Is there something wrong with me?

[PaulieRitcher8908]

I'll keep it short. My girlfriend lied to me about a guy who was trying to pursue her, the guy was on the same badminton team as she was. She introrthe guy to me as a team mate lying to me when I asked if he was the pursuer. She was also so ready to go on a bus date with him and what not until I caught her red handed she was crying so I gave her a second chance but now my trust for her is sort of tainted. We both made it clear at the beginning of the relationship we will be honest and I have always been but her I don't know.. it's hard for me to trust her fully again.. I come from a fucked up family so I learnt to be faithful and honest to my partner.. I've been going to teraptand learning to control my overthinking and anger properly.. I know there's some issues with me.. but it can't all fully be my fault can it? I told my girlfriend also that I'll be very transparently honest (not to the point where it makes her uncomfortable sharing some parts of her private life) with her and hopes she does the same.. but ever since that incident it's been hard to fully trust.. and I've talked to her about it.. but my god is it hard for me not to keep reminding myself of that incident.. I'm very aware of what to do and not to do as I think from my gfs shoes too..

[_Maya_]

So yes and no to if there is something wrong with you if I am honest. The reason I say that is because you gave her a second chance. You should not have done that. Basicaly you reinforced that if she fucks up and cries about it and begs you will take her back. The reason I say no there is nothing wrong with you is it is natural to want to do that and want to believe that they can change. Sadly that is rarely the case. Plus as you now find out, you have major trust issues. I would too. Honestly I will not be surprised if she does it again and then cries and begs to get you back again. Each time you allow it she will just know further you are going to take her back every time.

[devilish-cutie]

no, it is hard to trust someone again after that trust was broken, this is normal reaction for everyone. Now it is up to you if you can indeed get over that or not and is she even worth it or can you even trust her again, cause without trust there is no healthy relationship as that is the base of it. if you choose to trust her again she also needs to prove you she is trustworthy

[Anonymous]

No. She’s proved to you that she can’t be trusted so the fact that you don’t trust her is normal and sane. You’d be a fool to do so. She has proven to be dishonest and disloyal and until she proves she has changed for the better (I don’t believe people can change to that extent but each to their own) then she ahouldn’t be trusted. She should be doing everything in her power to prove to you that you can now trust her, without you having to ask.

[Nikki1989]

You blew it when you gave her the second chance.