Ask yourself, how would you feel, when you find yourself being tricked by some PuA?
Don't like the idea of being played?
Then why do you think it is helping your relationship in any way, if you start playing your potential boyfriend?
How long should you play "hard-to-get"?
You shouldn't at all.
Especially, you shouldn't discuss this matter with complete strangers. Sex is something very intimate and personal. The idea my girlfriend is going to have Sex with me only, because some old Bastard told her it is about time to do so - Bah! This thought is disgusting!
Have Sex when you feel ready for it and learn to trust your instincts.
Nowadays out of political correctness or "advise" by some Magazine, people don't trust anymore. Don't let anyone fool you to believe Sex could cure an unhealthy relationship, nor is a healthy relationship possible without.
To sum things up, Have Sex when you (and your partner of course) want it.
Dont. It fucks with our heads too much. Just wait until he tells you how he feels and if you feel the same way tell him that. Now if you really want him and he starts showing interest in other girls lock that shit down and tell him how you feel. if his response is genuine then he's most likely into you. Guys have a way of doing things that bypass the bullshit, point A to point B, you know what i'm saying. When you play games it just hurts us and we catch on pretty quick. Then we learn how to play games.
Don't play hard to get.
There are plenty of ways to make the game of courtship interesting without "playing hard-to-get". By the way not playing hard-to-get, does not mean you aren't selective, just that you express your own selectivity rather than waiting for that potentially interesting man to accidently realise that you are also interesting. Playing "hard-to-get" doesn't by itself make one more interesting (except perhaps to those who view women as possessions or conquests and if you want to be a possession or conquest, that is your choice), at best it works as part of a teasing/flirting process. True interest is much more interesting and a better basis of a relationship than any game.
Everyone in here is saying you shouldn't play hard to get, but i think you should.
Playing hard to get helps women see a mans true intentions and see if they're really attracted/into to us. You can play hard to get but not to the extreme point where it comes of as a turn off. But if you really like the guy then, there's no need for you to play hard to get.
Its those little insecurities that makes us women unsure and afraid.
What im trying to say is... if you're not so sure about the guy, go ahead and play hard to get.
But if you really like the dude, just go on and freaking date him.
Simple!
Here's a quick insight. I'm not going to write a book because it's not needed. Show in ways that your into him , attracted to him , and enjoy his company , but tell him straight up that you want to get to know him and become comfortable before attempting anything physical. If he is worth it he will respect it , if he's a player he will move onto some other girl who will give it up.
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When you play hard to get it confuses guys on whether or not you like them. Its really that simple. Guys are turned on by women that like them and show an interest. Men don't want a woman who is hard to get they want a woman who is high value. So simply ask yourself in the moment is this what a woman of high value acts like when you are playing the GAME OF HARD TO GET.
It is usually young woman that keep going on an on about guys only wanting sex. Sorry, but women love sex also. Of course guys want sex. But it isn't all they want. But woman that think waiting a month or more will make them want you, are delusional. Older women understand you need sex in the relationship. They also know that sex isn't this thing to put on a pedestal. If you have sex and they guy takes off, he wasn't worth having. So you got yourself some and found out what you needed to know. That is why the 3rd date is the sex date. sometimes 4th. better to find out earlier then later.
Women that "play" hard to get are doing just that... Playing. Sorry, your an adult, don't play games. The women that play hard to get are not worth bothering with. So let them play that game with the idiots that are willing to put up with it. Be a grown up and get on with things.
I'm very open and honest so usually it's best if the girl does the same. if a girl plays games I would probably just get confused or annoyed and stop pursuing her, I think it's stupid. I just say what I think and how I feel and make it very simple. If I'm confused about how I feel or if what I think about a girl and my feelings don't line up at the moment I say that aswell I just try and describe my situation the best way I can and then ask the girl what she feels and thinks and then we can see where we stand and move on from there. If a girl says she's not ready to move quicker that's fine but I I feel like she's just playing around to feel special then I'm out. Beeing genuine and honest is important I think. But that's just the way I approach it.
Playing hard to get barely works anymore. There's soooooo many options right now. Why would I waste my time chasing a girl when there's a thousand more I can choose from, and who won't play stupid games?
Seriously, if you like a guy, go for him, don't play hard to get, it's just childish.
Until you are genuinely convinced that he wants what you want and is interested in you for more than just sex.
... My answer is based on the asumption that "playing hard to get" in this context is referring to making a guy wait for sex. However, if you meant pretending to be disinterested in the guy completely and ignoring texts etc.. then that is usually just a bad idea.
Does it make me more interested in a girl if she is hard to get?
Yes, but only if I believe she is genuine. I don't really want a girl who has had sex on the first date with her previous partners, but then wants to wait over a month with me.
This is all just my personal opinion tho, different guys may feel differently.
Here's the thing about Playing hard to get - you will attract Players.
Girls oftentimes play hard to get thinking that they will weed out the players by doing so. When they realize it doesn't work, they play even more hard to get which just weeds in even better players.
Don't Play hard to get - just be legitimately busy with life and you will attract the right type of guy.
It's different for each guy. As you can see with the responses, the ones here don't like chasing girls because they want things easy and they don't try to get other options (talking to other girls).
Personally, I can chase for quite a long time if she's worth it. But that's the key, you should BE hard to get not PLAY hard to get. If you overdo it, the guy will find someone else or will choose the other girl he is talking to.
with a guy i used to love well nothing to me worked esp any other guy they are who they are I've dealt with many men and they suck... sorry but to me thats the way i see it most of the time... i've had to play the try hard to get thing a lot i know it can drive them wild but you can't keep it up for too long it can hurt them to like it can hurt us just like when we all do something wrong for to long
Do not play hard to get with introverts or the shy/quiet type. It's hard enough as it is for them to approach you. Making yourself hard to get will be too difficult of a catch.
They shouldn't, it's immature and annoying for most guys. Be honest, if you're interested then show it
There are otrr ways to get to know each other, if you have chosen the right one.
Not all men and women are like two sides of the same coin. you don't flip it to choose your side. they are a already a mated pair.
Playing Hard to get is asinine and annoying and yes guys see right through it. lol. If doesn't seem like your going to give me a chance im going to stop pursuing so you better not play hard to get too long
It works on most women , but men are the polar opposites , we will perceive this as " Don't bother with her... she is NOT interested !! " & walk away ! Men are more cold logic in our thinking , " risk V reward "
I think it's fine -- as long as you don't drop everything at the moment to see this guy, rescedhule your day for him or skip out on something. Be assertive and compliment the person, but don't be a door-mat. This is where playing hard to get comes in.. to what degree? I think it's alright to keep the guy guessing, letting some mytersy flow between you two and now always being available to him. This may seem playing hard to get but the more in demand you are the more supply you receive.
Women play hard to get, and then say they hate it when a guy can't take no for an answer. Bunch of fucking hypocrites.
As soon as I get the sense a woman is playing hard to get, she is fucking gone.
Thats a good one. Cut the guys some slack but not to much, want to keep us interested. Sometimes ask more in-depth questions or the the good one might get away.
If you like playing hard to get at all, don't expect to get any guys that will take you seriously.
I don't like the to chase for too long, i can tolerate a month no further then i leave it alone weather your interested or not.
As long as She wans! t!
unless She's ready for a relationship or sex..
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