What are your thoughts on girls with mostly male friends?

[Alpha09]

I happen to be one of them, wasn't on purpose, don't have a problem with other women but I find I have a lot of guys as friends with a few female friends.

[abigay_]

There are usually three kinds of girls that have mostly guy friends.
1) The first group are girls like my mother when she was in college. They are the kind that like to take it and dish it too. They can engage in the roasting and banter that is very common among guy friends. They lack the sensitivity it takes to deal with some (not all) women. They're also very simple-minded and don't assume, play mind games, or relish in drama.
2) The second group of girls enjoy activities that aren't commonly enjoyed among women. They might be really into sports, hunting, fishing, etc... They don't really have fun with other girls. So, they hang out with men
3) This third group of girls are the attention seekers. Think Scarlett O'Hara from Gone with the Wind. They have their guy friends eating out of the palms of their hands, and they enjoy juggling them. Other girls don't like these attention seekers, thus they don't have very many girl friends (also like Scarlett O'Hara). Now, I don't assume every girl who hangs out with guys belongs in this group, which some people do. After careful observation though, I can determine this

[loveshorro]

I'm the first girl 😂

[Nyx_85]

It depends on the girl. If they only have guy friends because they can't get along with women AT ALL there is something wrong with them. They are often the type that claim all women are catty bitches, meanwhile THEY are the catty bitch and other females don't want to be around them. They often like being the center of (male) attention and get weird when another girl is around.
I have about an equal amount of guy and girl friends but I tend to hang out with my guy friends more because we do activities I like. If I want to sit around and chat about crap or do girly shit I'll hang out with one of my gal pals.
I do tend to be less critical regarding male friends though. Like I don't criticize people flat out but certain behaviors bug me. I mean I know both genders are equally offensive but I take more offense when it's coming from my own gender, it that makes sense.

[Albina_Lovely]

There should be a question on what people think of men having mostly girls as friends to see the reactions. I am a girl with many guy friends and i am slightly tomboyish. I do have very close and open minded girl friends but mostly cause they know how to speak their minds and be direct.

I also have a boyfriend who is so caring and doesn't mind me having guys as friends cause he was my friend first before he became my first boyfriend. I just think there are plenty of guys who are fine with the idea as long as you are keeping the others in the friend zone. As my boyfriend said... "As long as one of them doesn't show advancement on my girl then i am totally fine with who you are friends with. I won't be annoyed with who ur friends are because i trust you"

[seregunda]

It depends entirely on the way you speak about being friends with mostly guys - I've known some girls who announce it as a badge of honour or who use this exclusive friendship with boys to denounce girls as bitchy, catty, or just difficult which, surprise surprise, doesn't tend to endear them to the remaining female population. It's not so much that they're friends with guys as it is only guys will tolerate them.

Other girls, who just grew up as 'tomboys' or whatever other reason are easy to separate from the above though. I don't think many girls have an issue with this type.

[WalterBlack]

Most of the time it is not an issue. I could see this easily happen if a girl has hobbies and interests that are typically associated with guys, like playing video games and working on cars. Or the woman may have grown up as the only girl in the family and was surrounded by boys, so that is what she is accustomed to.

Guys should be observant when thinking about dating a woman with a lot of guy friends. In some isolated instances it could be a sign that the woman lacks the social skills or patience to be friends with other women. In other rare situations it could be part of a larger pattern of behavior that suggest she is promiscuous.

[osoloco]

it's all good I have lots of female friends.. the dudes just have to respect the privacy and the relationship boundaries like touching and late calls

[Alpha09]

it's refreshing that someone has a different take on the subject, it's all about boundaries

[osoloco]

yea, who are we to tell you what friends to have and who to talk to? some people just get along better with those of the opposite sex.. like some of my female friends I would get with but because they are with someone or married I respect their space, even if they were single, I'd make my feelings known we would discuss it and move from there I still wouldn't treat them like some girl I met on the street.
it's different when there is an established relationship already weather friends or not

[Alpha09]

thanks, your imput is helpful. I appreciate your maturity on the subject

[cocoaniable]

Don't have any problems with other women either, but we mostly don't share the same interests. I have some female friends and would never want to replace them but besides eating, we don't really have the same interests, which makes it interesting as well. Although sometimes I feel kind of out of place, because I like to talk about e. g. games.
I'm not friends with guys because "I love the attention" or because they give me a "special treatment", 'cause they don't. Less drama and jokes won't be taken as offensive. I don't have any love interest in them either.

[misstalia_95]

I love all the guys threatened by a girl having mostly guy friends. I'm a girl with mostly guy friends and it's great. I by default basically run the group. Plus, whenever we go out, they're like my security. They'll get rid of any guy that tries to hit on me or give me a hard time (I have a boyfriend) and I can be drunk and not worry about getting sexually assaulted. Besides, I find that girls are WAY more flaky than guys. My girl friends are way more likely to cancel on me than my guy friends. I guess the only downside is that I always have to have tampons on me, not like any of them can lend me some.

[MaxPower123]

Plain and simple I don't think I could trust you in a relationship. I'm sure every guy would feel the same way to varying degrees.

1. Most of these guys are friends with you because they want to get with you, they are hoping something will happen.

2. If I as the boyfriend fuck up or piss you off about something you will probably go running to these "guy friends" for comfort instead of female friends. These "guy friends" will then proceed to put the knife in the relationship hoping she will cheat.

3. i would also think your attention whore that needs constant compliments and ego stroking.

4. i would wonder why you don't have many female friends.

5. If I only had female friends and was constantly hanging around them most girls would not be okay with that. Most women could not handle that as the potential for cheating is high which is understandable.

[Alpha09]

you make good points

[Angelbane]

Everything this man said is accurate. I will automatically avoid girls like this.

[Bleh-___-]

It doesn't matter to me but when a woman has all male friends and on top of that blames the entire female gender for them not being able to get along with a single woman (ie. "I don't get along with women"), they sound catty and stereotypical to me.
You're good lol

[godfatherfan]

At least you didn't say "best friends", because that just doesn't happen and all women that think that, sorry not happening. The answer isn't even what I think, it is what is true "You have a bunch of "Friends" that would like to have sex with you if you both were single. Sure guys can be "friendly" with women, but your not really friends. If I was dating that woman, it would NOT be ok for her to hang out with them unless I was there. Sorry, there is zero excuse for either sex to be out with members of the opposite sex without their SO with them. That is just unacceptable. I guarantee if your both single and you offer sex, 99 of 100 of those "friends" are going to take it. That doesn't define "Friend" in my book.

[Rianov]

does it really matter just cuz you have friends of the opposite gender doesn't mean anything most of my friends are female but im not gonna go and cheat on my girlfriend so why would i have a negative view of anyone with a lot of opposite gender friends

[Alpha09]

I like how you think

[lyannamormont]

I am one of them and it is normal. Women get me tired with all the gossips, and the talks about makeup, next bikinis, last bikinis, last guy's penis size, how another girl is "jealous" of her, all those uncomfortable fashion things, and their hobby is "shopping"... blah blah like there is nothing else to do in the world or to talk about.

[ChrisiSt]

same!

[Anonymous]

I'm one of those girls that have mostly guy friends too.. People tend to think that it's because I want a lot of attention from guys and stuff, but really I think it comes down to interests and if I can be myself around them. I can for sure be myself around all my guy friends because they don't care if I'm weird or brutally blunt or have an odd sense of humour. In my experience with girls, however, most of them are extremely petty and judgmental, and they backstab you pretty often... I do have great female friends though, just not as many.

[lexilou42]

While I see many of the guys who have commented here seem to think that there's an ulterior motive to a girl having mainly guy friends, I understand completely. Teenage girls tend to be extremely melodramatic and I don't really enjoy a lot of that. I have a few close female friends and more friends that are guys. While I realize that I may have friendzoned at least one or two of them, they're still willing to be my friend and I appreciate that. Plus, I have a very dark sense of humor and most girls that I know hate it.

[BananaPeel]

I'm one of them haha. So what I think of girls with mostly guy friends is that perhaps they are like me! For some reason, most girls just don't like me. I also find many girls my age to say and do things that really turn me off. for example, being incredibly judgmental of other people, and tearing apart other girls that aren't around. I also feel turned off because so many teenage girls say stupid things like "I can't even, just, no, HAHAHA" and then take a bunch of pouting selfies.

I just end up getting along well with guys more often. a bit part of it is is that I usually receive friendliness (or at least decency) from most guys, while I'm ignored and receive nasty looks from other girls. I only have one true female friend, and 2 total that I talk to.

[ladsin]

That she's a gal with mostly guy friends.
Honestly I wouldn't care, unless me and her were dating. Then I would be a little insecure and upset, but that would be my own business, there's nothing about a girl being friends with guys that means she is likely to cheat or that the guy friends would pressure her to do so.

Although it would obviously depend on the behavior. If the girl consistently flirts or touches her male/ female friends in an inappropriate way that makes me unhappy then then the relationship wouldn't be good. I wouldn't try to change them, I would just not be involved in that relationship.

[natured]

You're not a lone.. see these are my men lol my best friends :P and my boyfriend does not mind at all because he trusts me, when I go out with them my boyfriend feels like i'm safe and secure... and he also gets along with them.
I don't get along with Women, I TRIED but it just doesn't work -_-

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[T-Willy18]

One of my roommates is a girl and I've known her for years. I don't have any feelings for her and I don't plan on trying to sleep with her. Most of her friends are guys. Just saying there's nothing wrong with it and it's a normal thing. If a guy can't get over it, they're probably insecure about themselves lol

[jhale]

I am actually very surprised at some of the guys answers. I never knew this could be a problem. I mean all my friends are guys I don't know how it happend but it just did and most of them are in relationships. Besides i dont think there is any sexual tension between me and any of them

[StrangerMorrison]

It's cool. Most of my friends are female, and in turn, most of their friends are male, and so on. But none of them would present themselves the way the girl in your picture does. If they did, I would seriously question if she defines platonic friendship the same way I do. I don't agree that guys are less prone to drama (if I did, I'd have more male friends, obviously), guy drama is just different, and gossip in particular is more a matter of maturity than gender. That is certainly an advantage for opposite-sex friendships though. Unless you were blessed with a certain brand of stupidity, it's rather hard to get sucked into a conflict that's completely alien to you. And it's often easier to like someone when you don't delude yourself that you can read their mind and just accept that you'll never fully understand each other. Of course it requires some maturity to pull it off, but every friendship between adults does.

[linds34]

There's nothing wrong with having lots of guy friends. But guys aren't great at separating friendships from relationships, so just be prepared that some of them might want to hook up or date you.

[Alpha09]

ik one of them has had feelings in the past but won't date me for other reasons. so that's fine.

[EpicDweeb]

I mean... I'm a guy with mostly female friends. I understand not relating well to most members of the same sex even is you still strongly identify as your own sex. I'd make the assumption that anyone who has more friends of the opposite gender than the same gender is like me. If show wrong so be it, but I'd give people the benefit of the doubt until that point.

[fabulouspancakes]

I don't judge as long as she's not the type who puts other women down. Some women are just more "masculine" in certain ways and get along better with guys. However, keep in mind that your friendships may be one-sided. Unfortunately, most guys don't care to have female friends if they don't think something else is going to come of it and can do a 180 degree personality change when rejected.

[silvermoon84]

I'm one of them but that doesn't mean that I don't want to have female friends either. I have girlfriends and I love my girlfriends but considering that I'm ex military and a bit tomboyish, my personality tends to be more conducive to having guy friends.

[AshtonHowl]

I don't think it matters, as long as there is honesty on both sides. That is, the guy is letting the girl know about his feelings and the girl is showing the guy he can trust her. It's a little ridiculous for some to expect that trust is a given, but in most cases, it's earned and in this case, most guys get thrown off.