I'm actually torn on this. I don't really cuss around other people, though I cuss like a sailor when I'm alone yelling at faulty equipment or I drop half of my supper on the floor. If I'm in public and something causes me to let out a vulgar word you should start running, because as stoic as I am if something makes me lose my composure around other people it's something to be afraid of. If I start cussing at you because I'm mad you better start running because I'm about to the point where things will turn ugly.
There are two kinds of offensive language. Profanity, which is treating the sacred with disrespect or even with open contempt, is always offensive regardless of whether it comes from a guy or a gal.
Vulgarity, which is the most common form that you hear on the street (the seven words you can't say on TV, for instance), is born of elitism.
It actually offends me that vulgar words are considered offensive, and that vulgarity itself is considered a bad thing. Vulgar literally means "of the masses" so when you call something vulgar you're saying "that's how lowly commoners talk," as though you're above them.
In old England if a man hired someone to clean his stable on the first day he might say something like "once you get that shit loaded up in your cart I'll show you where I want you to dump it." In that context shit was no more offensive than manure is to us.
A groom might have said to his bride on their wedding night that they can finally fuck, and it was no more offensive as if he would have said "have sex."
Then various conquerors came in. The Normans, the Saxons, etc. The local language was considered profane and the aristocracy set up by the conquerors didn't want to hear it. Some parts of the language survived, it's why English is one of the few, if not the only language to have names for meat different than the animal it comes from (cow->beef, pig->pork, etc.), but other words were marked as offensive.
On the other hand, people throwing out words they know we've been conditioned to see as offensive and not caring that it offends anyone or worse, throwing them out because they offend people are being disrespectful, so my opinion on vulgarity is actually split.
When flirting, the art of it is to imply the words without actually saying them; but without sounding like a 5th grader in regards to your election of euphemisms.
"It's surf and turf, hun! Bring the turf, I'll bring the surf!"
"I want you to dip in my hot tub until I have to waddle like a duck!"
"I'm still learning how to hide my teeth..." *wink*
"I hope you have a Frankenstein lab. To please me, you'll have to jolt me until I need my brain reinserted."
When frustrated with life: "Featherplucker!"
Guy: "What's wrong, hun?" Gal: "Pescouenicken said they're pursuing that warrant!" Guy: "How long you facing?" Gal: "Three months." Guy: "Wanna move up plans?" Gal: "I'm gonna make like Trump and drain your swamp." Guy: "Better hurry before the feds come for you." Gal: "Aw spit!"
When attacked by chickens: "What the cluck?"
If your friend Charlie is getting a raw deal: "For Chuck's sake!"
If alone with your man, you don't need dirty language at all. Let your bare nipples do the talking.
I don't trust a person that won't say what they honestly think, and if that includes some words, to make a point, why is that a problem? Un-ladylike? Whatever!! I think a lot of ladies have a lot to say, and maybe most are holding back their REAL words, to stay politically correct! I don't trust people that can't occasionally say something that is considered 'cursing'. If the is all proper, and 'innocent' in public, but later, when making love she is F&*$ Me! and #**% this!, and so on, I can't trust that duality. Jeckel and Hyde!!!
I wouldn't say bother is the word, more like it's not what I'm use to. So, it's just different. I believe there's a time and a place for everything, so I understand if a person (man or woman) swears because they are upset, it happens. However, if every other word in a normal conversation is a swear word, then that can be bad and you start to wonder if they know any other words or why they feel it's okay to swear like that.
I'll give an example: There's this lady that works at our local grocery store and she's maybe late 40's (maybe older, I'm not good with age). Anyway, she swears all the time at her work place "F this" or "F that" and it's amazing that she say's the F word so much at work but hasn't apparently gotten in trouble for it. I think it's wrong to do that at work because that's not the appropriate place to do that. Like I said, there's a time and place for everything.
It doesn't bother me if anyone curses, male or female. So long as it is not abusive cursing. Also, I don't like to see people cursing in a professional environment. That just shows immaturity. I don't believe that cursing is a sign of a a persons limited vocabulary. I believe that it is needed! But there is a time and place for it. As their is for everything.
Here are the different types of cursing:
Abusive swearing: Intended to offend, intimidate or otherwise cause emotional or psychological harm.
Cathartic swearing: Used in response to pain or misfortune.
Dysphemistic swearing: Used to convey that the speaker thinks negatively of the subject matter, and to make the listener do the same.
Emphatic swearing: Intended to draw additional attention to what is considered to be worth paying attention to.
Idiomatic swearing: Used for no other particular purpose, but as a sign that the conversation and relationship between speaker and listener is informal.
Yea but depending on the girls looks i say, surprisingly when a girl looks like the girl on your pfp, you know pretty, looks calm, innocent it just looks adorable when they get all fiesty and they curse now if its a ratchet girl that looks like a total bitch and trying to act all ghetto and hard then its just cringy and unattractive
Nah its not cause the looks change the way of perspective when you see someone curse, usually you would be shocked if an innocent looking person killed someone wouldn't you, same here but instead of it being shocking its more adorable to see a innocent girl curse than one of those ghetto wannabes cursing, its how i look at it tho
I curse like a fucking pirate captain! LOL. So the answer is no. It does not bother me when girls curse a lot because I'm a girl that curses... a lot. However, I curse within reason. (i. e angry, argument, etc). I think before I speak. I do think one should be mindful of their environment and the people around them before dropping numerous F-bombs.
Anything other than a casual "fuck" is too much for me. Swearing really turns me off, especially when they are talking about their husband. You husband is supposed to be one of your closest friends and most respected individuals who are are supposed to be close to your heart. Why would you swear or call them names, even if you are angry? I do not want to do that to my wifeif I have one. It might hurt her and her doing the same might hurt me!
Since when has cursing become a good thing? There are always other words to express your situation/opinion other than those. Hearing cursing words from others is quite grating on my ears and I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this. The occssional slip of the tongue is fine but those who make a habit of it are simply unrefined.
It isn't necessarily a bad thing but people who curse a lot tend to not have much to say. For me it's cool to drop a couple "F" Bombs to make whatever the fuck you wanna say sound a little better. But using too much just makes you sound like an idiot. Ever watch a Gangster movie where the Thugs keep saying "Fuck" in 93% of there sentences? That's basically how it sounds.
there's a time and a moment for everything, just like there's times when cursing like a sailor will get you kicked out of the place really fast. me, personally, i don't mind cursing that much. i would rather someone saying "fuck" or "shit" when i told that person bad news rather than having one "oh, at least it wasn't... [insert other bad stuff here]"
Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Be creative with it too, like say "shut the shit up". Couldn't give a fuck whether it's a girl or a guy, makes no difference to me.
There is this one guy I know who instead of saying "erm" when he's thinking what to say he'll say "fuckiiiin", that's pretty annoying.
It depends on the setting and reason. I don't go dropping the F-bomb for every darn thing like when I stub my toe, get cut off when driving or when I'm running late for something. I will tell a person off when necessary and I will occasionally swear when with friends to emphasize my expression towards something. I know how to filter myself is what I'm saying.
I would not do it in front of my kids, funny enough I didn't curse when I was younger and even though I didn't hate those who did, I didn't like it for myself. But now I'm just like, fuck, shit, bitch and so on. It's kill everyone or tell them to fuck off, chose wisely because if I kill you, you're dead.
I swear to god, if I ever saw some asshole, shouting god damn profane shit, I’d loose my fucking mind, so if you go anywhere around me, be sure to keep things fucking pg or I’ll loose my shit and then I’ll start bitching, so don’t be a fucking dick, or a prick because that shit pisses me the fuck off. Fuckity fuck. (I’m not being serious). I’m fine with it, as long as it isn’t swearing like 6th graders, when their mom isn’t home.
The more you cuss, the less weight it holds. My friend cusses every second, I honestly stopped hanging with him and didn't care about what he was cussing at. But then I have friends who cuss less and I'm actually curious on why they are cussing, like a dog lol. Just me things I guess :)
I am no more bothered by it when women do than when men do However some people just apply such things to their language with indifference and that gets tiresome A properly placed profanity serves to create an emotional emphasis using them indiscriminately takes away their function in language
If you say "That fucking sucks" I'm generally okay with that. If you're cursing AT me (Fuck you, you're a piece of shit) then no. Part of relationships is you have to be able to communicate and express yourself like an adult.
It depends on the situation, and the time/place... if it's somewhere casual like a party, then fine. But I wouldn't want you doing it at a church, or a wedding, or somewhere with a lot of children. Plus, like a previous guy said, I don't like it when you curse AT me.
Generally I don't mind swear words, but in the wrong situations or in excess it's just a bit much.
My girlfriend curses like a sailor, I love her more than the universe. She is just like me when I play video games. We curse like a motherfucker at everything and its wonderful. x3
No more than when anyone else curses. It depends on the setting- if she does it around my kids, it would be a dealbreaker. If she does it as part of a colorful conversation when only adults are present to illustrate her feelings at the time, it's OK.
I don’t curse excessively, usually when I’m mad/frustrated, but never at people. So i think it depends on the scenario. In general, if you swear a lot at people and for no reason, then yes. Don’t do that.
I do use foul language at times but honestly, NO ONE should curse excessively. Neither men, nor women. My ex used to curse like a sailor and use every derogatory term possible whenever he talked to me and I absolutely hated that.
No not at all. The word “fuck” is such an expressive word and can’t be matched by many other words. Sometimes the only way to say exactly what you are feeling is to curse!
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Im a woman and for me is a turn off if a lady curses too much and regularly. That is what suppsoe to separate us from men. In a men is like more common to hear them cursing something in their biological DNA, but a woma cursing not only does it sound a bit vulgar but it is not nice to see one doing it, it is not like a lady like attitude. We are different from men in that deparment.
It depends on how common the swearing is. I have a few friends that will occasionally curse if there is something that really irritates her or if something big happens and It dosen't bother me at all. If the way they talked was pretty much having every fifth word a curse then, well I doubt we would have ever talked enough to become friends in the first place.
Any random girls cursing someone on the street... Well I don't care Any random girls cursing me on the street... Well fcuk her My female friends cursing someone. during our meet or chat... They are usually careful, and do not use curse words if there are others near by... personally I feel they trust me and are comfortable with me and therefore they don't mind using the curse words on others when they are with me
It's not socially unacceptable where I live; the majority of people -even my parents and grandparents - swear. If someone doesn't swear it is a nice change and would likely encourage you to improve your own behaviour. And there's no argument that this wouldn't be a good thing. But it's not a requirement in my opinion.
lol I remember starting high school and basically never cursing (and wanting to never curse), now I curse here and there, but as someone else said, when necessary, I do know more words than that haha.
I think it's ok sometimes but on a regular basis it's unnecessary. My coworkers don't even know that I curse. Because I have to be really mad to do so.
I don’t mind when people swear, but if it’s the only way they know how to express their feeling and thoughts (by swearing after every word) , then I’d question the range of their vocabulary.
Words themselves do not have meaning. They are simply sounds. Meaning is assigned by societies that speak the language and interpreted by the individual.
When it bothers me is when she swears to the point beyond needed. Like if she's swearing just for the sake of swearing when other words would actually work better, then it's only irritating, not intimidating
I cuss a lot myself, but it depends on how it's said. If they swear so much where they act like they just learned swear words or sound like they have tourettes then it gets annoying.
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