Why are Women Attracted to Assholes?

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hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Women are attracted to assholes because many of them don't think. its no different then the guy who is attracted to the slutty girl. He goes after her because his basic instinct is to have sex, she provides that. For a woman her instinct is to go after a guy who seems like he is in a position of power.

Now both of these drives are primitive and quite frankly, are not particularly accurate to the actual situation so most of us have learned to move past those knee jerk reactions. However for some reason women and this does not apply to all women obviously (seems to be a generational cycle as women move towards the asshole until enough of them do it and the next generation sees how idiotically stupid these women are and revert back to going after good guys), but many, do not actually think this through. Now for guys this is what we call thinking with your dick, but in the case of women, they are just thinking with their vagina's.

So they go after a guy who is an asshole because an asshole doesn't care about others which gives a vague appearance of status and authority (even though it stems from insecurity i. e. its a bluff), he also is willing to push her around which she, because she doesn't think it through, sees as again, authoritative (when in reality, he is pushing her around this way because he has so little authority, a leader doesn't need to yell or threaten or insult, he commands respect by being respectful to others and respecting himself (usually in the form of doing as he says he will, as the old saying goes, "speak quietly an carry a big stick" that is to say, he doesn't make threats, he just says what he is going to do, and then he does it).

So instead of thinking things through she goes with this guy and repeats this cycle over and over again until it finally sinks in that the knee jerk reaction may have been effective when we where primates but doesn't really work in the modern era (usually at this point its too late and she has missed many opportunities at happy and healthy relationships).

Then instead of actually owning her actions, admitting to her stupid mistakes and trying to not fall into the same trap again while warning others to not make the same mistakes she did, she will inevitably make up excuse after excuse for the behavior whether it be by proclaiming their are no good men left or that all men are assholes or by claiming its social conditionings fault and clearly she cannot be held accountable for her actions, you know, like every other adult on the planet.

This then prevents the next generation or other women from gaining that useful insight and thus forces them to then learn this lesson the hard way ensuring that the cycle continues until enough women make these idiotic decisions that its impossible not to see how stupid it was thus leading the next generation of women to do a 180 and go after guys who actually have character so that they don't end up either as single mothers, or old women desperately trying to latch onto any man that will have them.

Now to be fair this happens to men, as I alluded to, the difference is men are not allowed to not accept responsibility for their actions. When he tries to make a slut a house wife (as the saying goes), and she cheats on him, he will have been warned by every guy he knows, and this will just hammer home that he should have listened and thought it through instead of thinking with his dick. This is also true with the usual axiom of "don't stick your dick in crazy".

That's why its not as common with men as it is with women, women are more likely to make excuses and not learn from the mistake expecting the world to change for them while men not only don't do this but also try to warn each other of the various pitfalls of such choices ensuring that the next generation knows better.

TheRealQuestion · Accepted Answer

This may be partly accurate, but i tend to think its more about confidence because guys that are "A**holes" simply dont care what others think, and this attitude makes them appear more confident.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

That's part of it. I agree. I was told that same BS lie too and I learned since elementary school that it's not a sign of interest, its a sign of emotional abuse and delinquency! Yes, guys immaturely may not always know how they feel. But that's like the Tsundere girls in Japanese terms who are mean to guys they like. It's not cool or alright. The other 30% is daddy issues and a reflection of the female role model in their lives, AND because we know that men with confidence, if not for anybody is attractive. Those guys don't have to answer to anybody. While the attitude is right, the mentality is wrong. Date guys that are confident and cares about what you think, yes, but do NOT date a guy who abuses you and then you complain about it. Now your just asking for heartache.

weasley8 · Accepted Answer

From my experience, they're usually nice to me and mean to everyone else. And then I find out that they're a jerk to everyone else and lose interest. I don't know why anyone would be attracted to someone who is mean to them.

tenukitanuki · Answer

We're all just assholes but who has been keeping score? Women test their ideas of men and men test their ideas of women. That's why great mother-in-laws or father-in-laws are truly terrifying to ones ego.

Confidence is attractive. Guys sometimes also find weakness attractive, like a wounded gazelle. Ladies ever sleep with an "uglier" man because of the feeling you get from them of appreciation of the great time you both shared? Yeah, right?

chc0009 · Answer

They are, but I'm not bitter about being single nor am I a "nice guy." I am no angel, I have my flaws. I just enjoy my life, with or without a woman.

And if I don't get a woman, so be it. I'm just going to make money for myself and I am not sharing any of it.

Love2Jackit · Answer

No it really means they are playing hard 2 get. Women always want what can't have. Along with when they get what they can't have. Then they don't want it anymore. By a man being an asshole. That makes him always hard 2 tame.

Loadedgamer · Answer

Maybe it’s because your preferences are too high. Most girls and women who look physically attractive go for other attractive guys and would give a fuck less about their personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao you're funny. No, some stupid saying they tell you in elementary school certainly doesn't decide over who you're attracted to. Assholes are not only mean to you, but to everyone except their asshole friends. Actually girls who are willing to have sex with them are the only exception where they are not mean.

FakeName123 · Answer

Because hypergamy. Women are attracted to men that they see above them. Being an asshole essentially says "I don't need you in my life, but I can have you. You need to work for my company."

elizamichale1 · Answer

well normally in the start they know how to attract a girl towards them and we fall to them but later we get to know the real them and things start to shift otherwise

DamnSam · Answer

Most of them have a father issue and search for a replacement in their head but they go to the same personalitys like their father was... assholes

8/10 are like that...

I love and hate sometimes my knowledge about psychology

Jackblue · Answer

Number C totally, I am the Supreme Gentleman Elliot Rodger and all you blond girls should come worship me and stop dating those obnoxious douches. What is an obnoxious douche you ask, well it is any guy who isn't me.

No_Archons · Answer

Girls are attracted to assholes because girls are attracted to resources, and if your living in a shitty society, being an asshole gets you more resources. In a healthy society it is not this way, and healthy women don't act this way.

Anonymous · Answer

women are not attracted to those, it is a misunderstanding. the truth is they like good guys who act bad, but that is purely at the immature stages, like in high school or maybe early twenties, maybe because they need excitment, maybe because they are adventurous then, but then they live and learn, sometimes they end up with those guys because they become mature with time, but at a certain point women would look for the responsible person, the reliable good guy.

Whizzy83 · Answer

I agree Mika! I’m handsome and occasionally get a way with things at work others would not. Sex topos fitting bad language and my personal favorite!! Supporting TRUMP!!!

ROCKS128 · Answer

Disagree (you missed it)! Coz it looks cool and girls are not like that, but may be want to become.

eMaNnUeL · Answer

Those choices just show how much of a salty femcel you are

Kravmaga_- · Answer

It depends on the woman , i think some girls just like nice guys lol  hello dom hahah

smartyanne · Answer

You put agree twice silly

Dtegesd123 · Answer

Lol I dont think this happens after highschool.

TohhhruAi · Answer

Pictures like that are dumb honestly In my opinion

Nahid1707 · Answer

Girls fall for words

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