When a girl leaves something in your car, is that usually a genuine accident or because she wants to have more contact with you?

[Almosthopelesscase]

I have posted a few questions about the behaviour of a co-worker in recent weeks but last night was odd. We had both been working late (genuinely, on my part at least, and hers too, I think) and so I gave her a lift home. I had never done this before as it is well out of my way and we usually leave at different times anyway. The journey was fine, the conversation flowed well enough. When we got near to where she lived she made a big thing of showing me where she lived, exactly (although I knew) and where people could park (it is on a busy road where parking is often a problem). I stopped nearby and let her out. The conversation was truncated at this point as I was blocking a side street and another vehicle came up behind me so she had to get out quickly so I could move off. That was all fine and nothing out of the ordinary. Anyway, this morning I found her necklace on the passenger seat. I hadn't noticed it last night, probably not having glanced at the seat at all on the remainder of my journey home. She had been wearing this earlier in the day. Do girls take necklaces on and off in the working day usually? Please tell me girls, I need to know how this necklace could have ended up on my car seat accidentally. At first though, I took it at face value then it dawned on me that I had read somewhere that girls/women often do this sort of thing as a way of ensuring further contact. This might sound crazy but I genuinely wonder if she wanted me to drive off, spot the necklace in the seat, turn round, park (in the place she had conveniently told me about) and return it to her where she lived (having conveniently made sure I knew exactly where it was). Am I reading too much into this? Please vote and any opinions about this specific case are very welcome.

Girls do this accidentally all the time

Sometimes this is accidental but often deliberate

Girls know what they are doing when they "accidentally" leave stuff in your car

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Just to complete the acount of what happened. I discreetly returned the necklace to her in the morning at work so that no one else who was around would know. She never text or spoke to me about it during the day, although she could have done, even if just to say thank you, she just didn't mention it at all.

[Pexah]

Sorry this is a long response but if anyone is curious if it's intentional or not it may be worth it.🖤

After work one night I drove a female coworker home as we had both just closed the restaurant. I cannot remember if she drank a bit or why she wasn't driving.. So, I typically stayed there a few nights until she was finished with her part, partially because you don't want to leave one person in the restaurant especially a female. Anyways, after a few times of us closing together I drove her home and she left her keychain w/ all her keys and pepper spray on her seat. We were not in a rush and she even turned around to say bye and thank you before she closed the door (she would've seen it or checked herself probably). Did not realize it until I got home because I was getting my apron from the back.

Now keys are important especially since you can't drive unless you have a backup, this made me believe women think it gives the guy more incentive to return the keys asap. So I text her and tell her 'you left your keys in my car so imma come back and drop them off'. It didn't cross my mind that it was intentional at the time. So she said when I dropped them off 'since we don't work tomorrow we can drink tonight'. I'm 18 at the time and I never had the urge to drink or party, but she was 21 and didn't know I never drank, I never told her I did or didn't. Since her family was inside I ended up just leaving. About a week after another one of my coworkers and her went out and called me at 12pm wondering if I could pick them up. Picked them up ended up getting alcohol and went to her house, drank, then hooked up. Unaware she had a boyfriend, she told me she's on break with her boyfriend but she just hasn't broken up with him yet. As a stupid 18 year old falling for someone, I kept messing around with her until her boyfriend walked in the restaurant 3 weeks afterwards while we were working together and it appeared everything was fine between them. Life is beautiful haha.

[AlphaMale1]

She did this deliberately. Reminds me of how women sometimes leave their underwear in your bedroom or vehicle. They know they did not put them back on when they got dressed. It is their way of marking their territory.

[Anonymous]

The talk you mentioned just sounded like she was making conversation unless there were other signals indicative of interest. Also the fact that she had to hop out quickly tells me she forgot it by complete accident! One thought that makes me wonder though is that it was a necklace, why did she take that off?

[Almosthopelesscase]

Hi, There have been a lot of other indicators in recent weeks but also a lot of times when she has been pretty 'mean' to me (outright rude on a couple of occasions). I don't think there was anything particularly flirty about our conversation in the car and she did have to get out of the car quicker than I think she wanted to which could explain how she came to lose it. I still think it unusual though that she had taken it off. The clasp was joined and fine so it hadn't come undone/broken it had been knowingly removed. It is unlikely if she had lost it that it would conveniently be on the seat, I think as if it had fallen from a pocket whilst getting out there is a much greater chance it would have been on the floor or have fallen out of the car altogether. I also think it is odd that she never said 'thank you' for returning it, surely that is just common decency? It makes me wonder if she was disappointed with the outcome?

[Opinion Owner]

Okay first what are the other signs of interest she's shown? (I only ask because guys tend to take just friendliness as signs of interest often so it's best to be clear on that). There are reasons she may have taken it off for example dress code if she were somewhere professional, irritation to ge skin etc, but it could also potentially be as you mentioned - it's all about context! It doesn't have to drop onto the floor, most things have be dropped in a car have ended up on the passenger seat or in the car door. I think maybe you're reading into it a little too much here. It literally sounds like 50/50 chance it was done on purpose sat this point. Yes she should have said thank you for returning it. Why did you think she didn't? Is there history between you two?

[Almosthopelesscase]

I have known her for over a year and until recently everything was normal between us. Then she started flirting with me, body language indicators are pretty well off the scale, we have periods where there is eye contact going on that is unlike anything I have with any of my other colleagues. She also told me that she always used to be really mean to guys when she was attracted to them. A few weeks ago she started having periods of being 'mean' to me and then being ok. As I am her superior at work there is no way she should have spoken to me the way she did at points. It was this change that first made me wonder. If I had more time I could probably lay out more examples for you but I have the knowledge of how she treated me before and how other women behave to measure what is currently going on against and it is weird. I'm not convinced she is interested though, I wouldn't be surprised if she was just playing a game for attention. We don't have history though.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah well by what you've said there it sounds like she is showing interest, but who is mean to someone they like? Unless they have issues... I'd say you're guess is right with playing games.

[cupidkisses]

Sometimes this is accidental but often deliberate