bad childhoods. people whose guardians treated them badly tend to get used to it, it becomes the norm for them. even though it makes them sad/depressed it's all they know, so they seek it out in adulthood.
If they grew up with their caretaker always putting them down while constantly trying to gain their approval this becomes their model of love. They don't think they deserve praise so if they date someone who treats them well it makes them uncomfortable.
- They have low standards - They depend on the man (financially for example) - The man is a liar and double face, he made her fall in love with a certain image and then showed her his real face, but it's too late she already like him.
Mostly that is because those women have bad social insight skills and/or because they don't take enough time to get to know a person entirelly well and already accept the guy only knowing half his info. Information is the key just like patience. Bad guys won't date for 3 months ;)
No offense to your friend, you should tell her about this tho. She would be glad you told her.
They may have self esteem problems, no confidence, they have been raised in an abusive environment, they may not realize they are being treated poorly. It could be a number of factors.
You mentioned self esteem issues; if that's the case, I just realized something sad: they have self esteem issues, so they date men that treat them poorly, and when they break up with them, they are disappointed in themselves for dating someone like that, and the disappointment leads to lower self esteem, and so one and so forth. It's a vicious cycle. Follow up question: how could I help my friend out of this cycle?
It is a vicious cycle and it becomes hard to break out of it. How can you help the person? You can only help them by supporting them as a friend, there really isn't much else you can do. They need to take charge of their own life at some point and break the habit (far easier said than done).
Because she hasn't learn to value herself or understand her insecurity so when a guy comes along to play the security... she stays because she need reassurance that she beautiful etc. etc.
It's a psychological issue essentially: people with a poor state of mind are more easily manipulated and more likely to fall into abusive behavior patterns.
From what I have come to understand about this problem is this: sometimes, you are just better off not dating at all, and just working even harder on you, so that when someone awesome does come along, you can snag them.
I feel like everyone wants to be loved and people will date just to be in a relationship because they feel better about themselves and want to feel loved
The guys have so much self-confidence they could fill an Olympic swimming pool with it. They also will have a pretty high social status, (having lots of friends and being the "leader" of those friends), and sometimes money does come into play.
Who honestly knows, im sure there are lots of different reasons, only she can tell you why. But honestly, just do you. Who cares if keeps dating guys who mistreat her, her choices her problems.
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Why do some guys date hot women who are bitchy and treat them like trash?
It's about attraction and love/attachment chemicals over-powering common sense, and also not having enough self-respect/self-worth.
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Same reason some guys do. Lack of confidence, no self worth, hoping it'll get better, believe they'll be able to change the person blah blah blah...
They feel like they deserve it its they are married they don't want to hurt their kids this is their mentality they are afraid they won't be able to find another guy
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bad childhoods. people whose guardians treated them badly tend to get used to it, it becomes the norm for them. even though it makes them sad/depressed it's all they know, so they seek it out in adulthood.
^ This
If they grew up with their caretaker always putting them down while constantly trying to gain their approval this becomes their model of love. They don't think they deserve praise so if they date someone who treats them well it makes them uncomfortable.
- They have low standards
- They depend on the man (financially for example)
- The man is a liar and double face, he made her fall in love with a certain image and then showed her his real face, but it's too late she already like him.
Mostly that is because those women have bad social insight skills and/or because they don't take enough time to get to know a person entirelly well and already accept the guy only knowing half his info. Information is the key just like patience. Bad guys won't date for 3 months ;)
No offense to your friend, you should tell her about this tho. She would be glad you told her.
They may have self esteem problems, no confidence, they have been raised in an abusive environment, they may not realize they are being treated poorly. It could be a number of factors.
You mentioned self esteem issues; if that's the case, I just realized something sad: they have self esteem issues, so they date men that treat them poorly, and when they break up with them, they are disappointed in themselves for dating someone like that, and the disappointment leads to lower self esteem, and so one and so forth. It's a vicious cycle.
Follow up question: how could I help my friend out of this cycle?
It is a vicious cycle and it becomes hard to break out of it. How can you help the person? You can only help them by supporting them as a friend, there really isn't much else you can do. They need to take charge of their own life at some point and break the habit (far easier said than done).
Because she hasn't learn to value herself or understand her insecurity so when a guy comes along to play the security... she stays because she need reassurance that she beautiful etc. etc.
It's a psychological issue essentially: people with a poor state of mind are more easily manipulated and more likely to fall into abusive behavior patterns.
For many, its all they know, and they don't have the self esteem to demand better treatment.
Because this is legitimately what they seek and consider love. This is how they expect "Men" to behave.
For me, its because no one else is willing. Im a nice person, im very smart, but no one seems to want to be with me but those guys.
From what I have come to understand about this problem is this: sometimes, you are just better off not dating at all, and just working even harder on you, so that when someone awesome does come along, you can snag them.
Well, its not really any of your buisness who i or anyone else dates, is it
No, you are absolutely right. It just pains me to know that people are in relationships where they feel poorly treated. That is all.
though we feel poorly treated, we also often feel like we deserve it, or that its our fault
I feel like everyone wants to be loved and people will date just to be in a relationship because they feel better about themselves and want to feel loved
Because some women think that they can change a man when they really can't unless he changes voluntarily.
The guys have so much self-confidence they could fill an Olympic swimming pool with it. They also will have a pretty high social status, (having lots of friends and being the "leader" of those friends), and sometimes money does come into play.
Who honestly knows, im sure there are lots of different reasons, only she can tell you why. But honestly, just do you. Who cares if keeps dating guys who mistreat her, her choices her problems.
Why do some guys date hot women who are bitchy and treat them like trash?
It's about attraction and love/attachment chemicals over-powering common sense, and also not having enough self-respect/self-worth.
Same reason some guys do. Lack of confidence, no self worth, hoping it'll get better, believe they'll be able to change the person blah blah blah...
I think it's because people are so afraid of being alone that they will allow someone to treat them badly.
sometimes they feel like they can handle a douchebag like that and they end u being single moms.
Because we're never nice for no reason. MOST nice guys pretend to be nice to get sex. Girls like a guy who is straight up no bullshit.
They feel like they deserve it
its they are married they don't want to hurt their kids this is their mentality
they are afraid they won't be able to find another guy
Works both ways I've dated woman who treat me poorly too. Learning process