I remember reading this funny snippet a long time ago (see image). It got me thinking: Do many women tend to overanalyze their men's behavior?
For example, I've noticed a common theme in many of the questions posted by the ladies of G@G: "What does it mean when he says/does XYZ?"
If you read the responses offered by answerers generally and guys especially, you notice a very simple and direct answer or explanation. To me a lot of the time the behavior being described is either of a guy being direct but the asker unnecessarily worries that he might be throwing hints right and left, or he's exhibiting the typical behavior of someone who is nervous or shy. It's often actually very simple in my opinion.
I think this is the result of a lot if women applying similar standards in analyzing women's behavior, but applying it (unnecessarily) to men.
To quote General McMahon from Netflix's War Machine: "Men are imperfect creatures. Left to their own devices all they really wanna do is play with their dicks and eat chicken." I think that there is some truth to that quote.
I think that men can also be guilty of something similar, where many men downplay their women's emotions forgetting that women deal with things differently.
So, here are some of my questions:
For the guys (primarily) : Have you felt that You're with a woman who reads too much into what you say or how you behave?
For the gals (primarily) : Do you sometimes feel that men generally seem insensitive and just can't understand how you feel about something?
I just want to get everyone's thoughts on this. What is your opinion?
I think that girls tend to over analyze more than guys and here's why:
Men tend to have different forms of intimacy than that of girls. Girls are intimate with their friends in a way that guys just aren't. We talk about everything and anything with our best friends--our dreams, future, our crushes/SO/relationships, etc. From what I can tell, guys don't usually do that. They're more of a "do" things together rather than "spend time" together.
Guys behavior and girls behavior tend to differ from each other when they like someone and it's confusing for both sexes. Girls have a lot more grey area I think when it can come to liking a guy and how they show they like a guy. I could text you a lot and that could totally mean I like you more than a friend. I could also text you a lot and it could be because I consider you one of my closest friends. I don't think guys do that--I think they only do that with their SO. And for girls, that's super confusing. And they over-look into it and they want to figure out what your actions mean because our actions don't always mean the same thing as yours. Men are so much more blunt than women usually and I think it makes things complicated in the long run because we all interact with the opposite sex differently.
That doesn't mean men can't over-analyze though. They sure frickin' can.
Do you want to go out with me or not? It is a yes or no answer. Hoooold up? A yes or no answer? Phhhhhh I don't do them sorry, it's a yeah nah, maybe why though? That stupid fulla shoulda just blemin told her his motorcycle poofed out to save her all the worry? Wt?
I do overanalyze men who left me too much room for interpretations like too short answers or extreme mood swings. My current partner on the other is very direct and says everything pretty clearly. Therefore I do not feel the need to analyze anything.
If men start to overanalyze womes they become 100 times worst than womans lol. The difference is that woman do it always but man do it only if they start to doubt about something. Girls first are used to over analyze other girls when they are young, and mens are simply unlucky cause all this overanalyzing style will be transform on them ;)
All women over-analyze men. Women who claim "men are mysterious" are lying to themselves and everyone else. They use that cop-out to justify continuing to be outraged that men don't behave exactly as they think we should, even they know exactly how we will behave because we're grossly simple creatures.
Personally, I think every single instance you denote a gender, you should just goddam stop. You imply ALL men, and ALL women, like It's a concrete difference between them. I know as many men as women that are either side of those roles. I think some PEOPLE are better at being direct than others, and go unheard. I also think some PEOPLE are generally emotionally cold, and simply can't be direct. I also think many PEOPLE tend to have damaged self esteem, and often feel judged, and thus look for thongs that aren't there to justify it. PEOPLE. Understand the type of person you are communicating with, and adjust yourself.
Females think but it also bashes against their feels. So any detail that causes a feel to conflict with thoughts that caused other feels... suddenly has her questioning simple thought... because it just doesn't feeeeeeeeel right.
That's why women will actually fight for something that is wrong because she feels it's right. Defending something wrong, because it feels good.
Offended when they really shouldn't be... because feelings.
I am trying to not have this problem. I have read have a new husband by Friday And love and respect. .. and come to realize that i just need to work on making myself happy and stop worrying about what others are thinking about.
Yes women over analyze. Some times men do too. And often feelings of insecurity make it worse. The best thing is to take your partner at face value and open lines of communication.
See I used to think like this, but considering all the hyperanalysis done by men on here I'm not so sure. Questions like "she moved her arm onto the table when I was talking to her, does she like me?" are so common and 8/10 written by men.
I'm not saying that men don't do that. I was just saying that it seems to me that women tend to do that more. Guys who do that are usually still in the current phase; worried that they would do a wrong move that would room their chances. However, once they're in an established relationship, it's no longer available issue. I personally think that I noticed that feeling tends to longer with women through their relationship far more readily than men.
Yes, some women do this. Some men also regarding women's behavior. That's why it's good to be able to get a reality check from a friend or someone else you trust. I do this for some people.
That is true for both men and women, and you may be right that it's a result of personal insecurity. I didn't say that men don't do that, it's just that I think that they tend to do it less.
As for what you said about a observing a guy's behavior, this actually relates to my point. Some women observe their men's behavior but evaluate it using the same metric they evaluate that if other women; hence most men will seem like they act strange because they don't behave like most women. I'm sure the opposite can be true if roles are reversed, but I'm not sure how ornament that is. This is just based on my personal observations and experiences, and a lot of guys (and I guess a lot of women) agree with me.
Absolutely! That is the case with everyone. I'm just saying that many women overanalyze men's behavior. Men do that too, but not at the same level of frequency.
Some women just need to think simple. It is what it is. If a men says "it sure is cold outside" it simply means it's cold outside not something weird we think up... I think those who over analyze tend to have some weird thoughts because in some cases the men hasn't even thought about what she's thinking he meant when he said what he said... lol
it is natural as we are able to multitasks, wouldn't it have been simple if her husband had shared his day with her over dinner to relieve her concerns?
Not be rude, but you analyze with your hearts. That's not multitasking, that, making assumptions. (As a side note anyway, it is psychologically impossible to multitask however, you can switch between to differwnt tasks at once. And no rubbing your head and pating you stomach is not an example of multitasking as each hand is controlled by the dufferent hemispheres of the brain) You shouldn't expect us to be forthcoming about everything we do in a relationship, in the same sense that children lie to parents.
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