Guys, what do you think of girls that seek attention?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Some guys don't realise that she's seeking attention. Some think she's confident and outgoing for doing so. What firstly goes through you're mind when you realise that she seeks it? I always find that guys get driven away when they see that a girl seeks attention and is always fishing around for it, always wants to be the leader of the pack or group, always wants to be in the spotlight or does stuff to get attention drawn to her...

[Anonymous]

Depends qhat you mean by "seeks attention". There are good ways to get attention and bad ways.
Attention at all costs is bad!
I had a girl when i was younger come up and talk to me. It was so out of the blue i assumed she was playing me (she may have been) either way i was on my guard and responded in a very guarded way so i didn't outwardly show interest. She ended up walking away and norhing more was said but a week later seemingly out of the blue she accused me of grabbing her crotch. Obviously i wouldn't do something like that but to this day i don't know whwther ahe was playing a game with me and i didn't take the bait and that made her mad. Or if she genuinely had interest, i coulsn't tell, she felt rejected and did it to gwt even.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Attention seeking can be good sometimes, it isn't always bad. I don't think the girl that you're speaking of in you're story was seeking attention. Seems like she was Just trying to show her Interest in you. But when you didn't reciprocate and you rejected her she got upset and offended, and she probably wanted you to feel hurt too. Basically she Just took her revenge that's all.

Attention seeking like talking a lot and having so much to say about stuff that goes on in her life. Basically everything that's happening to her is what I mean. Always wanting the guy to listen to her and stay with her. Always wanting the guy to take notice of her or give her his time Instead of Ignoring her.

[xkildy]

I would not date a YouTuber I would not date a person that is addicted to showing themselves off on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram would not date a woman who loves to expose herself to the entire world. That if she asked me into the bedroom I would not say no. 😁😁😁

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol what? So you'd Just use her for sex? There are a lot of show offs on social media, but seeking attention is different...

[coolbreeze]

They seek attention to make themselves feel good and to boost their self esteem up even more.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Do you see it as a bad thing or a good thing?

[coolbreeze]

It can be bad and good. When they get to much attention then they don't know how to handle it.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

What if the girl is lonely, has no one to talk to and wants you're company? She could also hate seeking the attention but Just feels like doing it because she's alone, because we all know how much of an effort it is...

[coolbreeze]

I would try to help her and comfort because we all get lonely sometimes.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Aww ❤ Why isn't there any guys like you in the world? 😭💔

[Sensmind]

Its like many things the "TYPE" of attention seeking - Like confidence , you can have a quiet assured confidence give of an aura or you can be loud, brash and arrogant which will annoy people. I suppose if you get attention without people noticing you do it, you have succeeded but if you are chasing it you will get on peoples' nerves.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well to be honest most of the time you get caught attention seeking. The person Just starts noticing that you're doing it if you're not very subtle about it. Though some may successfully be able to gain someone's attention without them noticing that they're attention seeking.

And how about ranting and rambling? Do you think that is attention seeking or no?

[Swat_]

There is a lot of stigma against attention seeking, but I honestly don't see why. People seek attention because they need it. We all seek attention at points.

It's the behaviour combined with attention seeking that matters.

If she gets attention by being annoying, then I'd find the girl annoying. if she gets attention by being rude, I'd find her rude.

The question needs to be a bit more specific to be awnsered well, I hope this opinion was useful though ^

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Exactly, I don't know what bothers people of others that seek a little bit of attention. But people sort of see it as a bad thing. I actually get sad when I notice that someone seeks attention because it usually Indicates that they have some sort of Insecurity or loneliness.

[ManWithA_Plan]

I think it's cute and seeing a girl go after what she wants is attractive to me, Meanwhile; there can be to much of this for example if we hangout with a bunch of friends and we're all relaxing and you're trying to be hype asf trying to get attention... It's a real turnoff.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Really? Loads of people Just find seeking attention annoying in general...

[El_Heffe]

I've always enjoyed women who know what they want. I would not equate this with being on the make. But seeking attention is perhaps a bit less noticeable by some. I tend to notices this most times. Hope I answered your query.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Really? Loads of guys find attention seeking behaviour from women annoying and tend to avoid her and start finding her unattractive. But guys in general tend to pay attention to detail racially when it comes to women. So they do notice if she seeks attention or not.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

*Especially

[Kaazsz]

I’ve been experiencing this a lot lately. I learned to just ignore her and she will act different around me.

Sometimes it’s fun. I like flirting and I don’t mind practicing flirting with a girl who just wants to flirt and have my attention sometimes.

But if she’s not flirting, she just wants to talk about herself and shit like that, hoping I’ll listen, and she don’t give a fuck about what I have to say, I’ll just ignore her as if she doesn’t exist.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah when you Ignore people that do that it's weird that they automatically starr acting differently. I think it's like that because they feel left out and want you to notice them. So when seeking attention doesn't work they stop doing it hoping that you'll give them attention.

But it might Just seem like she doesn't care about what you have to say, in reality she could care about what you have to say but Just likes talking about what's going on in her own life. I know people who are like that but still care about what you have to say.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

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[Prada911]

Who doesn't? It's okay to be attention seeking, but there's a limit to everything. Temper your need for social validation, so that you actually spend time on something useful.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah I solely feel that we all need attention and that we all do it, the only difference is that some seek it more than others and are more persistent at it than others. But I don't think there's anyone that lives and thrives on it so much. There's only persistent people I think...

[whitehide]

Everyone seeks attention, just by posting this question, you're seeking attention, without it, you'd feel isolated and lonely, and feeling isolated and lonely for too long really fucks with your mind.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well in all honesty I didn't post this question to "Seek attention". Because my Intentions are not entirely to capture you're attention. Real attention seekers "Seek attention" by doing something to capture you're attention and to get you to notice them. My Intentions by posting this question was not to gain people's attention.

And I'm completely aware that we need attention from time to time. But honestly guys don't really understand girls that well. We Just like having some attention, otherwise as you said we feel lonely and left out. Yet almost all guys avoid girls that they think "Seek attention". It's honestly sad...😔

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

All women love attention
It's not about the attention is about what they do to get it

A woman who wants everyone's attention and goes about getting it in a bad way, is really reprehensible

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeat but loads of guys say that it's only certain women that seek attention, it's not all of them apparently. Guys will rule out all the girls that "Seek attention".

[Passinggas]

Attention whoring is trained in young with, guess what?—over-attention. They get a dopamine/endorphin addiction from it and they do all to seek it out for the rest of their lives. There are some journals that also tie it to abuse and traumatism. I personally avoid giving it to the attention seeker as if I am reformed drug dealer. I see attention whoring now as a sickness.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol you're not really a drug dealer by giving attention to someone. People Just like to be noticed that's all...