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1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Rarely, i always got a warning before getting spanked
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom usually lol & it was very rare if my dad did
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Fighting with my sister
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Depends, it was either holding my hand up and spanking me or one time i had to bend over the tub
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? Can't even remember lol
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It didn't really hurt bad afterwards and if it did it was only like 5 minutes
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Nope, just with their hand. Sometimes threatened a switch
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes
11) Did you cry every time? Yeah
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Both
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? Because i quit doing what they whipped me for.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I think its fine to spank but some parents take it way to far
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No, my mom is like my best friend
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? yes and not really
1) Spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Yes, if it is done from a place of love not yelling.
2) How often were you spanked growing up?
Probably one-three times a week.
3) Who did the discipline in your house?
Whichever parent was watching me at the time.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Yelling at them, throwing a tantrum, biting and stealing toys from my siblings, bad words
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
Yes, I rarely was spanked more than twice for something wrong! I realized that if I continued misbehaving I would have to have a moment of discomfort... I didn't like spankings so I decided I could live without screaming my head off, yanking a toy out of a siblings hand or saying a bad word.
6) When your parents spanked you would they just spank on the spot while you were standing?
They would nicely say "stay still" and then give me a spanking gentle enough to not harm me but hard enough for me to realize I had done something wrong.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
My parents had a 11 yr old rule, after 11 you didn't get spanked. I think it was when I talked back to my mom very rudely at my grandmas house, so my mom took me aside, explained why I shouldn't talk back (and that is would affect my future at jobs and in relationships), then I got spanked
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Mildly uncomfortable for a min
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Their hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done over your clothes? Over my clothes
11) Did you cry every time? A little, but because I felt bad about what I had done
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Minimally painful, I felt bad for doing something wrong
13) Did your parents know you learned your lesson? Yes
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? I was grounded in my teen years
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking? Do you feel it was necessary discipline? I think if it is done correctly it is a great form of discipline.
16) No, my parents and I have a great relationship!!!
17) If you have children would you spank? Yes, I would! I feel that I have turned out ok and I know my siblings have turned out great! So I would dicipline them through love by spanking them firmly but gently.
I had to shorten the qs so my answers would it lol
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1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? sometimes if the child cannot be taught in any way and is going overboard. however spanking should only be done rarely.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? very often
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? mother and two times father. no only my parents spank me.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? being naughty and does not do what was told to do and causing some misfortune for others.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? explaining what is the consequences of what I did. and explaining why I am punished.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? standing and on the spot with slippers, stick or plain old hand
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 9-10
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? sting, hurt.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? yes.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? bare but and over the clothes.
11) Did you cry every time? yes, they go overboard sometimes and they did not even treat it even if it bruised.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? painful. hatred because I do not know what is the wrong I did to be punished severely, they did not even explain it in the first place that if I do something it is bad and sometimes when I do something wrong it is not intentional and is on pure accident.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? nothing. they basically instilled fear on me so I become like this. I become afraid to do something and become introverted because of traumatic experience.
15) spanking as a last resort. it is abuse if they spank you without even asking why I did it.
16) yes.
17) I would spank them as a last resort but before punishment I would ask them the reason behind it, if it is unreasonable then they will be punish. I could also punish them by denying something they want or preaching to them what they did wrong.
OK some real ass questions
1. only if necessary/deserved some kids do need discipline and there's a big difference between a spanking and beating your kid. no kids should ever get they're ass beat
2. very often
3. parents, grandparents, parents friends
4. for my parents whenever they were upset ( one was a drug addict, both parents now have been diagnosed with psychological issues)
5. of course especially when its over nothing makes you fearful and later on resentful
6. mostly on the spot or later if we weren't home any other way was because I'd avoid it or to embarrass me or one of my siblings
7. Spanking?11 maybe.17and it was way more then a spanking and only cause the only parent that was around at that time left. Not as bad as it sounds it was a positive change
8. raw
9. yes
10. both
11. not every time
12. painful, scarey extremely embarrassing as I got older, always sad and hateful. like an injustice was done
13. I don't know, maybe seeing me scared
14. locked outside, neglect, name calling, favoring my other siblings, exc.
15. last resort, if talking and showing right from wrong isn't working how do you demonstrate? and both honestly some kids now or even people I know have great parents and are blessed with a lot but extremely disrespectful to their parents and disregard the simplest of things because they were raised without consequences. There's just needs to be a huge line between decipline and abuse. take time to figure out what a child needs some act out because they can't talk to their parents, others aren't taught values, some just need direction.
16. yes it can if you don't explain things to a child if your constantly holding them responsible for things they don't yet understand or comprehend
17. yes. only if I had too but I'd always try to explain right and wrong first but I'd never take out my problems on them or put them through anything traumatic and unnecessary or allow anyone else to do that to them. I'd try my best to be in a stable situation and be sure that whoever they're father is involved shared similar values. I'd be attentive and open to what they need as individuals i'd put them before myself and others they wouldn't be spoiled but they wouldn't lack in anything. I'd a parent, not a disciplinarian.
didn't think those would be such intense questions
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? very often
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? not really except my grade 2 teacher
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? running in the house and cursing
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? i would prefer physical pain instead of emotional pain
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? my dad would just say i should wait in my room.. and after a while he comes in with a belt and says why he i about to spank and then gives one or two on my butt while standing
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? age 11
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? burning
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? a belt or stick
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? clothes
11) Did you cry every time? yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? yes one time i was riding my bike with a boy in the street and my dad got mad because i wasn't allowed to be in the street so i told the guy i need to go and my dad screamed at me to go wait in my room so tge whole time he was waiting at he gate and when i got back i was crying and said goodbye
Was there any other emotion you felt? i felt regret and sadness
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? when im not angry anymore afer the spanking
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? talking and warning
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? well i turned out just fine so i think its necessary but at he moment when its happening i do feel abused but yea ypu are a kid so ofc you will think that
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? overdoing it then yes. i feel like if you are incontrol and the dominant one as a parent then it will be fine.. but you should never get controlled by power
17) i would do the same and let my kid grow up like i want
Hey! OK so this is a big (and sometimes controversial) debate that came up in a class and its a topic thats come up in conversations with friends on how they were brought up. It's interesting to see how so many people view spankings as necessary discipline and a normal part of growing up, whereas others see it as a bad thing! Would be interesting to hear from the experiences of everyone here. This survey's probably not relevant if you weren't spanked growing up but if you were, copy and paste the questions and please share your views:
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? YES
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? OFTEN
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? DAD AND STEPDAD ONLY
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? ANY MISBEHAVIOR
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? SOMETIMES
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? OVER KNEE MOSTLY SOMETIMES BEND OVER A CHAIR
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16 SLEEP AT BOYFRIEND HOUSE WITHOUT TELLING THEM
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? ON FIRE
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? HAND OR BELT
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? BARE OR PANTIES ONLY
11) Did you cry every time? YES
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? PAINFUL ONLY ALWAYS DONE IN MY BEDROOM WITH DOOR CLOSED
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? DIDN'T
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? GROUNDED IN BEDROOM
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? NECESSARY
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? YES
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? SAME
Thanks for your comments, i actually really agree with most of your opinions. i was raised pretty much the same way. have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did (e. g. the belt). Follow me back, would be great if we could just message separately too! thanks xoxo
i approved of what they did and was thankful my dad and stepdad always spanked in my bedroom olone with door closed and let me take my panties off myself. they seldom used belt on me and stayed in my bedroom till i stopped crying and had my panties pulled up.
they never discussed my punishment with anyone
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? - they werent for me. I have a high pain tolerance. Sticking me in a corner is what I feared most.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? - any time I threw a fit which wasn't too often?
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? - no just my mom and dad. I guess my grandma too since she usually babysat me but she let me get away with murder so if she ever did it was very rare.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? - throwing a tantrum
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? - not really
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? - standing
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? - probably like 6-7
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? - uh... this is a weird question
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? - just their hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? - over clothes
11) Did you cry every time? - I was usually already crying because I was throwing a fit.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? - nah not really. If anything it probably just made me more agitated.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? - they didnt!
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? - stick me in the corner, send me to my room, take things away, ground me, wouldn't let me play outside.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? - if it's just a light pop on the butt I think it's fine but I dont think it's a good means of discipline as much as it is a stress reliever for the parent.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? - nah
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? - nope I'm not spanking my kids.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Absolutely!
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? I was spanked rarely, but I was terrified to disobey my mom. (Which is how it should be. )
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? I got spanked by my grandma once, but mostly mom disciplined me.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? If I disobeyed or if I mouthed off to them etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yep!
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Spank me where I was standing.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I was younger then 13 and I can't for the life of me remember what I did.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It felt raw.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? A hickory, a plastic fly swater once and her hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time? No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? It was painful and I felt remorseful for my offense.
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? They trusted me not do it again.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? They would yell at me which is worse in my opinion.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? It was always necessary discipline. I'm a better person because of it.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No, I trust them completely.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I would discipline them if they disobeyed me. I'd try to be half as good a mother as my mom was to me because I can never be better than she is. She is my hero and role model.
I agree with you!
Awesome! I believe discipline makes children into great people if it's given out correctly. My mom always says the punishment must fit the crime. I think discipline and abuse are two very different things.
1) No. They do infinitely more damage than good. Just make a child scared, don't help them learn.
2) Often, also my siblings. It also affected me greatly when my siblings were spanked.
3) Mom usually spanked us, dad only did for really bad things but he was nicer.
4) Mom: anytime she was in a bad mood and the littlest thing set her off (trips to home depot usually did the trick). Dad: severe damage to house done by kids or actually bad actions
5) Nope, just grew to resent my mother.
6) Lay on bed or mom would hit us with something while we were standing/chase us around
7) Maybe like 13 before I started fighting back. I don't know what I did. Probably something little.
8 ) It hurt, especially if my mom used a belt. If my dad did it it just stung for a bit but was fine.
9) Dad: hand only. Mom: belt, hand, broom on my brother, whatever was on hand
10) pick or choose, depended how suddenly we were spanked/who did it
11) No but yes, we'd resist crying at first and sometimes laugh for the first couple spanks (especially for dad) but then the hurt/betrayal would set in and we'd cry
12) Painful, and I felt like my mom was abusing us. My littlest brother that got spanked was 4 and that didn't sit right with me. I felt like my dad didn't love me anymore when he spanked me because he did it rarely and only when he was really upset at what we'd done.
13) I guess when we poured out sufficient tears, bc that's when they stopped. We didn't learn our lesson by the way
14) Yelling, saying we would have to sleep outside and locking us out for a bit, taking things away, pinching, saying mean things, making us feel horrible basically (mostly mom)
15) Spanking is never okay and should never be done. It was never necessary. I am around kids all the time and babysit constantly and sometimes the kids are little assholes but I've never felt like they deserve a spanking. I've even had the kids parents threaten them (in front of me) with a spanking later if they don't behave for me, and even if the kids are absolute monsters I will tell the parents they were angels.
16) Yeah, I still harbor hate for my mom. I'll never fully trust her around my own future children or even my own younger siblings. Sometimes it seems like she's gonna turn mean again and when I'm far away, I don't know how I'll protect the little ones. I've talked to them about not believing the mean things she says to them (degrading their self worth), telling them that they don't deserve that and they're perfect. I've also told the older ones that they are to defend the littler ones and not let mom hurt anyone, just like I did for my younger siblings. I haven't gotten along with my mom since she started the spankings.
17) I will never spank my children or anyone elses. I will defend any child who is being hurt. No child deserves that. Children can be talked to, reasoned with, and often the problem behavior has an underlying reason that you just need to fix. Those kids that were being absolute brats when I babysat them? The little boy needed some extra love and reassurance, so I hugged him and sat with him awhile and told him that he could tell me if he needed something, because I cared about him and I loved him. His sister needed a hug and reassurance that her brother wasn't being mean to her because he didn't love her, he was just having a hard time with some things and didn't know how to deal with it.
If you can just understand kids and help them and make sure they know that they are loved and needed, they will trust you and listen to you and work with you to improve their behavior. I have never encountered a true problem child. Kids just need love.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? No, I think talking to the child is far more effective.2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very often, but not just spanked.3/ Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Foster parent in 4 different homes, typically the father.4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Literally anything. Got hit for being up past midnight getting some water.5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? No I generally wasn't doing anything wrong. But if I was it only made me more sneaky about it.6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? More often a slap on the cheek, arm or hand. Along with punching. Sometimes kicking.7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? Night before I turned 16. I was packing my things "too loudly". Moved out on my birthday.8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Anywhere I was hit hurt a lot.9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Got the belt and had things thrown at me, phones, lamps, remotes.10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes11) Did you cry every time? I cried the first few times it happened with each family but I became numb to it.12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Made me sad and angry that I have to go through that shit again.13/ How did your parents know you learned your lesson? They didn't14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Locking me in my room, banning me from having people over, took my phone away.15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? In my case it was straight up abuse but I don't believe spanking is a good discipline.16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Trust issues with anyone. I use to flinch when people lifted their hand up for a while.17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I would never spank. Its traumatic.
) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Can be if done for a good reason.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very rarely, only when i was young
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom, no.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Lying, stealing, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? Probably 5 or 6, cried ofc lol
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It hurt a lot
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes
11) Did you cry every time? Yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Both, mostly i cried because they were mad at me.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? At times necessary.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I would probably be more stern, or i would insist their father be more stern and caring than my parents were. Especially as they grew up. From about 12 years old onward i felt like i had no one close to guide me or help me. My parents were still around but only at the very end of the day. I basically raised myself and it didn't lead to much good.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Rarely
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom , my grandpa.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Spitting in the cooking (I was 2) , hurting my brother , throwing tantrums.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Spank on the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I was 8 I kicked my brother in the nuts because I didn't believe it was painful.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? A brief sting and then it was gone.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Once with a belt , had a wooden spoon as well but usually just the hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Always over the clothes
11) Did you cry every time? Most of the time it was more a wounded ego, and I'd cry to make my mom feel bad.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Embarrassing , sometimes anger
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? Because I didn't do whatever it was again.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Time-outs , taking away a toy , letting me deal with the consequences on my own.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? Necessary discipline
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Nope , I love them because of it.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I wouldn't use objects.
1) No.
2) I was spanked often as a child, but for no reason.
3) My father did.
4) I was spanked because I did not get a 9 or a 10 out of 10 at school. I was spanked sometimes for just asking a question, or again for no reason.
5) No. It traumatized me and made me believe it was okay to hit someone.
6) Over his knee.
7) I don't remember, but I'd say 7 years old.
8) It hurt for hours since my father was rough. I would get bruises as well.
9) Hand.
10) Over my clothes, thank god.
11) Yes.
12) Both embarassing and painful. I didn't understand what I had done.
13) They would make me stay in my room for hours, without explaining what I had done wrong.
14) Slaps, pushing me, scratching, breaking my stuff, yelling at me, making fun of me, etc.
15) I believe that physically punishing children - particularly punishing young children and toddlers - doesn’t work. My belief is backed up by several scientific studies. It was abuse because I had done literally nothing wrong. Punishment doesn’t teach right from wrong. It only teaches that if someone is stronger than you, they can make your will be upheld. It teaches you that you shouldn’t be caught. It teaches you that it’s okay to use force when you want something.
16) Spanking (and the rest) led me to develop depression and trauma. My father just mocked me when I brought this up to him last year. He never admitted to it and said it was discipline, that everyone gets spanked. I don't get angry about this anymore but I will never forgive him for this.
17) I would never. If you want your children to learn how to make thoughtful decisions, you let them make decisions and then face the consequences of such choices. If you want kids that respect their elders, you show them how you respect your elders and you also respect your children. Spanking is a tool for teaching kids to stay quiet and to make them stop doing something you disagree with. But there are some many, better tools, that you can use, such as time-outs, talking, negotiating and supporting them that I really don’t think it is necessary to use spanking.
1) Absolutely not.
2) I wasn't just spanked. I was beat within an inch of my life, choked, beat with a baseball bat, etc. by my father.
3. Once by my grandmother. I've never seen my mother get so angry with a person. I was only ever abused by my father and my mother had no idea.
4. My father had no logic behind it. Mostly happened when he was high/drunk.
5. I wasn't doing anything wrong usually I was just minding my own business and out of nowhere I would get hit. Usually when I did something wrong with my mom she would explain why it was wrong, the effect it had on others and the conseuquence for doing so in a calm tone. It worked well for me and her and I rarely disobeyed her because I respected her. I just feared my father. 6. I never had a usual spot for the abuse. Just whenever he felt like it. 7. I was 12. It was the last time I saw my father before I got a restraining order against him. (He died last year of an overdose thank god) and I was just sitting reading a book when he burst into my room and gave me a black eye, split lip, a concussion, bruises and contusions, etc. I was unable to fight back since he was twice the size of me and on crack.
8. It stung like hell when I did get spanked and lasted most of the day. I could barely sit or use the bathroom. 9. My father used a bit of both to beat the daylights out of me. 10. Clothes. Never once beat me without them on. 11. Not in front of anyone. I only cried in private because I didn't want to show weakness. 12. Painful and embarrassing because I felt weak and helpless and fearful. Also anger and frustration because I felt trapped. 13. What lesson is there to be learned from physical abuse? To be emotionally unstable? To hate yourself? To be unable to trust anyone?
14. My father used abuse to not discipline me. Usually he didn't give a shit about what I did until he got into one of his moods and anything I did was wrong. 15. My situation was straight up abuse. And I think laying a hand on someone to inflict pain IS WRONG. Pain doesn't make you respect authority; it makes you fear it. When my mom calmly rationalized my behaviour and gave me a respectful consequence (extra chores, more homework, apology letters, etc) I respected her and followed her rules. 16. Absolutely. I hated my father with a seething passion. I'm glad the druggie asshat is dead. I love my mother beyond belief though. 17. ABSOLUTELY NOT. ABUSE IS NOT A LAST RESORT EVER. I would treat my child with respect and expect the same
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, no one else.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Being rude to my sisters, yelling, etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I guess so, since I almost never left my room.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Bend over a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think... 9 to 11, because I was sassy or rude.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Really, really sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Sometimes a belt, or a wooden board.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
I felt like I was a disappointment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I'm not sure.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
They hit me across the face a lot.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't agree with it. It made me emotionally hurt many times.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. When my father or mother raises their hand quickly, I flinch. I guess I am a little scarred.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I would not hit them in any way. I'd ground them, and take away their things.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes at times, but not for every child
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Rarely
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Mom usually, dad one time
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Anything that could have created serious harm to someone else, stealing
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? yes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? bend over bed or on the spot
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I really don't remember, i didn't get into trouble very often
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? it felt okay, wasn't in any pain
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? hand/belt
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? over clothes
11) Did you cry every time? never cried
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? didn't feel anything because i know what I did was wrong and deserved it to be honest
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I didn't do it anymore
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Talked too, lost priviliges (no tv, or not allowed to have something that was important to me)
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I don't feel like it was abuse at all, it was necessary at the time and I learned from it, it's made me a better person because of it
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? no, not at all. I had a great relationship with my parents and still do.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I do have a son and if it called for a spanking, then that's what he would get if the others methods did not resolve the issue
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No, I do not think so. They do rather make a child hate/fear the parents. Not really desirable if you ask me.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Quite often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Mostly by my father, only like 1 or 2 times by my mother.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Bad grades (everything below B), coming late home
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
Not really. It made me hate my father.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Hold me by an arm to make it impossible to run away and hit as hard as he could.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I was 12 or 13, I can't remember the reason though. Probably something school-related
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
In pain, wounded and scared.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Belt, mostly.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes and it wasn't only butt, also my upper legs and face.
11) Did you cry every time?
I tried not to almost every time but couldn't help myself.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
Both. It also felt unfair and made me mad.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I honestly don't think that I ever did. Getting hurt doesn't suddenly make you understand your school subjects.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
As I grow older it was mostly pc/internet ban or housearrest.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
It is definetely abusive. Parent's shouldn't hit their own child.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes. I didn't really forgave my father even until now. He apologized to me for everything as I was around 20, but still. Some wounds cannot heal.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
No, I would never do that. I wouldn't want my own child to hate me.
Nope. As a child I was never spanked. This is odd as well since I was raised in a military family with four other rambunctious kids. We also attended Catholic schools for both primary and secondary grades. You would think that in either environment there would be a culture of corporal punishment. I guess my sibs and I came along when adults in authority were more “enlightened.” For a fact I know that in both environments physical punishment was once common in the past.
OK! So here’s the truly bizarre twist to the story. When I was 17 my boyfriend and I were surfing through some porn sites together under the theme of S&M. We had just read about the role of Marquis de Sade and his murder in the French Revolution in our Poli Sci class so the theme piqued our interest. On the websites we could see plenty of pix of girls that were being bound and spanked. We were laughing and mocking the folks on the websites and then somewhere in the middle of it all we decided to give it a try. So, in the guise of experimentation, I was bound hand and foot, placed on my tummy over a well padded ottoman and secured. My boyfriend lifted my uniform skirt over to expose my bum clad in white bikini panties and then he proceeded to spank me. At first it was just light tapping and playful pats but I grew impatient with this. I demanded he lay in some good whacks. When he became earnest about it I felt the sting from the pain. At first I was repulsed and squirmed to get away, which was impossible since I was tethered to the Ottoman. And then, good lord, holy heavens, I felt myself getting erotically turned on!
I think it’s best to end the story here, lol.
So, if I were to summarize my observations about spanking. I don’t think that it is a good form of behavioral correction for children…or for any living thing for that matter. There a ways to shape behavior that do not involve the shame and humiliation of another.
Now spanking for erotic play…. that’s a whole other subject. I’m no expert so all I can say is that if rocks the boat for you and the boyfriend…. and there are boundaries, and it remains safe without permanent damage…. then, holy smokes, it may be worth a shot!
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? for some, but it actually only prolongs behavior. sadly, my brother has anger issues but it was only because of our abuse that made him milder even though it pops up sometimes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? whenever
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? the principal once, with a ruler to the calves. other than that, my (then single) dad
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? disobedience, anger, backtalking, crying, being slow, lying, hiding
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? only because it was a matter of survival
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? over the knee, bed, chair, couch, table, standing or whatever was available
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? around 13 an i have no clue. they start to blend together
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? numb, burning, stinging. good during winter
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? belt. always a belt or the hand and a spoon to the feet once. for most of my life until recently when i have mostly healed from my PTSD (which my bro still hasn't healed from) i was traumatized by the sound of the belt jingling. it still makes me alert but now i don't start cleaning my room when i hear it
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? clothes. once though i thought i was about to get beat so i literally wore a pillow under my bathrobe. he looked at me weird and i think he put 2 and 2 together and i never did get that spanking bc it must've made him feel bad
11) Did you cry every time? unless it made the beatings worse then yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? both. and anger and fear.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? when he was satisfied
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? pinching, hitting, pushing, grabbing, throwing, punching, kicking, slapping, dragging, psychology (i say this for both my bro and i) he got the worst of it. the pain wasn't the worst for me, it was the fact i was seeing my big bro who was "different" being beat and i could do nothing about it while i watched him thrown into a wall that put a hole in it and it always seemed to be my fault he got hurt in the first place
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? never. screw this
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? or you freaking kidding me
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? no. too close. i'd put them up for adoption or leave them if i did that.
I was abused as a child so take these answers with a grain of salt, since they're not from the mind of someone who was it used to just discipline but other things too
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? It depends on the child, you should always try and talk to them, explain things to them, help them understand what they did wrong and why it's wrong especially the why part. But some kids are just little shits who need a little smack on the bum. (When I say kid I mean like 10+)
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very often
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Dad, yes I did.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Anything from taking a cookie before dinner to getting a low grade on a test.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Not really
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? In my room over my bed
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16, I punched him and walked out.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Hot, stinging, sore, sensetive
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Mainly his hand, sometimes a belt
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Pretty much always bare
11) Did you cry every time? Yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Pain, shame, fear
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? How hard I would cry
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding, less food,
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? Extreme last resort
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I don't think I would be able to after what I went through honestly
@Amy-xo damn your answers really hits home, I was raised pretty much the exact same way :/. have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did (eg the belt)? Follow me back or PM me, would be great if we could just message separately too. thanks hun! xoxo
I don't speak to either of them, there was more than just the spanking and I hope to never see their faces again, I've followed you back :) xx
My life is a bit complicated in this aspect. My step dad abused me during my childhood, but my mother refused to ever lay a hand on me, nor did any other family member. My mom was on and off with the douche bag, but I noticed major differences in my behavior and overall mental/physical health when he wasn't around or when I moved in with my uncle after my mother took him back again years later. Around him I was suicidal, acted out with more aggression towards others and myself, I thought of literal ways to kill this man (I was like 6!), and I declined rapidly in health because I avoided seeing him, including meals and generally leaving my room at all. With my uncle and when the step dad wasn't around, I was energetic, happy, healthy, taking care of myself, following rules, and nurturing others. My sister was spanked as a child, but not "abused" to my extent, and she turned out just as mentally unstable (anxiety, depression, hatred towards the abuser, refusal to leave her room, rebellious). So based on my experiences:
1) No.
2) this was explained better above.
3) the step dad was the abuser both times
4) for me, everything. For my sister, usually things like being messy, being rude, having a smart mouth, and "larger" offenses
5) it HD the opposite effect.
6) With my sister, jut a few spanks while standing, sort of an automatic response to disobedience.
7) I was 10, he was gone for awhile after that, and when he came back I was bigger and stronger than him. My sister was around 7 or 8 because she had to keep contact with him as she was his birth child.
8 ) it wasn't my backside, and I dont want to ask her, so I can't answer this one.
9) anything long within reach, spoon, belt, hand, etc
10) both
11) she did, I didn't
12) painful, and we both agree to having felt humiliated, enraged, and betrayed.
13) they didn't, because we didn't.
14) my mom uses guilt tactics.
15) abuse, both cases.
16) we have anger and trust issues with everything.
17) Never, we have so many resources for behavioral adjustments, it's just lazy and disgusting to rely on pain responses.
Attack me for it all you want, but I really don't care. I'm not going to hit a child because they don't listen to me. I'm a grown ass person, I dont need to use pain to get a child to do as they should. I'm not responding to opinions because most of it will probably be people trying to justify themselves. I dont care to hear it.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Whenever I deserved it, I only got disciplined when I did something I wasn't allowed to.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom and dad and, no.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Disobedience mostly.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? 100%
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? It depended.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 10? I honestly don't remember for sure but I think I was beating up my younger brother, I definitely deserved that one, and I haven't hit him since.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It didn't really hurt, I was more embarrassed about getting caught.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Usually a twig or something.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over my clothes
11) Did you cry every time? Pretended to, it never hurt enough to actually cry.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Embarrassing, it hurt a little but not bad.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? Because I wouldn't do the same thing twice.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? They would give warnings first, if it was something small I'd get a slap on the hand, or a flick on the cheek.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? Necessary discipline, within reason of course.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No, I get along great with my parents always have.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? Yes I would, and no I wouldn't change anything, they didn't abuse me or beat me, they only used it as a last restort and it worked so I will definitely spank my kids if they needed to be spanked.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Although in a moral sense, no, but i still think it is necessary to "tame" kids when push comes to shove.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very often lol.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? My dad usually. I got hit by a belt by my mum once and i hated her
Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Nope. Not even in that dirty sense.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? They spanked me for all sorts of reason like playing in the rain. But they stopped spanking when i turned 12
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
Yeah traumatic
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Spank on the spot
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 10 maybe, i just cried. But my dad cried too soo...
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Lol hurts of course. If i said it feels exciting i would be a masochist.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Hand, belt, cane, anything thin and long
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Both
11) Did you cry every time? Not everytime.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
Hatred.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I never did the same thing again
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Confiscated my money and phone.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
Necessary. If the spankings led to blood and stuff call the police.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Yep. When i grow older and they start punishing me for things they didn't like me doing i start to rebel
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
I wouldn't spank, but i would have a casual talk to them. Unless they commited a major crime then yeah maybe
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Absolutely. I was spanked as a child and all it did was teach me to be respectful and follow the rules. My self-esteem wasn't hurt or any of the other bs excuses I've heard from the anti-spankers.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Anytime I did something severely wrong.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
Both of my parents and my grandparents.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Mouthing off. Being disrespectful to adults. Swearing and then it was followed by either soap or Tabasco on my tongue. In general, being a brat.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
For the most part. I still slipped up occasionally.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
On the spot.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Probably 10? I probably mouthed off.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Over clothes.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It depended on what I did.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I didn't repeat the action for a while, or I got more careful about doing it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Time outs, taking things away.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I do not believe that it is a last resort item. I think that it should be the first form of punishment for a child being just plain disrespectful. I do not see it as abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
As I said before, it's not a last resort in my mind.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Often.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom did the discipline. Nobody else spanked me.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? My mom was pretty lenient. She'd give me chances. If I did the same thing too many times then she'd spank me.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Both.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? About 8. When she told me to clean the bathroom, I got mad.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It stung.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Mostly her hand but she used the belt a few times and a back scratcher (it's common in Asian houses lol).
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over my clothes.
11) Did you cry every time? I forced myself not to.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Embarrassing. And I'd get mad about it too - but then feel bad about getting mad and realize I was wrong haha.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? When I stopped doing said bad thing.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Just strict rules, really.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I feel it's necessary but in moderation and never too hard where it marks the child.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No, I don't believe this.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I will spank them, yes, and I'll do it in the same way as my mom.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? No
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Often. It was allowed in school as well
3) Who did the discipline in your house? My Mother and Grandma Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My 1st grade teacher.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Back talking, swearing, or anything they deemed severe
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? no or I wouldn't have continued to get spankings
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? bent over a knee
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I was probably 6 or 7 and I don't remember the offense
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Hot and sore
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Sticks from the yard but mainly hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? bare assed
11) Did you cry every time? Didn't cry.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Painful Was there any other emotion you felt? Annoyance
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? They determined the amount that would be lesson learned
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Washed my mouth out with soap, sat on my hands, and had to hold my siblings hand until we stopped fighting
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? I think it is an unnecessary form of discipline Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? abuse
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Not with my parents
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? Absolutely not.
If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? So much. Too much to list
Did they use a paddle in scholl
@Jamieboo23 Yes. My first grade teacher had one with holes in it. That way it didn't get slowed down by air resistance
Sounded stingy and painful
How bad it it sting
@Jamieboo23 I never got paddled at school.
Damn I feel bad for who all did
@Jamieboo23 I don't. Those paddles couldn't inflict mass amounts of damage and didn't leave lasting marks. Not saying that kids should get paddled by teachers but I don't think any of the kids that got it have long term damage.
So just alittle sting from it.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? to an extent
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? when i did something serious
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? my dad mostly, no
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? lying, telling their "business", doing things when my friends did them (or being around when they were)
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? lol no, putting your hands on me only makes me want to rebel
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? standing
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I think i was 14, and considering I've been my siblings second mother since ima say 12? i didn't think i deserved it. So my brother was tease my other brother with a toy car, so when he told me i got up and hit him in the head with the car (lmao extreme i know oops) so he's screaming like i killed him and goes and tells my dad, my dad proceeds to try to beat me and (i was sick of the shit) so i started blocking his hits and he got madder... it went left from there. p. s. i wasn't crying just angry
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? if it was my butt, really swollen and welpy
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?, belt, sticks etc...
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? clothes.
11) Did you cry every time? up until that last time^^^ yes. whether it was to make them stop or because it really hurt
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? both, but everyone still knew i got them, angry mostly
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know , but i think theyd say"becasue you didn't do it again"
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? grounding, all the damn time
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? at times, necssary
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently.
16. yes
17. I dont think i will beat my kids, even now, i dont beat my younger siblings (the occasional hit doesn't count) and even my parents have a problem with that so i try not to even touch them. I just see it as abuse when done excessively or when you can see the battle marks, and I've told them that also
1. Spankings are not the best for me of discipline but I believe they work if used appropriately, not too often and not for everything. I find it a little odd to expect your kid not to show any violence or ever use hitting if you spank them, depending on how long the spanks last... some parents stop spanking but continue to hit in other ways.
2. As a child I was spanked pretty frequently because my house was so chaotic if any hell broke lose, regardless if I was to blame or not I would be spanked. It made me confused and I didn't want to put any trust in my parents.
3. My family, my mother's side hadish a very bad relationship but I'm sure if it was a mended one I would have discipline from them too. Mainly physically was disciplined by my mother, but she didn't spank me my father would spank me. My mother had... other... methods.
4. Often times I did not exactly know why I got a spanking. I just know there was a lot of screaming and they were very stressed. Without assessing the situations I was aseemed to be to blame and I would be hit for things my brothers did. I did understand if I talked back I would be hit. I became a pretty angry kid and would talk back even if I expected a hit. Could not have kept it all back. Never disrespectful..
5. Hell the fuck no. I would avoid my parents finding stuff out or manipulate the situation as much as I could. Just hid stuff more for lack of trust.
6. It was immediate and sometimes as I was running away haaha... keep in mind I was a child not a teen. I wasn't hit on my ass as a teen. Other places.
7. Don't remember the last spanking but I was probably Hella angry and crying.
8. Not sure never really thought about the physically pain I was so high strung from my emotions everhwhere. Scared.
9. Belt, shoe, and just hand.
10. Both
11. Not every time, most times.
12. Not really embarrassing but it was very painful as a child. I justill absolutely hated that they had control over my body because it was too invasive for me I felt very controlled and just hated thinking that they could do it whenever even if I thought I did nothing wrong.
13. They didn't notice me learning anything I don't think... I was a shifty kid I only got worse. They only noticed me being more reluctant and careful with what I said and how exactly I said it.
14. Lots of yelling, slapping, beating, etc. Discipline, I don't know.
15. I do not condone hitting your child as much as I was. Sometimes kids deserve a big slap on the face or slap on the ass.
It looks like this is old but came up on my feed
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
No
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Somewhat often
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My parents, maybe my grandparents once or twice.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Defiance mostly or fighting with siblings
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
I stopped at the moment but would do it again later.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
Either, it depended on where we were.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
I think I was 12. Stole something and lied about it.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
It hurt, especially if my dad did it.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Yea, sometimes a spoon.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
I got both
11) Did you cry every time?
Not as I got older.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
It was when I was younger but as I got older not so much. I kind of resented my parents.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I don't think they did.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
Send me to my room.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
I don't think I would use it.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
Probably not.
@AnnonEMouse damn your answers really hit home, I was raised pretty much the exact same way. Have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did? Follow me back or PM me if you can
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes, but they do come with consequences...
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very very very often
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My stepfather. A store clerk in my town.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Anything besides bible study.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? No
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Sometimes both
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 17, got caught packing bags to move out. Of course, the spanking was nowhere near the worst part of that.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Tingly I guess? Sore, stinging
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? He'd use other objects most of the time
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Depends on whether he felt like molesting me that night or not.
11) Did you cry every time? No
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Both. Repressed anger, disappointment in myself
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I'd completely hide whatever I'd sone wrong
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Beating, screaming, molestation, anything.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? In my case, it was abusive. I'd never use it on a child.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? No, I'd never do that. I'd be too scared to turn out like my stepfather.
Hey @ThatInsaneChick, i was raised pretty much exactly the same way and really agree with your opinions here. Have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did? Can you follow me back or PM me, would be great if I could actually just message you separately about this! thanks xo