Why do woman always like men who are assholes?

[Anonymous]

Apologies for the language, but seriously why do women like men who are assholes or jackasses?

I'm a 34 year old man (turning 35 soon), never been married. Been single for almost a decade!!

First of all I'm an introvert, it takes a lot of effort for me to finally make up the courage to walk up to a girl to strike a conversation. Every single girl I've ever been interested in is either already married or has a boyfriend. And in most cases (like 4/5) the girls were dating men who had absolutely no clue what their true worth was, treated them bad, cheat on them, physical abuse in some cases and what not.

I've never ever hurt a girl or ever disrespected her. I've never been the kind of guy who talks about how his girl gives him a good head while drinking beer with his mates. I genuinely respect women. I don't even make them uncomfortable by trying to kiss them on a first date coz i worry if i might give them an impression that I'm some kind of perv or something.

I know, I'm no Ryan Gosling but I'm not a bad person either, like I know that the girl who'll finally walk into my life will forever be loved and I can't even think of breaking someone's heart. But it's been so long since I've had... Lets say... 'my girl' give me hug and say 'I love you' at the end of the day that I've started to believe that there's no way its ever gonna happen.

I have a great job, have plenty of time during the weekends which I use for plenty of travel, great parents a loving kid sister but I sometimes wish even I had the good fortune of these jackasses and assholes... At least I'd have someone i can call 'My significant Other'.

[JayCasper777]

assholes go for what they want.
women respond to it.
you said your an introvert. this is unattractive in a man. women want power and respect in a man. they see this in assholes (even if its just bullshit. somehow its what they see).
you have to be more sure of yourself and confident around others and by yourself.
to get a girl you have to be a more then a man. you gotta be one of the best men. its just how our species works.
get in shape. build your confidence in yourself. women will start coming. you don't have to be an asshole. but you can't be a nice guy. women hate nice guys.

[Anonymous]

i agree with you , but not at all because some girl choose right person too
and some girl crazy on look name fame & money
after time passed she realize that none give me peace of mind and make me happy
nothing is permanent sex, money , look all are just lure and for few time

only love can give peace and give a reason to live a life , love can give you happiness and sadness (🚫in my opinion happiness and sadness are synonyms because they are look like wheel one come one go )

[Asker]

I know it sounds generalized but I'm only referring to most of my personal experiences.

[little_bird1]

Women like man with confidence and good sense of humor. Being too careful, too respectful and uptight gives us the impression that you're trying too hard, and that's boring. You know that song "girls just wanna have fun"?, well yes that's very much true. We want a confident, funny and spontaneous guy who's gonna take us on an adventure and who's not afraid to steal a kiss on a first date. ;)

[little_bird1]

Sadly, assholes are like that, lol. But they're not assholes from the start, they just show their true assholy side later. No women would date a guy knowing that he's an asshole.

[Asker]

I have a pretty kickass sense of humor. I've taken up standups at open mic shows and pretty much brought the building down :) as far as adventure is concerned... I've been a biker since i was sixteen. I've done solo rides across the country multi times and even ridden to neighboring countries.

I should have mentioned this in the question but women like me, they like hanging out with me it's just that the one's that i fall for are already taken and taken by assholes!!

[Aakash024]

I can understand your feelings

[Asker]

Glad to hear!! :)

[Aakash024]

Yeah ☺

[freakylikeme]

cause we do that

[Asker]

There you go...

[freakylikeme]

don't worry bought it