What did I do wrong? Should I try to make things work with her? (Page 2)

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I'm having some relationship trouble. I don't know how this happens but I'm afraid it's too late. We've been together for over a year now but I think it's all over now. Here's the text conversation between us. 
 
As you can see, things are not good. For some background, whenever she gets mad at me for something she usually won't interact with me for days. She also uses very short speak during arguments or when she's mad like, "Oh", "ok", "alright", "no", "fine", etc. That is why I said she speaks exactly like that when she's mad, and she probably knew that I was saying what she normally says too, since she said I was being a dick for talking like that. This is the first time I've ever done that, since most times I actually will type big sentences to try and work things out.

What did I do wrong here? Is there any chance of coming back from this? Should I try to make things work? I always felt like I put in a ton more effort than she does but that she never really cared. What do y'all think?

Anonymous · Answer

May be too much compliment in one go sounds a bit insincere? then your ok might have came across as sarcasm. You didn't do anything wrong, sometimes text can cause trouble as you can't hear the tone and such.

Just give her some space and next time you talk to her don't give her any compliment. Just be friendly and casual.

TheSwaggerKid · Answer

You were coming on too strong, Chill with the compliments. in my opinion People want what they can't get, You got to have a reason to make her chase you not the other way around Don't lay everything on the table.

Girls want to feel special and want to be the person that changes you into their "perfect man' like in the movies and that's what's keeps them chasing you. So if you lay everything on the table they will loose interest and think you are boring.

Dragonblood21 · Answer

If someone told me I sounded like their ex in that way I would respond

"Yea, you are right. I DO sound like your ex."

and then walk away, or just not reply in this case.

I'm not one to take that bullshit talk...

thisGUYknows · Answer

Ya that was overkill with the compliments. But just from those texts it sounds like u like her more than she likes you. She didn't have to be a bitch about it though. U should drop her. See if she tries to get you back

Brokenheartedx · Answer

OverDid it with the compliments... instead of being like that should of thought of something witty to make her laugh if she was on a downer... you're best way was and should of been was *ill text you later see how you are then...

Mustachekitteh · Answer

She's a cunt and you should dump her sorry ass. She doesn't love you enough to give you the truth about the fact that you compliment her to much. So it's her fault.

Though after you dump her make sure you don't compliment other chicks 24/7.

Alexagon · Answer

Even if you may have been laying it on to strong, there is NO excuse for reacting the way she did. Especially bringing up her ex. She just sounds like a huge bitch. You deserve a girl who will appreciate your affection.

lolaluva09 · Answer

She doesn't deserve you. Find a girl that actually deserves those compliments and love.

MaisGem21 · Answer

I think the way she acted was out of line but also, it may be sweet of you to compliment her and we are grateful for it but after about the 10th compliment it starts to make us uncomfortable. Like they are trying to play me.

msd80 · Answer

I would love hearing things like that and I think it's crazy, insensitive, and rude for her to act that way. Sounds like she doesn't appreciate you and takes you for granted.

Cloud91218 · Answer

I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. If she can't handle your compliments she doesn't deserve them. And honestly she could just compliment you back. Find someone worth your time

luvstoned4him · Answer

OMG! she did this because you showing her love and care? She doesn't deserve you! And we wonder why some of us end up hurt and hate men. They leave the good ones and run after the bad ones... SMH

Agrojag · Answer

NO, NO, NO. First of all, you came on way too strong. But most importantly, her reaction SCREAMS warning signs. She's no good. Full retreat. Pull back and do not approach. DANGER!

Dim_121 · Answer

Sorry buddy but it sounds like she only wants you as a friend and nothing more.

beautifulangel76 · Answer

Some girls really don't like it when guys do that. It can feel really uncomfortable honestly. Try to leave her alone for a couple days and then speak to her.

Anonymous · Answer

Hahahah dude one is enough. She problably tho that u are making fun of her. Could also be in some sort of comedy show where the guy doesn't find an end in making compliments and gets more cheesy with every following.
Ps: I think she is also afraid that u love her

Anonymous · Answer

I've had problems with depression in the past and I know it gets really irritating having someone constantly ask if I'm ok or compliment me because I feel like I'm being smothered. The best thing you can do is to give her some time and let her calm down.

GingerBear · Answer

You started dating a bitch. That's what you did wrong. Drop her ass and find someone who isn't a crazy, self-absorbed drama queen.

pinkbubble · Answer

Ignore her for few days , if she cares enough she will come back :(

Chief16 · Answer

Simple advice? Only compliment a woman when she deserves it. Heaps of praise never win the heart. And don't lose your cool. It only makes things worse.

JustChilling · Answer

I thought SHE was the one with all the lovey dovey compliments. Now I know why she's freaking. You need to tone down the compliments and she wasn't exactly ending with you bro.

Californiagirls · Answer

Pretty much it sounds like it's over. Sorry to say. Whatever happen between you guys must had her feeling some type of way and when she doesn't talk to you for days that is crazy. Just stop texting her and see if she texts you to see what's up.

LexusFman · Answer

Dude screw that. I can see how your compliments could get a teeny annoying but like your still being nice she should be able to address her concerns in a nice way. 50% of the world has a vagina you don't need to break your fucking back for this one.

My 0.02

epiper888 · Answer

Bro that chick is a bitch but you were coming off to strong. Chicks really don't like being compilmeted like the way you did. You sound like a nice guy but some chicks just aren't looking for a nice guy. I would have put her in her place!

Anonymous · Answer

She's talking about "You're going to be like that?" she's crazy! Who doesn't like compliments when they're in a bad mood? an ungrateful hoe. You deserve better.

pooper89 · Answer

I think you should try a different tactic next time to cheer her up. And you should have just sent a quick apology instead of just saying ok

orphan · Answer

this guy just reciting off lines meant for anyone... anyone... even chewbacca would AHRRRCVHHGHGZRCH over that corny ass shit..

AnotherConfusedGirl · Answer

You complimented her too much, girls like it when you have a proper conversation with them. Next time change the frickin subject

Anonymous · Answer

Your girlfriend sounds like she is on her period. Either that or she's just crazy and ungrateful. I guess you could tone down on the compliments but for the mean time just don't say anything to her. Don't text her or try to call her. Give her space and let her come to you.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree that you deserve someone better. She trying to make an excuse to agrue. She probably want one of those crappy guys that put her down. Let her be by herself you can do better.

Anonymous · Answer

You just come across as a real weird creep. All the creepy compliments one after the other like that is always those weird guys. One or two less cheesy, more genuine sounding comments is enough usually.

Messiah89 · Answer

Give her space. Dont send a message, for nothing. Focus on your life she won't take you seriously if your not firm. You already doing to much bro.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I mean... you were laying it on kinda thick.

Blackbeauty30 · Answer

Yeah she doesn't deserve you treating like you don't matter and if she can't open up to you and tell what's really wrong , then let her go.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe the relationship is over. She is intentionally pushing you away. This is based off my personal experience and what happened between me and my ex.

bloodmountain1990 · Answer

She overreacted but don't overdo it with the compliments, tone it down a bit. Saying it here and there is one thing but if you keep on constantly doing it, it loses its appeal.

starryeyedkitten · Answer

Say "you know what? Im so done with you goodbye". she's dumb and you need a better gal!

puertoriguesa · Answer

it means she's not into you... cause i was the same way with the guy i love he hated when i complimented him a lot cause he wasn't into me

Anonymous · Answer

Well you sort of were a dick to her, and it's fine to get compliments sometimes. What you did wrong was go off on her, and you sort of hurt her. I say you have to apologize for your actions, we girls define a guy with actions, and it'll define the person they really are. If you don't want to lose her apologize for being a dick and she will forgive you

Anonymous · Answer

It seems like you're still in the "honeymoon stage" either that or she doesn't want to be in the relationship. She says that it makes her uncomfortable, and I get that because there's not much you can say when someone complements you a lot and it gets awkward quick for a lot of girls. Complements are great but when u get a lot of then all the time it kinda desensitizes you

RationalMale · Answer

for fuck's sake, you don't compliment girls like that. you give a girl a nice compliment like once every few days, not oozing like some drunk loser.

XxLumierexX · Answer

you were being super cute and romantic she is quite rude :/ don't talk to her anymore trust me you won't miss her she is super rude :(

Sad_Onion · Answer

she sounds like a total fucking nut case. you're better off without her.

kiki921 · Answer

She was obviously bothered by the compliments and the way you responded to her with "ok" and "oh" frustrated her so she kinda lashed out. I don't think it's a big deal just apologise to her.

Anonymous · Answer

You did nothing wrong. She's a bitch. Whether you want things work with her or not is up to you, just know that she probably doesn't like you half as much as you like her.

104755555 · Answer

your acting like a complete beta that why your obsessing over her like she's fucking god those compliments are way excessive

Anonymous · Answer

What you did wrong was to (1) misdudge her, (2) to go over the top with being sweet, and (3) to answer anything after "OK".

Anonymous · Answer

Some girls don't like (too many) compliments and maybe your behavior was just like her ex. Give up on her.

Cusco_Othriyas · Answer

The one thing you did wrong is stick around after you found that she has double standards.

llorando · Answer

You did nothing wrong, sounds like she's not happy being in a relationship with you, and is missing her EX or someone secret you don't know about.

buttheadkakakak · Answer

Wow she overreacted Don't even bother; she's crazy

jjmarvin · Answer

Yeesh she sounds so high maintenence. personally i couldn't deal dude.

nalilove · Answer

Oh damn. Dude u were being nice. She's a bitch lmao

Filipe97 · Answer

You did nothing wrong and that was kinda cold. I'd be broken hearted if that happeed to me

Anonymous · Answer

I don't see why she got mad. Just leave her alone caz you can get better :)

Anonymous · Answer

I think you packed on the compliments too hard, and it kinda scared her. I think just apologizing and saying that you just wanted to let her know how happy she makes would fix it. good luck though, sounds like you're in real deep shit

Anonymous · Answer

You're too needy and she is not into you at all. Let her go and learn to love yourself more so you are less needy.

Anonymous · Answer

She is acting like a bitch, give her some space if she comes back great, if she doesn't there is plenty of fish in the sea

Anonymous · Answer

She probably has low self esteem. She probably is good with hearing it a little. If you tell her all the time, she feels like it is not genuine, and that will lower her self esteem

Anonymous · Answer

Two words: social skills.  I think you meant well but didn't read the situation properly.

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