Is something wrong with me or it was her fault?

[Anonymous]

I'm 30 she's 39

Since day 1 I was honest with her I did fall in love with her after second date. I have morals so I was faithful I refused to flirt with any other girl I had many choices thankfully I'm top 10 guys at the gym. I did confess my love to her she didn't believe it and had doubts I was like surprised I mean I was asking myself what's wrong with her she gives signs that she's n love with me but she just won't say it I was okay with it then she said you're just a friend to me it was horrible feeling.

But day after day she started to be distanced I asked her did I do something wrong she never give clear answer , there was up n down as any relationship and I was the one who always start to try to fix I even went to her place one day to try fix things. anyway after the distance I found she's trying to disrespectful me here it was red flag and I started to wake up I pulled myself from the scene she felt that then she started to be cool again it was the last week of our relationship I asked her to set and have talk to not lose each other she didn't answer me instead after 1 day she posted picture with someone else and she did make fun of me that I'm delusional it was hard for me very hard to handle that I wanted nothing I loved her from all my heart so it was strong hit and I just left and wiped every social media.

First 2 weeks were bad but thankfully I stand again and I improved myself mentally and physically now she can clearly see I'm at another level in every way.

we had contact after 5 months now I feel nothing to her actually I feel she's like old sister for me she became fat and the other guy dumped her she show's signs she wants me now but I feel nothing she's like old sister I'm surprised with My feelings. I mean I'm not even attracted to her sexually. During the break up I met other women things happened.

Ist normal to feel she's like old sister to me?

[livin_hi_808]

Ok I reread your little book and changing my entire comment for you. I've been there but snapped out of it and still with the girl.

First of all, everything you did in the beginning (and probably even still do occasionally) were signs of SIMPING bro. Google it. Not sure what country you're in but that American term used to describe guys who come off too
1) nice to a girl, most of the time to get laid
2) you told her that you love her after 2nd date.. No female wants a guy like that. Some easy, low quality jellyfish of a man
3) women- ALL WOMEN- want a man to choose them not the other way around. They want to have to work for him because he is the one who will take care of her. So if he has his life together then that makes him a high quality man. Good lucks help but confidence doesn't always have to be the best looking to be the room to be the most attractive.
3) women aren't stupid. If you're selling her BS and she eats it up its not out of sheer naiveté. Women allow men to think we are teaching them something or better yet like they don't know any better and so on
4) she more than likely doesn't want you back but I'm actually finding it hard to glean that the two of you were actually together from what you written. First is that you said you love her after 2nd date and she became distant, you chased and were the ONLY one trying to stay in each other's lives but she didn't care. In your mind you two "broke-up" and the very next day you see a photo of her and another guy on SOCIAL MEDIA together. Well my friend, that's enough alone to tell me that you two actually were not together. She may have been sleeping with you but with him most likely. You were SIDE DICK. I say this because it takes quite a bit to get on a women's IG and even more to get on her real FB page where her family and friends collectively are on.
You sadly got played and mostly by your own self. You simped out of control.

Look, simping is caused by low self-worth, low self-esteem and lack of actual confidence and number cause is exalting her higher than you because she's a female and in turn lowering yourself and the role of a real man. Fix yourself and that'll fix your issue with women so you can land a quality women and be the quality man she wants.
Aloha

[Asker]

I would agree with you I was simping back then I wasn't good to get laid I'm just good guy. Well I was too good I Know unfortunately these things to day are weakness to them. I will not comment for every point you have mentioned you have break down the entire scene.
I took the red pill time ago and I know facts and where I am standing I am avoiding her at all costs I think I'm going to block her after few days there's no more choices

[ILLuMiiNaTi]

Brother, such a girl should not be there in your life. Suppose, that today you give that girl a chance to enter your life again. And in the coming tomorrow, maybe that girl will find another boy and she gets interested in him and then if she treats you like this once again then your soul will be burnt a lot. Just stop thinking of her And forget her, she doesn't deserve a man like you, she doesn't deserve your love at all. Stay happy dude. Stay safe !

[SofiSin667]

It’s not your fault. Some older women with past relationship baggage are just hard to deal with because they choose to harbor bitterness from the past that later on overflows and affects any future relationship they may jump into.

[Asker]

I agree with you she sounds like she's done

[KrakenAttackin]

She is way too old for you, move on.