Do women like silent confidence?

[chc0009]

There's a saying that confidence is silent, insecurity is loud.

That being said, I'm generally a silent loner who enjoys wearing gothic fashion. Due to my quietness and constantly acting alone, it is impossible to read my mind.

I wonder how women would feel about seeing a 6'2" Korean American with long hair, dressed in black with a quiet mouth. Though not shy, since I feel that I can express confidence by doing it, not by saying it.

It seems to me that the braggers and douchebags are the ones who are insecure, since they have to open their mouth and put others down to make themselves feel better. Me, if I'm skilled, I show it through action, not lip service.

For once, would women prefer the quiet yet confident guy over the assholes?

[udolipixie]

Do women like silent confidence?
Some do. I don't as I find the guys claiming they're silently confident generally are insecure messes. This question to me suggests insecurity as you're wondering if you're attractive/appealing/likeable to gals suggesting that you're generally not successful ie attracting and appealing to the gals you want.

For once, would women prefer the quiet yet confident guy over the assholes?
I imagine most gals would prefer an attractive appealing guy over an asshole. If they don't find the quiet yet confident guy appealing they'd choose neither.

[chc0009]

Well I'm 6'2" and 168 lbs. But I'm also Korean American, which isn't as well received in America as white or Latino men.

[maddog19]

im currently dating this guy and honestly he is the nicest guy I've ever met. guys like to brag about themselves to try to impress a girl. I personally do not mind it. He brags about his job and it just tells me that he is proud in what he does and in himself and I like that. He's not a douchebag over it. some guys though are total assholes and love to brag, but just depends on what they are bragging about.

[chc0009]

Yeah, but it seems to me that men who brag are insecure, since they need to prove. And they might be nicer to women, but who knows what they do to other men.

I, for one, am not someone who likes to brag and will show his confidence through action, not words.

[maddog19]

well that's good for you :). No I mean I'm not insecure but I like to tell people what I have done. it's ok to brag a little. he is really nice around everyone.

[chc0009]

Well, I'm not a talker. I've made attempts to talk to women myself, but I labored in vain.

[maddog19]

are you just nervous?

[chc0009]

Not nervous, I tried talking with her about the shirt she was wearing and stuff like that. But it was obvious that she didn't want me around.

[Razzle-Dazzle]

I prefer a silently confident guy. As opposed to an arrogant loud guy who's an asshole. Usually quiet people are deep thinkers and great listeners. They take a genuine interest in what others have to say.

It's a quality I look for in a potential SO

[chc0009]

That's what I'm saying. The ones who show off seem like they're compensating for something.

[Anonymous]

Don't waste your life thinking about women want... women are NOT worth spending any time on unless horny

[chc0009]

Really? How do you know?

[Opinion Owner]

men have always known...

[chc0009]

Well, you're older than me, so have you any experience to prove it?

[alice55]

In my country the majority of girls are attracted to quiet confident guys because they saw them as mysterious.
I'm also attracted to them as long as they talk more than me. I'm really shy and quiet so i prefer if the guy I like is not afraid to talk and all.

[chc0009]

I'm quiet but not shy. I'll deal with people if I have to, not because I want to.

[alice55]

Your a bit like my friend then. He's really quiet with people he don't like, when the subject doesn't interess him then talk a lot when he's with his friends, etc...
Your a bit like that, no?

[chc0009]

Yes, since I don't really trust anyone these days.

[alice55]

Why?

[chc0009]

Because I live in South Florida, one of the most rudest areas of all time. People have betrayed me a lot, so I cannot deal with their drama.

[alice55]

Really? Wow i though that Florida was a nice area when people talk about it, that's sound great. Maybe you should move or something I don't know

[chc0009]

I don't have the money to move yet, so I'm trying to be smart about it.

[alice55]

This suck honestly. You just have to live your life and not bother on what other people think so

[Unspokenword]

Each to their own. Personally, silence can speak volumes (if you have heard that saying.) Yes, a man who exudes 'silent confidence' sounds appealing. However, I still want to preach, "inner beauty" counts.

[chc0009]

I use action not words.

[Selliebeanz]

I'm attracted to introverted strong, silent types. I don't like loud mouth guys because I see them as immature and lack self control.

[SQU98]

same here, those quiet confident ones intrigue me soo much.. They usually have that something in the eyes and that confidence is visible in them.

[Selliebeanz]

@SQU98 agreed the only problem is that they are hard to get to know sometimes

[chc0009]

With me, I prefer to do things instead of mouth off about it.

[Lighthefuse]

I once fell in love with someone that was quietly confident, you kind of made him pop to mind when you said it. He would occasionally open his mouth and say something smart and witty to shut everyone up.
I do prefer that kind over an arrogant loud mouth prick. Stay chill I'd say 👌🏻☺️

[chc0009]

What I'm saying is that I am going to be confident if I have to. Not because I have something to prove like the bragging bullies do.

[Idonthaveausername]

You have a real chance. Confidence of any kind is attractive. But with the whole silent Goth thing, you really have to watch that creeper vibe you're putting out there. Line can get blurry.

[chc0009]

Well, I don't dress up fully unless at events.

[Livinglogical]

A man who is quiet, confident and Korean? Sign me up ;)

[chc0009]

Korean American, I'm not your stereotypical Korean man kitten. As in you'll see me moshing in the pit.

[WillowTree]

I'd most likely hit on you or admire you from afar for lack of confidence. You sound hot.

[chc0009]

Really?

[WillowTree]

I have a thing for tall guys with long hair. Dark and mysterious is always exciting.

[chc0009]

Are you Asian?

[WillowTree]

Nope. This photo is not me.

[chc0009]

Well, for one thing, I am Korean American. And I don't really do much other than work, educate myself, watch Star Trek, and listen to heavy metal and industrial music.

[Anonymous]

I would go nuts! *.* and I would approach you first talking about how and why black is one of the three best colors (although it is not a color since all wavelengths get absorbed but sheesh)

[chc0009]

I prefer to use action, not words.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Yes that is very true and silent confidence is felt by others and women indeed love it.

[chc0009]

Action is better than talking.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Yes indeed

[chc0009]

I mean, I'm not a comedian, so I can't get the women going like that. I prefer being the strong and silent.

[Anonymous]

Over the assholes yes, but talking and being sweet and caring is what makes us like guys

[chc0009]

Well, to be honest, I don't know what to say. I just do things.

[Fasanok]

Yes, I like a silent confident guy

[chc0009]

Action trumps words.