It would completely depend on the situation. PMS doesn't make a woman "out of control", PMS just makes women extra emotional. She should have to apologise for having PMS (that's not her fault). But if a particular incident happened while she was PMSing, that's a different story. If a woman does something that hurts another person she should definitely apologise.
I will add this though. Just because she's PMSing, doesn't make her emotions invalid. I've been with guys before that viewed any altercation that happened while a woman was PMSing as being completely not their fault. The just put it down to crazy hormones, and not to the fact that they cancelled a date half an hour after they were supposed to show up because they met their brother on a bus and decided to hang out with them instead.
As you may have gathered, a real example of a situation that happened to me. And the next time he saw me, he "forgave" me for being angry because he knew I was just emotional from PMS. The kicker is, I've never PMSed. Not all women experience PMS, and I'm one of the ones who doesn't. He just used PMS as an excuse to invalidate my anger, try and put me in the wrong. I broke up with him not long after that.
My point is, women get overly emotional during PMS but their emotions are still a real reaction to things. It's easy for people to blame the PMS and say "it wasn't really my fault, she was just out of her mind on hormones". Hormones may have made her overreact, but that doesn't mean she was wrong to be angry.
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I do and have, especially to my boyfriend because having pms doesn't mean I can't be wrong still I feel like complete trash on mine but I work in a job where my pay depends on how well I provide customer service, so I literally can't let how I really feel show. Of course I feel really impatient, I lose focus a lot, tired as hell, like someone is ripping my stomach apart and to people's faces i'm like "yes mam" "yes sir" we can do that for you! lol.
When it comes to my boyfriend though, i'm just honest about it. I'll say i'm sorry i'm just having a hard time today or i'm sorry if i'm being irritable, I try to be aware of it but he's also really understanding when it comes to that kind of stuff, he doesn't like to see me in pain. So I think it takes a combination of both when it comes to a relationship and pms.
Women need to understand that it's not an excuse to treat others badly but men need to understand that when someone else is in a lot of pain they're not some monster waiting to attack you (well maybe some women are) but they're just uncomfortable and irritable lol
Yeah, I do. I try to learn how to manage those emotions and urges to just punch something by managing stress. The more stress we women feel the more likely something we can be out of touch with everything around us and how our actions affect people. I can't speak for all women, for not every woman experience PMS the same. But it tends to be related to hormonal imbalance, genetics, diet and nutrition and not just the environment. This includes home environment. Ever since I left the city, I haven't had as much problems being where I am now than I did living in New York. So I say that to take what you read online and in books as paramount. And I say that if some women can't understand it, men especially needs to understand the psychological stress that women go through. And not to deliberately make any woman upset. Because PMS can happen before, during, and after her cycle.
If Im having lets say emotional moodswings because Im on my period, that doesn't excuse me from being a bitch to someone, cause you can always control your impulses lol
The way I see it, there's no excuse for poor behavior, even if we can't help it. If I develop a psychological disorder and punch a kid in the face, I'd still want to apologize. The highest state of maturity, as I see it, does not say, "I behaved poorly because [...]" It doesn't excuse poor behavior on any account.
Of course... there is no excuse for being a B*tch just like there is no excuse for guys being an A*s.
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You've given no description of what "the way you act" means here, or exactly what type of behavior you're actually talking about. This question is presumptuous and vague. But for the sake of getting to the point, I'll assume that you're talking about rude or mean behavior that is triggered by hormonal changes.
PMS is not an excuse to be rude or mean. I usually control my behavior pretty well even when my emotions are going haywire, but I'm not perfect. If I lash out at someone because of my hormones, then I absolutely owe them an apology. At the same time, I do expect my SO to cut me a little slack during that time. I'm more likely to be oversensitive rather than bitchy, so sometimes he has to be patient with me if I overreact to something.I hear a lot of women say that they unleash the resentment they have been holding in towards others because at that point they can't take it anymore. Are these women who have been less than assertive in their daily lives? I try to let people know I'm not feeling my best at the moment. If they still try to be difficult, I don't lash out, but I find a way to make sure they don't do it again.
Hell yes! If you lash out on everyone or your special someone every month just because your PMS is out of controll you really need to get that shit under control, alone, until you got it figured out. Like a person that got anger problems and hits... He/she shouldn't get close to anyone until he/she is cured. You can't hit someone over and over and say you are sorry. To say you are sorry means you promise will never do such thing again and if you do you are a liar! No one deserves to be with a person like that. You should be forever alone or learn to control yourself. If you can't, just work on it, get cured or whatever, just don't let another person suffer because of you.
apologize to an extent if you treat people in a bad way. yes pms is an excuse to an extent for behavior but it doesn't mean a person deserves carte blanche to treat people a certain way without perhaps needing to apologize
if i'm having a terrible day at work it may be an excuse for me to be short tempered but it doesn't mean i should apologize to people for poor treatmentI do apologise because I turn into a monster when I'm PMSing... not only am I an emotional wreck, but each and everything pisses me off and I have no tolerance for the smallest of things... but normally I'm nothing like that, I'm very chilled and relaxed. So I can understand what I put people through, especially bfs, and that's why I feel like I should say sorry.
Oh how i dislike people who take PMS as an excuse for everything. It is not like the person turns into a devil unnoticably. If that's the case, it is not the PMS that is causing it. Yes we women get a bit emotional during our pms. But heck, being totally rude or bashing someone for me is exaggeration.
And yes you should apologize if you are being rude, and let people know that you're "pmsing "For me, during my periods I just get a little grumpy and have mood swings but I'm not a total jerk to those around me. I'm not going to apologize for feeling bad and not always being in a good mood BUT if I was actually mean to someone or acted rude, then yes, I would apologize to the person I may have hurt. Having a period isn't an excuse to be hateful to others and avoid consequences or personal responsibility. Everyone should do their best to maintain self-control.
Oh definitely. Having PMS is not an excuse to act like a dick. Therefore if you say or do something mean or stupid, you shouldn't blame it on your PMS and call it a day. You should take full responsibility for it and apologize. Yeah, it sucks to have mood swings, but the least you can do is try your best to control them and apologize if something goes wrong.
If i hurt someone's feeling during pms, like hurting toooooo much then yes i will apologize. But then again sometimes i just don't know why i get mad over a little thing such, one time a guy friend pulled out my beanie and i was so mad that i won't talk to him till the end of the day. He repeatedly said sorry but i just didn't want to talk to him. I concluded that he must got a clue what's wrong with me, probably noticed i was pmsing so i thought i don't need to say sorry since he would know and understand
Honestly, PMS isn't an excuse to be rude to anyone. Its not like you lose your mind and you don't know what you're saying anymore coz that's not what happens. It really annoys me when some girls use it as an excuse to just flip out at everyone.
Thank God, PMS only can make me get extra emotional sometimes, and rarely ever some mood swings, which I hate so much. But I try my best to control myself and not go get my anger on someone else. IN CASE I do, then yeah, I apologize not long after.I do. For me, I sometimes don't realize that my "grouchiness" is caused by PMS until later, and then I'd feel bad and yea, I'd apologize. However, there are times that I do know that I'm having PMS and that's when I try and control myself, even avoid certain situations (i. e. where I feel I'd potentially be a bitch due to PMS) if I can/have to.
no, i will not apologize for stealing my husband's french fries!
other than craving a stupid amount of salty food and being in a metric fuckton of pain, i don't have any other symptoms. however, if i say something untoward because of the pain i am in, i will apologize.No?
I mean, sure. If I'm exceptionally short-tempered and happen to lose it with him when I happen to be 'PMS-ing', I'll 'apologize'. I think there's not much sense in apologizing for something that you know damn well will make a repeat appearance on a monthly basis for a few more decades.
I prefer to try my best to just keep myself in check and not use any hormone-related moodswings as a copout to being a straight up bitch. 👌i really don't understand this. do women become vikings overnight? what is this shit? i know some people have terrible periods but i also feel like some people are totally taking advantage of how dumb men are and are just being rude for no reason.
I'd vote "C" sometimes.
Guys get moody/bitchy too. It only becomes an issue warranting an apology of it's especially rude IMHO.If you act like a demon, sure. There is no excuse for bad behaviour, people who can't keep themselves in check but then refuse to apologise for it need a wake up call. Sure, everyone gets irritable and sometimes you lash out but you can still recognise when you're behaving badly
I act the same, maybe argue more.. but I've nvr yelled @ anyone or had rages and all that. I like to be more alone actually.
If you're having a bad day, you shouldn't take it out on others or subject other people to it. PMS is no excuse for being a bitch. Nothing is.
Only if it's something I didn't mean to do or say... But I always actually do mean it so... no.
Why as a guy are you writing this. You do know that it's rare that girls get irritable and stuff because of PMS.
If a girl is pissed at you and on her periods it just means you did something stupid. If it would have happened 5 days later, she would still be pissed at you. Stop blaming everything on PMS when you have no idea what it is.
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