I could never commit to a woman I know nothing about concerning her prior sexual & relationship history. Based on what little she has told you and her refusal to divulge anything from her life before you or elaborate on her past, my gut feeling is she's done some shit in her day. Me personally, I couldn't be with her. I have to know who I'm with. And don't fall for that "I don't want to talk about the past... I just want to move forward" bullshit. In order to know where you're going, you must first know where you've been. That's why history is a mandatory curriculum in school around the world. History repeats itself. No one truly changes who they are essentially. Typically they will make changes to their life and be serious about leading this new lifestyle... to a point. Eventually we all resume our old ways at some point. Why else do you think former addicts who have sometimes spent several years sober suddenly relapse? It's human nature to return to who we truly are. Based on her responses to your questions about her past, there are some definite red flags there. She's definitely hiding something she knows you won't like. Of all the possibilities out there of what that may be, the best case scenario you can hope for is she is in the witness protection program now and can't divulge any information to you on the basis of her safety alone. Or maybe it isn't a torrid sexual history she's hiding but she was instead with a man who is in prison now for some horrendous crime. I don't know... But her behavior is certainly a red flag because she knows you will have a very hard time accepting her once you know the truth. Does she not have any friends who have known her for a long time who can tell you more about her murky past? Anyone you can ask that will give you the dirt on who this girl truly is?
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Im younger than you but i say you ask. Honestly i know plently of currently married girls who spent high school and college having more sexual partners than you can count of 4 hands. Of course they Married guys who had no earthly idea of their past. I say if she dosent open up then she either has a dark past or even experiences she's not proud of.
When it comes to a relationship, talking about an ex is like walking directly into a minefield. You just don't know when one of them is going to blow up in your face.
For a girl, hearing another woman's name (especially an ex) can incite some very violent reactions. Other women just clam up and decide not to talk. Now, men would go mad if that happened. Men shouldn't talk about their ex in the first place to the woman in front of them because it will only end in trouble. There's no good way to end a conversation that starts with your ex. You can be certain that its going to end with an awkward.. "Soooo, that's that" or a.. "yeah, so that's how it ended". Really? Would you want your conversations to end that way?
Some people are not comfortable talking about there romantic and sexual past. It's an awkward conversation, it understandable, especially if they are a shy, reserved or private person. It does not mean that are shady. Also mentioning her romantic and sexual past may created jealousy in past relationships.
The past is the past. In the grand scheme of things it's not important. Nor is it anyone's business.
Cutting ties would probably be best seeing as how you are thinking she's a slut for not telling you. That's just ludicrous! So if she tells you she has had X amount of sexual partners you will judge her even more if you feel the number is too high for your standards. Instead of dragging this out, find out if she's an uber-slut or if she's just a guarded woman who doesn't feel that it is any of your business. Because to me, I don't care who he's been with in the past, what matters is that he is with me now. But then again, I don't judge
It's not really relavant to to discuss her past sexual encounters whether pluses or minuses. if you chose to, so be it. Clearly there is something you like about her But You've only been dating 7 months. Hardly time to already discuss marriage. Try living in the here and now with her and see where that goes. That's what matters.
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Murhpy's law man- if you don't know anything about her past then it's sure to be the worst.
She was a needle-sharing heroin addict/prostitute/neo-nazi/satanistHave you asked her about it? Not everyone has the same policy about sharing info on past relationships and sexual activities. Some people don't want to know.
Anyway, ask if you do want to know.some people are just more reserved and maybe she is ashamed of some things. who she is now is what matters.
I don't think I owe any man I'm in a relationship with my past. I have been in hurt in the past and I don't want to be seen as vulnerable or seen in a different light. I don't blame her for not telling you.
Over half a year and you say this woman won't open up?
Damn. That's gotta be something pretty bad."Concerned" might be jut a bit strong of a word, but yes. I think a couple should always know about each other's past.
Why don't you just ask her?
so ask.
...no not really.
she's a slut. drop her.
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