Is ignoring girls actually a good idea?

Question

I've been reading a lot of stuff online, and they keep saying that ignoring girls and not giving them enough attention actually makes them like you even more. What are you thoughts girls?

anastasis · Accepted Answer

I don't know. Ever since from about age 20, I've completely ignored females. I was engaged in very deep study day in and day out in library stack after library stack learning the wisdom of the ages. If think they must have all gone to the clubs or something. To be honest, I really wasn't paying attention. I always assumed if there were one around who was really for me, she'd be where I was. And if she wasn't there, I didn't have time or luxury to go find her.

That may not be the best policy to be a romantic in this world.

But, wow... did I ever learn a lot.

Besides, I wouldn't have ever even desired a cluber to begin with. I don't know what the blazes they were doing out there, but I know that whatever it is they thought they were looking for they never found.

All in all, I see myself as having broken even, because now I am light years beyond them. They will never find me, because I'm not even in the same galaxy. Every once in a while, I pay a quick visit back to see how the show goes. I soon realize it is the same old movie reel with a different name. Then I move on.

They didn't actually think I was going go follow them or chase them, did they?

serg11 · Accepted Answer

I would say keep it on middle grounds. I have noticed a lot of times that even when the girl likes me, giving a lot of attention backfires. People (not just girls) tend to want what they feel they can't have, hence why a lot of guys/girls will chase that one guy/girl who doesn't know they exist, ignoring the other great people who like them. I mean I would say talk to her, text her here and there, but If she doesn't reciprocate and try to reach out to you too, I would say you might be wasting your time. Relationships are supposed to be 2-way streets.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That is like the WORST thing to do if you are just starting to notice her or if you do it all of a sudden. Sometimes they wonder what they've done wrong. Even worse, they start to believe that you actually aren't interested and have never been so they try to get over you, which eventually works out. There's this guy who used to talk to me all the time and he would flirt with me (I still don't know if it was intentional). I thought he liked me, but a new girl came who was more open about her interests (they're both gamers.. but he never knew that I did too) started speaking to him, and slowly he started to pay more attention to her. The next school year, his best friend told me that the guy had a crush on me. So I tried to find out more, and I heard that he denied it. I was heartbroken, but I'm still not sure if he was lying or not. Because he also denied liking this other girl (not the new girl), but everyone knew that he really did like her. Eventually, I got over him. It comes back sometimes when we talk to each other about schoolwork or whatever, but it isn't as strong as before. It's just that tiny part of me that always hoped he was lying about not liking me.

playdatesx · Accepted Answer

All girls are different. I personally wouldn't want to be ignored like I don't exist anymore. If I like them, I like them. No playing games. I don't play games, they don't play games. I enjoy spending time with them or talking to them, but if they ignore me or play games with me, I don't like that, and I'll just walk off.

So the person who got MHO--keep in mind that doesn't apply to everyone. The best advice I can give you is really just be yourself. you don't want someone to like you for someone you're not, you want someone to like you for you.

blunttalker · Accepted Answer

Just a first, confuse her, sometimes give her your attention and flirt with her (we love being complimented by a guy) and then suddenly do nothing, stay busy. That way, the girl will wonder if you like her or not, because you give mixed signs, so she'll think about you more. We usually think about unfinished business. So thinking more and more about the guy who confuses her will make her go a little crazy and like u more. She'll try not to show it tho. But just at first do it, or it just gets stressing and she'll move to the next.

Azara · Answer

Ignoring people might make them wonder why yoyre igniting them but it's jit going to make them like you. The only people it "works" on and I use the term works very loosely. Are people who don't actually want anything to work out or people who can't wait to turn the tables.

If you stop talking to me I'll ask you about it ir ask you out to make sure you know I'm intersted snd that there's no misunderstanding. If AFtER I've made a gesture you ignore me then I'm out. No regrets. I'm not curious it troubled or thinking about you. I've just lost respect and interst in you. That's it.

LyaCartelier · Answer

If we'd already talked a lot, or texted - basically if it was obvious that you liked me and the feeling was mutual - no, I would not appreciate you suddenly ignoring me. I would be confused and maybe hurt (depending on how far we'd gone - and I don't mean sex, making out, kissing because then if you start ignoring her that's just a dick move). If it was only texting I'd just be confused, and after a while I would figure out that you weren't interested and move on, and probably you wouldn't get another shot.

Anonymous · Answer

The idea behind ignoring, for both genders, is to get them thinking about you and promote jealousy, which promotes competition.

If a girl is into you, and you start ignoring her, she'll go nuts thinking about you and trying to figure out whether you're into her. If you flirt with other girls as well, she'll feel like her place as your #1 is being threatened, and will work harder to prove herself. If you just give her attention, she has no incentive to prove her worth, and will probably start getting bored and/or taking you for granted. Same thing applies with the genders reversed. This is the basic idea.

This idea only works if she's into you, though. Just ignoring girls period does nothing, unless you're attractive enough that your looks alone draw female attention. Otherwise, you have to do a bit of courting/flirting, then become distant for a while, and repeat. This is what's known as the "hot & cold" method.

Anonymous · Answer

The answer is... NO! Some girls might get confused and try to get closer to you, but it's not worth the try. Other girls will get completely emotional and "Why isn't he texting me back? Why is he ignoring me? Does he think I'm too low for him?". Trust me, play it safe. I know for a fact that I hate it when guys ignore me. If you go too much, I will completely give up on you. It's not good. It makes the girl think that you have better things to do or that they are lower than you therefore you don't like them.

You'll save them a lot of ranting or depression (I may have exaggerated a little, but you get what I mean) if you just simply talk to them when they talk to you. Girls like to feel needed by a guy. They like to have the feeling that they mean the world to a person.

Anonymous · Answer

Dont read articles on how to date. A person opinion doesn't work for everyone. This is life.. experience is well preferred. Learn from your own mistakes.
If a girl is not into u, ignoring her won't make her like u. she won't give a fuck. Probably feel relief u stop txtn her.
If she likes u & u ignore her... depending on the type of girl she is, she might wonder why you're ignoring her, thats normal but she's not gonna start liking a guy she's been friendzoning for the past 2 years because he ignored her. An interest had to be there already.
OR if she liked u but u start ignoring her , it can turn her off & she moves on completely. Thats for girls who's been there, done that, know the game well, & have no time for the bs.

Aud_Queen · Answer

Rule of thumb: give her as much attention as you'd like a see if she reciprocates. If you find that the conversation is one sided or the she's never up to talk, stop. Do something else, talk to other people.

This is what I do with guys. That's why "ignoring her to make her want to" will fail with me. Guys have done that to me and it's a turn off... I just redirect my attention to someone who actually wants to talk to me. It's the same as trying to make a girl jealous just to get a rise out of her...

trashleythompson · Answer

At first, you could. But you have to keep her interested. If you keep ignoring her, she'll feel like she isn't as important to you as she thought. And besides, being ignored a lot just gets annoying (personal experience). If you plan on ignoring her, just don't do it for too long or for too often. Know when to do it and when not to. If you dont, you could jeopardize everything.

passionforprince · Answer

Guys who ignore me I just assume they have other things going on and let them be. Most mature women don't need a lot of attention. If she really likes you and you her, games are unnecessary. Ultimately treat people as you would like to be treated. Ignoring people is immature.

Avelyn · Answer

it depends what kind of girl she is, if you are in a relationship with her or not... an immature needy girl might become mad if you ignore her, or a girl really in love with might get wrong impressions..
personally i wouldn't bother much about a guy ignoring me, so many out there, got all my time to find the right one

AleDeEurope · Answer

Don't ignore her, but don't be all over her all the time. Don't be available for her all the time, because this means you have nothing to do with your life, but if she really needs you (like she's having a really bad day), ignoring her is not gonna give you points.

OpenClose · Answer

If you want to attract women by "ignoring them", don't do so in the sense that some pickup artist would.

Instead of ignoring women, avoid living your life on the premise that your life needs to impress women. That is your number-one backbone breaker.

In fact, I think that's one of the big reasons you get hit on more when you have a girlfriend. Some people think pre-selection is the cause, and maybe it is to an extent, but it doesn't explain why girls who don't know your relationship status show more interest.

The big reason is that when you are taken, you aren't running on the basis that you need to attract women. You are more authentic and perhaps expressive. You're also much more comfortable to be around if you aren't trying to attract anyone in particular.

If they ARE interested in you, and you flat out ignore them, they aren't going to put in much effort to break that bubble. It usually winds up pretty awkward, which is why they complain so much about guys doing it.

kallayflower · Answer

This is my personal opinion based on what I've dealt with with guys and what not:

If you like her, flirt with her. Even a simple little compliment will give her the hint that you may be interested. Some girls like guys that are vague, but don't completely ignore her because eventually she'll move on. If you talk occasionally and you can tell that she is possibly into you or someone hints that she is, DO NOT IGNORE HER! Show interest back or you'll just lose her in the end.

Facebookgirl2014 · Answer

We'll my crush ignored me and I just let him be he sorta bullied me then my friend bullied him. he called me names he gets a broken nose. turns out hurting each other showed our affection but he set me up with his mate now I always stab him with extra sharp pencils.

Stacyzee · Answer

Definitely not. It just makes me want to ignore you too. Why would I show interest in a guy, that seems to have zero in me?

Eruthiad · Answer

Give her space, don't ignore her! Two different things. For example don't always be the one to text her first (and same goes for her), you don't always have to send "good morning" and "good night" texts when first starting out. Let the conversations grow and your relationship grows, don't push it but don't ignore it either. There is a balance between being coming on too strong and "ok i don't think this guy is into me anymore..." keep that balance!

Lovergirl37 · Answer

Yes, I have had many guys I like reveal later on in the relationship that they ignored me to get my attention. But It drives my crazy and made me go coo coo, for them. But it also put me through hell, cause I thought that the feelings were not returned. long story short, it sucked. And the funny thing is, if the guy would have just told me he liked me away first, I would have liked him JUST as much. So don't put a girl through that if you really care for her. Just tell her the truth, it'll be a breath of fresh air. Not many guys do😃

BrokenButBeautiful · Answer

I hate it when guys ignore me.

A few weeks ago i was really hitting it off with some guy and then suddenly I was nothing and I was thrown to the curb and he never talked or texted me again. I called asking for an reason but he never answered. So I gave up. It hurts but I got over it. ignoring a girl to make her want her is going to make her think your moving on.

liveloverace21 · Answer

Girls tend to see a lot more in a text than you meant when you sent it. If you act hot and cold or completely cold, she will think she is annoying you if she is already interested and feel bad and avoid you or she will not become interested if you never make any move. Never ignore, but be mostly normal with just a little flirting.

biracialQT · Answer

A guy I really fell for snapchatted me two times both times I sent a snap back (the second snap I took a little more time cuz I was busy with school) and after I answered his second snap he never answered back to me and he stopped talking on whatsapp, I was sad and felt stupid, but I said to myself he's not interested fuck him there are many more better than him.
"It ain't nottin' to cut that bitch off"
Moral of the story: ignoring a girl will only result in her cutting you off.

DayJa · Answer

I persoanlly like it when a man casually flirts with me, without being too obsessive about it. And is persistant. Meaning if he likes me a lot, hell ask me out and wait for me to ready to date him, even if i said no the first few times. He can even joke that one day hell get me to say yes. that really gets me.

samxscholar · Answer

Most of that talk comes from player manuals. Like the lady said, sure play around a little early, but time it right. If she senses lack of interest, at any point, she is likely to leave if she hasn't established an emotional bond yet. Girls worth keeping don't want to play around, and thus don't. Player manuals like the Game are useful only in so far as learning a little bit about how girls think from an outside point of view. Much like poking a lion and seeing it doesn't like it, and seeing it chase raw steak. But it doesn't usually tell you much about how to keep a girl, how to stop emotionally manipulating her, etc. Besides, most of em support some form of sleeping around, and no girl wants a cheater. Better to be mysterious, surprising, or interesting, than to be seen as too aloof or disinterested.

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

I do find myself more attracted to a guy if he isn't all over me. But I hate when they do inore. My crush ignores me all the time (honestly he  hasn't  said a single word directed at me alone for months, we both just dont talk) so I feel he hates my guts and finds me repulsive. Life is hard. You shouldn't ignore a girl, just dont be addicted to her. Keep her on her toes.

MartineVoisine · Answer

DO NOT DO THAT. Girls can tend to be very insecure and it'll make her think that you do not like her. But it is true that you shouldn't give her 100% of your attention, 100% of the time. Do not be available to her 100% of the time, bc it'll make you seem desperate. But when you ARE available to her, give her 100% of your attention, flirt an be sweet. She'll love it :)

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Ignore girls yes. Ignore women Nope! If you ignore me, then I won't know you like me. I'll just move on to the next one and assume you did the same.

juliesam3 · Answer

I wouldn't ignore her. I have a guy who did that for awhile and drove me crazy... and even though i told im i was moving on. I'm the one that is regretting it and wants to tell him to come back to me. Don't ignore

NoDoubt · Answer

LOL ignoring her will definitely push her away from you. That is if you are intentionally ignoring her. If you aren't doing it on purpose, tell her! But ignoring us on purpose a definite turn off. At least for me.

JRDasSRD · Answer

dont believe this "ignore her, she ll love you more" shit. lets be frank, if a person ignore you then they don't like you, its as simple as that.

thenecessaryevil · Answer

Playing games (and thats what these sites or people of thid nature are suggesting) is never a good idea. A relationship built on games will just be a continuous facade od what you think you should be rather then being yourself. As a woman treasure a man that is honestly himself more than a man that knsow how to play games.

ixi10 · Answer

If you ignore me, that's fine. Plenty of other guys out there that aren't playing childish games.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe I shouldn't feel this way, but when a guy ignores me, I always think "what's wrong with me that he doesn't want to talk to me?" It makes me feel really bad. If you like her, you should talk to her.

koibito · Answer

Confuse her, not ignore her! Give her attention/praise when she wants it, but not when she doesn't need it.

aficionado · Answer

I really have no idea, because I ignore girls and they ignore me. Its mutual! Hehe! P. S. I'm not gay, just got other priorities in life so not ready to date!

_itsjessii · Answer

If a guy that I like ignores me, I assume that he doesn't like me back so I move on. It definitely does not make me like him more

wtftaylor · Answer

NO DONT IGNORE THEM. They get emotionally hurt and they think that you played them and that you have hella hoes. Whatever you do dont ignore her

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly? If you like her, give her time to get to know you.

Yeah, it does work. But it also hurts the girl/gives her a complex, and she'll resent you partially if you do that to her.

Do you really want to do that to a girl that you like?

dazedandconfused22 · Answer

If the guy I liked started playing these silly games with me I'd ignore him so good he would doubt his own existence.

meggyhertz · Answer

ignore me too much and i'll be a memory before you know it. i don't have time for games. either show me you care or get lost. the man should be pursuing the woman anyway. if you are not making an effort for me, then i will make even less for you.

DragonWolf · Answer

I dont like it at all when guys ignore me. Sometimes it causes me to miss them more, but like 95% of the time i will start DISLIKING them more.
Also, if a guy ignores me, i would probably think he's not interested...

Random_chick_2384 · Answer

Heck no! I will text u a bit. But if u don't send back fast I'll put my phone done and forget about u. Or I'll ignore u too.

IsabelleBk · Answer

I believe that the more you ignore a girl the more she'll learn to live without you. It might work first, but after a while she'll be angry at you and forget about you.

Anonymous · Answer

Ignore is the wrong word, just be a challenge. For example, if you or her set a date, reschedule on purpose because from my experience the less you talk to a girl (all subjective based on their interest), the more they miss you. They tend to lose interest in a guy who's always available and not a challenge because they figure he's always gonna be there no matter what. As the old saying goes, women don't know what they want and when they have what they want, they don't want it anymore. It's dumb but that's how it goes.

killerboots · Answer

Ignoring a girl is a win/win situation. If she really like you, she will come to you. If she didn't like you, well at least you can move on easier because you was ignoring her so you won't develop any regrets and you can look at her like she was just another girl and there are plenty of stars in the sky. The man has spoken!!

Mikaychay95 · Answer

No, it upsets me and makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. My crush ignored me one time and I knew he saw me and knowing he ignored me really hurt but yeah anyway just no, if you want things to go somewhere don't ignore the girl.

Anonymous · Answer

No no no! Bad idea. I guarantee you got that info off a pickup artist site. Real women hate games so just be honest! I've dated guys trying to play games and it is an extreme turn off.

Nomad93 · Answer

It can actually draw their attention to you to some extent, I ignored a couple girls and they always tried to talk to me like everyday lol If you do it to much people may stop talking to you. It has its positives and its negatives lol After awhile I started to get anti social probably from doing that I stopped checking girls out and talking to them don't go that far lol

Anonymous · Answer

There are no rules to the dating, but if you play games you'll probably lose because in my opinion most women just want honesty.

LuvsMusic13 · Answer

its not cool at least be her friend and then show her you want her not be a jerk and ignore her.

LittleSally · Answer

Yes - for certain kinds of girls - mostly girls under 24, who are immature and find the guy more appealing when he doesn't give a damn about them - a challenge if you will.

For the normal girl or woman - it's not appealing - it shoos them away.

paperfriendd · Answer

It can be annoying but, a guy done that to me before but, then when we spoke again he was like 10x more better. Sometimes people feel suffocated lol in a weird way to ignoring people for a bit can actually like revitalize them

brudulje · Answer

If you ignore her, she'll be confused and hurt, and she'll think you just suddenly lost all interest... Because that's what you do to people you want not to think you like them. Not a great move if you fancy her.

Greenhawk · Answer

In my opinion u should make her feel more aproachable :)

NitNoy3 · Answer

I wouldn't ignore her, but maybe just show that you have other things going on in your life - that she's not the only thing you think about. Girls like attention, but too much attention can become annoying.

Danajo4104 · Answer

Flirt at first but then try acting more friendly to keep her wondering. But completely ignoring her is probably a turn off... like if she texts you and you decide to ignore it, she could think way more into it as if you don't really care.

kangy · Answer

Dont ignore otherwise she would think you are not keen.  i think it works the same for guys too right?

Rapunzel2490 · Answer

I don't like it when people play games with me. If I like someone, I tell them and would want the same. If a guy I liked ignored me, I'd probably lose interest and move on to a guy who goes after he wants.

Bellibooo · Answer

Ignoring someone is a bad idea if your goal is to get closer to the person. I think that is kinda obvious.

confusedgirl239 · Answer

If you like her, talk to her, then she'll know your feelings and the two of you can move forward. Most girls are not about the games, and those that are need to mature a little more.

MissEM89 · Answer

I despise it when a guy ignores me. It makes me think that they don't like me, but then when they are TELLING me they like me, but continue to ignore me? WTF man. Don't. Just don't.

rose101 · Answer

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