What are your thoughts on girls with mostly male friends?

Question

I happen to be one of them, wasn't on purpose, don't have a problem with other women but I find I have a lot of guys as friends with a few female friends.

abigay_ · Accepted Answer

There are usually three kinds of girls that have mostly guy friends.
1) The first group are girls like my mother when she was in college. They are the kind that like to take it and dish it too. They can engage in the roasting and banter that is very common among guy friends. They lack the sensitivity it takes to deal with some (not all) women. They're also very simple-minded and don't assume, play mind games, or relish in drama.
2) The second group of girls enjoy activities that aren't commonly enjoyed among women. They might be really into sports, hunting, fishing, etc... They don't really have fun with other girls. So, they hang out with men
3) This third group of girls are the attention seekers. Think Scarlett O'Hara from Gone with the Wind. They have their guy friends eating out of the palms of their hands, and they enjoy juggling them. Other girls don't like these attention seekers, thus they don't have very many girl friends (also like Scarlett O'Hara). Now, I don't assume every girl who hangs out with guys belongs in this group, which some people do. After careful observation though, I can determine this

Nyx_85 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the girl. If they only have guy friends because they can't get along with women AT ALL there is something wrong with them. They are often the type that claim all women are catty bitches, meanwhile THEY are the catty bitch and other females don't want to be around them. They often like being the center of (male) attention and get weird when another girl is around.
I have about an equal amount of guy and girl friends but I tend to hang out with my guy friends more because we do activities I like. If I want to sit around and chat about crap or do girly shit I'll hang out with one of my gal pals.
I do tend to be less critical regarding male friends though. Like I don't criticize people flat out but certain behaviors bug me. I mean I know both genders are equally offensive but I take more offense when it's coming from my own gender, it that makes sense.

Albina_Lovely · Accepted Answer

There should be a question on what people think of men having mostly girls as friends to see the reactions. I am a girl with many guy friends and i am slightly tomboyish. I do have very close and open minded girl friends but mostly cause they know how to speak their minds and be direct.

I also have a boyfriend who is so caring and doesn't mind me having guys as friends cause he was my friend first before he became my first boyfriend. I just think there are plenty of guys who are fine with the idea as long as you are keeping the others in the friend zone. As my boyfriend said... "As long as one of them doesn't show advancement on my girl then i am totally fine with who you are friends with. I won't be annoyed with who ur friends are because i trust you"

seregunda · Accepted Answer

It depends entirely on the way you speak about being friends with mostly guys - I've known some girls who announce it as a badge of honour or who use this exclusive friendship with boys to denounce girls as bitchy, catty, or just difficult which, surprise surprise, doesn't tend to endear them to the remaining female population. It's not so much that they're friends with guys as it is only guys will tolerate them.

Other girls, who just grew up as 'tomboys' or whatever other reason are easy to separate from the above though. I don't think many girls have an issue with this type.

WalterBlack · Accepted Answer

Most of the time it is not an issue. I could see this easily happen if a girl has hobbies and interests that are typically associated with guys, like playing video games and working on cars. Or the woman may have grown up as the only girl in the family and was surrounded by boys, so that is what she is accustomed to.

Guys should be observant when thinking about dating a woman with a lot of guy friends. In some isolated instances it could be a sign that the woman lacks the social skills or patience to be friends with other women. In other rare situations it could be part of a larger pattern of behavior that suggest she is promiscuous.

osoloco · Accepted Answer

it's all good I have lots of female friends.. the dudes just have to respect the privacy and the relationship boundaries like touching and late calls

cocoaniable · Answer

Don't have any problems with other women either, but we mostly don't share the same interests. I have some female friends and would never want to replace them but besides eating, we don't really have the same interests, which makes it interesting as well. Although sometimes I feel kind of out of place, because I like to talk about e. g. games.
I'm not friends with guys because "I love the attention" or because they give me a "special treatment", 'cause they don't. Less drama and jokes won't be taken as offensive. I don't have any love interest in them either.

misstalia_95 · Answer

I love all the guys threatened by a girl having mostly guy friends. I'm a girl with mostly guy friends and it's great. I by default basically run the group. Plus, whenever we go out, they're like my security. They'll get rid of any guy that tries to hit on me or give me a hard time (I have a boyfriend) and I can be drunk and not worry about getting sexually assaulted. Besides, I find that girls are WAY more flaky than guys. My girl friends are way more likely to cancel on me than my guy friends. I guess the only downside is that I always have to have tampons on me, not like any of them can lend me some.

MaxPower123 · Answer

Plain and simple I don't think I could trust you in a relationship. I'm sure every guy would feel the same way to varying degrees.

1. Most of these guys are friends with you because they want to get with you, they are hoping something will happen.

2. If I as the boyfriend fuck up or piss you off about something you will probably go running to these "guy friends" for comfort instead of female friends. These "guy friends" will then proceed to put the knife in the relationship hoping she will cheat.

3. i would also think your attention whore that needs constant compliments and ego stroking.

4. i would wonder why you don't have many female friends.

5. If I only had female friends and was constantly hanging around them most girls would not be okay with that. Most women could not handle that as the potential for cheating is high which is understandable.

Bleh-___- · Answer

It doesn't matter to me but when a woman has all male friends and on top of that blames the entire female gender for them not being able to get along with a single woman (ie. "I don't get along with women"), they sound catty and stereotypical to me.
You're good lol

godfatherfan · Answer

At least you didn't say "best friends", because that just doesn't happen and all women that think that, sorry not happening. The answer isn't even what I think, it is what is true "You have a bunch of "Friends" that would like to have sex with you if you both were single. Sure guys can be "friendly" with women, but your not really friends. If I was dating that woman, it would NOT be ok for her to hang out with them unless I was there. Sorry, there is zero excuse for either sex to be out with members of the opposite sex without their SO with them. That is just unacceptable. I guarantee if your both single and you offer sex, 99 of 100 of those "friends" are going to take it. That doesn't define "Friend" in my book.

Rianov · Answer

does it really matter just cuz you have friends of the opposite gender doesn't mean anything most of my friends are female but im not gonna go and cheat on my girlfriend so why would i have a negative view of anyone with a lot of opposite gender friends

lyannamormont · Answer

I am one of them and it is normal. Women get me tired with all the gossips, and the talks about makeup, next bikinis, last bikinis, last guy's penis size, how another girl is "jealous" of her, all those uncomfortable fashion things, and their hobby is "shopping"... blah blah like there is nothing else to do in the world or to talk about.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm one of those girls that have mostly guy friends too.. People tend to think that it's because I want a lot of attention from guys and stuff, but really I think it comes down to interests and if I can be myself around them. I can for sure be myself around all my guy friends because they don't care if I'm weird or brutally blunt or have an odd sense of humour. In my experience with girls, however, most of them are extremely petty and judgmental, and they backstab you pretty often... I do have great female friends though, just not as many.

lexilou42 · Answer

While I see many of the guys who have commented here seem to think that there's an ulterior motive to a girl having mainly guy friends, I understand completely. Teenage girls tend to be extremely melodramatic and I don't really enjoy a lot of that. I have a few close female friends and more friends that are guys. While I realize that I may have friendzoned at least one or two of them, they're still willing to be my friend and I appreciate that. Plus, I have a very dark sense of humor and most girls that I know hate it.

BananaPeel · Answer

I'm one of them haha. So what I think of girls with mostly guy friends is that perhaps they are like me! For some reason, most girls just don't like me. I also find many girls my age to say and do things that really turn me off. for example, being incredibly judgmental of other people, and tearing apart other girls that aren't around. I also feel turned off because so many teenage girls say stupid things like "I can't even, just, no, HAHAHA" and then take a bunch of pouting selfies.

I just end up getting along well with guys more often. a bit part of it is is that I usually receive friendliness (or at least decency) from most guys, while I'm ignored and receive nasty looks from other girls. I only have one true female friend, and 2 total that I talk to.

ladsin · Answer

That she's a gal with mostly guy friends.
Honestly I wouldn't care, unless me and her were dating. Then I would be a little insecure and upset, but that would be my own business, there's nothing about a girl being friends with guys that means she is likely to cheat or that the guy friends would pressure her to do so.

Although it would obviously depend on the behavior. If the girl consistently flirts or touches her male/ female friends in an inappropriate way that makes me unhappy then then the relationship wouldn't be good. I wouldn't try to change them, I would just not be involved in that relationship.

natured · Answer

You're not a lone.. see these are my men lol my best friends :P and my boyfriend does not mind at all because he trusts me, when I go out with them my boyfriend feels like i'm safe and secure... and he also gets along with them.
I don't get along with Women, I TRIED but it just doesn't work -_-

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T-Willy18 · Answer

One of my roommates is a girl and I've known her for years. I don't have any feelings for her and I don't plan on trying to sleep with her. Most of her friends are guys. Just saying there's nothing wrong with it and it's a normal thing. If a guy can't get over it, they're probably insecure about themselves lol

jhale · Answer

I am actually very surprised at some of the guys answers. I never knew this could be a problem. I mean all my friends are guys I don't know how it happend but it just did and most of them are in relationships. Besides i dont think there is any sexual tension between me and any of them

StrangerMorrison · Answer

It's cool. Most of my friends are female, and in turn, most of their friends are male, and so on. But none of them would present themselves the way the girl in your picture does. If they did, I would seriously question if she defines platonic friendship the same way I do. I don't agree that guys are less prone to drama (if I did, I'd have more male friends, obviously), guy drama is just different, and gossip in particular is more a matter of maturity than gender. That is certainly an advantage for opposite-sex friendships though. Unless you were blessed with a certain brand of stupidity, it's rather hard to get sucked into a conflict that's completely alien to you. And it's often easier to like someone when you don't delude yourself that you can read their mind and just accept that you'll never fully understand each other. Of course it requires some maturity to pull it off, but every friendship between adults does.

linds34 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with having lots of guy friends. But guys aren't great at separating friendships from relationships, so just be prepared that some of them might want to hook up or date you.

EpicDweeb · Answer

I mean... I'm a guy with mostly female friends. I understand not relating well to most members of the same sex even is you still strongly identify as your own sex. I'd make the assumption that anyone who has more friends of the opposite gender than the same gender is like me. If show wrong so be it, but I'd give people the benefit of the doubt until that point.

fabulouspancakes · Answer

I don't judge as long as she's not the type who puts other women down. Some women are just more "masculine" in certain ways and get along better with guys. However, keep in mind that your friendships may be one-sided. Unfortunately, most guys don't care to have female friends if they don't think something else is going to come of it and can do a 180 degree personality change when rejected.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I'm one of them but that doesn't mean that I don't want to have female friends either. I have girlfriends and I love my girlfriends but considering that I'm ex military and a bit tomboyish, my personality tends to be more conducive to having guy friends.

AshtonHowl · Answer

I don't think it matters, as long as there is honesty on both sides. That is, the guy is letting the girl know about his feelings and the girl is showing the guy he can trust her. It's a little ridiculous for some to expect that trust is a given, but in most cases, it's earned and in this case, most guys get thrown off.

MikaC98 · Answer

Hm, it's not a bad thing. Thank god you're not one of those girls who have a bunch of male friends solely because they find the females "dramatic". Anyway, I don't see what's wrong with having mostly male friends. I have more male friends because I relate to guys a lot more than I relate to girls. At the same time though, I need my girlfriends. Guys can't do the shopping and boi talking like girls can

Mrborkins · Answer

Depends on the situation really! No need for name calling or shaming because it's down to the individuals position. How bout if the shoe on the other foot for example I've a lot of friendships with women it doesn't mean that I am a queer or what not it just means I find it easier to make friends with the opposite sex that being for example like myself a man who has no brothers just sisters find it easier to make friends with women due to the fact I've been brought up around the consistency of my sisters and therefore It's easier making friends with them. So in actuality there's nothing fundamentally wrong about having more friends in the opposite gender!

UncleRayRay · Answer

No special opinion on it. Girls can be really bitchy and nasty and guys tend to be more chill so I get it. Just realize if this trend continues future boyfriends may have issues with you hanging out with your guy "friends" all the time.

Also consider at your age many of the guys even though friendzoned by you probably are interested in you more than you think. It is really hard for a guy and a girl to just be friends usually one of them will have more feelings but not let on to it.

Prof_Don · Answer

I figure either

1) a handful of these male friends have a secret crush on you

2) at least 1-2 of them are your exes

3) you have hooked up with at least 1-2 of them

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Those aren't disqualifying pointers, just something I would have to weigh out.

I'm not a hypocrite, because I have a lot of female friends.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

I just don't really get along with other women. The mind games, the constant need to backstab and one up, the polite rudeness, the false courtesy. Women are mental!

I'm a straight thinking logical person. I say exactly what I mean, and get straight to what I need. I'm more like a man than a woman, so I get along with men better.

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly prefer to have guy friends, just because there can be less gossip. The only thing I have had an issue with is girls getting jealous that you talk to the guy, because they my like that guy and may try and hurt that friendship.

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

Just kidding. Dunno. I think id be curious to know why.

ragequeen · Answer

I'm the same way. I just think people like us get better along with guys, not in a romantic way. I just feel closer to them somehow, and that most of my friends understand me better. All my guy friends have lasted longer than my girlfriends tbh...

I know a lot of girls call us sluts or attention seekers but that's not me at least lol. I don't want their attention, I just wanna be their friend. Guess they are jealous?

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe she just gets along better with guys or just has a lot in common with guys.

I tend to have more close female friends than guy friends at the current moment. Not that I don't get along with guys it's also just happened like that. I tend to be a bit more introverted and spend more time alone and my female friends came by because they always just wanted to talk and hang out.

Eezee · Answer

I find them to be cool... I myself have a lott of girl friends and when i say lot it is on a really big scale. but it all vome downs to what type of guys she chooses as her companion. boys can be really dicks you know right.

chieechuu · Answer

Hanging out with a guy is a kind of less drama... You can be yourself and there will not be any king of show off and moreover guys usually don't have the habit of gossiping... But the way you carry out yourself is purely depends on u and ur guy friends and if any of ur guy friend is trying to get over you it spoils the other relationships... Be careful and have fun girl

Kitzu17 · Answer

Girls with mostly male friends are just regular girls who just choose to have guys as friends! There is no problem there. They just prefer spending time with guys, or maybe the girls where they are from are scarce, or girls just aren't what they really like to befriend.

DanielleMarie98 · Answer

I know some girls find it easier to be friends with guys because they're less drama. I don't think it's a bad thing, when it comes to having a boyfriend it can be difficult having many male friends. Some may feel threatened by it but as long as you let your bf/future boyfriend know where you stand with them, it should end up okay.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Cool, she is often down to earth more so i could care less about her having guy friends. Being friends and being sexually active are two entirely different things.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

First, a satirical answer:  Now my honest answer.. is nonexistent. I don't tend to see them as any different.

Anonymous · Answer

there's probly some at least subconscious flirting going on.
Its also probly a slightly different environment when ever my female flatmates invited me out / I was brought along as a bodyguard.
They talked faster I got more attention than normal yet also less able to relate to a lot of the conversation and they seemed to get a lot more personal. More than I was at the time entirely comfortable talking about.
I guess if you have mostly guy friends you get more attention but less personal conversations?

notallthere98 · Answer

I don't know why anyone would have a problem with it. Friends are friends. Almost all my friends are women. It doesn't mean anything, it's just about who you happen to get along with

tiabell · Answer

i love having guys around me. they aren't petty and don't do extra. they are really honest. i just love my guy friends

rjroy3 · Answer

All depends on the girl and how she is as a person. Because there are girls with a lot of guy friends who are just comfortable around guys. Then there are girls with a lot of guy friends who flirts with every guy. So depends on the girl. Like if it's a 50/50 shot that another one of her guy friends is gonna ask her out today, then she's either supremely hot or she's the 2nd type of girl who flirts with a lot of dudes and thus has a lot of guys around.

king_casanova · Answer

It's a major red flag for me. Especially when a girl says, "I prefer having guy friends. I hate being around girls because they are so much drama." Translation: They are attention seekers that other women can't stand to be around. Some are sociopaths that have orbiting beta males they use as apaths to accomplish their agenda. Nothing wrong with having a few platonic friendships. I have some myself even, but it doesn't involve questionable motives.

Stellastarling · Answer

it's totally ok, if you have guy friends that's great! guys are super fun. there is nothing wrong with having guy friends and also don't let anyone tell you that they all just want to hook up with you cause they don't. they just genuinely like you as a friend and you should keep it that way.

Annewill82 · Answer

I've usually had more guy friends than girls. I never was the type though to have multiple guy friends and being the only girl in the room amongst 5 guys. I'd be uncomfortable. I think it's better for some girls to have male friends as long as there no attractions.

FlorXx · Answer

Nothing wrong at all! I'm the same and to honest male friend are less dramatic than girls, and personally most of my male friends are really honest about stuff, when i do something wrong or so on
Girls kind of never wants to hurt your feeling so they lie, at least that's my experience

DaniHodge · Answer

I personally don't believe the philosophy of "guys have less drama so that's why I'm only friends with them," but I also don't buy into that whole "well if she's only friends with guys then she's a hoe." I think that you just click well with a lot of guys and that's it, no harm in that.

1derSlug · Answer

If your male friends respect the relationship she is having then there shouldn't be any problem. in my eyes, it gives the guy an opportunity to meet some great Bros that can be friends with him AND their female friend. It would be a problem if the male friends had a thing for you or have had pre-existing sexual encounter with the female that it can get entirely bumpy.

LolaB13 · Answer

I'm one of them too. My guy friends are like brothers to me none of that fake friend zone stuff. I would like to have more female friends though. The females I do know are up their boyfriends ass. When I try to make female friends all goes well then they do some backstabbing bs.

3rookee · Answer

I am the same way girls are so much more drama it's so exhausting it's so much easier this way.

ChocEyes1 · Answer

Fuck, these bitter responses are hilarious XD They are the only reason I still log on GaG.

katana96 · Answer

I'm a girl with mostly guy friends and it's good, we get each other and we have each other's back in every way we can. It is true that sometimes someone might have a crush on you but it doesn't mean we are strange Hahahaha

Anonymous · Answer

I mean 3/4 of my best friends are all guys and my boyfriend was fine with it. I have no attraction to any of them they just are better companions. I haven't found a girl that's into the same things as me

blitz968 · Answer

what's it matter who you're friends with? hang out with who you want to. I have a ton of female friends, I don't think it matters

Anonymous · Answer

Usually it is alright. It's not a bad thing. The only negative would be if you are trying to get a boyfriend then he may feel threatened but the gender of your friends really shouldn't matter. I'm a guy that makes friends better with girls and my girlfriend didn't like that. We are ok now but some people get too jealous or threatened.

Iron_Man · Answer

Not interested because they all play the game and they use there male friends as referees to get involved knowing they are on her side. I don't even know these people but somehow they know me and they're involved with everything, always in my business as soon as something goes wrong or there is a minor dispute

capncool · Answer

One of my best friends is a girl. She has female friends too but she tends to be closer with guy friends. Her main reasoning is that most girls tend to be uptight whereas around guys she can be more chill and vulgar (I can literally talk to her like she's one of the guys and she's cool about it).

ChanRin · Answer

She maybe just doesn't feel comfy around girls; personally it's the same for me, girls are too... complicated and always cause problems. but guys are really easy to understand and easy-going. it's a question of taste and I don't think it can tell you something about the person, it's just a mere preference in my opinion

Solanaceae · Answer

I find befriending girls harder than guys. Girls are more likely to stab you in the back, and you always have to watch what you say to them. Guys are more laid back. :)

I don't have much friends, but majority are guys. :)

trashlord · Answer

I'm also one of those girls that has more guy friends than friends that are girls. Mostly because I tend to relate or just get along with them better.
I also have a boyfriend and he's aware of it but doesn't mind so there isn't a problem. a lot of my guy friends are also friends with him too.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I get that. Guys can be much more accepting and friendly than many girls.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd think she gets along better with guys. She's probably more "boy-like". Just like the guys who get along better with women are more girly type of guys. Not necessarily gay, but just more feminine. Nothing wrong with either of them.

Anonymous · Answer

I think they crave male attention and are untrustworthy, they'll never admit it or recognize it in themselves, but they're not worth the bother. For every woman with a queue of male "he's just a friend (s)", there are hundreds of better women who are better options.

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