Is it true that young single mothers who stay constantly pregnant possess a lower intelligence level?

[laurieluvsit]

I know this is a sensitive question because no one wants to call another person "stupid" but why would a single girl continue to have babies without a steady father around?

And maybe the better question is why would guys want to father one, or more, children with a girl and then not want to stay around and help take care of their own child?

I know of a girl like this that still lives with her parents and has 5 children at last count starting from when she was around 15 or 16.

Her parents wanted lots of grandchildren and didn't really care if she was married or not, they just loved having the grand kids around. And since her dad had several businesses and had lots of money, they never told her to go after the guys for child support so the boys are thinking this is all a footloose and fancy-free activity for them.

She quit high school before graduating. She is not even close to having a lot of common sense. Most people, even friends that know her, consider her the "ditz" or "airhead" type.

She just seems to be, but I doubt that she is, content living from day to day with all these kids and seeing different guys all the time. It's not that she doesn't want a steady guy, it's just that they only seem to come around for sex and then leave. I know most of you don't know the kind of girl that I am talking about, but they do exist.

Would an intelligent girl ever do something like this? Can we just be honest and say that she, and others like her, are stupid? And are the guys dumber than she is, or not?

A. Yes, any girl that would stay constantly pregnant without being married is really lacking something in the brains department and does not have a healthy emotional development

B. No, some girls just love babies and if her parents are helping her with them, why not?

C. Regardless, the children should have a father to give them a balanced upbringing

D. OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Baby Mommy" survey

[Finchie40]

Sounds like she has mental issues to be honest and has very low self esteem about herself considering she is allowing guys to just come and have sex with her then leave the parents sound like they aren't right in the head as well considering they just want grandbabies , usually people with a lot of money act like their shit dont stink they focus more on their career and wealth more then they do their own family so they probably dont really care that their daughter keeps getting pregnant and used by different guys. They just want what they want which is grand babies I feel bad for her considering she probably hadn't had much guidance growing up , so Yes she is considered a ditz brain and airhead cuz she never really had any guidance she grew up thinking she will be taking care of her whole life and that her shit dont stink her self esteem about herself is shot considering she is so lost to the point she is seeking acceptance she just Lets people walk all over her. to the point she is probably seeking attention and acceptance elsewhere and doesn't really know where to get it from, so spreading her legs for all these guys is her way of feeling accepted , considering her parents probably played a big part of fucking her life up making her live the way they wanted her to. . The parents are probably so high on themselves that they are lost as well. I hate to say it but usually people with a lot of money let it go to their head to the point they lack common sense they are so high on themselves and their career that their own children are and inconvienence to them so instead of taking time to guide their children they just take the easy way out and look at their children like they do no wrong they raise them feeling like they are perfect no matter what so the children have no guidance cuz Mommy and Daddy will just make it all better , this girl sounds like she can do whatever she wants cuz mommy and Daddy think i am perfect. Sad to say very poor people do this as well , they are so stressed out in life that they focus on themselves so the kids again have no guidance or feel accepted so they allow people just walk on them as well

[JayBird87]

Unfortunately, I know a couple of women like this. I don't think it's a problem in the "STUPID" department. In my experience with having been with a woman like this, I think it's a mental condition having to do with starving for attention. What happens anytime a pregnant woman walks into a room? Everyone focuses their attention on her and the baby. I'm not saying by no means is she getting pregnant on purpose, but subconsciously she is deny the use of birth control and other methods to prevent pregnancy. And as to the question of why their is no man on her arm goes back to the same mental issue. If she is staying pregnant because the attention she is getting from people then most likely she doesn't have a boyfriend for the same reason. Something in her mental "make-up" tells her that any guy that shows her attention wants to be with her. And lets be honest, I'm a guy and I'm saying most of the time guys only want one thing. So for this reason she attracts the lowest form of men. Most men that are father material aren't going for a women like this. They want someone to build a family/life with. Not someone that want to build a family with every Tom, Dick, and Harry that glances in her direction. You can trust most women that give the "goods" up the first date. Most of the time women like this will give it up the first time they meet a guy. I feel like in most cases, it's some type of "daddy" issue. But this is just my opinion, and everyone is entitled to one.

[TinawAllison]

From what I read. the parents aren’t a parent at all. First of all real parents wouldn’t allow something like to go on. the girl was way too young & had a whole life ahead her. But she ruined it. Besides she was a mInor child. Then dropping out school. Not too smart. To sum it up based on what I read. The whole thing is a dysfunctional mess & a huge disgrace. But sadly unfortunately it goes on more then you think. You never hear about it. I was raised better then that. I know better. When parents don’t care etc then there’s something serious wrong.

[DizzyDesii]

Its bullshit to me. I may have a baby by in vitro at 25 or 26 if single and if i do and things go great, im gonna do it again for my 2nd and 3rd child. So people can kiss my tit with the judgmental shit. Now the girl ur describing is 15. Yea thats not a good age to start but she's an adult now. she's doin her thing. If you can't help her or provide support, then not much we can say about her. Let her fam deal with it

[NightFlirt]

I've never understood the reasoning for doing something like that. I begin to wonder if part of the problem lies with her parents manipulating her into staring pregnant all the time.

[White-American89]

Simply for the welfare and child support. Some single mothers do quite well out of welfare and child support. If they get knocked up by the right guys they each will have to pay a certain amount of child support each week.
I dont think they have a lower inteligence just that the women you describe want money for no work.

[TinawAllison]

There women out there that’s like that. Guys with any common sense should know better. Then to fool around..

[TinawAllison]

Speaking of welfare that’s all of tax payers footing a lot of it. I work a full time job. 40 hrs a week 8 hrs a day. Plus paid time off etc. There’s a lot that can actually work. Some choose not to. They want the easy way.

[TonyMetal_86]

That's total corruption, single parents shouldn't have babies...

For me it works like that, love a girl, marry her, make her a housewife than get her pregnant and bring babies, the man is the head of the house and his wife and his babies needs him to live, he is their everything and they ate his everythinf, that's true love and a real family, kids needs to grow up in a house where they can see a father and a mother and surely the woman would a kot more be happier and she needs a man in her heart before babies and before everything, they become one after marriage and the babies will be the seeds of their love!

[Crazychickgold]

Well it happens and its not like it can’t be done. I was raised by a single parent for most of my life. My mother worked incredibly hard for me and I know families with two parents that have a horribly dysfunctional household.

[TonyMetal_86]

@Crazychickgold people like you always try to compare themselves with the negative picture, to make themselves more confident with more self esteem.

When you need to compare yourself, you need to bring the positive and compare yourself with positive picture, what about a real good family made of a mother and a father, your situation wouldn't stand a chance in front of them... that's how you make comparing and not bringing the worst and saying that your better

[Crazychickgold]

I dont have a self esteem issue. But im proud of my mother. And dissing single parents for the golden standard is the other side of the coin to what u just accused me of doing. Dysfunctional children can come from both, as well as good well rounded kids.

[TonyMetal_86]

@Crazychickgold i know and i'm not saying that your mother ain't good but one parent is never like having both parents because kida needs both parents to get a proper good upbringing...

Not only you but your mother didn't have to work this hard if your father was present and she surely would be a lot happier

[Trolloween]

Yeah it is well recognised that stupid people have wayyy more kids than more intelligent people. It's actually a real issue as over time the population will inevitably get stupider. But we also become pseudo cyborgs and use technology to make ourselves seemingly super intelligent since we have constant access to all the world's information.

[yucel_eden]

Look since you’ve asked such a provocative question I’ll give a response without being humble.

The answer to your question is it doesn’t make them “stupid”.

As someone who possesses intelligence far superior to those of the probably 99.99% of the world I can assure you that intelligence is half the picture.

If you’re mind is full of responsibility it will be dragged down. It will be slow and appear laggy. I am intelligent but to operate at my potential I need to work on protecting my psychology too. Single mothers are doing the opposite but it doesn’t make them sense stupid.

It’s like getting a six pack, you can work out all you like with the best genes, if your diet is shit your going to have a belly. It’s the same thing.

So single mothers being pregnant a lot makes them frustrated with responsibility, but it doesn’t make them stupid..

[hansukota]

I doubt such an environment is good for the children. Although the grandparents are economically stable u never know what can happen...
I have nothing against young or single parents but children brought up in such situations are effected badly, especially the first born

[Thatsamazing]

Other-- the answer is yes but it has nothing to do with being married or not... not sure why it would. Contributing to global overpopulation is contributing to global overpopulation, regardless of whether you're wearing a piece of metal on your finger.

[Apple1996]

It's not really stupid. Some people just want to have babies. If she's taking care of them then I don't see a issue

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Certainly. You can't possibly be highly or even average intelligence if you are bringing children into the world with a broken home and disorganized family unit which only creates social dysfunction and instability.

[FunkyMonkee]

I wouldn't know, I've never met such a person (as far as I know).

[clampfan101]

Not necessarily less intelligent, but certainly not a smart thing to do.

[TheWombRaider]

Yes if your busy raising kids. Means u stop learning or going to school

[MadBoy]

... To be blunt, I think she needs therapy... Either that or a severe reminder of reality, asap...

[Valnac]

That’s the textbook definition of a dysfunctional family.

[Hellfire579]

There are always exceptions to everything

But in majority of the cases single moms are not great at making good life decisions at least for their sake

[SarahsSummer]

Uhh, yeah. I think that’s quite obvious.

[Neeceeb7]

They are individuals each has a different story

[katiesmuff]

I voted A for sure.