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1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Nope, not at all
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Pretty often, with a belt
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My father. And sometimes my Abuela. But she used her hand, not the belt.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Pretty much when my dad was mad, it could be anything from us being to loud, not sleeping, or big things like breaking something.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? No.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Bend over the bed
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? About 12, I can't recall what I did wrong.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Sore
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Belt
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over jeans
11) Did you cry every time? Out of frustration and humiliation, yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Embarrassing and painful. Rage. Spite.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? Dunno
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? I got to choose between spank and grounding. They would forget we were grounded and yell at us for not being social, so I chose spanking to get it over with.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I believe in a quick pop on the diaper for little kids. The noise startled them and it sticks better than talking. They can't comprehend complex ideas, so a swat teaches "no". Only until like 3 though.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Maybe, but there was a lot that built that
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? As a last resort and only young kids who can't comprehend talking about why something is wrong. In the moment, never after the fact. And never in anger.
01) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
- Yes, I do.
02) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
- Rarely.
03) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
- My mother, never anyone else.
04) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
- If I did something I was specifically told not to do, if I intentionally destroyed something.
05) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
- Yes, I think so.
06) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
- Either over the knee or standing.
07) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
- I was 5 and I had cut my sister's dress with scissors.
08 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
- Soar and stinging.
09) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
- Just the hand.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
- Usually bare.
11) Did you cry every time?
- Not sure, I didn't during my last spanking though.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
- It was painful, I felt guilt.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
- She talked to me both before and after the spanking.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
- Talking to me sternly, grabbing my ear once in awhile.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
- I think it's necessary discipline. Sometimes words just don't work on children.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
- I don't think so, I understand why I was spanked.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
- To be honest, I would as a last resort. I would probably do what mother did.
@Starchild92 , i actually really agree with most of your opinions, i was raised pretty much the exact same way. However have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did when disciplining you? Follow me back, would be great if we could just message separately too! thanks xoxo
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Not really, kinda depends on the kid. For me, punishment always made me wanna push against my parents more. Later, though cause they fuckin terrified me xD
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
Scattered. I was spanked every time I talked back or argued a lot.
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
My dad and no
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Talking back, arguing with my mom or dad, refusing to do something, or trying to make a point when they don't wanna listen. Usually. Sometimes my dad was drunk (he no longer drinks thank god) or pissy and would snap at like *everything*
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
Like I said earlier, half way. U was usually just terrified to fight back but I didn't.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?
He would chase me (I ran like a bitch xD) usually to my room and spank me.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
Can't remember all too well. Probably when I was 10, and for doing stupid kid things?
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
Like someone wanted to roast some hit dogs over a fire and they decided to use my ass
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
Hand
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
Bare butt and sometimes over underwear.
11) Did you cry every time?
Yes *certified cry baby when I'm scared or mad*
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?
Both and terrorrr
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
I would just avoid them so much they got tired of it.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
W e l p. No idea.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
Still not that older. I don't see it as either.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
Yeah. Anger issues runs in the family, and I'm a natural non truster. I don't know, they scare me a lot in the end when they are mad XD
Damn @RavenTheRaven your answers really hit home to me, I was raised the exact same way. have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did? Follow me back or private message me, would be great if we could just message separately too. thanks hun! xoxo
Well I still live with them, but honestly I'm too closed up (a bit scated) to tell them how I think of what they do xD It's not like I can just say "yeah I don't like how much you yell at me or the fact that you spanked me 3 years ago." :P and mkay I followed you
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? A gentle tap can go a long way.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? I got it on the butt at least once a fortnight.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Mostly mum or nan.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Being cheeky/answering back.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Mostly whilst standing.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I must have been about 4 because I wasn't doing as I was told and had answered back.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Fine as it wasn't hard HARD, just a quick dull type ache.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Just the hand... sometimes a rolled teatowel.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes always.
11) Did you cry every time? No.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Neither really. Was always in private. Was there any other emotion you felt? Other than fed up of being told off, no.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I didn't do it again after that.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Sending me to the 'step'.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? It felt like discipline. I would worry that the next time would hurt more than the last time and want to avoid it.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? A little but not much.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I don't have kids but I would use it in the worst case scenario in the future if they played up.
There is a very bold line between spanking and abuse. I was spanked and never had any trauma, not even a mark on me.
Athletes spank each other on the butts lol, is that abuse?
1.) YES. They never hurt and my parents were never aggressive or angry. It was the intensity of being reminded of their authority that made it effective.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)
Rarely-often lol
3) Who did the discipline in your house?
Parents mainly, sometimes uncle/aunt or grandparents, who watched me.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Very serious ones: stealing, talking back, bad grades / behavior especially at school or towards adults.
5) Was it effective...
Yes. I developed a deep respect for adults and being obedient, well mannered.
6) When your parents spanked you...
Lol we actually laughed when my dad put me over his knee one time, since we saw it in the cartoons. So just standing.
7) What age last spanking?
14ish. My mom was trying to be serious, but I was being goofy and dramatic since I was too old.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
That feeling after you scratch an itch lol
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you?
Belt, plastic hangar, wooden spoon, or hand. Never left a mark and all felt the same as a hand really. Lol at school we would actually joke about what objects our parents spanked us with, to show how bad we had been acting. If you got the spoon, not so bad. Belt? BAD.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare...
Clothes mostly, if wearing shorts then skin.
11) Did you cry every time?
No.
12) Did you find...
Nope. It was actually a token of honor about how good of parents we had.
Peer: "Steal some chips."
11yr old Me: "No way! My mom will destroy me!" via spank
13) How did your parents know...
I stopped doing said behavior. Immediately. No repeats.
14) What other discipline methods
Grounding, time out, push ups lol
15) Opinion..
It did its job. I think people are weak for not spanking, and kids are more disrespectful now than before.
16) Anger. trust...
LOL no. Im glad they cared enough to correct me.
17) If you have children would you..
Last resort? Its just a standard form of discipline. Some actions warrant time outs only, some grounding, others spankings.
Disrespect to adults and bad grades are a guranteed "beat down", as dad would say.
Lol I love my parents XD
1) Yes, I was spanked as a child and even though I hated it, I like to think I grew up alright.
2) Depends on how often I was naughty. I mostly just got spanked when I lied about something or didn't do something I was asked to do.
3) No, only my mum and step-dad who was pretty much my father and the head of the house.
4) Telling lies, not doing what you're told... anything that is naughty.
5) Mostly, but you know... kids will be kids!
6) If they spanked my bum I would be bent over the knee. But my mum has slapped me on the spot and they slapped my hand when I was touching something I shouldn't. That kind of thing.
7) About 12-13. I called my mum a bitch.
8 ) Very saw. Like it was on fire. If I was very naughty then I would get smacked until I couldn't sit down for a week.
9) The slipper was used a lot.
10) When I was younger over my clothes but the older I got, the more I got on my bare bum.
11) I cry at every movie I watch, and I cried every time I was punished!
12) It made me pissed off more than anything.
13) They gave me a huge lecture that bored me the hell out and made me promise not to do it again.
14) I was made to sit on the "Naughty step" basically the bottom stair for a few hours.
15) I think doing it when you don't know 100% that your kid is at fault is wrong. I was blamed a lot for things my stepsister did. But when they refuse to behave and won't listen to reason spanking is the only thing you can do. It's better than raising horrid people
16) It's not something I hold a grudge for, especially now I have a kid of my own. I think the problems I have would have been there whether or not I was spanked.
17) I do spank my son, only when he is getting violent though. When he is very upset and angry the only way to calm him down without having a 5-hour argument is to give him a slap. The first time I did it, it hurt him. But now all I have to do is act like I'm slapping him hard (but being careful not to hurt). It works just as well as the first time because he learnt the lesson that he can't just act like a crazy person and get his way. No means no. If you don't teach your kid that they walk all over you. But some kids don't need it and you have to warn them to behave or they will get a smack.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Not really, I think people should try talking first and I mean really try but sometimes, unfortunately, spanking is the only way. But if your going to spank, do it lightly.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Rarely because I would only be spanked for something very serious, since I was a good girl then I rarely got spanked.
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? I don't remember because I was very little when my parents separated, I haven't talked to him or his side of the family since so mostly it was my mom.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? I don't remember.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes, definitely didn't want to get spanked again.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Just while I was standing.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I don't recall.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? A little sore.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? My mom used her hand when I was younger and a wooden spoon when I was older.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over my clothes thank goodness
11) Did you cry every time? Yes, it hurt
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Embarrassing no because it was done at home, painful yes because it hurt, resentment towards my mother for doing that but it would fade away.
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I didn't do it again.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Yelling at me.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
The rest is on the reply
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Not with me. I wasn't spanked very often so I don't think it damaged my relationship with my mother.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I would try everything else before spanking. I don't think spanking is bad (it depends on the spanking) but I don't think it should be used as a last resort.
1) Yes
2) I wouldn't say often but the way my parents handled it made me not want to do wrong things because they took the time to point out why it was wrong. I realise though how hard headed I can be & I don't think this would have been the case if I wasn't spanked.
3) Only my parents but my older brother would tell me off sometimes
4) Things like lying, stealing (which I'm glad they showed me was wrong because I was very good at it), being horrible to my brothers (and I mean horrible), hurting other people and (at times) answering back. Being a belligerent little brat basically. You know those times where even you can admit you were wrong? Yeah.
5) Yes, very effective. But the explanation made all the difference.
6) I can only remember once or twice being put over the knee. That's total. But it was very effective.
7) I think I was 9 maybe 10 and I either stole something or was very rude to one of my parents friends because I thought he was an idiot.
8) Um... k. Like a stinging sore but it went away within a few minutes.
9) Very occasionally a wooden spoon but mainly an open palm.
10) Always over clothes.
11) Yeah but only about half the time because of the smack most of the time it was because I felt bad.
12) Well, I mean of course it's going to be a bit painful, but mainly guilty, angry or frustrated that I was being punished.
13) I guess they trusted that I had. They explained the situation, they disciplined me and the rest was up to me.
14) Grounding, missing out on treats or on occasion, desserts. Sometimes events or going places. I remember one time I had to help my Grandparents with chores.
15) I think it can be very effective if it's done right and that it's not necessary for every child. But if you're going to aim for not spanking you need to educate yourself on other ways to provide healthy boundaries.
16) In the short term, a bit. Like, when they'd sent me to my room and I was sitting there stewing before they had a chance to come and discipline me (there were 5 kids in my family so a spare moment wasn't something you always had). But after I'd had a chance to think over what I'd done, I wasn't anymore.
17) I think I really want to educate myself more about different discipline methods even though I know a fair bit because I want to be able to teach them good habits while practicing them myself. I have no qualms with smacking my kids if it's called for but I always want to explain to them *why* I/we did.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? rarely I was pretty good
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? my mom and no
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? I honestly don't remember. The last time I was actually spanked was when I beat up a boy at school (not unprovoked). The other times it was actual hitting which I don't think is ok.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? When I was little it got the message across.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? standing
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I already answered this one.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Fine.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Only time she used an object was with the fight at school. Big wooden spoon. It wasn't very hard though.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? clothes
11) Did you cry every time? No
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Not towards the spanking. Towards hitting there was a lot of anger and resentment.
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I didn't do that shit again lol.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? I wouldn't consider it discipline but moreso moderate abuse. She did confiscate my phone a few times though and take away TV, internet, etc.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? SPANKING isn't abuse and I think it's very effective. It's a little smack on the butt that puts just enough fear in to let them know not to do it again. I don't think that should be the first option under any circumstances though. You need to communicate first and say not to do "this or that" and I do think you should tell the kid why.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Not spanking but the other physical retaliations did. You should always be calm when spanking a child.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? Yes. And I would never put my hands on my child because I was angry.
1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Rarely, i always got a warning before getting spanked
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My mom usually lol & it was very rare if my dad did
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Fighting with my sister
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Yes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Depends, it was either holding my hand up and spanking me or one time i had to bend over the tub
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? Can't even remember lol
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? It didn't really hurt bad afterwards and if it did it was only like 5 minutes
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Nope, just with their hand. Sometimes threatened a switch
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes
11) Did you cry every time? Yeah
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Both
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? Because i quit doing what they whipped me for.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I think its fine to spank but some parents take it way to far
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No, my mom is like my best friend
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? yes and not really