Why are girls such bitches? Seriously?

[thesunstillshines]

I have a problem with girls. Not all but most are bitches. I get dirty looks by most girls, I have had them just be mean to me by making me seem like someone I'm not. They just have attitudes and I try to be nice. Or they just leave me out of everything. I try and remain friendly with people at work and the girls are snobby. They leave me out of conversations.
Examples: I went out with my cousin and her friend who are also my manager. We went to the bar and they were ignoring me. Guys were just trying to talk to me. I kind of pushed it off because I didn't really like any of them.
We also went to target once and they did the same thing. Trying to walk in front of me. Giving me these body signals like they don't want to talk to me. I just don't understand why girls are so mean. I had an ex friend who would always call me a whore and other names ONLY in front of men. Then I just have random girls starting stuff with me and when I stand up for myself they keep their mouth shut. All of this actually makes me depressed on how cruel girls are. These girls are 18-30 years old in general.

The thing is if I only talk to guys all the time I'm going to look like a whore. Let's face it. People judge. But it seems like it's only the men that don't make me cry

[CootiesInfection]

i knowwwww its awful how hard it is to find a decent girl. i'm not even saying just a good girl, or a great girl, just a decent one. and i get it, you're young and you think you're pretty and the center of the world, great for you, (eye roll) but they're totally in denial about ALL of their faults... and they can always find a guy who will bullshit them just for having tits so they don't have to listen to anyone who doesn't tell them what they want to hear. thats why they always make you out to be someone you're not, its so they can make THEMSELVES out to be someone they're not, either a persecution complex to convince themselves they're nice and charming, or they put you down to convince themselves they're the prettiest, but they're all really just cowards truth be told. only a coward would need all that denial.

you shouldn't give a shit about girls judgement because their opinions are worthless. they judge your abilities on the morning news by whether you wear the same dress twice.

www.washingtonpost.com/.../

[Lioness]

Excuse you, but I can tell you this is not an "age" factor, this is serious discrimination in girl world, so unless you are in the closet about something I suggest you mind your manners and be respectful "eye roll"

[CootiesInfection]

tupac said it best. "even the females know its bitches. females dont even hang with females, so why would they expect a nigga to understand something they don't understand?"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4AHH0bdNKyM

[Lioness]

Soo just to be clear, you are saying you are indeed a woman?

[thesunstillshines]

She didn't do anything to me. She deals with the same shit I deal with it
I don't think you understand

[Iron_Man]

You are very pretty so they dont like you I take it

[smokahontas]

Yep ^^^

[Iron_Man]

Thank you so much for MH

[AnissiaXO]

because when they see you they find things they hate about themselves and take it out on you cause you're probably a lovely girl, theyre just being haters and unfortunately haters dont have a age haha i've had 30 year old GIRLS try and start a bunch of crap.

But hey if you got it then keep doing you you're not hurting no one and never had intentions on doing so. Women should really empower each other i dont see any reason to act immature and put another women down,, cause what does that really say about them? Sad haha.
IF you love yourself then you love others and girls who are insecure and lack self esteem won't understand that cause theyre to busy hating on the hot girls.

i say next time you run into those situations pick up your confidence another notch... it will destroy them and show how irrelevant they are to you.

kiss kiss

[xHoneyxBeex]

I think a lot of women tend to be competitive when it comes to guys especially but also just in general. They compete with other women for attention so if you attract a lot of male attention, that could be one reason. Maybe some of these women are just jealous. A lot of women are also very vindictive and manipulative when it comes to how they handle their friendships.

If they have a problem with another girl, instead of being direct and confronting that girl, they will just talk about the girl behind her back and try to cut her off from their social circle. That's just how some girls work. I hope you realize though that no all women are like this. I've met a lot of super sweet girls who are not hateful or mean. I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences.

[SpicedPumpkin]

This ^ all of it. couldn't have said it better myself.

[thesunstillshines]

I agree

[datgirl]

Yea, girls are the same way to me more or less. No matter how nice I am I can't seem to get them to like r be my friends. I have very few girl friends and some acquaintances but honestly guys make me feel better about my self maybe it's just because I have a vagina and they want something more either way I prefer their company it's not that I wouldn't mind a couple of good gal companions it's just that most don't like me and I have no idea why therefore I dislike most women too unless they are actually are a great individual. Just keep your head up and those women don't give them what they want... defeat.

[thesunstillshines]

Thank you!!

[MrScTi]

The real question is, why are you making everyone seem like a bitch? This is all in your head. It's amazing how much drama you're conjuring when not a single explicit statement was made to clarify where you all stand.

A dirty look here, a turned shoulder there, a moment of silence that should have been filled with praiseworthy dialogue... Fix your lens, you're seeing a typical situation and spinning it with your own twisted assumptions.

If women are bitches in your mind, fine. To be honest, I've encountered women who play these games and ironically they look a lot like you. Well, fuck em. There are two ways of handling this. Open your mouth and tell them why you're bothered, or shrug it off and stop assuming things. Not everyone has an agenda against you unless you rubbed them the wrong way.

[thesunstillshines]

No a lot of women are bitchy and it's not in my head when other people are saying that was rude

[MrScTi]

Who is saying that was rude?

[thesunstillshines]

Other people who are there when something happens

[Lioness]

This is true... and what do you know about it, aren't you a man?

[thesunstillshines]

And what makes you think I look bitchy

[MrScTi]

You need to really sit back and ask yourself why this is happening. We have no idea what happened before this "drama" started. The truth is, nobody is going to spite a girl that they respect. Maybe you started it. Be honest with yourself.

If you still want to hang out with these girls then you have to tell them that it's hurting you. That's the only way you'll know for sure. Otherwise, you don't have to hang out with them. Something tells me that based on your attitude, no matter who your "real friends" end up being, they will treat you the same way unless you change.

[MrScTi]

@Lioness Can you rephrase the question? What exactly are you asking?

[thesunstillshines]

Lol i didn't do anything. You must not know girls then. Because they do, do stuff

[MrScTi]

Well If you can't admit to having any influence in how people are treating you, this is a pointless discussion.

[Lioness]

You are a man, right? So what do you know about female competition? Most times this is not something can be avoided, no choice in the matter if we have to work with them. You say, look at yourself? ok, so I'm attractive, guilty as charged... now what? Am I mean, nasty, rude? No, I am one of the sweetest people you will ever meet, and that makes some of us women a target for the bitch bullies out there.

[thesunstillshines]

He basically saying it's my fault that I get bullied
I can say hi how are you to a women and she has a stink attitude

[MrScTi]

@Lioness

Here's what I know about female competition. Nobody has any balls, so instead of fixing problems directly, dramatic thoughts grow like cancer cells and you get your panties in a knot over the simplest things. Why? Because you refuse to confront the issue and solve it.

[Lioness]

Right, so how shall us women handle this then?

[MrScTi]

@Lioness

"Hey, I'm sensing a rift between us. Let's talk it out. I want to try and resolve this."

"I noticed you were quiet and looked like you didn't want to talk to me. Are you okay? Did I do anything wrong? Let's talk about this."

"You sort of gave me a look and it concerned me. Are you okay? How are you feeling?"

[TheINTJ]

Yep, I agree.

[Lioness]

I appreciate the effort, but these women that are nasty do not want to discuss and work things out. They want to control and push people out of their way to lessen competition. So do you think they will really respond positively to any of that? Have you ever tried this?

[thesunstillshines]

Lioness is right
They do it with aggressiveness and bitchness

[MrScTi]

@Lioness Have YOU tried it? Of course not.

This is common sense diplomacy 101. You have to show empathy and understanding and lead by example. Even if that means putting yourself aside. Stop thinking "oh well I'm a pretty girl they're just jealous of me I deserve much better". Stop. That's selfish. You can say they are cold, but they could say the same for you. Nobody knows for sure because nobody CONFRONTS THE ISSUE.

[Lioness]

I see what you are saying, and perhaps for a few that may work, but when you just meet a woman and get a stank attitude like thesunstillshines has said, it definitely puts you on the defensive. At that point to come from a leveled understanding is basically rendered useless and the jealousy will always be there unless they can find some use of us. To condemn us for "deserving Better" is just wrong, we don't want our asses kissed we just want to be treated like everyone else with respect as a human being. I myself have tried to "work" the issues out only to be stalked, ridiculed and forced out. If you mean by diplomacy 101 "bribery" then maybe I agree, otherwise why would these women back down with just a friendly discussion? You think talking things out will clear up the misunderstanding?

[MrScTi]

@Lioness

It's a strategy for dealing with certain people and coexisting. Nobody is condemning you, you just have to be the one who changes the dynamic of the relationship by being forward and transparent. Unless the person is psycho, there are ways of dealing with even the biggest bitches.

Normal people see kindness and immediately reciprocate. Others (bitches) are insecure and see everyone as a threat and refuses to "give". You have to disarm yourself and empathize with her, build social equity. Learn why she's insecure and offer solutions. This builds communication and trust.

"You think talking things out will clear up the misunderstanding?"
Do you really need to ask that?

As for business, that's not necessarily anything to do with this. Men get forced out of positions just like women because of disagreement.

[Lioness]

Look, my point is unless you are a woman who has experienced this, then how can you advise the correct solution to this? Yes, in ideal circumstances talking would be wonderful, however these bitches be crazy and don't respond to normal, healthy relations. I am talking psycho women who stalk, continuously manipulate, etc. It would be like trying to reason with a crazy ex gf who has keyed your car and wants to have you arrested for domestic abuse... only conversation you will be having is with a cop and maybe your lawyer. Good luck with that!

[MrScTi]

@Lioness

Me not being a woman actually serves to your benefit. You obviously have no clue how to sack up and solve the problem for yourselves. You need a sausage to get in there and put the cats to bed.

"I am talking psycho women who stalk, continuously manipulate, etc. It would be like trying to reason with a crazy ex gf who has keyed your car and wants to have you arrested for domestic abuse"

You're referring to a select few girls, because clearly any rational human being wouldn't assume even the majority of women are psychos.

If that's the case, you think you're special? Odd, so does the QA! So does every girl who answered this question. Every girl who speaks out is SPECIAL and would never bully or perpetuate drama! It's the OTHER GIRLS who are psycho! Right. Someone is bullshitting and it ain't me.

[thesunstillshines]

If every women is a psycho than every man is a cheater who would stick his donut in any hole

[MrScTi]

@Asker Although you butchered the joke, I'd stick my donut in your hole.

[teufle1775]

No. Do not listen to this asshole. I totally agree with everything you are saying. Girls are bitches just like men can be. Luckily there are some decent girls out there who aren't, I personally like being alone and doing my own thing. People have their own opinions, and I totally agree with everything you said. I hate girls.

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Men get treted way WAY worse so I dont really understand the problem here

[BuchitaBuchys]

Sounds like the females you're around are catty as fuck. Eh. I just ignore bitchy people, men or women.

At the bar I work at, I found that one of the girls was talking shit about me. She's like in her fucking 30s, too old for that middle school drama. I am nice to everyone and greet others but she always ignored me. Then she said I was stuck up and she didn't like me. I was like wtf? I try to greet her everyday out of common courtesy but she just looks at me and walks away.
I ignore it. I'm there to make money, not friends. I'm still a nice person, but if someone is being bitchy to me, then they can keep running their mouth. If they try to hit me, that's a different story.

Your competition. That's probably why.

[HuckyHucky]

I read somewhere that men's higher testosterone levels generally results in them sorting out their differences via physicality/aggression, i. e. fighting, whereas girls tend to sort out their differences in much more passive ways, i. e. talking behind others' back etc. Physical fights are typically sorted out pretty quickly, whereas catty behaviors have more of a mental affect.

Either way, you can't control others. Screw the people who bring negativity into your life or else they will drag you down right with them. It may take a while to find a truly positive influence in your life but it's worth it. And try to avoid generalistic viewpoints like "all girls are catty" and "all guys are cool" because there's crappy people of both genders. Just find whatever people make you happy and are good friends regardless of their gender.

[Lioness]

Easy to say, but I speak from experience that not so easy to exclude from your life, nor walk away. Not all girls are catty, but a lot are and bring such a negative energy to women in general.

[thesunstillshines]

I agree lioness

[HuckyHucky]

@Lioness I agree easier said than done, and some people (like coworkers) can't be immediately eradicated from your life, but I'm just saying make an effort to avoid negative people, don't be around them any more than is absolutely necessary, don't let them in your inner circle.

[Lioness]

I'm pretty much talking about coworkers... You are 17? Come back to this discussion when you have experienced the bitchy working relations. If you are attractive to the opposite sex and a kind heart then just know you have been warned of what's to come :/

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Its fun

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Whoops weong comment

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Its fun to resolve stuff physically. Most of the time its playful

[Lioness]

Yes girl, I completely understand... Unfortunately many women are insecure and when they come across a confident woman who is attractive they get defensive and insecure. Story of my life... I now look for male bosses because of the female competition factor. Guys will not understand this, and women who want to say we are bitches or any other derogative comment are either guilty of this descrimination or just plain fugly. So bring it on!

[thesunstillshines]

That is my plan. If that is you in your profile you're beautiful!!

[Lioness]

It is, and so are you ;) Yes, stay away from female dominated industries they are nasty and wonder why everyone is fat and ugly? Because they feed off the negative energy and scare away anyone remotely attractive.

[thesunstillshines]

That is too. Aggressive women are usually unattractive and want all the power

[Lioness]

These nasty type women invented the "Passive aggressive" just because they don't have the balls to be aggressive they just use their big fat mouths instead.

[thesunstillshines]

So true
It's sad

[Anonymous]

Some are unfortunately like that. It's a real shame and I feel for ya.

But pity them and walk proudly. The bitches you talk about won't get very far with that behavior and will not be as successful as you.

Could you help me with this jealous girl? She's been really bitchy. She was a female friend who wanted an exclusive relationship with me, then cheated on me and offered something, and now is being a bitch about me talking to girls at uni?

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1385081-my-new-girlfriend-i-had-a-threesome-did-she-get-jealous-normally

[PiuBelloAmante]

they are probably upset, that you steal attention from them, it sounds like you dont mean to...
I don't know what to tell you, women are crazy haha!
i think you will find nice girls to spend time with eventually, just dont go for making friends with the similar type of girls

[pr3ttybr0wn]

You seem like the type of woman that draws men to you. Just going by your looks and personality so this is going to cause jealousy. You have a feminine spirit and you're cute so this pulls men. It would be easier for them to tolerate you if you were just a slut, then they could rationalize it and feel ok with you. But you probably make a lotta hoes insecure and they can't take it. Remember that you are a lion so you can't lose sleep Bc of the opinions of sheep

[emmabee11]

Yup... not just you, girls are just far too competitive these days... they are SO paranoid and think whatever you do or how you dress will some how look bad on them, these people care too much about "reputation" than actually making legit friends so id just ignore them completely, not worth anyone's time.

[MixedTwit]

Then talk to guys. They seem to be judging u anyways so who cares what they think, if u make friends with guys then u make friends with guys and if they start saying shit then that's their problem. Cuz all that really matters is what u think and how your friends view u. Who gives a shit bout the rest. So if ur friends r all guys then that's just how it's gunna be, don't let them get to u and stop u from talking to people

[Alexious]

The world is full of arse holes.
You've just gotta go through them all and find the nice ones. ;D

Not gonna lie, I get on better with girls tbh.
Most dudes my age are either nice and laid back, or are just straight up dickheads.

All the girls I know and talk to aren't pissy or snappy like dudes I know.

[mutedaisy]

Guys aren't going to make you cry, because they want to eventually get in your pants. Girls see you as competition for those said guys.

[thesunstillshines]

True

[Ryosanada]

Sounds like you need new friends. Are they jealous of your looks? Maybe you need guy friends, and fuck others impressions. Guys and girls can be friends, and not fuck buddies.

[XNicholeMariex3]

These girls are very immature and it sounds more like a jealousy problem than anything.

[Anonymous]

They are just as competitive and territorial as guys but handle it in a "bitchy" way. They start drama and rumors about each other and try to break up relationships, bitches indeed.

[The_Technomancer]

People in this day and age are pretty screwed up. You could argue a similar case for guys being douche bags,

[Jamorvis]

Not all girls are. My best friend can be a bitch sometimes but not without reason, she's not like most girls who be a bitch just because they can be.

[classybabe]

Yes, thats quite true. Girls can be very mean and jealous. But the only thing you can do is to ignore them and to choose your friends more carefully.

[sunny_leone]

girls are not bitches honey... some people thinking about this factor. u know people also called me that i'm a bad girl. but i don't care. as a p*rn star i did my job. that's it. so the term is totally wrong

[thesunstillshines]

Lmaooooooooooo

[sunny_leone]

what?

[thesunstillshines]

Your English sucks
You mentioned girls aren't bitches and you're a p*rnstar
It's just funny

[Strider90]

You just described 90% of female population. I see this all the time. You girls are always behave bitchy towards other girls sometimes even your friends.

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Bruh you just skipped by the part with men trying to talk to you + what do you mean talking to guys makes you look like a whore. Men get treated way WAY worse like I've been kicked in the balls 3 times just for approaching someone.