Yes. I think the problem is sometimes we associate nice with being a pushover, and most girls don't want a pushover. I don't automatically assume he's a pushover, I've learned to tell the difference between a nice guy who's usually a pushover and an assertive nice guy, a guy who is confident tends to not be a pushover (and yes, confidence, not to be confused with arrogance although a lot of people confuse the two).
Now you will have girls who want a bad boy, because society tends to associate the hot strong alpha with the bad boy persona. But I think most girls would like a wholesome assertive nice guy.
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'They don't know how he handles conflict, but because he's nice they automatically assume he's a pushover.'
Nope. To me, a guy having a basic amount of human decency =/= him being an automatic pushover. As much as you self-proclaimed 'nice guys' may like to think so as a last-ditch attempt to blame your lack of success with women on anyone but yourselves... the only people coming up with such shit are yourselves. Ironically enough. 🍻
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Not really, it depends on the girl and her type of preference, but I don't think that nice guys are pushovers. Usually the girls that assume that nice guys are pushovers don't really spent time with shy guys or nice guys, you see I know a few nice guys and they are not pushovers, they just don't like to come off as rude or as an asshole, and that's why their nice, not because they let people treat them like a welcome matt.
Yeah we do. Women don't actually like shitheads the way people think they all do. Some do, but most adult women look for a guy with balance. My boyfriend was the epitome of what you described - really nice guy but not a pushover.
I do - I want a guy who is confident enough not to run when a problem arises - that is the problem with nice guys - most of them are passive pushovers unwilling to stand when the going gets tough.
I don't automatically assume that, because I consider myself as nice, but I'm not a pushover.
So I know it's possible to be nice , assertive and opinionated at the same timei don't assume anything about new men in my life. i have dated nice boys and bad boys and never assumed anything till proven by experience.
If I meet a nice guy, I assume he's a nice guy. I don't consider him a pushover unless I see him pushed over.
umm.. for my case i've been with nice guys but in the end i can't seem to connect with them, but like for my future i do hope i marry a nice, responsible, and caring man
nope, I want a guy who are not afraid to show me his true self, what he looks or acts when he's angry or etc.
No that's false the only reason guys think girls don't like nice guys is because hardly any nice guys have the confidence to approach girls. 90% of guys who actually approach girls are douchebags.
All guys I've met are assholes so I don't know about that
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