How do shy guys try to ask a girl out?

[Zukey7]

or how would they try to hint on that they like you. How would you even know if they like you/

[Killfest400]

It depends on the degree of shyness, really.

1. They will get to know you as a friend. Some do so as a means of trying to get you to fall for them, and some do so as a means of getting to know you better without asking you on a date.

2. They will try to spend time with you. Often, it will be WAY more than they hang out with most other people. For one, this is trying to get you to notice them more. For two, they're probably trying to gauge your actions to see if they can find signs that you're interested in them.

3. They will be red in the face or at a loss for words when talking with you. The absolute last thing they want to do in front of you is screw up or look like an idiot, especially if they're trying to impress you. Some people can laugh off their mistakes, but others take the hit hard.

4. They will compliment you and do things for you, often to a fault. Shy guys are usually neither experienced with dating nor are they fans of casual dating, so they often treat the girl they like as much more special than other people. Some guys in this regard have no backbone, which most girls dislike, but a lot of guys want you to know that you're a special person that they're genuinely interested in rather than just "Girl I slept with #56".

5. It's quite possible that they never ask you out or make a move. Some are just too afraid of rejection to do so. Generally, guys will make some kind of move if they're convinced you are interested in them (again, how sure they have to be depends on the degree of shyness), but it generally has to be a fairly sure "yes" for shy guys to ask you out.

I'm sure there's more, and I'm sure it varies from person to person. To some degree, these are all from personal experience.

[Zukey7]

Thanks this was very descriptive :)

[hockeyrulesforever]

Ok so what if the guy I like does pretty much everything you mentioned except not so much #4... He even asked me to the fireworks. I kinda admitted to him I liked him and he said he already knew. I asked him if he liked me and he said no. I'm so confused!! I don't know what to think because this past year we have spent SO much time together alone. Do you have any advice? thanks!

[hockeyrulesforever]

Ok if the guy does most of the things you wrote and finds out the girl likes him, why would he say

"no" when the girl asks him, "do you like me?" Would he be telling the truth or saying no because it is easier? thnx!

[Killfest400]

That sounds like it would be more out of shyness than out of truth. It is possible that he's just nice and socially awkward, though.

[anon543]

step 1. myself, every time I see you, no matter how bad I'm feeling etc, I smile at you, nod my head a bit, then move on...

step 2. covertly learn about you from peers etc (without letting on that I'm asking about her)

step 3. if single try to spend as much positive time as possible with her

step 4. when she gives me an in "i'm thinking about going to this movie this weekend..." completely screw it up and spend the weekend beating myself up cause my car's in the shop (lol this week)

step 5. feign interest in the movie and going just to go with her.

[Zukey7]

The guy I'm thinking of only does number 1. ha ha oh well

Thanks :D

it was fun reading what you had to say

[Reeses-pieces777]

they tremble, sweaty palms, shaking with nervousness looking into a girl's eyes with eagerness and disdain just to be able to go on a date with her :) it's so cute hehe.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Wow, this is my type of question!

Okay, shy guys with low self esteem are terrible at knowing when a girl likes them, and even then they often find it hard to make a move due to the fear of rejection and mockery from their friends.

Shy guys will often glance at girls they like and if they catch the girl looking back at them they will act embarassed thinking that you know that he is looking at you.

Shy guys will also try to find out if a girl likes them be

fore making a move.

Hope this helps.

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

They will try being friends with you. LEARN TO RECOGNIZE THIS AND MAKE THEM STOP BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!

Seriously, it's not the guy's fault that he ends up in the friend zone. It's girls' fault. So if you know a guy is shy, single, and nervous around you, and all he's trying to do is be your friend, HEADS UP! If you wait for him to make the first move, you might as well wait forever. But if you go and make the first move, you will see EXTREME improvements, and he will become a guy who you can actually be attracted to, rather than someone who you see as just a friend.

[MrZoork]

Yep seen it Happen to a buddy he was her go to guy for help and answers. Yet she never ever looked at him as more then male help. Had I had a chance to talk to her she would had got an ear full form me. I only saw a picture of her had got via cell phone. He wouldn't tell me anything even her name other then it was for her and that's all he would say. The sad fact is this happens because women are looking for the guy to come to them and start things.

[machine]

well first of all women don't help with their view of society that guys should do the chasing. That isn't sounding harsh but shy guys aren't confident in themselves and aren't good and reading any small sign a women puts out there. So in a shorter version help the guy out girls if you like a shy guy or are interested in him make him aware of this to stand any sort of chance.

[pavlove]

Its all about the comfort zone and minimizing the risk so they will try to neutralize any margin of rejection (it would be such a heavy blow to their self esteem) by getting to know you in a non threatening way like texting,talking on the phone, or videochatting are all low-risk ways So like thinks like he never talks about other girls with you. He talks about doing things with you. When you tell him an opinion you have on him he really listens and cares.

[QuirkyErratic]

What TheGoodTheBadTheHOT said is right - I occasionally glance at girls I like and try not to get caught. The girls I'm most quiet around are the ones I like and the ones I think are bimbos, but if a girl I like comes up to talk to me I'd blush and laugh nervously but try and keep the convo going if she wants to as well.

Do keep in mind though, that shy guys are shy for different reasons so of course not all shy guys are the same.

[AussieAussieAussie]

Have a nice convorsation with a guy on MSN or some other chatting program. If he askes you a lot of questions and tries to get to know you or says "lol" alot, he probably has a thing for you.

[MaxAsian9]

there are shy and at the same time popular guys out there too. if they like you, first they gonna approach you through messages or phone, probably? and get to know you better and if they find out you're not completely uninterested, he would find some really lame excuses to meet up. try not to say, 'cool down I'm not gonna eat you' tho, you don't want to embarrass him on a "date"

[doctorwhofan23]

I just look at her smile and then think to myself that there is no chance she would like me and that she is out of my league then I debate on if I should talk to her or not usually I don't.

[Zukey7]

Haha So I guess they wouldn't ask a girl? :(

Then how could a girl know so that she could ask the shy guy?

[doctorwhofan23]

I don't know really. I just have so much fear she won't like me I don't usually bother asking. I would probably break into tears if I got rejected. If you think he likes you, you should talk to him. Give him a hug, they make me feel loved. Ask him to hang out it is too hard for shy guys to ask.

[Zukey7]

Haha okay :D

Aw well I get you, getting rejected is really tough, especially if its someone you like a lot. But don't be so scared, I'm sure any girl you ask will be nice since you're shy, or even better she'll probably like you.:)

[doctorwhofan23]

I hope so but I sometimes am just scared of girls I like.

[hockeyrulesforever]

Would you ever say no if a girl you liked told you they like u? If yes why? thanks!

[doctorwhofan23]

If I liked her I would not say no to her. I would like that actually if she told me she liked me.

[daffodil1988]

If you like her you should.a guy I liked for ages told me he had a crush on me for a long time but thought I was out of his league and I couldn't believe it!! girls don't think that way most of the time :)

[doctorwhofan23]

I know but I get scared.

[darkknight1x]

We usually just hold eye contact for a long time and then hope that you come to us and talk. Then we will ask you out.

[Anonymous]

They dont, they might act nervous around you, eye contact, blush, etc or just act weird takes a real long time to get to know someone who is shy and even longer for them to make a move...

[Biggus_Dickus]

spinning their penis around and around untill they take off and land in an unfortunate event

[OceanLover]

Wtf? get off this site if you can't give serious answers.

[Biggus_Dickus]

Or get a sense of humour ;)

[tboy1011]

You get a sense of humor.. I don't even see why that's funny. I see it as an attempt to be funny.... sorry man ')

[Biggus_Dickus]

Seems you take life to seriously