Why do girls give mixed signals?

[trueamerican132]

[SheDevilxx]

Well, depending on the girl, she can send signals for many, MANY reasons. Maybe she's unsure about the way she feels about you. She might think it's too early to start a relationship, or maybe she's not sure if you would respond positively. Sometimes, girls who hate to ask guys out would send mixed signals as a way to say 'I like you, but I don't want to make the first move,' Either way, you shouldn't ignore her.

[trueamerican132]

She's shy only towards me

[Anonymous]

I never mean to! Usually I'm really dense, so I don't realize when I'm being hit on unless it becomes painfully obvious. And I tend to panic and close up when I like a guy, because I'm awkward and shy and I feel like I'll say something stupid.

[trueamerican132]

Thanks this will help me a lot

[kaylaS91]

Because from birth, they're always told that 'men' would find it emasculating if girls were to initiate any potential for a relationship.
(... I've noticed you're 13. Give it some time.)

[AriadneSky]

i never was told that, and i dont care either, no one cares if i feel emasculated so why should i. :)

[kaylaS91]

@AriadneSky you're a girl so.. it's impossible for you to feel emasculated in the first place.

[AriadneSky]

nope. masculinity has under its umbrella ll traits dealing with agency volition dignity respect. these are all human traits. when a person feels emasculated they feel they are made impotent, weak ineffectual. any human being can feel that way.

if the world dealt realistically with women as human beings and not pets , then emasculation would be called dehumanization. it is the exact same thing only one word suggest women can't or are not allowed to feel that way. as you yourself said they can not.. which is bullshit of course they can.

what word would you use to describe feeling obligated to act helpless and weak or passive.. whether you have felt this way or not or are aware of it or not many women are made to feel this way or not there is not a word that belongs to them , this does not stop them from experiencing it.

to be emasculated means to be made weak. this is done to women all the time. so much so that there is no word bc it is taken for granted they should be.

[AriadneSky]

masculinity deals with power.. anyone stripped of power feels emasculated. the fact that it is called emasculation is a philosophical problem. a category mistake.. but the definition refers to an experience any human creature has. you would have to be willfully obtuse and or a real mental salve not to see that.

its like if someone said oh oxygen is something that is inherently a male need. therefore women can not suffocate. and they should not impose on men by breathing air.

>> this nonsense does not change the fact that human must breathe to survive. no matter what you call it. does not change reality.

things become clear when you think if why you are doing what you are doing instead of just following orders.. bc someone said so.

[AriadneSky]

girls are supposed to play game and act ridiculous bc if she behaves reasonably , a guy might feel badly. there is a word for how the GUY feels badly in thats situation... and it is considered inappropriate to not cater to that... no word at all dealing with how demeaning that experience is for women, or how irrational in general. a person being direct learns they are human. a person dealing with direct people learns others are human.. no one learns anything by being ridiculous or expecting it from someone else in order to feel 'strong'. yet its expected by many as appropriate social behavior.. have you never thought of how absurd that is?
like on a logical thinking level , not on a platitude -oh well things can suck for both genders bc there are double standards - non thinking level.

[trueamerican132]

Dam so do I still have a chance

[martyfellow]

They may be kinda sorta already in a relationship, or are unsure who you are and won't commit to anything without knowing you better.

Or they may know the truth about you, so naturally they hesitate, even if they find you attractive.

[Mdler]

Girls don't give mixed signals unless they're playing games. Girls go after what they want. Become what they want. Or just get out of the game completely and leave the bullshit up to guys who know what they want...

[twotimestwo]

Perhaps they are not. It is probably a matter of those girls not knowing what they want. It's most usually not a reflection on you. This doesn't change with age, by the way. Happy hunting!

[JohnDoe3000]

She's playing a game, or you misread her signals, or she enjoys flirting/attention too much (which she may or may not be consciously aware of), or in very rare cases she's legitimately trying to make up her mind.

[CamilleLH05]

we are sometimes debating what to do in our heads and are confused with our own thoughts and actions

[trueamerican132]

So could she be interested

[CamilleLH05]

yes for sure. we like it when u come clean about ur feelings so if she doesn't you might convince her with sweetness.

[trueamerican132]

Ok so just talk to her Monday

[CamilleLH05]

yes u should. tell me how it goes

[trueamerican132]

Ok well it's weird because one day she will stare at me and show interest then the other day she like ignore me but looked at me when I'm not looking lol I don't know she could ignore me to save her feelings

[CamilleLH05]

ya probs. she might think u like her 1 day but then that u dont another based on what u do..

[trueamerican132]

I literally do nothing she only shows interest in me and I heard her call me cute And now ignoring me with

[trueamerican132]

Wow. . . .

[CamilleLH05]

I don't know sometimes we just act weird like that cuz we dont want to seem desperate or anything. or maybe she's shallow and only likes u cuz of ur looks. i hate girls like that. but u should still give it a shot and get to know her.

[trueamerican132]

Ok thanks let's see what happens

[DudeManBro_20]

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[SheDevilxx]

It is, isn't it? XD

[jacquesvol]

Girls *think* their signals are clear.
That's an error.

[Nuala]

Cause your 13 and we don't know what the fuck we want.

[trueamerican132]

I'm 16 sorry

[Nuala]

We still don't know what we want...

[trueamerican132]

Lol how old are you

[Nuala]

It's like we want a boyfriend but we don't... We want guy's to be into us but not sure if we want to lose it yet... Want guy's to ask us out but again we don't know if we want to go out with them...
If we are into someone we don't want to seem too interested...

[trueamerican132]

Lol yeah but I'm ready for a relationship and let's see if that's true

[Nuala]

Like 14...

[trueamerican132]

Lol yeah

[Nuala]

You feel you're ready, but they might not... So they might like you, so they flirt, then they're not sure if they're ready so the hang back a little...

[trueamerican132]

Lol why do her friends stare at me and she stares also any reason

[Nuala]

Two reasons

Reason 1. She likes you
Reason 2. They think you like her
Reason 3. Both of the above (Bet you weren't expecting a third reason!)

[trueamerican132]

Omg yes well I heard them call me cute in the halls

[Nuala]

Oh oh oh!
Reason number 4. You're just pretty gosh darn cute and ya know... Girls have hormones too

All above reasons still stand.

[trueamerican132]

Lol I guess I am her And her friends stare at me lol she sometimes ignore me but she will look at me when I'm not looking

[charleef01]

ya sorry we do that, but in our defense its hard to read your emotions and its also hard to understand our own feelings, they fluctuate so much

[trueamerican132]

But their intersested

[charleef01]

yes most likely haha

[trueamerican132]

Ok it's weird she stares at me but acts uninterested and somedays she's interested her friends watch me when she's ignoring me any reason why

[charleef01]

ohhhhh i see. she's def trying to act cool and uninterested on purpose to get your attention and she probably doesn't know if you like her so she wants to pretend she doesn't like you

[trueamerican132]

Well she does like me hey you think she wants me to approach her

[charleef01]

yes!!! if she likes you thats all she wants

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Because they don't know how to fucking communicate.

[Anonymous]

Women are evil and always playing some SICK mind games...

[trueamerican132]

Lol yes she shows a lot of interest but she started Ignoring me like why and she stares at me but when I'm not looking and her friends were staring at me in Ela it was weird I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

stay safe!! Women are honey traps

[gretchen0520]

not all girls do. only girls who don't know what they want do that!

[trueamerican132]

Lol yes she shows a lot of interest but she started Ignoring me like why and she stares at me but when I'm not looking and her friends were… [+]

[gretchen0520]

she's playing head games and hard to get

[trueamerican132]

So what can I do

[gretchen0520]

if you're really that into her pursue it further but if she keeps playing the head games play them back and act hard to get back. that will get her attention and shell either pursue you/stop doing it or if she doesn't do anything she never was interested in the first place

[trueamerican132]

Ok thanks

[gretchen0520]

you're welcome! best of luck!

[hhawk7252]

They don't know what they feel. Their trying to figure it out

[danyalovettie44]

Because we don't want to be seen as desperate.

[trueamerican132]

But she does like me she looks at me when I'm not looking and her friends watch me I don't know should I just talk to her maybe ask her out soon

[OlderAndWiser]

Because they can and, for them, it is fun!

[AriadneSky]

for example?

[mikey112]

cause they are a confused lot

[Anonymous]

because they are also not aware how they feel

[Girlwantsanswers]

It's just what we do