Girls, Spankings/Disciplining: Survey for anyone who was spanked growing up? (Page 2)

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Hey! OK so this is a big (and sometimes controversial) debate that came up in a class and its a topic thats come up in conversations with friends on how they were brought up. It's interesting to see how so many people view spankings as necessary discipline and a normal part of growing up, whereas others see it as a bad thing! Would be interesting to hear from the experiences of everyone here. This survey's probably not relevant if you weren't spanked growing up but if you were, copy and paste the questions and please share your views:

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? YES
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? OFTEN
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? DAD AND STEPDAD ONLY
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? ANY MISBEHAVIOR
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? SOMETIMES
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? OVER KNEE MOSTLY SOMETIMES BEND OVER A CHAIR
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16 SLEEP AT BOYFRIEND HOUSE WITHOUT TELLING THEM
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? ON FIRE
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? HAND OR BELT
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? BARE OR PANTIES ONLY
11) Did you cry every time? YES
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? PAINFUL ONLY ALWAYS DONE IN MY BEDROOM WITH DOOR CLOSED
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? DIDN'T
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? GROUNDED IN BEDROOM
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? NECESSARY
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? YES
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? SAME

Justicki · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.

Ganbygail12 · Answer

1) Spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Yes, if it is done from a place of love not yelling.
2) How often were you spanked growing up?
Probably one-three times a week.
3) Who did the discipline in your house?
Whichever parent was watching me at the time.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Yelling at them, throwing a tantrum, biting and stealing toys from my siblings, bad words
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
Yes, I rarely was spanked more than twice for something wrong! I realized that if I continued misbehaving I would have to have a moment of discomfort... I didn't like spankings so I decided I could live without screaming my head off, yanking a toy out of a siblings hand or saying a bad word.
6) When your parents spanked you would they just spank on the spot while you were standing?
They would nicely say "stay still" and then give me a spanking gentle enough to not harm me but hard enough for me to realize I had done something wrong.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
My parents had a 11 yr old rule, after 11 you didn't get spanked. I think it was when I talked back to my mom very rudely at my grandmas house, so my mom took me aside, explained why I shouldn't talk back (and that is would affect my future at jobs and in relationships), then I got spanked
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Mildly uncomfortable for a min
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Their hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done over your clothes? Over my clothes
11) Did you cry every time? A little, but because I felt bad about what I had done
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Minimally painful, I felt bad for doing something wrong
13) Did your parents know you learned your lesson? Yes
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? I was grounded in my teen years
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking? Do you feel it was necessary discipline? I think if it is done correctly it is a great form of discipline.
16) No, my parents and I have a great relationship!!!
17) If you have children would you spank? Yes, I would! I feel that I have turned out ok and I know my siblings have turned out great! So I would dicipline them through love by spanking them firmly but gently.

jazmiine · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

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GeminiAgent007 · Answer

OK some real ass questions

1. only if necessary/deserved some kids do need discipline and there's a big difference between a spanking and beating your kid. no kids should ever get they're ass beat
2. very often
3. parents, grandparents, parents friends
4. for my parents whenever they were upset ( one was a drug addict, both parents now have been diagnosed with psychological issues)
5. of course especially when its over nothing makes you fearful and later on resentful
6. mostly on the spot or later if we weren't home any other way was because I'd avoid it or to embarrass me or one of my siblings
7. Spanking?11 maybe.17and it was way more then a spanking and only cause the only parent that was around at that time left. Not as bad as it sounds it was a positive change
8. raw
9. yes
10. both
11. not every time
12. painful, scarey extremely embarrassing as I got older, always sad and hateful. like an injustice was done
13. I don't know, maybe seeing me scared
14. locked outside, neglect, name calling, favoring my other siblings, exc.
15. last resort, if talking and showing right from wrong isn't working how do you demonstrate? and both honestly some kids now or even people I know have great parents and are blessed with a lot but extremely disrespectful to their parents and disregard the simplest of things because they were raised without consequences. There's just needs to be a huge line between decipline and abuse. take time to figure out what a child needs some act out because they can't talk to their parents, others aren't taught values, some just need direction.
16. yes it can if you don't explain things to a child if your constantly holding them responsible for things they don't yet understand or comprehend
17. yes. only if I had too but I'd always try to explain right and wrong first but I'd never take out my problems on them or put them through anything traumatic and unnecessary or allow anyone else to do that to them. I'd try my best to be in a stable situation and be sure that whoever they're father is involved shared similar values. I'd be attentive and open to what they need as individuals i'd put them before myself and others they wouldn't be spoiled but they wouldn't lack in anything. I'd a parent, not a disciplinarian.

didn't think those would be such intense questions

Unknowncath · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

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Sha84 · Answer

Hey! OK so this is a big (and sometimes controversial) debate that came up in a class and its a topic thats come up in conversations with friends on how they were brought up. It's interesting to see how so many people view spankings as necessary discipline and a normal part of growing up, whereas others see it as a bad thing! Would be interesting to hear from the experiences of everyone here. This survey's probably not relevant if you weren't spanked growing up but if you were, copy and paste the questions and please share your views:

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? YES
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? OFTEN
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? DAD AND STEPDAD ONLY
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? ANY MISBEHAVIOR
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? SOMETIMES
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? OVER KNEE MOSTLY SOMETIMES BEND OVER A CHAIR
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16 SLEEP AT BOYFRIEND HOUSE WITHOUT TELLING THEM
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? ON FIRE
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? HAND OR BELT
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? BARE OR PANTIES ONLY
11) Did you cry every time? YES
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? PAINFUL ONLY ALWAYS DONE IN MY BEDROOM WITH DOOR CLOSED
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? DIDN'T
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? GROUNDED IN BEDROOM
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? NECESSARY
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? YES
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? SAME

kaiser122 · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? - they werent for me. I have a high pain tolerance. Sticking me in a corner is what I feared most.

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? - any time I threw a fit which wasn't too often?

3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? - no just my mom and dad. I guess my grandma too since she usually babysat me but she let me get away with murder so if she ever did it was very rare.

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? - throwing a tantrum

5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? - not really

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? - standing

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? - probably like 6-7

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? - uh... this is a weird question

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? - just their hand

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? - over clothes

11) Did you cry every time? - I was usually already crying because I was throwing a fit.

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? - nah not really. If anything it probably just made me more agitated.

13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? - they didnt!

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? - stick me in the corner, send me to my room, take things away, ground me, wouldn't let me play outside.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? - if it's just a light pop on the butt I think it's fine but I dont think it's a good means of discipline as much as it is a stress reliever for the parent.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? - nah

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? - nope I'm not spanking my kids.

Ally_17 · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? - they werent for me. I have a high pain tolerance. Sticking me in a corner is what I feared most.

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? - any time I threw a fit which wasn't too often?

3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? - no just my mom and dad. I guess my grandma too since she usually babysat me but she let me get away with murder so if she ever did it was very rare.

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? - throwing a tantrum

5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? - not really

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? - standing

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? - probably like 6-7

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? - uh... this is a weird question

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? - just their hand

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? - over clothes

11) Did you cry every time? - I was usually already crying because I was throwing a fit.

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? - nah not really. If anything it probably just made me more agitated.

13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? - they didnt!

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? - stick me in the corner, send me to my room, take things away, ground me, wouldn't let me play outside.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? - if it's just a light pop on the butt I think it's fine but I dont think it's a good means of discipline as much as it is a stress reliever for the parent.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? - nah

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? - nope I'm not spanking my kids.

KeziL · Answer

1) No. They do infinitely more damage than good. Just make a child scared, don't help them learn.
2) Often, also my siblings. It also affected me greatly when my siblings were spanked.
3) Mom usually spanked us, dad only did for really bad things but he was nicer.
4) Mom: anytime she was in a bad mood and the littlest thing set her off (trips to home depot usually did the trick). Dad: severe damage to house done by kids or actually bad actions
5) Nope, just grew to resent my mother.
6) Lay on bed or mom would hit us with something while we were standing/chase us around
7) Maybe like 13 before I started fighting back. I don't know what I did. Probably something little.
8 ) It hurt, especially if my mom used a belt. If my dad did it it just stung for a bit but was fine.
9) Dad: hand only. Mom: belt, hand, broom on my brother, whatever was on hand
10) pick or choose, depended how suddenly we were spanked/who did it
11) No but yes, we'd resist crying at first and sometimes laugh for the first couple spanks (especially for dad) but then the hurt/betrayal would set in and we'd cry
12) Painful, and I felt like my mom was abusing us. My littlest brother that got spanked was 4 and that didn't sit right with me. I felt like my dad didn't love me anymore when he spanked me because he did it rarely and only when he was really upset at what we'd done.
13) I guess when we poured out sufficient tears, bc that's when they stopped. We didn't learn our lesson by the way
14) Yelling, saying we would have to sleep outside and locking us out for a bit, taking things away, pinching, saying mean things, making us feel horrible basically (mostly mom)
15) Spanking is never okay and should never be done. It was never necessary. I am around kids all the time and babysit constantly and sometimes the kids are little assholes but I've never felt like they deserve a spanking. I've even had the kids parents threaten them (in front of me) with a spanking later if they don't behave for me, and even if the kids are absolute monsters I will tell the parents they were angels.
16) Yeah, I still harbor hate for my mom. I'll never fully trust her around my own future children or even my own younger siblings. Sometimes it seems like she's gonna turn mean again and when I'm far away, I don't know how I'll protect the little ones. I've talked to them about not believing the mean things she says to them (degrading their self worth), telling them that they don't deserve that and they're perfect. I've also told the older ones that they are to defend the littler ones and not let mom hurt anyone, just like I did for my younger siblings. I haven't gotten along with my mom since she started the spankings.
17) I will never spank my children or anyone elses. I will defend any child who is being hurt. No child deserves that. Children can be talked to, reasoned with, and often the problem behavior has an underlying reason that you just need to fix. Those kids that were being absolute brats when I babysat them? The little boy needed some extra love and reassurance, so I hugged him and sat with him awhile and told him that he could tell me if he needed something, because I cared about him and I loved him. His sister needed a hug and reassurance that her brother wasn't being mean to her because he didn't love her, he was just having a hard time with some things and didn't know how to deal with it.
If you can just understand kids and help them and make sure they know that they are loved and needed, they will trust you and listen to you and work with you to improve their behavior. I have never encountered a true problem child. Kids just need love.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

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PromiscuousPrimate · Answer

) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Can be if done for a good reason.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very rarely, only when i was young
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom, no.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Lying, stealing, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? Probably 5 or 6, cried ofc lol
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It hurt a lot
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes
11) Did you cry every time? Yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Both, mostly i cried because they were mad at me.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? At times necessary.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I would probably be more stern, or i would insist their father be more stern and caring than my parents were. Especially as they grew up. From about 12 years old onward i felt like i had no one close to guide me or help me. My parents were still around but only at the very end of the day. I basically raised myself and it didn't lead to much good.

Seeyouaround · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.

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sugarette · Answer

1) No.
2) I was spanked often as a child, but for no reason.
3) My father did.
4) I was spanked because I did not get a 9 or a 10 out of 10 at school. I was spanked sometimes for just asking a question, or again for no reason.
5) No. It traumatized me and made me believe it was okay to hit someone.
6) Over his knee.
7) I don't remember, but I'd say 7 years old.
8) It hurt for hours since my father was rough. I would get bruises as well.
9) Hand.
10) Over my clothes, thank god.
11) Yes.
12) Both embarassing and painful. I didn't understand what I had done.
13) They would make me stay in my room for hours, without explaining what I had done wrong.
14) Slaps, pushing me, scratching, breaking my stuff, yelling at me, making fun of me, etc.
15) I believe that physically punishing children - particularly punishing young children and toddlers - doesn’t work. My belief is backed up by several scientific studies. It was abuse because I had done literally nothing wrong. Punishment doesn’t teach right from wrong. It only teaches that if someone is stronger than you, they can make your will be upheld. It teaches you that you shouldn’t be caught. It teaches you that it’s okay to use force when you want something.
16) Spanking (and the rest) led me to develop depression and trauma. My father just mocked me when I brought this up to him last year. He never admitted to it and said it was discipline, that everyone gets spanked. I don't get angry about this anymore but I will never forgive him for this.
17) I would never. If you want your children to learn how to make thoughtful decisions, you let them make decisions and then face the consequences of such choices. If you want kids that respect their elders, you show them how you respect your elders and you also respect your children. Spanking is a tool for teaching kids to stay quiet and to make them stop doing something you disagree with. But there are some many, better tools, that you can use, such as time-outs, talking, negotiating and supporting them that I really don’t think it is necessary to use spanking.

taytayasks · Answer

1) Absolutely not.
2) I wasn't just spanked. I was beat within an inch of my life, choked, beat with a baseball bat, etc. by my father.
3. Once by my grandmother. I've never seen my mother get so angry with a person. I was only ever abused by my father and my mother had no idea.
4. My father had no logic behind it. Mostly happened when he was high/drunk.
5. I wasn't doing anything wrong usually I was just minding my own business and out of nowhere I would get hit. Usually when I did something wrong with my mom she would explain why it was wrong, the effect it had on others and the conseuquence for doing so in a calm tone. It worked well for me and her and I rarely disobeyed her because I respected her. I just feared my father. 6. I never had a usual spot for the abuse. Just whenever he felt like it. 7. I was 12. It was the last time I saw my father before I got a restraining order against him. (He died last year of an overdose thank god) and I was just sitting reading a book when he burst into my room and gave me a black eye, split lip, a concussion, bruises and contusions, etc. I was unable to fight back since he was twice the size of me and on crack.
8. It stung like hell when I did get spanked and lasted most of the day. I could barely sit or use the bathroom. 9. My father used a bit of both to beat the daylights out of me. 10. Clothes. Never once beat me without them on. 11. Not in front of anyone. I only cried in private because I didn't want to show weakness. 12. Painful and embarrassing because I felt weak and helpless and fearful. Also anger and frustration because I felt trapped. 13. What lesson is there to be learned from physical abuse? To be emotionally unstable? To hate yourself? To be unable to trust anyone?
14. My father used abuse to not discipline me. Usually he didn't give a shit about what I did until he got into one of his moods and anything I did was wrong. 15. My situation was straight up abuse. And I think laying a hand on someone to inflict pain IS WRONG. Pain doesn't make you respect authority; it makes you fear it. When my mom calmly rationalized my behaviour and gave me a respectful consequence (extra chores, more homework, apology letters, etc) I respected her and followed her rules. 16. Absolutely. I hated my father with a seething passion. I'm glad the druggie asshat is dead. I love my mother beyond belief though. 17. ABSOLUTELY NOT. ABUSE IS NOT A LAST RESORT EVER. I would treat my child with respect and expect the same

xxRedRosexx · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.

Jmcmanning · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? - they werent for me. I have a high pain tolerance. Sticking me in a corner is what I feared most.

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? - any time I threw a fit which wasn't too often?

3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? - no just my mom and dad. I guess my grandma too since she usually babysat me but she let me get away with murder so if she ever did it was very rare.

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? - throwing a tantrum

5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? - not really

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? - standing

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? - probably like 6-7

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? - uh... this is a weird question

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? - just their hand

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? - over clothes

11) Did you cry every time? - I was usually already crying because I was throwing a fit.

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? - nah not really. If anything it probably just made me more agitated.

13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? - they didnt!

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? - stick me in the corner, send me to my room, take things away, ground me, wouldn't let me play outside.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? - if it's just a light pop on the butt I think it's fine but I dont think it's a good means of discipline as much as it is a stress reliever for the parent.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? - nah

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? - nope I'm not spanking my kids.

Hurlyburly · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? - they werent for me. I have a high pain tolerance. Sticking me in a corner is what I feared most.

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? - any time I threw a fit which wasn't too often?

3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? - no just my mom and dad. I guess my grandma too since she usually babysat me but she let me get away with murder so if she ever did it was very rare.

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? - throwing a tantrum

5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? - not really

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? - standing

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? - probably like 6-7

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? - uh... this is a weird question

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? - just their hand

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? - over clothes

11) Did you cry every time? - I was usually already crying because I was throwing a fit.

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? - nah not really. If anything it probably just made me more agitated.

13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? - they didnt!

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? - stick me in the corner, send me to my room, take things away, ground me, wouldn't let me play outside.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? - if it's just a light pop on the butt I think it's fine but I dont think it's a good means of discipline as much as it is a stress reliever for the parent.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? - nah

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? - nope I'm not spanking my kids.

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annie616pop · Answer

Nope. As a child I was never spanked. This is odd as well since I was raised in a military family with four other rambunctious kids. We also attended Catholic schools for both primary and secondary grades. You would think that in either environment there would be a culture of corporal punishment. I guess my sibs and I came along when adults in authority were more “enlightened.” For a fact I know that in both environments physical punishment was once common in the past.

OK! So here’s the truly bizarre twist to the story. When I was 17 my boyfriend and I were surfing through some porn sites together under the theme of S&M. We had just read about the role of Marquis de Sade and his murder in the French Revolution in our Poli Sci class so the theme piqued our interest. On the websites we could see plenty of pix of girls that were being bound and spanked. We were laughing and mocking the folks on the websites and then somewhere in the middle of it all we decided to give it a try. So, in the guise of experimentation, I was bound hand and foot, placed on my tummy over a well padded ottoman and secured. My boyfriend lifted my uniform skirt over to expose my bum clad in white bikini panties and then he proceeded to spank me. At first it was just light tapping and playful pats but I grew impatient with this. I demanded he lay in some good whacks. When he became earnest about it I felt the sting from the pain. At first I was repulsed and squirmed to get away, which was impossible since I was tethered to the Ottoman. And then, good lord, holy heavens, I felt myself getting erotically turned on!

I think it’s best to end the story here, lol.

So, if I were to summarize my observations about spanking. I don’t think that it is a good form of behavioral correction for children…or for any living thing for that matter. There a ways to shape behavior that do not involve the shame and humiliation of another.

Now spanking for erotic play…. that’s a whole other subject. I’m no expert so all I can say is that if rocks the boat for you and the boyfriend…. and there are boundaries, and it remains safe without permanent damage…. then, holy smokes, it may be worth a shot!

Punzie_ · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.

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Amy-xo · Answer

I was abused as a child so take these answers with a grain of salt, since they're not from the mind of someone who was it used to just discipline but other things too

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? It depends on the child, you should always try and talk to them, explain things to them, help them understand what they did wrong and why it's wrong especially the why part. But some kids are just little shits who need a little smack on the bum. (When I say kid I mean like 10+)
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very often
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Dad, yes I did.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Anything from taking a cookie before dinner to getting a low grade on a test.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Not really
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? In my room over my bed
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16, I punched him and walked out.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Hot, stinging, sore, sensetive
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Mainly his hand, sometimes a belt
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Pretty much always bare
11) Did you cry every time? Yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Pain, shame, fear
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? How hard I would cry
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding, less food,
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? Extreme last resort
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I don't think I would be able to after what I went through honestly

lexythelou22 · Answer

My life is a bit complicated in this aspect. My step dad abused me during my childhood, but my mother refused to ever lay a hand on me, nor did any other family member. My mom was on and off with the douche bag, but I noticed major differences in my behavior and overall mental/physical health when he wasn't around or when I moved in with my uncle after my mother took him back again years later. Around him I was suicidal, acted out with more aggression towards others and myself, I thought of literal ways to kill this man (I was like 6!), and I declined rapidly in health because I avoided seeing him, including meals and generally leaving my room at all. With my uncle and when the step dad wasn't around, I was energetic, happy, healthy, taking care of myself, following rules, and nurturing others. My sister was spanked as a child, but not "abused" to my extent, and she turned out just as mentally unstable (anxiety, depression, hatred towards the abuser, refusal to leave her room, rebellious). So based on my experiences:
1) No.
2) this was explained better above.
3) the step dad was the abuser both times
4) for me, everything. For my sister, usually things like being messy, being rude, having a smart mouth, and "larger" offenses
5) it HD the opposite effect.
6) With my sister, jut a few spanks while standing, sort of an automatic response to disobedience.
7) I was 10, he was gone for awhile after that, and when he came back I was bigger and stronger than him. My sister was around 7 or 8 because she had to keep contact with him as she was his birth child.
8 ) it wasn't my backside, and I dont want to ask her, so I can't answer this one.
9) anything long within reach, spoon, belt, hand, etc
10) both
11) she did, I didn't
12) painful, and we both agree to having felt humiliated, enraged, and betrayed.
13) they didn't, because we didn't.
14) my mom uses guilt tactics.
15) abuse, both cases.
16) we have anger and trust issues with everything.
17) Never, we have so many resources for behavioral adjustments, it's just lazy and disgusting to rely on pain responses.

Attack me for it all you want, but I really don't care. I'm not going to hit a child because they don't listen to me. I'm a grown ass person, I dont need to use pain to get a child to do as they should. I'm not responding to opinions because most of it will probably be people trying to justify themselves. I dont care to hear it.

Mimi1721 · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

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xCherryKizz · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

septemberangel118 · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

whitedahlia · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? - they werent for me. I have a high pain tolerance. Sticking me in a corner is what I feared most.

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? - any time I threw a fit which wasn't too often?

3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? - no just my mom and dad. I guess my grandma too since she usually babysat me but she let me get away with murder so if she ever did it was very rare.

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? - throwing a tantrum

5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? - not really

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? - standing

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? - probably like 6-7

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? - uh... this is a weird question

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? - just their hand

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? - over clothes

11) Did you cry every time? - I was usually already crying because I was throwing a fit.

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? - nah not really. If anything it probably just made me more agitated.

13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? - they didnt!

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? - stick me in the corner, send me to my room, take things away, ground me, wouldn't let me play outside.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? - if it's just a light pop on the butt I think it's fine but I dont think it's a good means of discipline as much as it is a stress reliever for the parent.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? - nah

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? - nope I'm not spanking my kids.

Justacatlady · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.

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VesatileMarie · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.

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Mickey712 · Answer

1. Spankings are not the best for me of discipline but I believe they work if used appropriately, not too often and not for everything. I find it a little odd to expect your kid not to show any violence or ever use hitting if you spank them, depending on how long the spanks last... some parents stop spanking but continue to hit in other ways.

2. As a child I was spanked pretty frequently because my house was so chaotic if any hell broke lose, regardless if I was to blame or not I would be spanked. It made me confused and I didn't want to put any trust in my parents.

3. My family, my mother's side hadish a very bad relationship but I'm sure if it was a mended one I would have discipline from them too. Mainly physically was disciplined by my mother, but she didn't spank me my father would spank me. My mother had... other... methods.

4. Often times I did not exactly know why I got a spanking. I just know there was a lot of screaming and they were very stressed. Without assessing the situations I was aseemed to be to blame and I would be hit for things my brothers did. I did understand if I talked back I would be hit. I became a pretty angry kid and would talk back even if I expected a hit. Could not have kept it all back. Never disrespectful..
5. Hell the fuck no. I would avoid my parents finding stuff out or manipulate the situation as much as I could. Just hid stuff more for lack of trust.
6. It was immediate and sometimes as I was running away haaha... keep in mind I was a child not a teen. I wasn't hit on my ass as a teen. Other places.
7. Don't remember the last spanking but I was probably Hella angry and crying.
8. Not sure never really thought about the physically pain I was so high strung from my emotions everhwhere. Scared.
9. Belt, shoe, and just hand.
10. Both
11. Not every time, most times.
12. Not really embarrassing but it was very painful as a child. I justill absolutely hated that they had control over my body because it was too invasive for me I felt very controlled and just hated thinking that they could do it whenever even if I thought I did nothing wrong.
13. They didn't notice me learning anything I don't think... I was a shifty kid I only got worse. They only noticed me being more reluctant and careful with what I said and how exactly I said it.
14. Lots of yelling, slapping, beating, etc. Discipline, I don't know.
15. I do not condone hitting your child as much as I was. Sometimes kids deserve a big slap on the face or slap on the ass.

AnnonEMouse · Answer

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1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Somewhat often
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, maybe my grandparents once or twice.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Defiance mostly or fighting with siblings
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I stopped at the moment but would do it again later.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Either, it depended on where we were.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think I was 12. Stole something and lied about it.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
It hurt, especially if my dad did it.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Yea, sometimes a spoon.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
I got both
11) Did you cry every time?
Not as I got older.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It was when I was younger but as I got older not so much. I kind of resented my parents.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I don't think they did.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Send me to my room.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't think I would use it.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
Probably not.

ThatInsaneChick · Answer

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.

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