Guys, what do you think of girls that seek attention?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Some guys don't realise that she's seeking attention. Some think she's confident and outgoing for doing so. What firstly goes through you're mind when you realise that she seeks it? I always find that guys get driven away when they see that a girl seeks attention and is always fishing around for it, always wants to be the leader of the pack or group, always wants to be in the spotlight or does stuff to get attention drawn to her...

[Anonymous]

Depends qhat you mean by "seeks attention". There are good ways to get attention and bad ways.
Attention at all costs is bad!
I had a girl when i was younger come up and talk to me. It was so out of the blue i assumed she was playing me (she may have been) either way i was on my guard and responded in a very guarded way so i didn't outwardly show interest. She ended up walking away and norhing more was said but a week later seemingly out of the blue she accused me of grabbing her crotch. Obviously i wouldn't do something like that but to this day i don't know whwther ahe was playing a game with me and i didn't take the bait and that made her mad. Or if she genuinely had interest, i coulsn't tell, she felt rejected and did it to gwt even.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Attention seeking can be good sometimes, it isn't always bad. I don't think the girl that you're speaking of in you're story was seeking attention. Seems like she was Just trying to show her Interest in you. But when you didn't reciprocate and you rejected her she got upset and offended, and she probably wanted you to feel hurt too. Basically she Just took her revenge that's all.

Attention seeking like talking a lot and having so much to say about stuff that goes on in her life. Basically everything that's happening to her is what I mean. Always wanting the guy to listen to her and stay with her. Always wanting the guy to take notice of her or give her his time Instead of Ignoring her.

[xkildy]

I would not date a YouTuber I would not date a person that is addicted to showing themselves off on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram would not date a woman who loves to expose herself to the entire world. That if she asked me into the bedroom I would not say no. 😁😁😁

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol what? So you'd Just use her for sex? There are a lot of show offs on social media, but seeking attention is different...

[coolbreeze]

They seek attention to make themselves feel good and to boost their self esteem up even more.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Do you see it as a bad thing or a good thing?

[coolbreeze]

It can be bad and good. When they get to much attention then they don't know how to handle it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

What if the girl is lonely, has no one to talk to and wants you're company? She could also hate seeking the attention but Just feels like doing it because she's alone, because we all know how much of an effort it is...

[coolbreeze]

I would try to help her and comfort because we all get lonely sometimes.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Aww ❤ Why isn't there any guys like you in the world? 😭💔

[Sensmind]

Its like many things the "TYPE" of attention seeking - Like confidence , you can have a quiet assured confidence give of an aura or you can be loud, brash and arrogant which will annoy people. I suppose if you get attention without people noticing you do it, you have succeeded but if you are chasing it you will get on peoples' nerves.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well to be honest most of the time you get caught attention seeking. The person Just starts noticing that you're doing it if you're not very subtle about it. Though some may successfully be able to gain someone's attention without them noticing that they're attention seeking.

And how about ranting and rambling? Do you think that is attention seeking or no?

[Swat_]

There is a lot of stigma against attention seeking, but I honestly don't see why. People seek attention because they need it. We all seek attention at points.

It's the behaviour combined with attention seeking that matters.

If she gets attention by being annoying, then I'd find the girl annoying. if she gets attention by being rude, I'd find her rude.

The question needs to be a bit more specific to be awnsered well, I hope this opinion was useful though ^

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Exactly, I don't know what bothers people of others that seek a little bit of attention. But people sort of see it as a bad thing. I actually get sad when I notice that someone seeks attention because it usually Indicates that they have some sort of Insecurity or loneliness.

[ManWithA_Plan]

I think it's cute and seeing a girl go after what she wants is attractive to me, Meanwhile; there can be to much of this for example if we hangout with a bunch of friends and we're all relaxing and you're trying to be hype asf trying to get attention... It's a real turnoff.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Really? Loads of people Just find seeking attention annoying in general...

[El_Heffe]

I've always enjoyed women who know what they want. I would not equate this with being on the make. But seeking attention is perhaps a bit less noticeable by some. I tend to notices this most times. Hope I answered your query.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Really? Loads of guys find attention seeking behaviour from women annoying and tend to avoid her and start finding her unattractive. But guys in general tend to pay attention to detail racially when it comes to women. So they do notice if she seeks attention or not.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

*Especially

[Kaazsz]

I’ve been experiencing this a lot lately. I learned to just ignore her and she will act different around me.

Sometimes it’s fun. I like flirting and I don’t mind practicing flirting with a girl who just wants to flirt and have my attention sometimes.

But if she’s not flirting, she just wants to talk about herself and shit like that, hoping I’ll listen, and she don’t give a fuck about what I have to say, I’ll just ignore her as if she doesn’t exist.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah when you Ignore people that do that it's weird that they automatically starr acting differently. I think it's like that because they feel left out and want you to notice them. So when seeking attention doesn't work they stop doing it hoping that you'll give them attention.

But it might Just seem like she doesn't care about what you have to say, in reality she could care about what you have to say but Just likes talking about what's going on in her own life. I know people who are like that but still care about what you have to say.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[Prada911]

Who doesn't? It's okay to be attention seeking, but there's a limit to everything. Temper your need for social validation, so that you actually spend time on something useful.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah I solely feel that we all need attention and that we all do it, the only difference is that some seek it more than others and are more persistent at it than others. But I don't think there's anyone that lives and thrives on it so much. There's only persistent people I think...

[whitehide]

Everyone seeks attention, just by posting this question, you're seeking attention, without it, you'd feel isolated and lonely, and feeling isolated and lonely for too long really fucks with your mind.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well in all honesty I didn't post this question to "Seek attention". Because my Intentions are not entirely to capture you're attention. Real attention seekers "Seek attention" by doing something to capture you're attention and to get you to notice them. My Intentions by posting this question was not to gain people's attention.

And I'm completely aware that we need attention from time to time. But honestly guys don't really understand girls that well. We Just like having some attention, otherwise as you said we feel lonely and left out. Yet almost all guys avoid girls that they think "Seek attention". It's honestly sad...😔

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

All women love attention
It's not about the attention is about what they do to get it

A woman who wants everyone's attention and goes about getting it in a bad way, is really reprehensible

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeat but loads of guys say that it's only certain women that seek attention, it's not all of them apparently. Guys will rule out all the girls that "Seek attention".

[Passinggas]

Attention whoring is trained in young with, guess what?—over-attention. They get a dopamine/endorphin addiction from it and they do all to seek it out for the rest of their lives. There are some journals that also tie it to abuse and traumatism. I personally avoid giving it to the attention seeker as if I am reformed drug dealer. I see attention whoring now as a sickness.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol you're not really a drug dealer by giving attention to someone. People Just like to be noticed that's all...

[Pegases]

Every girl seeks attention. I think there are classy ways to do so, and not so classy ways.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah could be true, but some may do it more than others. But guys always think there are only certain girls that seek attention, they don't think that every girl is like that for some reason...

[Pegases]

The guys you're referring too are just young & yes, Some definitely do it more than others.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol how can you say that? You guys all have the same thought apparently. EVERY girl or woman out there in the world has seeked attention before, Its Just the way of females. Every girl has some type of attention seeking behaviour, it's Just that some girls or women are more subtle when doing it and the rest are obvious. And obviously the obvious ones are labelled by guys as "Attention Seeker" like it's a bad thing. Little do they know that every female human has done it or is doing it.

[Pegases]

"There is a classy way to do it, and a not so classy way to do it." Making it obvious can be both classy, and not so classy.. I never insinuated otherwise.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol 😂

[dgroove208]

Depends on who they are entertaining. If it is for boasting I dont want it. If you want my reaction then you'll get it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Seeking attention can come in different forms besides boasting. Boasting is the less likely one to occur these days as people already know that it will draw people away from them Instead of drawing them closer.

[morrowlow]

i think they're insecure and i can't have any respect for them. most of these girls are the ones who can't naturally draw men to themselves and this is what they do instead but i still don't like it

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

To be honest I feel quite sad for them. Usually people that like drawing attention to themselves are the loneliest and are left out more than everyone else is. I believe they feel a sense of being left out or excluded. But there's loads of girls that can't naturally draw men to them. No one likes being left out. But Why do you think you can't have any respect for them?

[morrowlow]

i can't respect people who would go through all kinds of trouble for other's approval. if they don't like themselves why should i like them? it is true that some women draw more men to themselves. the same is true for men but no matter how these women look there are guys who like them. i myself for example don't care if a girl is average looking. if she respects herself and behaves gracefully i'm going to be attracted to her.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

But attention seeking always has Innocent reasons, as I said earlier what if she's only behaving that way because she's lonely, has no one to talk to and feels Ignored? What if she never used to seek attention before, and only started doing it because she feels like she isn't being approached at all? It could also be that she hates seeking attention but Just wants you to treat her as an equal, because we all know how much of a damn effort it is.

Maybe she's not solely doing it to feel superior than others, she Just wants to be treated equally like everyone else. She could only be doing it because you or loads of other people have Ignored her, so the Issue could very well be resolved if you gave her equal doses of attention like everyone else Instead of Ignoring her. You see, the more you'll Ignore her the more she'll seem attention. If you Just treat her like an equal Instead of an outcast then she'll stop doing it. Sometimes people who seek attention Just need a little bit love ❤

They seeked attention because they're deprived of it. It's a humans natural Instinct to seek attention if they feel Ignored or unwanted.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[Bman4907]

if they are seeking from one guy, go for it, if they are looking to get on the jumbo tron at a ballgame, might be a problem.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Why's that?

[Bman4907]

getting one person to pay attention to you means they are special, demanding attention from multiple people, that means the guy is replaceable. She still on the market looking for the better option.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

What if the girl is lonely, has no one to talk to and wants you're company? It's usually the most loneliest people that seek the most attention. Its only because they need some love. The attention seeking can be a cry for help...

[AcidT0y]

I get it. People like attention. They want to feel like they're special or whatever. I'm the same so it's not something that would put me off.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah, but loads of guys Just think that Just some girls seek attention, they don't realise that we all do it. And then they start calling us b**ches for wanting some of people's attention. Not everyone is understand like you, and I appreciate that.

[phenomenalblaze]

If they are seeking attention, they are either not getting it from their boyfriend or not getting it at home. Though there are those times where some just do it for the fun of it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

What if they don't have a boyfriend yet? And what if they like specific attention that's not from their own family members? That can also happen...

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[pizzalovershouse]

usely have been hurt yo much by parents an seek attention

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Aww I'm sorry about that. That can cause people to seek attention, usually if they don't get it by their parents or teachers in the past or present.

[pizzalovershouse]

yep it happen to both sexes usely cuz of mean parents

[Anonymous]

Normal girl thing. Most do. Some are more subtle about it that's all.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

I agree on that. Also the persistence and quantity varies from girl to girl. Luckily we don't live or thrive on it... lol

[Sambo226]

Nothing wrong with that. She's just looking noticed

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah that's exactly what I was thinking. But loads of people see seeking attention as a negative thing. Most of the time people don't even mean to Intentionally do it, it Just happens without them realizing. We've all seeked attention at some point. Without it we would feel left out and Isolated. People fail to understand that.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Nothing as everyone likes attention so what
Deal with it

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah, exactly...

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yeah

[lightning1377]

Attention seekers are annoying but the ones who tease in a professional way (without looking needy) are undoubtedly sexy

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol teasing in a professional way? Elaborate...

[lightning1377]

C'mon you know what i mean. The key is in not giving it all away at once, like if you're gonna give three, take two right after, this whole process makes the guy crazy for that girl

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

I honestly really don't get what you mean lol do you mean giving guys attention? Because I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about girls who seek attention.

[PapiPiton]

Personally I'm the type of guy that I hate a girl who looks for attention if mine isn't enough well let god help you out

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol whut? 😂

[Anonymous]

Can't blame 80% of females fighting for the attention of top 20% of males, it's just animal nature.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

I think so too, but guys blame girls to much for doing it. They think that they're at fault and are in the wrong. But we girls Just can't help it...🤷🏻‍♀️😂

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

*too

[FatherJack]

Nothing , as I ignore them , like all other strangers !! I would avoid them if they were really persistent

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

What if it was someone that was not a stranger? What if it was one of you're family members or friends? Also why would you Ignore them?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[DWill15]

If anyone at all is an attention seeker, then I ignore them completely.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Why so?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[PerryDaBud]

They are selfish, narcisstic, the people that only takes the men's money and also takes a lot of selfies.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Just because she seeks attention doesn't equally mean she's with a guy Just to take his money lol that's an entirely different topic. Also not all girls that seek attention take loads of selfies, it's only some.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[Daviid_]

I think its disgusting and since this is 96% of all women I think it's really sad that they need to do that really unnactractive for me.

[xkildy]

I agree I don't want my lady doing any of that. A modest woman is a good woman to bring home. Much like women enjoy bad boys and then they eventually settled with a good man

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well I don't really do it. But they say that people that seek the most attention are the most loneliest and left out ones, they Just want to be noticed. I kind of feel sad for them, while it may look disgusting on the outside, on the Inside there's always a sad reason behind it...😔

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

@xkildy lol all women seek at least a little bit of attention. You probably Just haven't noticed. All females are like that. But Just because a girl seeks attention, it doesn't mean she likes bad boys. That's an entirely different topic.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[xkildy]

No worries , have a great day

[crazy8000]

They make themselves one in the bunch and get treated like such.

(I ignore them like they where an uninteresting object like gravel on the ground)

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol why?

[crazy8000]

Why should I?
If she is really interested in me she's gonna make it happen 😉

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol true but guys need to put equal amounts of effort that girls do. Knowing guys these days it never even happens...😐

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[Anonymous]

you are talking about the majority of the female race

basically prostitutes

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Hahaha you think so? There's only 6% of guys like you that think every female has done it. The rest of the 97% of guys think that there's only certain girls that do it, and don't realise that we all act the same way attention seeking wise...😂😂

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[UnderHisEye]

Give them attention. Fuck them on camera and then send the images to their friends