedestal girls only see them as commodities. They may work hard to get them, like earning a Beemer, but they don't quite grasp the human connection part.

A lot of really smart guys have TERRIBLE social skills and don't really understand connection. Especially if they are in more of the sciences arena. It sounds like your emotional intelligence is low and you could study a bit about how most people connect with each other.

Do some work:
The Five Love Languages
How to Win Friends and Influence People
Etc.

[pineappleshortcare]

Also, take what people say about guys being assholes with a grain of salt. MOST people are assholes occasionally and break each others hearts often. Drop your idea that you'd magically be an awesome boyfriend just because you WANT a hot chick so well. That's just a little ego mind trick our minds do for us. Nobody is that good at relationships without learning how. Most everyone does something shitty in a relationship, especially while learning.

[breman]

There's nothing wrong with my personality or attitude. I'm always positive, optimistic, open minded and all, and all I do is approach and talk to her like a gentleman. I never get any negative responses there. And no, fucking hot chicks isn't my main objective (you didn't read very thoroughly). But I would say that just fucking them would be the only thing that's worth doing since they're not gonna love me.

[breman]

My emotional intelligence is just fine. It's hard to get a girl to connect with you if she's not even trying. I seem to be the only one asking the questions. I'm the only one elaborating and trying to find out what she likes and where she's headed. What's weird is that some will even give me the number voluntarily, or even message me first on dating sites. So she was obviously interested. What made her lose interest? Hard to keep a girl's interest if she doesn't even try to communicate with me or go out anywhere with me. Undoubtedly, she found someone else she's more interested in, but what made him better? And what made me strike out? Whatever my problem MIGHT be, no one bothers to tell me what it is. I've already tried to figure it out myself. I have nothing but good intentions with them. I unlike most people know what a relationship needs. I monitor it. I actually TRY to hold it together instead of tucking tail and hauling ass

[breman]

whenever a problem arises like most do. I have old school, or real love. I believe in sticking it out through thick AND through thin, better or for worse, as long as she's willing to fight in the ring with me. When she's no longer willing, THAT'S when I say fuck her. I can't do weak females, which I don't call real women. Bottom line: THEY JUST SUCK!!

[pineappleshortcare]

If it seems like everyone else is wrong and you're right... You're usually wrong. You don't have magical rekationship ninja powers, sir. You sound like you really want to try, but you're as human as everyone else. Kicking the ego down a notch might help too.

I'm sorry for your frustration and feelings of rejection... But something is going wrong here.

[breman]

Well I'm not wrong in this case. I'm not the only guy who feels this way ya know. Who tha hell said anything about magical powers? I know how to hold down a relationship... I gotta have magical powers for that? That just goes to show how screwed up today's society is since you and many others I'm sure think that it takes magical powers to have a successful relationship. Our ancestors held relationships down PRETTY well in comparison to most nowadays. Guess because they were magical people then!! LMAO

[breman]

being human isn't an excuse for not trying your damnest by the way. All I'm telling you is that I have a good heart and I try my damnest to maintain good things, like friendships and courtships/marriages, unlike most in today's world do. What ego? I'm an humble person, but I'm also an honest one. I keep it real. I might be modest, but I'm also someone who stands firm on and manifests his beliefs when need be. The key is for the heart to be strong, not hard. I don't think I'm perfect; I know I'm not, and no one else is. But I admit my faults, don't make excuses, and try to fix them. Sure I'm self reliant... to a point. But when I need help, I admit it and seek it; doesn't make me any less of a man. And now I'm trying to seek help as to why girls do these things that they do. Why is divorce rate so high in this country now? Because MARRIAGES AREN'T FOR THE SELFISH! But people are so damn selfish nowadays.

[breman]

you must be unselfish to admit there's a problem in the relationship and to communicate that problem with each other. You should both try to fix it, not tuck tail and haul ass to find someone who doesn't have that problem!! Trying to fix it is how the marriage lasts! Jumping ship is how it ends! If people would think about each other and the kids more, then they'd try to fix things and WE WOULDN'T HAVE THIS PROBLEM!! But see, I always run into the girls who don't want to communicate problems; they just wanna run from them. When you run from a problem, that doesn't solve the problem! It's still there!! We all need to be big little men and women and FACE these problems head on and do what we can to eliminate it!!! So many "women" in my age group especially JUST CAN'T SEE THAT! They're all about convenience. Whenever convenience leaves, THEY leave. So why would I marry/get serious with anyone like that?

[breman]

My point is, sure, no one's perfect. But as I've said that's no excuse to not TRY to be perfect. When we try, we do better, and if my partner and I both try, the relationship gets better and although neither individual is perfect, the loving bond b/w the individuals IS perfect.

[knowit2]

Don't mind him. He's from another country

[dzednconfused]

Not trying to be rude here but are you attractive? If you aren't landing the kind of girls you are going after its possible you aren't on their level? And you know you talk about all these other asshole guys, but your currently coming across as a pretty big douche yourself :/ I don't know if you've just had a bad day or these rejections have just crawled under your skin, but you should prolly chill with the group classifications of all women lol just saying... Also, and I say this with love my friend, maybe you should try building a meaningful relationship with someone instead of deciding their worthiness based on their looks... i mean if these girls aren't dating you based on your looks when you say you have so much to offer why would you even let it bother you? P. s. Sex with hookers is icky, to many opportunities for cross contamination! Hope your being super careful!

[breman]

Not on their level? So looks matter a lot even when they say looks don't matter, huh? Yes, I am "on their level" as far as looks go. I'm bald, but I'm tall enough for them, I'm the skin shade most like, I'm in shape, I have a handsome face (I've been told that I look latino... a lot!). How am I coming across as a douche? These rejections have been under my belt for most of my life. I don't recall saying "all women". I'm referring to the ones I've encountered personally, which is a lot. I'm no where near the only guy with these experiences either. My point about good looking vs fat/ugly girls can be proven any day on tv/movies/magazines. I've tried to build meaningful relationships ALL MY LIFE. No one attractive wants one with me though, but the fat girls don't mind it. However, I've tried fat, and it doesn't work out in bed. So no go there. The attractive girl seems to just want a good time (i. e., go whore around) for a bit longer.

[breman]

Why would I let it bother me? Wouldn't it bother you? They ask for good men. I'm a good man. They STILL deny me and go fuck a dog. Who fucks dogs? Female dogs aka BITCHES! Then they whine about them being dogged out... BY DOGS!! THIS is what bothers me! I don't know if it's looks or something else they don't like about me. The problem is they won't tell me. They'd rather duck and dodge confrontation rather than help a good man out b/c they're all about themselves and no one else. They're selfish assholes. They don't wanna be confronted about why they don't like me b/c they know the truth is shallow. And they don't want everyone to know that they're shallow, but I'm afraid the secret is out. And finally, FYI, I mean getting with prostitutes in legal brothels like in Amsterdam and Nevada, where they're more professional, cleaner, and always carry protection. Know what the STD rate in brothels in Nevada is? 0.

[breman]

And guess which country has lower STD rates, U. S., who generally illegalizes prostitution or Netherlands who legalizes it. Women who fuck for passion don't think about protection a lot of the time; women who fuck for a buck on a regular think ahead and keep protection ALL the time. Think about it.

[222fallguy2]

You don't believe you are great and should. At this point you have so much baggage from your anger. I am sorry you are hurt. You still have a shot but need to soul search and find forgiveness in your heart for all the people that hurt you in your life.

[Deft_maiden]

This!

[222fallguy2]

Ty S

[breman]

I don't have any baggage from anger. I come at them like a gentleman and I try to show them a good time, but it's hard to do so when they hardly want to write/text back. What needs to be done is these girls need to be taught a lesson. They need to learn that what they're doing is wrong. No one is teaching them that because this country's morals/ethics have gone to shit. But I'll teach them when I dog their asses out when I have enough money for them one day.

[222fallguy2]

You definitely have anger and baggage. That is not even an argument.

[breman]

How do THEY know that I have anger baggage? THEY CAUSE the anger in the first damn place!!

[222fallguy2]

pk take care then

[breman]

Oh and I never said I don't believe I'm great. I KNOW I'm great. You're saying I lack confidence. I most certainly do not. Why do you think I got angry with females in the first place? I've always been a gentleman to them. I also had spine. I'm educated, and I have a good future. I can support myself and pay for dates. I'm a great listener. I'm not ugly. WHY THE FUCK WOULD THEY STOP TALKING TO ME THEN? THIS is what made me angry at them in the first place. I wasn't angry to begin with like you're insisting.

[222fallguy2]

ok man I got ya

[SquantoGuy]

@222fallguy2 Maybe I do bring that bitchery out in them, but it's just b/c of something so small like me being a little boring. Oh and dig this, this girl I was talking to recently said that "you texting me at 6am was off putting". That's why she stopped talking to me for a couple days. Ain't that some shit? This is why they don't like a good guy. BUT, hold account, they will put up with a lying, cheating, abusive fuck face who will not even look after his own kids he had by her all b/c he's not boring. Now I'm not boring all the time, just sometimes. That's a small ass flaw that could be easily corrected if she just simply spent more time with me. And we all have flaws right? So if you have to put up with some kind of flaw, then why not put up with small ones instead of big ones, right? But I guess in the illogical female world, worse flaws are better.

[222fallguy2]

Well learned behavior (stuff she or others have learned from their parents) becomes a pattern. Some people date abusive people their whole lives and can't break the cycle.

[peachypink]

Don't generalize us girls as horrible beings... I just read an angry rant about your exes who don't even make up 1% of the population of the girls in the world. There are billions more of us you know. Anyways if you think you're a little boring, you're probably very boring in a typical girl's eyes. It's like saying you're "just a little ugly". This doesn't have to be a problem, because really all you need is just one girl who doesn't think you're boring! Maybe you just aren't surrounded by the right kind of people or maybe you are attracted to that type of horrible girl without realizing it? Those pretty but shallow girls? Just like how they are attracted to these bad boys without realizing it. Y'all want what you can't have!

[peachypink]

First of all, calm the fuck down. ugh. I am not your exgirlfriend. Statistically, the chances of any of the girls on this site being one of your exgirlfriends is slim. So you don't have to get all defensive on me. Second of all, Read the shit I typed out for you carefully. You just made up your own screwed up meaning out of it. I didn't say that you were unlucky. You could be stuck in a bad environment, where there are not a lot of the kind of girls you seek. Try MOVING. Honestly, a lot of the USA girls who only wanna have fun with badboys and get wasted every night are full of shit. Either move out of the city to a nice suburb where a lot of girl-next-door types are go overseas because a lot of foreign women are raised with strict values. a lot of male celebrities are marrying overseas models because they're beautiful but don't have a bitchy personality like a lot of American ones do.

[peachypink]

When did I ever to say to change your personality? I said all you have to do is find ONE girl who likes you for who you are. I think you should just haven't found her yet, but you are currently damning your future wife with the rest of the female population. You yourself sound a bit superficial, since you can't bring yourself to like fat girls. Maybe instead of simply wanting to go out with not fat girls, you are attracted to high maintenance beautiful faces and end up unknowingly dating bitches all the time. Those are girls are not justified, they are shallow and stupid. Unfortunately, that's the majority of today's young pretty girls. But that's not ALL. I understand you're frustrated but you do realize you are insulting me and every other girl who hasn't even fucking MET you by immaturely ending your comment with, I knewww it girls are superficial and shallowwww all because they don't want me. I see a personality problem already. I wouldn't want to date you.

[peachypink]

UHH well maybe cause you made me mad -.- there is nothing for you to set straight about me because I'm entitled to my own opinion. Who do you think you are trying to change the answer of somebody who bothered to answer your question? and the whole "i knew it all girls are shallow blahblah" thingy? You didn't say it directly, but that is the message I got from your paragraphs. It sounded whiny, complainy, and like you only wanted to rant about your frustrations and hate on girls. Also, I don't think you are a good judge of why girls leave you. Another guy (jerk or not) could be an excuse and there could be something fundamentally wrong with you that you are overlooking. :p I'm not kidding.

[peachypink]

I read what that guy wrote about how you will be able to get girls easier after becoming a doctor. Manipulative bitches will HUNT you down with their fake mask of niceties, the truly scary ones that you can never tell if they're lying or not. I think that is when you'll have to be the most cautious about choosing wisely. The bad ones to weed out get even more pernicious.

[peachypink]

No, I was mad at your comment towards my opinion not your question. You tried to explain why my answer was wrong, and persuading me that I'm wrong would change my opinion, and thus my answer. You can call it bullshit but it's what I think of you. Care to elaborate how I'm jumping to conclusions? Also, "it obviously isn't very big"? That's your opinion... I have a friend with an ugly big nose and nobody comments or tells her about it. It's glaringly obvious, but taboo to talk about since everyone figures 'hey, she should already know right? I mean, it's huge.' I'm saying this could be a possibility I'm not trying to accuse you. ugh. And didn't you judge it by saying that they all leave you for being boring and because they are stupid, shallow, and prefer jerks? My answer was that maybe your focus should not be on the jerks and how the girls seem to like them better, but on something within you.

[peachypink]

You're being insulting again. I don't have my panties in a wad, you just have a nasty, nasty personality. I don't think a sweet girl who looks for personality would even want to date you. And I'm not insane, if you married a bitch like that later on, you would be a person with a nasty personality and an idiot.

[peachypink]

wow did you just create a new account just to back YOURSELF up to seem more legitimate? I'm so done. You are so dumb, and no you do have a nasty personality. I'm not jumping to conclusions, because what I think of your personality is completely subjective. I don't need evidence to judge that you have a nasty personality. I point out things you don't want to hear and you accuse me of making up shit and being the one that was rude first when you started it. Just stay single forever. :p who cares.

[peachypink]

the account was only made today. and you haven't posted anything before. your style of writing mixing in all caps and insults is just llke the asker's. it's something that's pretty commonly done when the writer wants to be appear like he's justified by having someone take his side, so chances are pretty high that you made a second account.

[peachypink]

ur dumb for making a second one and supporting YOURSELF. who does that? thats desperate and sad. where is everyone else and why are they not backing you up? why do you have to go as far as pretending that someone that someone has your back. you obviously feel driven into a corner.

[peachypink]

Getting the sense that someone has a nasty personality is something intuitive. You can't argue with someone if they say I think so and so is mean. If my opinion were that all Asians are gay, well that would be just dumb because there is so much evidence against that case available in the media, internet, library, etc. My opinion that you are rather nasty mean-spirited comes from the feeling you evoke in me with your choice of language and your overall attitude towards me, when my original comment towards you was actually meant to help you. You addressed me with "WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU SUBSITUTE... blahblah" as if I were your exgirlfriend, so that would explain why I kept getting offended and was rude back. You need to stop talking to me as if I'm your ex to take out your frustration of being angry at your exes. That was what made me mad.

[bunnyy]

No one wants someone so negative! guys who complain about the "friend zone" and call other men "douche bags" because they are jealous are super immature and undesirable. I've heard this whining sooo many times from men and it's pathetic and off putting! Having to look your best and have patience are just regular social skills there buddy no one wants an impatient unkempt man-child running around! You also seem very shallow and not actually a "good guy" at all. If you can't stop blaming everyone else for your bad attitude (which is driving the women away) then all I can say is have fun with your prostitutes and use protection!

[breman]

I'm not negative at first; I'm only negative after I've found out that just about every good looking girl is a total picky bitch. I call them douche bags b/c they are, NOT EVERY other guy is!! You're misconstruing and putting words in my mouth. I've ALWAYS been a good positive guy, and girls know it. They're just in fact super shallow when picking guys. I'm "whining" on here, NOT to the girls I'm trying to talk to (how many times have I said this on here)

[breman]

If these guys I'm referring to as douchebags weren't douchebags they wouldn't be lying to and cheating on these girls after the girls stop wanting to date me, the guy who wouldn't do all that. Yes I'm a nice guy. Yes I have spine. Yes I have a future in medicine. Yes I pay for dates, and yes I'm genuine and honest with me and her. Who's blaming anyone for me having a bad attitude? You sound just like a troll to me. You should refer to the other posts!!!

[bunnyy]

You are just a very angry person I can understand why no one wants to be around you. I've been turned down lots of times but I never let it make me bitter and then I finally found someone so just calm down. Also why are girls not allowed to be picky when you think you can be just as picky? You are very specific about the "requirements" of physical attractiveness for dating you and you are mad at these pretty slim girls for not giving you a chance yet you refuse to give a chubby but still pretty girl a chance even when they are interested in you. I'm just saying being bitter and shallow and pessimistic will get you absolutely nowhere until you realize you are throwing a tantrum like a little boy and change your attitude. I'm not trying to offend you but you do nee someone to call you own on your bullshit for your own good.

[SquantoGuy]

Here we go again! I'm only angry at most ON HERE b/c you're not reading everything I'm writing and you all condescend me and ridicule instead of help! I'm not angry at people in general. I'm quite nice and positive when I try to date someone and when I'm around friends and family. And strangers for that matter. I haven't found anyone yet, and also I'm not someone who just shuts up when people do wrong; I confront. And any mature adult welcomes confrontation. I do. I'm not picky b/c I've at least given fat girls a chance... many chances, and I tell them why I'm not interested now. But girls who turn me down neither give me a chance nor did they even give me a reason why they turned me down when I asked. I'm asking for one of the majority of girls I see, so how's that picky? I'd love to just have an AVERAGE girl, but I suppose you and sooo many others missed that part huh?

[SquantoGuy]

" I'm just saying being bitter and shallow and pessimistic will get you absolutely nowhere until you realize you are throwing a tantrum like a little boy and change your attitude. I'm not trying to offend you but you do nee someone to call you own on your bullshit for your own good.", and you're not trying to offend me? You should make TACT your best friend as well. Mind you I didn't throw any tantrums until everyone started jumping all over my ass in such an untactful manner. So now that you've read this, how am I shallow and pessimistic? Should I change my positive attitude towards my potential dating partners to a negative one? You're the one suggesting to change it! My advice to you: STOP JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS AND ASSUMING EVERYTHING!!! For example, ASK me about whether I've given fat girls a chance or not rather than ass 'uming I haven't.

[bunnyy]

oh man you are tiring I can't help you! you have to help yourself! that's it that's all I can tell you so just quit feeling sorry for yourself all the time the world doesn't owe you anything!

[SquantoGuy]

Oh, sorry for telling you off!! Turns out I'm right and you're wrong afterall. Maybe I should just tell you sweet lies about yourself! Learn to talk to people with better tact! Ya know, people tell me I'M an asshole cause of how I talk to people on here, but then look at how you talk. Hmmmm... guess the pot can't call the kettle black huh!!!

[SquantoGuy]

TROLL TROLL TROLL!!!

[bunnyy]

I don't even get why you fee the need to argue so much you ARE acting immature there is no way around that. But sure get angry I can't help you these are issues you have to sort out withing your self continue to get mad at me if you wish but I'm done because this is getting so childish and ridiculous. Your desire to be right overshadows your desire to actually solve your problem and if you continue to think that way you will be stuck in a rut forever I'm just warning you. You need to change to get anywhere the world isn't going to change for you.

[MikeyJones]

How did I act immature? Not too mature to ASS ume so much instead of asking questions first!! Yeah, you're sooooo mature by blocking me!! Look, you KNOW I'm right and don't wanna fess up to it and then like a little damn girl you block me and haul ass. That doesn't make you right you know? I get angry more so b/c people like yourself won't ask questions but instead will come at me like an asshole and assume every damn thing. It's only getting childish and ridiculous b/c YOU WON'T CONSTRUCTIVELY TALK TO ME!! None of you even want to address the actual problem! You just want to say that I'm wrong about what I've said about girls thus far! AND I'M NOT!!! You really think I appreciated how you initially commented? NO ONE WOULD! Oh but I'M immature! I think you got your definitions mixed up there babe! And for the record, if I were to take your advice and change, that means I'd be a bad guy/bad boy. That means I'd be a cheat, a liar, etc.

[MikeyJones]

Because I'm none of that now which is why I don't get why girls don't like me. This is why I can't call the women b/c real women would like a man like me. You really think I talk/act like I do on here with girls I meet? HELL NO!! I'm only doing this now b/c of how everyone's treating me on here! But I guess everyone's too damn stupid to realize that this is a rant.

[bunnyy]

I didn't block you I'm just confused why you'd come on here asking for advice yet you can't take a little constructive criticism without blowing up like you do. You seem very full of your self saying a "real" woman would like you and assuming that we all want bad boys when we don't someone as argumentative as yourself would be too damn much work. Why ask for advice if you can't accept that maybe you need to look at yourself and change a little maybe accept that you are not this perfect prize or gods gift to women because you are not perfect no one is. You need to stop expecting a women to fall out of the sky and instantly fall in love with you it doesn't work that way no matter how amazing you think you are.

[AutumnBloom]

You keep saying only fat girls will date you and you say this with such a disregard for them but you complain that no "hot" girl will. Considering the fact I won't deny that I would be considered what you may think is fat, in defense I can say at least I have the potential to lose my baggage and am working at it everyday. You say you date fat girls but don't really want to, so you automatically cut it short; you don't give them any chances so how can you say you haven't really found that girl? I'm not disagreeing with what you say entirely because I have seen first-hand girls behave like how you describe however like I said coming from the fat girl really trying to work on her weight maybe you should work on yourself.

[breman]

You ever wonder why only fat girls will date me? What baggage do I have? What should I work on? And correction: I don't CURRENTLY date fat girls, I've stopped that b/c I realized what I was doing was wrong. Who do I not give chances to? I've tried fat girls; it didn't work. Not just once, not twice, but several. How should I work on myself?

[AutumnBloom]

I clearly wrote that I have baggage (pertaining to my weight) not you. I also clearly wrote that I partially agree with you because yes I do think that some girls are as ruthless as they come but I also know that both genders male and female have issues in that department. I wrote that maybe you should work on yourself because even if you may see this as a small "rant" clearly it seems like hate. You said "they need to be taught a lesson" and going more into that little paragraph that you wrote earlier, it sounds like whatever tipped you over the edge might be making you subconsciously come off as "stoker" or something worse than that. I was trying to get through to you that maybe you want to see what you want to see, meaning you only go for a particular type and are probably not as open as you think. You should evaluate all aspects because I really doubt catching an std is even worth any money. Keep your head up, woosah! & Relax!

[breman]

Yeah I know you said that YOU have baggage, but then why did you tell me this if you weren't insinuating that I have baggage? Although both genders have problems there, we're talking about me vs females; other males are irrelevant since I don't try to date them. I hate what these girls do, yes. It's been wearing on me forever. I've experienced this bs with them for years now. They in fact need to be taught that this is NOT cool. Their parents will know better for them, yet they will still go after the worst losers ever all b/c "there's chemistry/connection", or "he's over 6ft tall/he has hair on his head/ good game" or whatever bullshit, NONE of which account for a good man. However, she asks for a good man and turns him down when he comes her way; THAT'S frustrating. What is a "stoker"?

[breman]

Also, thinking that I'm surely gonna get an STD from hookers is ignorant. First of all, I'm not referring to street hookers; I'm referring to those who work in legalized brothels like in Amsterdam or Nevada. Their STD rates are at 0, mind you, and guess what STD rates are among the general, non-hooker population? The women who work in these brothels ALWAYS have protection and get STD checks since it's required; can't say the same for regular females who get out and get with guys in the heat of the moment. Hookers think about having sex on a regular since it's their job; regular girls don't, which is why they're actually less likely to have contraception and thus more likely to catch an STD. The Netherlands and many other 1st world countries legalize it and guess how their STD rates compare to ours...

[breman]

Thank you for your help, but I assure you that I'm pretty open minded, have searched high and low, try every race, edu. background, etc. So I don't just try one type of girl. I've evaluated every damn aspect, which is, again, why I'm frustrated and am ranting on here. This is why I conclude that it can't be me; it HAS to be them. Young ladies are being raised up wrong these days and/or are being influenced by the wrong role models, friends, advertisements, pop stars, etc. This must be why they look for the wrong things in guys and therefore go for guys with these things and COMPLETELY miss what's much, much more important. What's funny is that they talk like they have sense and know what right things to look for but then they don't practice what they preach. THAT is frustrating. It's one thing if you don't know better, but if you know better and STILL do wrong, you're in sin.

[Roycaryn]

This rant of yours makes you look absolutely pathetic, it's no wonder that you're having issues with women. You act like every girl is either fat and ugly or a stuck up, "hot bitch." Why the hell are you chasing them so badly?

[breman]

Well, I'm right aren't I? I MYSELF have not run into a girl who ISN'T fat/ugly or a stuck up bitch. Why do I chase them so badly? Hmmmm... geesh Idk, maybe b/c, I don't know just a proposition, but B/C I WANT TO GET LAID? If I don't "chase" them (I just approach them, go after them, ya know like ALL guys do) then I won't get them. I'm sure when you want some you just jerk it or go after a guy, right?

[Roycaryn]

You complain about fat girls being the only ones that want to date you and get to know you better yet all you want from girls that you are attracted to is sex. Is this what you're saying?

[breman]

No sir. Why I only want sex from them NOW is b/c they seem to be worth ONLY that. For many years, I wanted a stable, long lasting loving relationship with an at least average looking girl, but apparently that was just too damn much to ask.

[breman]

people say I'll have better luck as a doctor and I proved it on making a fake profile on a dating site. Did it in a couple different areas across the country too. I don't want a woman who's only going to be there for my good times; I want her to live up to the wedding vows.

[Roycaryn]

Fundamentally speaking, if you're on here ranting about how "girls don't go for the decent guy" and proceed to go through the "female checklist" of qualities. Good girls can tell when a guy is merely "acting" like a decent man and it seems to me they've judged correctly (my apologies for not bring this up earlier).

[SquantoGuy]

No they have not judged correctly at all sir! Did I ever say that I had to have all those qualities? Or did I include a little something about average girls too? Yeah, READ MORE CAREFULLY!!!

[SquantoGuy]

Why is it that I can give fat girls a chance and tel them why I can't be with them, but girls I try to get with won't do the same for me? Guess because I'm an asshole right? (eyes rolling)

[Roycaryn]

If not a single woman you've been with has told you why they are no longer interested in you, it is because you creep them out. There is no other explanation. As I said before in my previous post, I'm frankly not that surprised that women see you this way.

[Roycaryn]

@SinduHal You think a perfectly normal, non-creepy guy who has no problem with women would be on here making ranting about how chicks apparently don't like him?

[Roycaryn]

Look at the comments he's been leaving for christ's sake if you don't believe me.

[ThatChicGirl]

Listen, the answer is pretty simple.. You say that you're 26, so th girls you've been going after (I assume) must be around that, and you pretty girls usually are just not ready for commitment. I know from experience that you as a girls has to try out some things, and commitment is not first on your list.
Second; pretty girls are usually those that dousches hit on, and they have all been played a million times, and really don't know how to handle a nice guy. You are probably amazing, but if you have been out with a few of those jerks you start distrusting guys honesty. So it's easier to just not commit and be that good time girl.

[breman]

Uhm... wait, are you calling ME a girl? I'm a guy! I think your subjects that you're using are getting switched up, but anyway, why is it that commitment is first on a big girl's list but not a pretty, slim one's? By not ready for a commitment, you mean they still wanna whore around and use their goods up before getting with a good guy to settle down with, right? And I'm not necessarily looking for a commitment; never did I say that.

[ThatChicGirl]

I know ur not a girl.. it's because the big girl's probablt see the value in a relationsship. And ya, sure they want to whore around, most people do

[Mesonfielde]

If they like the kind of people that you detest, then you are trying to date the wrong girls and you clearly need to find people who are actually compatible with you.

Most of the time this kind of rant is just some messed up generalization based on the notion that all females behave exactly the same way and think and feel the same way, disregarding the variation in experiences and value systems. Basically, a girl will like you if she appreciates you and finds you attractive. That is how it works from the male perspective as well, last time I checked anyways.

Now, would you like someone is a total tool and makes you feel bad? Probably not.

[topknots]

You're not wanting opinions. You're wanting someone to coddle you by saying you're a great guy, poor you for not having a girlfriend. To be honest, the way you talk in this question, you kind of sound like a dick. "Fat girls don't give me this trouble, wonder why?" I would never say something along those lines.

You are not entitled to having any of those girls you want. They have a choice in the matter too. Let them make their choices, and you can make yours. Would you want a girl who wants to go after assholes anyway? Who cares if you're nice? Who cares if you will fucking compliment the shit out of her? If there is nothing there, THERE IS NOTHING THERE.

[topknots]

Ooooh, butthurt much?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

not all black girls are dealing with guys who lie cheat and abuse us. most women really aren't, and if we do end up with a guy who turns out to be like that they get dumped quickly. don't generalize all women as chasing after dogs just because that particular woman chooses not to date you. don't make the mistake of thinking if a woman doesn't want you its because she wants an asshole to abuse her. no one is perfect, perhaps there are things about you that turn her off or don't excite her? you admit to be boring and I can't tell you the last time I've ever liked a boring guy. so if you know that's a shortcoming you have, work on that because that is a major shortcoming. being boring is probably worse than being ugly for a guy. like if a guy has nothing to talk about, no life and isn't fun then im not gonna want to be around for long. he probably won't make it past date 2 if I am bored by him.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I mean how do you know? have you done surveys? asked all the attractive women you know about their current relationships?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

maybe your not saying anything interesting. when you have a lot of options, you don't waste time hanging out with a guy multiple times if you have no feelings.

instead of talking to a girl about shit she doesn't care about, flirt with her. learn the power of seductive eye contact and body language and make her attractive to you. you might not be ugly but if you aren't sexy in terms of flirting and being sensual then you won't have that spark. sexual attraction and energy can take you far

[pr3ttybr0wn]

people base dating choices off of feelings, not logic. well most people do. if a girl doesn't get butterflies or get excited to be around you then she won't give a fuck about you. why would you want to date someone your bored by and have no interest in? for all she knows once you get her and become comfortable with her youd probably cheat to. you can never say "oh this guy would never cheat on me" because shit happens and you don't know what people would do. all she knows is that she isn't interested in you. so if you are not fun and exciting then do your best to become that so you can get the girls you want. don't just say "o well im boring and women need to accept that because at least i won't cheat" lol no they don't and whos to say you wouldn't if another really attractive woman wanted you?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

so basically your just friend zoning yourself. if a girl doesn't want to fuck you on a base level, then the odds of her wanting to date you are very low. the problem is you don't understand women and then when a woman does try to give you some advice you argue against it bc it doesn't fit into your preconceived notions on what a woman SHOULD want. the world don't work on shoulds. even if she doesn't have sex with a guy right off the bat she should at least want to. there is nothing wrong with sexual attraction, that's the reason why all of us exist. so if your not going to learn game, or social-sexual skills then don't complain when the guys who do know it get the girls you want. you have all the power to apply the knowledge to get the girls to be interested in you but you refuse to do it, so whos fault is that?

[TheFullestThrottle]

No one said all black girls deal with such guys. But the majority do. People all over YouTube concur with my sentiment. When girls end up with guys like that, they DONT get dumped quickly at all. Not sure what world you're in. It's not just one particular woman. It's many. And I SEE them get with dogs, I don't assume shit. Maybe there are things about me that don't excite her of course, otherwise she'd be with me. But WHAT? She asks for someone like me, and runs after the opposite. Again, it's all over that one should take what a female says with a grain of salt. Even My current girlfriend agrees. how is boredom soooo much worse than cheating, lying, maybe even worse, and knowing he'll never be a husband to you or your kids' father? Only if you loooove drama in your life and don't really care much about your kids/future kids.

[TheFullestThrottle]

But again, girls need to grow up into women before their figures become DISfigured and start making better priorities. Putting fun and excitement of a flame over education, hard work ethic, a plan for life, family orientation, honesty, loyalty, and perseverance isn't exactly the most sound investment for a long lasting bright future especially if you dream of marriage and family or at least dream of not being a washed up old hag in an apartment full of cats. I mean do girls even think "is the little excitement I'm getting with the bad boy now REALLY worth the future detriment?"? besides, 'kinda boring' here still means I still wanna see the world, explore a lot, and I'm into wild sex positions. So don't take 'kinda boring' and go haywire with it.

[sawno]

Gonna be really short on this one.
First of all i get that your upset but your current attitude in these messages scared anyone away tgat read it as you can see from any girl that posted.

Second of all try finding a girl that fits you, it requires extreme luck and patience.

And third? If you think you got the confidence go out and ask a bunch of girls what they think of you. There answers can help imensely.

[breman]

A girl who fits me... why would it take extreme luck and patience when it doesn't take this for a fat girl? What girl fits me? At least average looking, nice, down to earth, open minded, loyal, hardworking, smart like I am? Find me one! The fact that there aren't many out there is the damn problem. I ask a lot of girls about me, but a lot are obviously lying to me. They pretty much all consider me cute, sexy, etc. Again, could be lies, which is why their answers may not help immensely. One guy told me that bald heads are an automatic deal breaker with a lot of girls. I believe him, especially considering I'm 26 and not 46, since younger people are less accepting of baldness/grayness etc. and older people will be more accepting of it.

[breman]

who's tgat?

[Shmusername]

Wow, You seem familiar. Look, if you think "fat girls want to be with you simply because they're settling and desperate," then that says to me that you think of yourself as a consolation prize. If that's your attitude, even a little, people will pick up on it. You need to get that out of your head. And don't discount the "fat chicks." If you give them some time you may actually see some other qualities. Trust me, they do have them.

[Shmusername]

You're really putting those redeeming qualities of yours on display here, aren't you? 👈😉 I'll tell you what; You put a little more effort into not alienating everyone that talks to you, and I bet you'll see a change in how women treat you. How does that sound?

[Shmusername]

Sorry, alienating wasn't quite the right word. What I meant to say was that you have all the charm of an inflamed hemorrhoid. You should work on that.

[Selenator]

For once i got to agree with @Shusername. Even though i do think his wording was always the best, there is truth in what he says here

[Shmusername]

Thanks buddy 👊

[Selenator]

You're welcome

[Shmusername]

And suddenly @terminator88 has shown himself to be @breman. That sound you hear is the sound of nobody being surprised.

[Shmusername]

I suspect @WillTreyZongs = @Breman. I can't believe anyone else would willingly wade through this mess commenting on every opinion that disagrees with the asker. @mods?

[MatthewCurtis]

Hey listen, i know how you feel cause i have gone my entire life unloved by women. and yes i too have noticed that the majority of young girls go out with absolute wankers. their words not mine. but they will reach a point where they want to settle down. you know people used to say that girls mature before guys, but i think thats been reversed. i think there are more genuine young guys out there than genuine young girls. im not a player or a man slut or whatever. i have never even kissed a girl in my entire life, but i must not generalise women. you shouldn't either. becoming bitter is only natural, but the minute you accept that is the minute you accept that you won't find a woman to be with. guys like us just need to wait. i know it sucks, but we must be patient. good things come to those who wait.

[CreativeDreamer]

Damn. Don't know what girls you're talking to, haha. I admit, girls can be terrible at times. But not all of us are bitches. Maybe try looking for love in different/new places? Or maybe try not looking at all! I once just gave up on guys for a while, and them BAM, I met this awesome guy, haha. We aren't together anymore but I still think he's cool. It also let me know there are still good guys out there! So don't discard all women just yet; keep your head up and you'll be good. Have some fun, lol! Just keep a look out for the good ones. :)

[Wolf_Girl345]

If you only got girls because you started getting good money then they weren't worth it. All you have to do is be yourself, not some pretend perfect guy. and seriously what is up with the young hot chicks- you just mean girls your age who are pretty. - if all you want is an average girl, don't, you deserve better than just some average chick. In order to find the Perfect person for you, you have to be yourself and see through other peoples motives. Do Not become the stupid guy who gets girls pregnant and plays them- it is not worth it.

[Wolf_Girl345]

I'm just saying don't play people because your actions can destroy them, 2- since I don't actually know him I am sorry that I assumed he wasn't being himself. People who settle for average ( pretty but not beautiful, not tall but not short, not fat but not skinny) usually are putting themselves down. most guys who think they are average looking are only average looking in their eyes, in someone else's eyes they could be perfect. "better then average"- who you define is more pretty then just the girl down the street.- it kind of depends on the person. But I guess if you would want to settle for "average" go right on ahead.

[Wolf_Girl345]

- there is nothing extraordinary about that person-
average looks
average hair
average laugh
average smile...
wouldn't you want something better then just a plain person. you want someone you think is special.
- at least that's what I think.

[Cherokeehp]

Wow this is a really long post. To be blunt you sound like some guy who's given up on love because you haven't found it yet. Maybe women just don't find you attractive. Maybe it's your personality or maybe it's your looks. I don't know. There's something about you that the women you're attracted to don't find attractive. Have you ever approached any of these women you find attractive? Do you have confidence? How's a woman supposed to know that you're this nice, amazing, gentleman that you say you are if you don't go up and introduce yourself. By the way I know everybody has already mentioned this but big girls are beautiful too.

[SquantoGuy]

I get they don't find me attractive. The question is why. I'm not bad looking (5'10", 18% body fat, workout often, bald, mixed race) IMO. Everyone says I'm a handsome guy. Have I approached them? Of course! How would I be able to bring this up or debate this if I didn't? I have GREAT confidence. Who told you I didn't introduce myself/try to talk to her? Again, this is why I'm ranting in the first place, b/c I've done this and got rejected. I've tried big girls, and I couldn't perform in bed with them. This is why, instead of disappointing them and me as well as waste our time anymore, I've chosen to stop dating them altogether.

[knowit2]

Don't mind him. He's from another country. I say that.

[Deft_maiden]

YOUNG HOT BITCHES? wow
Good luck with that attitude. I can see how it's working for you.

[breman]

Everyone KEEPS ASS uming that I only want the young hot bitches. I've been saying over and over that I only want someone who's average looking or above. Hell I am! So how's that unreasonable? If I can look decent and have a good attitude/personality, then why can't decent looking girls? If I can be open minded then why can decent looking girls be?

[jointhepatriarchy]

Your attitude is worse than the Asker's, along with that of all the other females posting opinions here. I'm honestly quite disgusted at your gender, because of the way they all attack a guy like this when he's already feeling down, like a pack of damn rabid hyenas. You should be ashamed.

[Deft_maiden]

@ jointhe it's so interesting how the most ignorant and off base users never post their own opinion but they sure know how to uninvitedly jump into other users pinions and spread their yapper and ignorance.
That would be you. Have confidence to post your own opinions and back it up. That's right, you can do it!!
Now be gone along with your nonsense!!

[MsFZB6]

She's right. Referring to women as young hot bitches says enough about his attitude towards women.

But jointhepatriarchy I've seen more of your comments, you just hate women and think of them as inferior. You're name says more than enough as well. I bet you're an American (USA) lol..

[breman]

@jointhepatriarchy THAAAAANNNKKK YOOOOUUUU!!! jointhepatriarchy gets it!! I call them bitches because they ARE bitches!! I've always been that gentleman who got done like shit so that some bitch can go be with an asshole who dogs her ass out. Then she's played, left single parent, etc. and wants to blame men in general for this. Finally, she gives the used goods that aren't goods anymore to the nice, deserving good guy. HOW THA HELL IS THIS NOT A STUPID BITCH IN YOUR BOOKS?

[jointhepatriarchy]

Amen, Asker. Keep preaching the bitter truth.

[breman]

I wanted to update my question more but I couldn't (dumb ass regulations on here). You see, the problem with almost all of you is that you DON'T KNOW ME!! I'm ranting here for pete's sake!! OF COURSE I don't talk like this towards potential dating partners. I'm nice to them! I'm a great guy! I'm just pissed at females right now. So all this "I can see why now/you're a douche/dick/asshole/etc" bullshit needs to cease! Why would you say all this to a good guy who's down and out on his luck? I'm trying to find helpful structural criticism and instead I'm getting ripped apart with insults and condescending. How the Fuck is that supposed to help ANYBODY?

[Deft_maiden]

25 up votes.. I think this might be a record for me
Danka 💪

[Toad-1]

26 now ;)

[Deft_maiden]

@Toad-1The asker is RIP LOL

[TheFullestThrottle]

@MsFZB6 I'm sure the bad boys these hot young bitches love so much would think of them with soooo much more respect. Again, the asker would NOT say this on dates directly to girls. This is a RANT. A RANT people! Girls turn him down even without him using the phrase "young hot bitches". The bad ones actually treat girls as this phrase suggests; good guys dont. Good guys actually want to commit and be loyal. Somehow, this is perceived as bad. Hence the fucked up world we live in!

[NerdInDenial]

Yes, it would be cheaper to higher a prostitute. These hot girls who turn you down now will want you later when they are used up. However, when you make more money, you can go for the 18-22 year old girls. Women like men for power, money, and status. If you have those, you can get any women you want. Hot women want bad boys because they are fun and confident and have good looking bodies. You need to go for older women who may have a few mileage on them, but they can still show you a good time.

[Deft_maiden]

Sound logic

[matrix124]

I honestly disagree with your logic. This is because most people in this country will not become rich & be able to attract gold diggers, which are the women you are telling him to go after. For the rest of the world who isn't rich, which is like 98% of us, we go for someone who is generally in our league. This has nothing to do with being used up & expecting to get a rich guy when you're older, it's about men & women trying to find someone they are attracted to.

[breman]

I DEFINITELY agree with this. This is my logic exactly! And going after the young hot bitches when I make enough money is what I'm gonna do!!! FINALLY, someone with some damn sense on here!

[breman]

to matrix124: Yes, and what women and men are attracted to is usually looks and money. And no one said you have to be a damn multimillionaire or billionaire to score with hot girls. I don't even think anyone mentioned "rich". This is the 2% YOU'RE talking about, but NerdInDenial and I are speaking of being financially stable, such as a lawyer, account, or doctor may be. I'm going to be a doctor. 6 figures is enough. If "women" were attracted to a good personality/good attitude/gentleman, I wouldn't be on here ranting now. I don't like that "out/in a league" bullshit. Why would someone be out of my league, or your league, or anybody's league? We're all fucking human aren't we? All of our shits smell bad don't they?

[NerdInDenial]

@matrix124, how do you define rich? I'm not saying you have to be a millionaire to attract gold diggers. People making $80,000 and more can get hot women. There is a correlation between attractiveness of women and income a man has. The more income a man has the better quality he can afford. More importantly, most women want a man who makes more money. Ugly women have to get a good job and career. If you need proof, look at the Forbes list of successful women. Most of them are ugly. The reason why women settle down with nice guys because they are used up and no longer able to get free stuff.

[matrix124]

I couldn't care less about money. 1) I'd be happy living in a trailer for the rest of my life, 2) rich people often feel entitled, like you saying you want a 18-22 year old girl even though you would be 10+ years old. I've read only 5% of men make 6 figures, if you want to be in this 5%, you are have all the right in the world to try. As for being "used up," which I find a very sexist & degrading thing to say, I'm personally saving myself for my husband. Personality & looks matter to me, but I believe in going for someone who is in the same league as me, as I think that is realistic.

"If "women" were attracted to a good personality... I wouldn't be on here ranting now. I don't like that "out/in a league" bullshit." You want "YOUNG HOT BITCHES," yet expect women to only care about personality. If you don't realize how hypocritical you sound, there is nothing more I can say.

[breman]

NerdInDenial, nailed it again!

[breman]

And don't get us wrong matrix124, we're not talking about you. We're talking about females in general. We calling them used up ISN'T sexist; it's the truth. I've told you, I'm gonna be a doctor. Don't doctors make 6 figs? You don't have to answer that question cause I know the answer. And I don't feel entitled and I'm pretty sure I won't. I'm just saying I'll FINALLY be able to get what I want when I'm making good money. Again, what is this "league" bull crap? Are you some sort of separatist? You believe everyone should be divided into "leagues"? A house divided shall not stand. I said I want AT LEAST AVERAGE looking girls, and I'm only 26. So how is my desire unreasonable? I'm not ugly myself. But what I said is true there. How am I being a hypocrite? Did I ever say looks don't matter to me?

[breman]

oh and I don't care about JUST looks. NEVER did I say that. I'm just saying there seems to be a STRONG ass direct correlation b/w girls' looks and my failure to get dates with them

[Tokana]

I always tell people this: There are two versions of me 1. DoucheBag 2. Nice guy

1. Douchebag - doesn't give a s**t, does what he wants, gets into fights, extremely extroverted, very confident, drinks, parties, dances and sings and treats women like shyt.

2. Nice guy - treats women nice, doesn't go out as often, more cautious, respectful.

Guess which one gets cheated on and guess which one get more girls? The nice guy gets cheated on and douchebag has multiple partners and has fun at the sametime. Over the course of my life I've switched about 3 to 4 times and the results are always the same.

ergo. become a douche brah.

[lumos]

You sound lovely. Can't imagine why girls don't want to date you.

[breman]

Well You could see just how lovely I am if you'd actually get to know me instead of making a prejudgment based off of a rant.

[lumos]

Says the guy who assumes that most/all girls suck just because they don't want to date you. Don't be such a hypocrite.

[breman]

How am I a hypocrite? There are girls who'll date me alright... THE FAT ONES!! Wonder why? Any explanation for that one?

[breman]

Also, sweetheart, when someone rants, they're pissed. Just a little tip there. Now if I'm pissed, am I gonna sound like I always do? Of course not! Why do I think girls suck? Cause the ones who look worth a shit are assholes to me for no reason. Now the big girls, they're nice. Know why? They're compensating for lack of looks. You and I know good and damn well that if they filled the attractive girl's stilettos instead, they'd be mindless pricks too.

[lumos]

I'm not going to even bother talking to someone who calls me "sweetheart" in order to belittle me. Lol.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy nowhere on this site does it say that you HAVE to be helpful. :) I don't care that he's fed up with all girls. It's not my problem. I just pointed out that maybe he's not as lovely as he thinks he is.

[jointhepatriarchy]

And maybe women really are as bad as he says they are?

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy Nah.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Then why are there so many questions like this, every goddamn day?

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy because quite a few people in general get hella pressed when they don't get what they want.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Is that a reason for all you females to attack them like a pack of hyenas though? Seriously, you females are nothing but vicious whenever some frustrated guy posts a rant like this. It doesn't help your gender at all, just makes you look like a bunch of heartless bitches.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy how the fuck am I supposed to sympathize with a guy who more or less gets offended when only overweight girls pay attention to him? How the fuck am I going to sympathize with a guy who thinks that he can basically "buy" all the hot chicks he wants once he becomes "rich and successful"?
He basically admitted that he likes hot and shallow girls, and then wonders why they don't want him. Gee, wonder why? Maybe because they're shallow? I don't sympathize with stupidity.

[jointhepatriarchy]

So I take it you date fat guys all the time?

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy no, I've actually never dated anyone. But I wouldn't sit here and act all offended if an overweight guy told me that he wanted to date me. Neither would I sit here and say that nobody would ever want to date an overweight person, since that's obviously not true.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Never dated anyone? You poor thing. Even I've had dates before.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy I don't care. It'll happen when it happens. Unlike some people, I don't start whining about it on the internet.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Actually, it's not likely to just happen if you don't put forth any effort or at least make yourself available for guys to ask out..

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy I put in plenty of effort.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Like how so? What kind of effort?

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy I initiate conversations, ask him if he can hang out, tell him I like him etc. I baked a cake to a guy I liked once, too. Basic stuff like that. Not sure how this is relevant, though.

[jointhepatriarchy]

And yet you've never been on a date? You're obviously doing SOMETHING wrong because you're not really ugly.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy haha idk, usually the guys I end up liking tell me that they're not ready for a relationship. Oh well, whatevs.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Damn commitment-phobes.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy I guess I simply end up liking the wrong guys.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Eh, common mistake. Plus nowadays most people just want to screw around.

[Bandit74]

Wait you look like that AND you bake cakes for people? I'm actually kinda shocked, that you've never had a bf. Unless of course they like pies, that could be your problem. Also I found this conversation hilarious simply because jointhepatriarchy went from calling you an "sarcastic antagonistic bitch" to being all friendly and sympathizing with your relationship struggles. Lol

[lumos]

@Bandit74 *flips hair*

[rocksongwriter]

Lumos, you should date him!! qqCan

[rocksongwriter]

*Can I play piano at the wedding?

[lumos]

@rocksongwriter ew. No.

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy I agree with @rocksongwriter you two should get married. you're a condescending dick and according to you she's a sarcastic bitch. Plus considering the fact that you're both inexperienced, this could be a match made in heaven. Think about it, 10 years from now you could be telling your kids how you met their mother on gag. This could be a cheesy romance novel.

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 Our children would be so evil...

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy Yeah they would! Just the thought scares me. They could be sarcastic, condescending, bitchy, assholes.

[Bandit74]

*would*

[jointhepatriarchy]

They would look like this. @Bandit74

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[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy and your daughter would look like this...
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[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 Well you've convinced me not to marry her. XD

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy Aw don't say that. Don't let her be the one that got away. If you don't like the way your kids are going to turn out, you could just adopt. Also don't forget, she will bake delicious cakes for you. Now if that doesn't sound like happily ever after then I don't know what does. Marry Her!

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 Will said cake be chocolate? o_O

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy
@rocksongwriter
@Bandit74
I don't want any kids in the first place so stop.

[jointhepatriarchy]

@lumos What about said cake?

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy I can't say for sure, but it's certainly a possibility. But to be sure you should ask your future wife for clarification.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy you don't deserve my cake.

[jointhepatriarchy]

@lumos I don't care if I deserve it, only whether or not it's chocolate.

[lumos]

@Bandit74 his future wife is nonexistent.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy I mainly bake mudcakes.

[Bandit74]

@lumos don't be soo mean. If you've been reading our conversation, you'd realize that you and patriarchy are perfect for each other. He will actually appreciate your cakes unlike those shallow inconsiderate bastards in Finland. Marry him

[lumos]

@Bandit74 I will never marry anyone. Go away.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Mud as in chocolate or do you mean wet dirt?

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy chocolate, you dumbo.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Okay then, this might actually work out.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy no. Go away.

[jointhepatriarchy]

I'll consider it.

www.quickmeme.com/.../...eea0553ad3a60700e3a8f.jpg

[Bandit74]

@lumos Alright I'll go away, but it's a shame to know there won't be a lucky guy that gets to enjoy your chocolate cakes. Also in my honest opinion, you and patriarchy would have made such a cute couple. So sad things didn't work out for the two of you :(

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 I'm still waiting on my cake, dude.

thechive.files.wordpress.com/.../meme-cake-12.jpg

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy She seems serious, I don't think you'll be getting any cake from her in the foreseeable future. Better luck next time :/

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 Are you sure? Maybe she just can't really bake, and the cake was a metaphor for something else...

static.tvtropes.org/.../Cake_9097.jpg

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy Well she said "I only bake mud cakes" so I guess this little metaphor is more perverted than you originally thought ;)

[jointhepatriarchy]

Sorry @lumos, I'm not really into anal.

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 Tagged so you can see my last post. :P

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy Aren't you the one that originally specified that you wanted chocolate cake?

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 Yes but I actually meant cake, not ass. I'm not a pervert like @lumos is.

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy Well i guess you dodged a bullet then. Some guy in Finland is probably going to end up getting her chocolate cake.

[jointhepatriarchy]

@Bandit74 I doubt it, she's too defensive.

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy @Bandit74 wtf? Mudcake = anal? Who the fuck is that perverted. Also, anal doesn't exactly sound very pleasurable to me. No thank you. You can keep your anal mudcakes and I shall keep my regular actual-cakes-mudcakes.

[Bandit74]

@jointhepatriarchy That's why you two would have been so good together, she's defensive, and your offensive. You'd balance each other out perfectly. Maybe you two can compromise, you're not into chocolate cake, so maybe she could make you vanilla cake? You two lovebirds might still have a chance :)

[lumos]

@Bandity74 fuck no, I'd never date a misogynist.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Yeah right, you know you can't really bake. :p

[lumos]

@Bandit74 *

[lumos]

@jointhepatriarchy except that I can. I work at a catering firm, that also hosts cooking classes, you dumbass.

[Bandit74]

You're not even married yet and you're already arguing like an old couple... Soooo cute 😄

[Negrodamus]

this is one hell of a conversation. Right when i thought lumos and jointhepatriarchy couldn't be more polar opposites, things start getting sweet between the two of them. Then bam. back to square one. I am a very confused onlooker

[Bandit74]

@lumos I've got a serious question for you? Have you been even romotely entertained by this conversation or are you just outright annoyed. The optimist in me hopes that it's the former rather than the latter but the realist in me is saying that you just think we are annoying/immature. Could you put my mind at ease, which is it?

[Bandit74]

@Negrodamus You took the words right out of my mouth. This has been one HELL of a conversation but I fear that for lumos it has just been HELL. 😈

[rocksongwriter]

I meant that she and Breman (the original poster) should date.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Yeah, she must think I'm actually serious. @Bandit74 XD

[lumos]

@Bandit74 this conversation was so bad that I had to take a 3 hour long nap
@Negrodamus 25.media.tumblr.com/...mairpbM2uE1r85rlio1_500.gif
@jointhepatriarchy first things first I'm the srsest

[Bandit74]

@lumos So you weren't even mildly entertained? :(

[lumos]

@Bandit74 no

[Bandit74]

@lumos That breaks my heart to hear that but look on the bright side, because of our conversation you were forced to take a 3 hour nap. So now you are well rested and therefore you are physically/mentally prepared for whatever life throws at you.

[lumos]

@Bandit74 which would be more sleep, considering that it's 23:29

[Bandit74]

@lumos Well you will be even more well rested for tomorrow. With all this extra energy you're going to be able to take the day by the horns and make it your bitch.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Wait, you took this seriously?

www.quickmeme.com/.../...230b9b4acb3aed8ebd608.jpg

[lumos]

So pressed. :D

[Folklore]

What in thhe actual hell did i just read? dude, people are weird...

[knowit2]

Don't mind him. He's from middle east or something like that

[lumos]

@MsJustice I've given plenty of serious and thoughtful answers. However, a stupid question deserves a stupid answer in my opinion.

[lumos]

@WillTreyZongs and you sound like you've made 10 accounts just to defend yourself. Let it go already, this question is almost a month old... you're literally the only one who still cares.

[TheFullestThrottle]

People don't take serious things seriously anymore. How good men are treated kinda matters. Of course the majority of first world females can't see that. You think the asker actually talks like this on dates? He's obviously ranting! DIFFERENCE!! Looks like you're avoiding the main argument too their honey cakes. He made excellent points about the fat girls. Why is it that fat girls date him and slim ones don't? Girls need to quit asking for good guys when that's not what they really want. Fucking leader ons. Why don't you just take the argument for what the fuck it is instead of trying to call him out for not being as nice as he says he is? Again, avoiding the argument. Why don't you think about wtf he's saying for once? If a girl won't date him for a reason that's one thing. Not dating him for no reason is another. Get it?

[lumos]

@TheFullestThrottle good bye, this post is over a year old

[TheFullestThrottle]

As old as it is, I'm still right and your way of thinking is still fucked up. You sound like someone who doesn't want to admit to harsh truths

[lumos]

@TheFullestThrottle harsh truths? The harsh truth is that you won't get anywhere in life if you generalize people and chase those whose standards you don't meet. If you chase shallow bitches, expect a shallow bitch response if you don't meet her standards. Crying about it on gag and acting as if all women behave this way is petty and childish. He was here whining about how women go for the "wrong men" who are "douchebags" yet he admitted himself to wanting to score with hot and shallow chicks who also happen to be assholes themselves, gold diggers too. THAT'S hypocritical. And if you can't see that, then I can't help you. Being offended at someone wanting to date you is like the epitome of narcissism and shallowness. Stop bugging me on this old ass question already and sit the fuck down.

[TheFullestThrottle]

Vast majority of girls will chase bad boys when they can IS a harsh truth. Who says he's chasing people who's standards he doesn't meet? And if he don't meet their standards, question is what are their standards, and why do they contradict with what they say their standards are? Real women aren't shallow and they aren't ashamed to admit what they really want For what they really want is a good man. A bitch is what he and I are complaining about now. A guy often times won't know if she's shallow until he talks to her. Then he finds out she's a shallow bitch, and you wanna say it's HIS intentions to chase a shallow bitch? He never said this would get him anywhere; he's discussing it (or trying to). I don't know how in the hell people keep getting that connected in their fucking brains. He wants to fuck these shallow bitches to let them know that's all their worth, a fuck, and he's right. And since soooo many females are like that, he doesn't have much choice!

[TheFullestThrottle]

And I see someone has her ass stuck in the air about this question, dismissing it like its a non issue and THEN you have the audacity to command me to do something. Yeah, you sound lovely yourself; surely no real men want anyone with an attitude like that!! If there were good reasons As to why we got turned down, then we wouldn't say shit. But there aren't any. Bottom line, too many of you bimbos chase the wrong guys down for the wrong reasons and dismiss the good guys for horribly shallow reasons (yet you call asker shallow). Then you have the nerve to complain when you're all washed up, fat single mothers cause you can't get anybody. The good man would've still been with ya even at that stage if you would've been with him during ya prime to show that you really love him and not just with him when it's convenient (I. e., when you're not so hot anymore). So what you look like getting with him only when you're washed up?

[TheFullestThrottle]

You only fuck with the bad ones when you're a hot commodity. You come around one day when you're washed up and want a good man then (conveniently). How dare you care so little about a good patient man that you "love" so much when you're washed up that you made him wait while you got fucked and emotionally destroyed by low life niggas? Now the good man is gracious enough to help take care of kids that aren't biologically his. But real women are RARE. So this is why more than likely asker would just have to fuck em and leave em when money makes him more attractive so he can have sex with someone attractive; unfortunately, physical female attractiveness usually doesn't come with a good heart. So she's good to fuck, but ain't shit to marry! So really, asker is NOT a hypocrite but he's rather responding to what he's subjected to.

[lumos]

@TheFullestThrottle oh my god go away.

[Agrojag]

It's an awesome world we live in, isn't it? Everything you've said is true, but why not save your money and your dignity? I've been in the same situation so take some satisfaction that they're hurting themselves a lot more than they can ever hurt you. By the time, they realize their mistake, they won't be desirable to the good guys out there anymore and then they'll have to settle for whatever they can get. Honestly, I think being single is way better than being in a relationship.

[breman]

Great advice! But I can't be celibate for the next 5 1/2 years until I'm a doc, when I can finally get them. This is why I say prostitutes are a good option... in Nevada at least.

[Nuns_in_Heat]

Wish people would learn it goes both ways. Guys do the same thing. Nobody's perfect. Just worry about what you can control. Be the best you that you can be, the girl for you will come around eventually.

[breman]

Of course I know it goes both ways. But I'm not like other guys... no really, I'm not!!

[breman]

I'm speaking of only girls here because I ONLY GO AFTER GIRLS!

[Nuns_in_Heat]

Oh, ofcourse you're not. Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself of it more than us. Everybody is flawed, even you. So get off your "nice guy" soap box and figure out what's keeping you single and FIX IT!

[breman]

Uuuhhh... WHAT DO YOU THINK I'M TRYING TO DO HERE? I AM trying to find the problem. I am a good guy (with spine and assertiveness), but I can't find a bad personality flaw. Oh yeah, I'm flawed alright: I may be a bit boring sometimes, but that's nothing! No way that can outweigh all the good things about me. And how is a lying, cheating, child neglecting, verbally/physically abusive, unambitious fuck justified by being interesting and fun? It's hard for me TO be interesting and fun if the girl won't even bother to write back or go out with me anywhere. Face it, females like to pick out the small negativity with good guys and run with it while the pick out the small positivity in bad ones and run with it.

[rthomas43]

Sounds to me like you're trying to out-kick your coverage.

[breman]

huh?

[rthomas43]

You're going for girls out of your league.

[breman]

Define "out of my league"

[SquantoGuy]

@rthomas43 I know it sounds crazy as hell, especially to all those butt hurt females who voted up for your comment here since they found my question offensive regardless of my explanation, but I don't see anybody, especially females (chuckles), being better than I am or too good for me.

[Prilee1992]

Because genetically women presume YOU HAVE ALREADY KNOWN these stuffs, they don't want to teach men about these stuffs as a general rule we couldn't believe what they're saying at this topic (women are reacting emotionally not words) so stop whining and learn from experiences.

[breman]

Oh, so now people who are recently from other countries are putting me down now? Can't understand shit you said. Learn from experiences? Ok, this is what I've learned: be a player, don't give a fuck, treat her like shit, and then she'll wanna marry and have kids with your ass. GREAT American lesson to get an American female!

[breman]

And again, I'm NOT fucking whining! Why does everyone keep saying that shit? I'm just telling my problem and trying to get USEFUL feedback on this situation since I can't get the answer out here in the real world from myself or people around me. That's what healthy people do when they can't find an answer: they TALK TO OTHER people ABOUT IT!! Or as you and so many others call it, THEY WHINE!!! I guess you won't be WHINING to the doctor when your heart is acting up or you have a stroke!

[Prilee1992]

What you have learned (being a complete badass player) doesn't work. Everything should be in moderation. So what u were complaining about:
never available (because she don't want to misunderstand the relationship)
lead me on (because u're too weak in her eyes)
don't respond on dating sites (it's their choices, they are constantly being bombarded by many guys, they want someone who are outstanding especially good looking)
don't give me a good reason why they don't want to talk to me anymore (because you turn them off)
are always too sick or busy to go out with me anywhere (because they already put you in friend zone)

And EVEN if you don't fuckin whine, what's the point of writing here? THOUGHT OF JOKE WITHOUT TELLING doesn't work! You have to get yourself into the field!

[breman]

Get myself into the field? I do! It's hard to get her ass to see what a great, strong man I am if she won't even give me a chance.

[coaxmetal]

Maybe the problem isn't that "girls suck".
Maybe the problem is you.

[breman]

Can't see what my problem is. No one ever told me I had a problem. They'd just say I'm not their type or "it's not you, it's me". I've never been called ugly except by one girl I slept with who got pissed at me one time for something pretty stupid but then again she was bipolar as hell. So no, I'm quite sure it isn't me.

[SquantoGuy]

@coaxmetal Can't see what my problem is. No one ever told me I had a problem. They'd just say I'm not their type or "it's not you, it's me". I've never been called ugly except by one girl I slept with who got pissed at me one time for something pretty stupid but then again she was bipolar as hell. So no, I'm quite sure it isn't me.

[the_champ]

"Don't get me wrong, I love fat women b/c they're so nice and friendly, but I'm not romantically attracted to them." Just change fat girls to good guys and you have the female equivalent of why they dont give you the time of day. Women will say they want one thing, but just open your eyes and look around you and you'll see their actions showing a completely different reality. It won't produce a long lasting relationship but it will produce the drama women seek. Women want their life to be like a reality tv show/soap opera. Bad boys add thrill and excitement like a roller coaster. Bitches be crazy.

[campylobacterjejuni]

I'm not racist but I generalize based on skin color. I respect and cherish women, but I think they're all horrible. I love fat women and I'm not offensive, but all fat women who try to date are desperate. Man, what a catch you are.

[been_waiting]

Shut up! He's a NICE GUY!

.. right

[campylobacterjejuni]

No, you don't understand what I'm saying at all. Let me be the great courageous guy who speaks the 'horrid truth' and be clear: I'm saying you're a self-absorbed, arrogant hypocrite who assumes the Truth reflects perfectly your own limited experience. I'm saying that you're making it very clear you don't respect nor cherish women, and that saying you're not offensive doesn't at all make you inoffensive. You're generalizing women, black women, fat women. Everything you wrote makes you palpably unlikable. It's a whiny, antagonizing, misogynistic, unattractive rant. No self-respecting woman would date you, and it's not because of some imaginary, convenient stereotype. It's because of you.

[LastGirlScout]

I feel sorry for the chubby girls, having to date n obvious ugly-duckling like you. I'd the fit girls don't want you it's because they think they are out of your league, the chubby girls are settling for you and you're settling for them...

[LastGirlScout]

Ha! What a lovely, mature response you've given. I'm assuming you aren't that physically attractive (at least not as attractive as you think you are) because you are getting zero responses online and that medium is all about looks. If you really were in the same league as the women you're pursuing then what else could be putting them off? Perhaps your charming personality? You seem to be basing your relationships purely on looks, if this is the case then no wonder they aren't working out. You have implied your settling for chubby girls because you refer to them in a derogatory manner and say that what you really want is a proper hottie.

[breman]

Oh no, I'm just called attractive, handsome, sexy, cute a lot for no fucking reason, I'm sure. And look who's talking about mature responses... Who said I was getting 0 responses online? AGAIN, ASS uming. STOP THAT!! What's putting them off? THEY'RE SHALLOW AS HELL!!! They're stuck up, and they think just because I'm only 5'10", yet they're just 5'7" themselves, and b/c they're accountants and I'm a med student not making any money yet that they're too good for me, or as you put it, "out of my league". Me saying that no one is out of my league is saying I HAVE CONFIDENCE!!!

[breman]

Why couldn't you have come at me with a more tactful response? You gave me an asshole response first, so I came at you with one myself. Fair. I don't just care about looks; a girl could be hot as fuck, but if she's a bitch, then fuck her. All I'd do is bang and leave if given the opportunity. She's not worth anything else. I've tried getting with the nice, sweet big girls, but "it wouldn't work". I want someone who's just AVERAGE looking or above since I myself am AVERAGE looking or above; I know that may not make any sense to you, but wtf ever. I only told the truth about fat girls. They are fat, and no one else wants them. This is obvious common sense.

[LastGirlScout]

"Why is it that the attractive girls (this means slim, pretty, nice curves, soft skin, pretty hair... heck they can even be just average looking) are never available, lead me on, don't respond on dating sites, don't give me a good reason why they don't want to talk to me anymore, are always too sick or busy to go out with me anywhere"
That's why I assume you're getting nowhere, because YOU told me! And the reason a responded as I did is because your sucky question was phrased like a true asshole, I'll tell you now: it's not them, it's you. You come across as an absolute dick and I'm not surprised people won't date you. And don't tell me you don't care about looks, that's what your whole post is about, or is it just fat? Your attitude stinks and girls can smell it a mile off.

[LastGirlScout]

and being called handsome, attractive and cute doesn't count when it's your mom saying it.

[breman]

This is just what they do generally speaking. Yes I’ve gotten a few and far in b/w responses…ONLINE. Now did these girls who responded to me KEEP responding, or did they CONTINUE to text me back? NO. My question ISN’T sucky! You’re just butt hurt about me telling the damn dirty truth! Excuuuuse the hell out of me for being a gentleman, being nice, courteous, respectful, loyal, and honest. Oh yeah, I’m a true asshole!! I have a few female friends who would tell you right away that I’m a GREAT GUY! I have family (mom, cousins, brother, etc.) who will tell you the same. You just don’t know shit about me. YES I care about looks, but unlike most females at least I have the gall to admit it!

[breman]

My post is ALSO about girls loving the wrong fucking ones! Oh but you missed that part didn't you? OF COURSE! You're too damn busy trying to antagonize!!! I have one of the best attitudes a person can have! I've ALWAYS been nice and open minded with these girls. I've tried fat girls, and it didn't work out. I've tried many times. You have to be physically attracted and I wasn't. But that was me trying to look passed looks. Again, what an asshole am I!! "and being called handsome, attractive and cute doesn't count when it's your mom saying it. " VERY mature and UNTRUE response there gal!! Oh yeah, no, you're not a troll, you're not a troll at all!! (rolling eyes).

[breman]

Finally, your little hot tempered antagonizing ass and all your little dumb ass advocates who don't think/read well need to take tips from the following people who have also commented on my post WITH A LOT MORE TACT AND CONSIDERATION!!: Loveisbeautiful, falling4UTC, cphiecekslee. And what's sad is that, in spite of you being in your 30's, they're from under 18 to like mid 20's and have a MUCH MUCH more insightful perspective on what I'm saying here!

[LastGirlScout]

My responses were not antagonistic, yours seem to have been removed... So I wonder who was really being antagonistic and nasty? Look, you don't want answers you want people to agree that it isn't you, it's them and that simply isn't true. Until you realise that you won't get anywhere.

[breman]

Finally, your little hot tempered antagonizing behind and all your little dumb advocates who don't think/read well need to take tips from the following people who have also commented on my post WITH A LOT MORE TACT AND CONSIDERATION!!: Loveisbeautiful, falling4UTC, cphiecekslee. And what's sad is that, in spite of you being in your 30's, they're from under 18 to like mid 20's and have a MUCH MUCH more insightful perspective on what I'm saying here!

[breman]

Did you get that one? You called me an "ugly-duckling". THAT'S NOT ANTAGONIZING?

[breman]

I'm not being nasty, just truthful. But that's too much for you obviously. My comments that I sent you last WERE NOT removed! I see them! And I got no message that they were removed. Seems to me you just don't want to HEAR my truth. Yes, I'm looking for opinions and answers, but NOT at the expense of tactfulness!!! If I AM the problem, I'd sure as hell like to know how! I'm talking to you like this right now b/c you were a total bitch to me from jump. I'm not like this with the girls I try to date, so that "it's not them, it's you" bullshit is out the window! TRY AGAIN!!!

[breman]

I just don't see how being a good guy to these girls is sooooo wrong! I also don't see how they're soooo right for shooting me down in spite of them SAYING that I'm a good/great/nice guy and then run after some supreme douche who plays her ass and sends her home crying, saying "all men are dogs" and all this bs. She had a man who WASN'T a dog, and she treated him like one! Yet she just LOOOOVES the unemployed, uneducated, cheating, and/or lying ass loser who wouldn't even give a damn about his own kids he had by her.

[LastGirlScout]

Haha! I've just read your other responses, not just me who thinks it then eh? General consensus seems to be that you're an immature jackass and that's why you can't get a woman...

[LastGirlScout]

If this is helping you then please carry on venting.

[breman]

You didn't read the posts associated with the names I gave you did you? I bet you didn't. They're sooooo much more understanding than you are!

[breman]

How am I so horrible for being a good guy and being turned down for no good reason at all and then the bitches go after the fucking jerks and then boo hoo about there being no good guys left? And I'M the bad guy somehow? I really think you need to get your shit screwed on right there scout.

[breman]

By the way, you DO know this site is a general amalgamation of assholes right? Maybe that's why they're on consensus with you. Ever thought about that? Seems to me you're just gonna keeeep disagreeing no matter what, whether I'm right or wrong. Happy trolling.

[AnnVdB]

They probably dont find you attractive and dont want you as a mate.
The thing is, girls often go for guys who they have known for a while, because they get to know their personality and start falling in love with them. So if your not good looking for example (i have no clue what you look like), then I think the chances of finding a girl is higher if somehow you first get to know them well and they can see your personality.
If your personality is good and what they are looking for, they won't mind you not looking mega hot.

I mean look around you, look t couples, you see people with all kinds of 'beauty levels' dating and being together... Sometimes it takes friendship first , before relationship develops. And dont start the bullshit baout the friend zone :p

[breman]

I am a decent looking guy. I'm just bald. How can they get to know that you're a great person if they don't give you a chance? And how did they get to know the guys they do know? You've confirmed that girls are EXTREMELY picky though if they look half ass decent themselves. Not every guy in the world is gonna be mega hot and/or have the most flawless personality in the world.

[AnnVdB]

I can't tell you, im asexual and want to stay single my entire life.
But I've known many people getting to know each other through for example their hobbies and interests.

[icantwait]

If you're in the US, its mostly overweight people here. Meaning demand for fit females is higher, which means they have more options, meaning you need something to offer.

Why not just go for the heavier chicks?

And yeah biology is weird, girls want a dominant and secure guy just like guys want a healthier girl. It's a pretty fair trade IMO. But I totally understand your frustration.

[SquantoGuy]

I'm gonna be a doctor and I look decent myself. Is that not enough? Now most of you are missing the AVERAGE part in my opening question. I'm fine with an average looking girl, meaning not necessarily slim, but sorta thick, pear shape, hour glass, or skinny. This encompasses a large percentage. I don't do the heavier chicks b/c I've tried and "it" (if you know what I mean) didn't work. I've tried several of them actually, and I just can't make that mistake of frustrating them and myself and wasting our times again.

[Maazin]

You should always say things which she wants to hear no matter how untrue they are or else you will get loads of shit thrown at ya. . You are already getting a real beating on this post !!!

[breman]

IKR? I wish everyone else would read this! This is sooooo fucking true!! It goes to show you how pathetic of losers that females are since they believe in sweet lies and like them more than true, honest men.

[Yellowbone]

Maybe you should hook up with this chick: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1168385-why-do-men-reject-hot-women-even-sexually

You two seem to have a lot in common :)

[jbugs65]

Wait a minute here... What the fuck are you actually looking for? You're saying you've tried dating for 13 Years and no luck but mention that bigger girls show you attention. So get with one of them since they're actually showing intrest? And if your gonna say they're not your type then your no better than the women you're bashing

[KBob93]

Why we suck like we do?

Because a woman will always do the opposite of what you tell her. So keep telling us to blow it, and we'll continue to suck like we do.

[breman]

Yeah, they will do the opposite of what one tells them, especially if that one is wise.

[Vittabonita]

Your coming off a bit needy and girls no matter what they look like don't like needy guys we want attention but we don't want to be the only thing going on with you

[breman]

Not sure how I'm coming off as needy, but I assure you I'm not. I'm a gentleman. I give her her space. I also am there for her when she needs me. I am fun, but she can't know that if she doesn't even respond to me on a dating site, fb, or by phone or if she doesn't even care to meet up and go out on a first date with me. It's hard, VERY hard to show a woman how I really am if I can't even meet her ass in person.

[Vittabonita]

What are you saying to these girls and what does your profile say because right now you giving off a bit of a needy/ creepy vibe desparate and that's not attractive at all don't get defensive I'm trying to help you here

[breman]

This just goes to show how shallow and narrow minded you girls are. Needy? Creepy? Do you even know what those terms mean? I say that I'm looking for an attractive, good woman with good virtues and ethics, and that's creepy? Needy? WTF am I supposed to say then? I get her number. I text her a few times a day... no not all damn day long, just a few times. After a few days I ask her out on a date to a restaurant or coffee. Needy? Creepy? Desperate?

[Vittabonita]

It's the vibe your giving off if I can see it right now and I don't even know you and your not tryin to date me. It's not shallow I'm just being honest

[breman]

What vibe? What's wrong with it? I'm not talking to you like I would a potential dating partner. I'm discussing an issue with you. You think I'd talk to potential dating partners this way? REALLY?

[breman]

Oh I get it, you just said that crap b/c you're pissed at me saying that girls are narrow and shallow, including you, and I insulted your intelligence, right?

[Vittabonita]

No and I said that your not but there is this vibe you are definitely giving off right now

[Vittabonita]

Not at all you don't know me to say that and I agree some girls can be narrow minded and shallow everyone is in their own way but you are giving off this vibe and your very defensive right now too. I can see you being the kinda guy a girl turns down and you turn around and call her a bitch

[breman]

I'm saying I wouldn't give off this vibe if I were trying to date you.

[breman]

I'll call her a bitch if she gets evil about me asking why she isn't interested in me. But if she's civil and nice about it, then I won't. However, in any case, it's almost always gonna be a bad reason why she's not interested, and that in and of itself is bad, and I won't appreciate it. I will tell her that she's making a mistake and that she needs to reconsider what she really wants.

[Vittabonita]

See that's the thing you can't do that. Ok here if there is a girl you really like and you don't sleep with her or even try to sleep with her the more she will want to sleep with you. We are complex if you are into us more then we are into you you drive us away. You just have to be super chill

[breman]

Being "superchill" never worked for me. Doing that got me friend zoned. I've been told I need to be more aggressive. Then I've been told that I need to chill more. Why is it so fucking difficult? It's only like this with the girls that I (and everyone else) wants, i. e., the slim, pretty ones. The fat girls don't put up anywhere near this trouble.

[breman]

And don't you think these girls that I'm calling bitches need to be taught a lesson anyway? They're ditching perfectly good guys (no, I'm not saying we're perfect) for total assholes! You think this should just go on unpunished? Then when she's washed up by these assholes, she wants to get with us good guys once we've "made it"! You don't find a problem with this?

[breman]

Finally, you've proven something here: women give in to manipulation and base their decisions off of emotions FAR more than they give into what makes sense or make logically based decisions. This is why so many end up getting hurt by bad boys, getting knocked up and left by them, having their dreams shattered b/c of them, and end up with a guilty conscience b/c they end up giving the good guy the bad boys' sloppy seconds in the end after the good guy has been such a good guy for so long. What a reward!

[Vittabonita]

By calling her a bitch after she rejects you just makes you look bad. And if that girl comes back to you after being with the dirt bag that's not the girl you want to be with anyways right. At the end of the day you just have to be you and the right one will come along. Yes we are emotional at times but if a guy comes on too stong it seems needy we run for the hills at the end of the day we want a nice guy that's not going to let us walk all over him because if you do we will. We want a man not a boy needy guys want you to be their mother that's not what we want at all and guys who are too keen terrify us because they migh just kill you calling her a bitch and having a tantrum when she rejects you just makes us think wow we dodged a bullet

[breman]

But see, you've confirmed something: girls don't think. They base their decisions off of emotions. I myself don't have the needy/spineless problem that some nice guys have.

[breman]

I know that calling her a bitch makes me look bad b/c telling the truth nowadays is somehow bad. Right, I don’t want to be with a girl who comes back to me just b/c it’s convenient for her. I don’t like fat girls for a similar reason. No offense, but that “right one will come along” crap is VERY old. When will the right one come along? When I’m 50? 100? But for the douche it comes for him when he’s 18 or 20. See, something’s wrong with that picture. You’ve also proven that women can’t see things in a positive respect when it comes to good guys. However, they’re just too damn good at picking out the positive in the bad ones. Just ass backwards. Just why would you run all over a guy? That’s just damn mean! So you didn’t justify anything here.

[lyla87]

why is it that when guys can't get a date they blame the girls and claim to be better than other guys. It's always the case. The way you are talking in this question doesn't make me think you are a gentlemen, to the contrary, you seem fairly rude actually.

[rjroy3]

Being a nice guy doesn't turn them on, but they do appreciate it. So they see you as just a friend. You're a polite gentleman and that's awesome, but that's not a reason for a girl to date you or have sex with you.

[rjroy3]

It sucks that so many girls lead guys on. Many girls don't have the courage to just say what they feel, for whatever reason. They see it as being nice, but in reality it is being cruel for stringing you along.

[SquantoGuy]

You are ABSOLUTELY right!! So should we let this just continue? Or should we tell them this and tell them to straighten their act up? How would we go about doing that? You know, girls LOVE attention; they thrive off of it. This is what makes them so difficult when they get a lot of it. If most of us deprived them of this attention, they'd have to straighten up. But I guess men are just so strung out on looks and thinking about themselves instead of the poor guys who can't get any that they can't leave the girls alone! DAMN!

[rjroy3]

@squantoguy we don't really have a say in what we do. But you have a choice to be around girls who are disrespectful or not. Personally I think that if you are being disrespected that it's your fault. That something about you is drawing in people who treat you that way or think that it's ok. I think that what we all should really do is be better man and respect ourselves more, so that the girls we deal with are good women who are worth it

[SquantoGuy]

Sounds sweet, but it's not necessarily true. I haven't done anything wrong by these girls, and my reactions on here are no reflection of my attitude and personality when I approach girls; my attitude/personality have always been complimented if anything. I don't see how I could get much better without being absolutely perfect, the lack of which is something that girls need to through their skulls.

[SquantoGuy]

@rjroy3 Sounds sweet, but it's not necessarily true. I haven't done anything wrong by these girls, and my reactions on here are no reflection of my attitude and personality when I approach girls; my attitude/personality have always been complimented if anything. I don't see how I could get much better without being absolutely perfect, the lack of which is something that girls need to through their skulls.

[rjroy3]

@squantoguy the flaw or mistake could be as simple as your choice in women.
If every girl you date ends up being a bitch, it's either you bring that out in the girls you date. Or you are attracted to girls that act like that for whatever reason.

[SquantoGuy]

It'd really suck if just every girl I ran into is a bitch like that. Talk about bad luck. Then again, maybe I do bring that bitchery out in them, but it's just b/c of something soooo small like me being a little boring. Oh and dig this, this girl I was talking to recently said that "you texting me at 6am was off putting". That's why she stopped talking to me for a couple days. Ain't that some shit? This is why they don't like a good guy. BUT, hold account, they will put up with a lying, cheating, abusive fuck face who will not even look after his own kids he had by her all b/c he's not boring. Now I'm not boring all the time, just sometimes. That's a small ass flaw that could be easily corrected if she just simply spent more time with me. And we all have flaws right? So if you have to put up with some kind of flaw, then why not put up with small ones instead of big ones, right? But I guess in the illogical female world, more worse flaws are better.

[SandPlanet]

What a great catch you are.

[musicbrain5]

Right? I wonder why the women aren't flocking towards him.

[Account]

+1 hahaha!

[SandPlanet]

That was a really cute comment, Asker. :) I didn't read most of it, but the overall feeling a get from looking at it is really adorable!

[rUinSAYAN]

this guy is in a tragic dilemma!!! help them he's in a Tarp!

[breman]

@SandPlanet You couldn't even read one paragraph? ooooohhhh I'm sorry for being truthfuuuull. Next time, I'll just tell you the sweet, candy coated ass lie that all girls wanna hear. K? :) @rUinSAYAN learn how to write.

[SandPlanet]

Someone's biiiiiiitter. :D

[breman]

I bet that just made your day didn't it? Congrats! You've reached your goal troll!

[SandPlanet]

Yes! And the funniest thing about this is, I wasn't even trolling. I meant everything I said just the way I said it. You are quite an okay target, I must admit. Thanks! :)

[SandPlanet]

P. S.: I love the irony of you telling someone else to learn how to write, while you are the one who doesn't use paragraphs. :D

[SquantoGuy]

@SandPlanet I think he wrote quite eloquently actually! You just have a strong passion for upsetting people don't you? Try to be more constructive with your life and try to help rather than hurt!! Your sarcasm isn't doing quite a damn thing for him ya know. You REALLY seriously need help yourself thing!

[SandPlanet]

@MikeyJones:
How many more accounts are you planning to create just to insult everyone who disagrees wit hyour bullshit? Get a life. :D

[SandPlanet]

@SinduHal:
Account Nr. 8?

[SandPlanet]

@WillTreyZongs:
You really have no life, do you? Got nothing better to do than to creat one account after another? Well, keep going, me and the other people on here find you very amusing. :D

[CommieDearest]

But you sound like a dream. I don't get it either.

[breman]

I sound like a dream? Was that sarcasm?

[SandPlanet]

People not being sure if something was meant sarcastic or not are the main reason why sarcasm is so great. And it exposes fools.

I <3 sarcasm.

[CommieDearest]

Does a bear shit in the woods?

[Betwyn]

Not when it lives in a zoo :P

[CommieDearest]

@Betwyn does a bear that lives in the woods shit in the woods?**** :P

[Betwyn]

Yes.

Tho, I've never seen proof that Polar Bears shit on the Tundra.

a ponderance for another day perhaps

[CommieDearest]

@Betwyn https://slowrobot.com/i/48897

[Betwyn]

OMG

You are my hero!

[breman]

Good news for a country who doesn't legalize prostitution... except for in one state.

[CommieDearest]

Because you're a big boy now and if you can't find more constructive ways for dealing with your problems than insulting women, then we will give you the same treatment. As is life. Put some hair on your chest chief, and for fuck's sake don't dish it out if you can't take it. Lest you want to look like a baby back bitch.

[CommieDearest]

Just... read my last comment it still applies.

[SquantoGuy]

You need to do something more constructive with you life rather than ridicule and condescend. @CommieDearest Your sarcasm doesn't help either! He IS handling this constructively! He's asking what could be the problem, but I guess you missed that by a thousand miles! He didn't insult any females; he just told the God's truth!! Get over it missy!!

[SquantoGuy]

@CommieDearest You need to do something more constructive with you life rather than ridicule and condescend.

[SquantoGuy]

@CommieDearest Your sarcasm doesn't help either! He IS handling this constructively! He's asking what could be the problem, but I guess you missed that by a thousand miles! He didn't insult any females; he just told the God's truth!! Get over it missy!!

[rjroy3]

Many girls go through guys that treat them like crap, but are attracted to until they finally meet a good guy that turns them on.
Plain and simple. You might be a good guy, but you just don't turn these girls on. Sorry

[rjroy3]

And I can't blame them. Why should they settle for a guy they aren't sexually attracted to because he's "nice enough". Would you even want a relationship with a girl who thinks of you that way? I wouldn't.

[rjroy3]

No one should settle for someone that they can't look at and honestly say, "I want to fuck her/him". Otherwise you're looking forward to a low affection, sexless relationship.

[rjroy3]

I'm saying if the girl your with is asked about your relationship with her, and all she can say is "mmm... he's nice enough" and nothing more.
Anyways, if a girl is not attracted to you the won't tell you because it's what they consider being nice. The cruelest thing you can do is be nice. Because she'd rather give you a nice lie, than a truth that might actually add value to your life

[rjroy3]

Most relationships now a days are sloppy seconds. So thats a moot point, unless you mean RIGHT after him. Not even a month after

[rjroy3]

No no. That's when you go for the younger pretty girls they used to be as attractive as. They're ready to settle down and you're like "fuck it, I'm just gettin started!"

[Kshppatel]

The trick is to be a combo of douche and nice guy. You just have to know which situations call for each one.

[SquantoGuy]

In other words, girls suck

[Kshppatel]

No. You have to know when to be an "asshole aka take charge and tell her what it is and when to be nice and sweet to her. Just because you don't know the difference doesn't mean women suck. Be accountable and look at yourself before blaming others. Don't expect women to change from liking" bad boys" to "nice guys" because I got news for you that shit isn't gonna happen. YOU need to adapt to the game. Make yourself unavailable. People want things they can't have. Show that you are hard to attain. I guarantee you she will want you more and more.

[SquantoGuy]

Yeah, they suck. Because with guys, a girl doesn't have to be so wish washy with her personality.

[SquantoGuy]

I look at myself before blaming others. I'm not that nice guy who's a pushover and all like you think. "Don't expect women to change from liking" bad boys" to "nice guys" because I got news for you that shit isn't gonna happen", which proves that they... SUCK! If I show that I'm hard to attain, she won't even bother.

[Kshppatel]

The biggest reason girls aren't attracted to you is because you're complaining and you've already given up. Thus is the way things are in the dating world. There's no getting around it. You can either adapt to it or you can keep bitching and complaining. The choice is yours.

[SquantoGuy]

Dude, BS. They don't know I've given up. They don't know I complain about this. So how can this be the problem? Then again, maybe I do bring that bitchery out in them, but it's just b/c of something so small like me being a little boring. Oh and dig this, this girl I was talking to recently said that "you texting me at 6am was off putting". That's why she stopped talking to me for a couple days. Ain't that some shit? This is why they don't like a good guy. BUT, hold account, they will put up with a lying, cheating, abusive fuck face who will not even look after his own kids he had by her all b/c he's not boring. Now I'm not boring all the time, just sometimes. That's a small ass flaw that could be easily corrected if she just simply spent more time with me. And we all have flaws right? So if you have to put up with some kind of flaw, then why not put up with small ones instead of big ones, right? But I guess in the illogical female world, worse flaws are better.

[SquantoGuy]

Oh, and thanks for the "Kind Words" there champ! I'm in the dumps, and this is how you and so many others talk to me.

[Kshppatel]

I tried to help you but clearly you don't want help. You just want to complain about how girls are the problem. Why do you want a girl who puts up with abusive guys anyway? You don't want that girl. I don't care how hot she is. And spare me the pity party. You texting at 6 am is showing that you are too available. Like I said people want things they can't have. Don't text her at 6 am. Make her wait and wonder why you aren't texting her and then text her.

[MikeyJones]

Are you saying I don't want help just b/c I counter argued you successfully? That's a bad reason to say that bruh! Never did I say I wanted a girl who puts up with abusive guys. I only texted her at 6am ONCE! That's just NOT a good reason to stop talking to someone! And you giving me that advice to make her wonder why I'm not texting clearly proves that girls are illogical, irrational creatures. You have to manipulate them in order to get them (unless if they're fat of course), like they're dogs or some other animals that you might throw bait to and then they flip and do the tricks for it. That's not the kind of person I want to love or spend my life with. I want a REAL woman. Someone who doesn't get turned on by games. Someone who thinks for herself.

[Kshppatel]

Of course women are illogical. That's why you can't use logic when trying to attract them. They respond to emotion. Sadly in today's world of dating you have to play the game. You either play the game or get left in the dust. That's just how it is.

[Shmusername]

"They can even just be average looking," huh? You are so generous to be giving those poor average girls a shot with you! I.. I just don't get what their problem is.

[Shmusername]

I have read his posts. I stand by my statement.

On an unrelated note, you don't have to tag me on my own opinion. Just answering gives me a notification.

[sexylexy01]

Damn. Why can't every guy be as nice and sweet as you? And prob not, it may seem like hse wants a bad boy but she wants the sweet, hot and understanding one. athlete is up there too!

[BenjaminBix]

I feel you, mate. Look, whenever this used to happen to me "rejection, friend zoning..." I always tell myself that they are the one who lose. DON'T SAY WHY NOT ME.

[Anonymous]

If that's what you've honestly expeienced, then you may as well hire a prostitute or an escort... If you want regular girls, then why don't you just be upfront with them that you only want a hookup/FWB?

[breman]

They won't get with me if I told them I just want a hook up. It's far much more work than just getting a prostitute. You see, I've always wanted a regular girl as a dating partner and a potential wife. But that's just too damn much to ask for a nice guy.

[knightofthepage]

From reading your question and reading your responses to opinions, you sound like a complete asshole.

[SquantoGuy]

How?

[SquantoGuy]

Again, as I said to EVERYONE else, sorry for being a good guy/gentleman to these girls and not being those douchebags they love so much who cheat and lie.

[knightofthepage]

You're calling girls picky bitches for having preferences that don't fit you, you say fat girls are girls no one else wants, and when opinion owners try to tell you why you're not getting dates, you get extremely defensive and insist it isn't your fault and it's girls who have a problem.

[MikeyJones]

@knightofthepage That's b/c what people say is MY problem ISN'T my problem! They're assuming a lot and then I let them know that what they're assuming simply isn't true! I get "extremely defensive" b/c people assume instead of asking me if it's true or not AND they come at me with a fucked up attitude... like you did for example, saying that I sound like a complete asshole! Fat girls ARE girls no one else wants. Why do you think they're so easy for me? DUH!!!

[knowit2]

Don't mind him. He's from another country

[TheFullestThrottle]

@knowit2 what does he being from another country have to do with ANY damn thing?

[pavlove]

It's an immaturity thing as far as I can tell. We want what we can't have and when you lie, cheat, and abuse then the girl sometimes wants you more because you're really difficult to have be good to them.

[ineedahusband]

I'm thinking u think u are above average, but nobody else does.
N probably act weird.

[breman]

You think wrong. Get to know me first.

[breman]

And if you read all the rest of my comments, you'd know that I've already said that people always call me handsome, cute, etc.

[ineedahusband]

People lie.

[breman]

THAT'S the damn problem! Girls are lying assholes who deserve to get done like shit by the bad boys they love so much!!!

[breman]

Where does this "probably act weird" shit come in?

[breman]

Oh, and people must lie to me a whooooole lot. Hell I don't even ask them how I look! They just tell me that I'm handsome, sexy, etc.

[ineedahusband]

Well if it's not your looks, then it's something else. N in relationships people usually go for looks or personality. So, if it's not ur looks, it's your personality. Hence, u probably act weird.

[breman]

I don't act weird. If acting nice is weird (it's not an act though, it's genuinely who I am), then maybe I should be who I'm not and act like an ass.

[ineedahusband]

Then we are all wrong. U are right.
So where's your hot chick?
Do u have a voice like a girl?
Moobs? Lizard lips?
It's gotta be something screwy...

[breman]

Oh yeah, it just HAS to be me doesn't it? No way can it be that girls in general just need to get THEIR shit together. Oh noooo... the fabric of this country isn't destroyed at all. I'm in shape (not an athlete, but I'm 18% body fat, normal for men is b/w 16 and 22), I bench 265 and I'm 214lbs. I'm 5'10", have a bright future in medicine, DEFINITELY a manly voice, I'm part black, white, and Cherokee, and I'm bald. Not sure how being bald is that huge of a deal. Where's my hot chick you ask? Busy with her head stuck up her own ass I'm sure.

[ineedahusband]

Laughing out loud...

[SquantoGuy]

Hey, he's right!

[SquantoGuy]

@ineedahusband You need to quit trying to make people upset before you can get a husband... a good one anyway!! :)

[ineedahusband]

Dude, He asked. I don't want him as a husband anyways.

[SquantoGuy]

@ineedahusband He asked what? Didn't say you wanted HIM as a husband!! lol