Shy girls, would you ignore your crush?

Question

Would you ignore your crush in person and even his messages online? Why would you do this if you do?

AzuriteDawn · Accepted Answer

Before I started dating my girlfriend, @RachelleDraws I was very, very shy around her to the point that I found it difficult to reply to her when she asked me a question. I remember she would always ask me for a rubber/eraser and out hands would touch, I really liked that. Later, I found that she was only doing it so that we would touch hands. I took obvious hints that she liked me and 'convinced' myself that she was doing it because she hated me

For example:

Rachelle smiles at me when she catches me looking at her in class, I take that as a fake smile and a 'I don't want anything to do with you'

Rachelle calls me cute, I take that as her thinking of me as a child.
She saw a self portrait of myself and said 'she looks really pretty' I convinced myself that she didn't know that it was me.

I would catch looking at me, this was she thought I was pretty and she had a massive crush on me. When I caught her looking at me she would look away. For some reason thought she hated me and didn't want to look at me.

She said that I was looking 'really nice today'. I took it at face value at first, Then I twisted it into me thinking that she thinks I look ugly, I looked good and I normally don't
Another time she did that i convinced myself that I had done something wrong and that I did something to make her hate me. Then I kept trying to 'make up with her' That made her like me even more.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

IMHO, it has to do with WHY she is attracted to him. If there is no good logical reason, which is what makes people overthink, it's best to either ignore or confront our feelings, which may also mean confessing the harsh truth to the object of our affections. A crush is just a crush. But the issue is, is this because of LOOKS alone, or something more if she does know this person personally for a long time? A complete stranger is not somebody you want to take risk with until you truly understand why you're feeling the way your feeling, and you hope to be friends first before jumping in. Overall, I don't like this modern dating and attraction crap. I had to now put my social media on private for the sake of getting rid of the guys messaging a stranger. To be honest, most do it because of fear of the unknown, unsure who she is crushing, and perhaps she is just not ready for a relationship right now.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i am shy and not confident in myself ( this is only me though, i am not saying all shy girls aren't confident in themselves) so i believe he wouldn't date a girl like me. When i have a crush i also feel like im not good enough for him. So i just admire him from far... when he's not looking.
I would ignore his existence because I dont want him to find out, however if he starts a conversation with me i will respond back. If i do not that will be rude. i ALSO have a condition... when i see my crush I can't stop smiling when im talking... its really obvious too so they usually find out. which is also another reason why I dont want to interact with them.

LunaMay · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's intentional. I wouldn't know how to approach and engage in conversation. I'm always thinking; "oh my god, I sound too immature", "what if he gets offended", "is this something he's interested in talking about", "oh god, I sound like an idiot/fool".

I can strike up a conversation and have it flow naturally with other guys, just not the person that I have a crush on. Ugh.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The introverted ones do... my crush is one, and she has been driving me crazy. Not responding like a normal girl would, sending mixed signals like no other.

Ghen28 · Answer

Yup, but not to play mind games. If I'm ignoring an attractive guy, it's because I'm afraid of rejection. So, I ignore him and eventually move on with my life. UNLESS he shows signs he likes me or talks to me, then I would be more willing to show him signs back.

CHOCOLATECHAITEA · Answer

I've ignored a crush before simply because I didn't know if he would be interested, and not only that he knew I liked him, I believe, but I wasn't sure if I wanted to pursue something with him simply because we "worked" together and other reasons. I was confused of my feelings. And shy but he knew a lot of shit about me which pissed and turned me off.

Nyny96 · Answer

In person, I would Ignore him slightly, by being nonchalant around him. Just so I don't seem to over the top, and so I can get a feel for him/his personality. However, I would not ignore his online messages.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes they would but not only the shy ones! I ignore and try to avoid my crush because he hurt me soo many times and in that way i avoid getting hurt again.

Well if the girl you are asking about is shy with almost all the guys then maybe she likes you but she is shy to talk to you. If she is comfortable around the other guys and she just ignores YOU then sorry my friend but she is not interested...

flowergirlyxo · Answer

Online? Heck no.
In real life? Euhmm, I wouldn't call it ignoring. More like being reserved and catious.
I WILL watch every move. And if he sits in front of me during class, I will watch him and focus on the way his beautiful back muscles move. But approach him? No. Saying hi? No.

ariadneR · Answer

I think it depends on the situation. Maybe she doesn't know what to reply back with, or is afraid she will make a fool of herself, and then her crush will be turned off. Girls tend to overthink and overanalyze everything.

Deydey12345 · Answer

Ignore his msg? Obselutely NOT..  Him in person? Well if he is just starring at me it will intimidate me therefore scare me off and I'm just gonna leave

LittleSally · Answer

Some definitely would. Most probably because they're scared of where that relationship might lead in real life... Maybe they're just not ready for that.

tooshy85 · Answer

If I didn't know he liked me, yes, like right now. I told a guy I like him but he didn't respond, then I freaked and ran off when I saw him lol

rinx91 · Answer

Im typical shy girl, but only dont know what to say when i meet him in person.  if she interested to you she will reply but only take longer cause she think too much just to reply ur text/chat...

Malaya · Answer

No never I would never do that if something is wrong I would tell him but if I broke up with him I would do it quietly I would not tell him

alice55 · Answer

I used to in high school, I was too afraid he would know my crush on him

Anonymous · Answer

yes. it would take persistence from him to gain my trust

Anonymous · Answer

In person yes, online heck no. If person i freeze up so i avoid him to save us from an embarrassing awkward moment

Spiritualj · Answer

Cause he might not having nothing to say yet and she not wanna sound or look stupid to someone she's crushing on

Olivetree16 · Answer

I wouldn't personally ignore him, definitely not on online messages because thats less intimidating than face to face conversation...

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Because they're stupid

Sensei2017 · Answer

nope

michellebrown48 · Answer

Yeah but not a lot

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't ignore him

Revolver_Ocelot · Answer

yeah

sammuku · Answer

Yes she always do

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