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It's not that they're unapproachable. They either don't want to be approached, or you're approaching them in the wrong way. If your motive is to hit on them, they're going to see right through it. Start a genuine conversation and gauge her reactions. She'll let you know whether or not you can approach her like that.
Im totally like this. If im out alone and on a mission.. Im not approachable.. my resting face is quite bitchy. This is my choice.. as soon as im my joyful talkative self i attract... things and people that aren't for me. For instance, i said morning to my neighbors in apartment. One guy eventually asked for my number. I hate that awkward scenario. Unless im in the mood to date my rule of thumb is to only open myself to those im attracted to.
simplified.. younger me was just oh so welcoming to everyone and i need to filter. If a man can honestly hold a conversation and mutually connect watch me drop that act of "leave me alone" quick. If im interested in getting to know a guy ill strike a conversation beyond the neighborly greeting. ill find the common ground and go from there and again.. its biologically ingrained women like familiarity.. so going up to a stranger is 0 chance.. going up to a neighbor or a guy at a gym higher chance
Most aren't, but a lot of the time its from men being pigs and only wasting their time trying to get their dicks wet. And when the girl is a complete stranger, she won't feel anything to want to continue the convo, no girl will fall for a person just because they were interested in her.
but whos to say girls can't do the same thing to men
@it2ly They already have to me so many times i've been a guy with honest intentions wanting a genuine relationship and girls just ignore me and prejudge me we call this a "fuck girl" i've reached the point where I don't care and ignore girls. I've seen girls in public stare at me look at me in the corner of their eyes but I ignore them because i know it's the same old shit "i won't give you my number because I don't know if I like you" but neither do I that's why i'm asking for your number so we have a way to connect in a city of thousands of people talk and maybe go on a date so then we can see if we like eachother but all that effort for someone so fussy I just can't be asked.
@Daniel3035 Damn that sucks... from experience with my boyfriends in the past.. unfortunatly.. guys are really good looking and I can't stop getting crushes on so many at a time... Im trying to stop my self..
but in the end when me or he decides to breakup.. we go back to being friends so all my exs are actually good friends of mine.. but I know plenty of girls that use guys and its horrible..
@it2ly It’s the same thing for us guys we look and get crushes. And have to walk around with the desire all day always looking nothing more.
Personally, I don't like being approached randomly. When I'm with my friends, I just want to hang out without being disturbed. If I'm by myself, I'm doing chores and am NOT in social mode. I'm just not interested in meeting strangers when out in public. Doesn't interest me in the least, even if the guy is cute
The problem is everyone is like that all the time, when is it actually a good time to approach?
Maybe you will meet with the love of your life. How can you know?
@Mamamialetmego it's pretty immature for you and that ugly slut @sexyashh to run your mouth in the comments above that I can't respond to because trashashh blocked me. I'm not here to brag about what I have because the two of you combined couldn't come close to my portfolio, in fact ten of you can't so I'm not worried it's just disgraceful that you would ask questions then cowardly block someone and talk about them depriving their right to freedom of speech to respond but that's what cowards do so you too are meant for one another
To weed out the unconfident guys who can't push through their bs shit tests so they are left with the most desirable guys. They get approached what 10, 20, 30 times a week or more if they go out at the weekend. Why would they give their time to an average Joe? They don't have time for that.
Personally I check out a guy that I find attractive I don't want to date. Like he's just an eye candy but I dont feel like being in a relationship right now. You know you just want to look at a guy and appreciate his good looks but you don't want to be tied down yet. You still want to improve yourself first before getting into a relationship. Just me personally. Not always but sometimes the guy will catch me when I am not ready to be in a relationship.
Probably because they don't want to seem over-eager at risk of looking desperate. They want you to work for them so they can pump up their egos or self-esteem and feel validated. The ones that are nervous are just uneasy about potentially screwing up.
In my mind, I throw out engagement, if they're cold, I ignore them, and leave it to them to return engagement if interested, if not, that's fine too.
I find multiple women who stare at me, and continue to do so after, but react this way on approach, not so much demand, or expectation of specific outcome, but the discrepancy between the actions doesn't make sense, which is what I'm trying to gain clarity on.
Um they don't know you?
I just moved schools and no one knows who I am so they just close themselves away from me... which I do the same.
Nowdays barely anyone is an extrovert, optimist, or approachable.
Trust me, its not just women that do this, its everyone.
WE all know climate change is gonna destroy as all, we all know robots one day will rule
and we all know that death will happen, so we all act like pricks and ignore everyone we barely know.
And social with people we do know.
They aren't used to guys approaching them and talking with them. Just dont take the cold shoulder, awkward silences and nervous behavior, personally, and keep pushing the conversation forward.
I find women need to trust you now more than ever. So you need to talk a little bit, appear confident and ask for their number, snap, or instagram, and then message them there the next day.
because men are desperate af and think that when women are being polite, we are actually flirting. so its easier to act cold to get the point across that they aren't interested.
Additionally, women also complain a lot when men don't approach... that's like most questions I've read on this site, and then there's also the 'he looks at me for more than 0.5 s does he like me' type of questions
@IlyaTheImpaler well said
look there's a difference between approaching a woman once, and approaching her a million times. in my experience, some guys dont take a hint. me and my friends have all had this happen to us, where you try to show you're not interested politely, and yet they still go after you and think they have a chance. and we dont want to lead them on, so we say "ok, look, i dont have feelings for you" and they still DONT STOP! i remember this one guy was obsessed with my friend, and every time he started a conversation with her, and she acted polite, he all of a sudden thought he had a chance and that she was in love with him, even though she told him multiple times she wasn't interested. recently, a guy told me he liked me and we were good friends so i told him i only wanted to be friends. he then continued to subtly try to "impress" me to change my mind. constantly starting to mention how he's been gaining muscle and all the hard classes he's taking blah blah blah. and wouldn't stop bringing up how much i hurt him and stuff and trying to blame me and make me feel guilty. whenever we try to be gentle and not hurt your feelings, you guys tend to not realize. you think that if a girl talks to you, she wants your dick. and obviously im sure it doesn't apply to some guys, because some can obviously read social cues. but those who can't, ruin it for the rest of guys. and yeah, girls like to be approached, but they dont like to be chased after if theyve already implied theyre not interested.
@nopedydoo lol ofc I don't mean being fucking weird like that, I know some guys do stupid shit when drunk. And if someone does that just tell him to go f himself because he's a burden. But don't act bitchy by default, most guys don't have bad intentions.
at that point you may just be going after the wrong girls
@nopedydoo I don't know, sometimes I get the feeling she likes me back but won't let herself open up. I don't really get it, I'm very good looking and respectful. I have no clue why
see here's the thing again, are you sure you're assumptions about her liking you is correct? what makes you think that? its very possible theyre trying to just be polite and not flirty
@nopedydoo I don't know, it depends on the girl, but I think I can see hesitation. Like she will look down, think for a moment and then quietly tell me to go.
There was this girl I met who was at first very open and flirty with me, so I invited her for a coffee a few days later. But when we met again she seemed cold and distant and it was a very weird date because of that. She eventually told me she is looking for a husband, not boyfriend or lover, and I was too young for that, that's why she's acting so cold. So I walked her back to her place, and as we were about to say our goodbyes there was this weird silence, quite sexually charged, and just us standing there looking each other in the eyes. It lasted like 10 seconds, and I came closer and hugged her, and looked her in the eyes and asked her if she's sure she doesn't want to give it a shot. And she was silent for a while, looked down, then up at me again, then down and finally said very quietly "no... I don't". So we said our goodbyes and I've never seen her again. But I really think she wanted more but wouldn't let herself
Actually modern women will go out with rich handsome guys then complain about them to average guys. But they won't date average guys. Some kinda dillema. But it has to do with looks and money. As women nowadays have become extremely materialistic
The answer is Feminism and other brainwashing from the lying media.
I gave up approaching women a long time ago.
Feminists have been telling women that when a man approaches them it is sexual harassment.
Here in Australia, women have perfected the resting bitch face to deter approaches..
I give them the solitude that they claim to want.
The reality is that women need us a lot more than we need them.
cuzz that one really hot and rich looking guy has liked a few of their pictures and commented on them, and then that one time they went out with that really rich guy, and then they've had guys like me fawn over them or date them. That about sums that behavior up.
"I know it's not my social skills"
Really? It sure seems like it's your social skills. That's like just getting into a car and expecting it to start moving because you're a good driver... when you don't turn the ignition.
Statistically, in experience, virtually anyone I can carry on a conversation with I get along with, am told I'm patient, a good listener, laid back. Very few who have gotten to know me dislike me.
I'm confused how you conclude it's my social skills knowing virtually nothing about them, or myself. I always start conversations, also am unclear how you perceive I don't "turn the ignition", which would be the equivalent in taking action to start the process.
Since we're talking statistics here, which has a higher probability: that all women are unapproachable, or that you're doing something wrong?
If all women are unapproachable, then whatever female friends you already have are statistical anomalies. Which is by definition highly unlikely. If it's you, then your social skills aren't as great as you think they are. Which is extremely common.
So, chances are that regardless of what social skills you may have in building and maintaining an interpersonal relationship with others, you lack the ability to engage women you don't know. That is, you don't turn the ignition.
"which has a higher probability: that all women are unapproachable, or that you're doing something wrong?"
Please present where I said all women are unapproachable. Your response is an answer to mental distortion of things never said. I do start conversations, which is to "turn the ignition", and still don't understand how you infer I'm not taking action to make results happen.
Your question is "why are modern women so unapproachable". Whether you meant all women, or just most women, the message doesn't really change much.
Regardless, my main point here is that whenever somebody says "it's not me, it's everyone else"... it's a little suspicious. I mean, it's *possible* you have impeccable social skills and there's something wrong with most of the women you talk to... but it isn't likely.
You communicate in narcissitic absolutes, where what's in your mind, a generalization that covers every individual on the planet, reflects reality, "some" denotes acceptance of the possibility there are limitations to one's perspective, and openess to beliefs other that what's been set in stone, in absolutes, as "all" or "everything".
Please reference where I placed blame on anyone, again, I objectively stated a situation in effort to understand, stated actions, never placed blame, nor expectation on anyone to do, or be, anything, you seem to make generalizations, which were never presented, then respond as if your interpretation of the question, and the question itself, are the same thing.
You labels again the women are "wrong" or "right", again, absolute all-or-nothings, which I never claimed either. "whenever somebody says "it's not me, it's everyone else"... please reference where I put blame on anybody, as opposed to described a situation in effort to understand.
You're right - you didn't ever blame anyone else. When you said "I know it's not my social skills", I expected you to be following the usual line of logic employed by most dudes here on GAG... which is to blame everyone else. A quick look at some of the comments you've gotten (other than mine) ought to support that idea.
Anyway, my apologies.
I think @Farawlaa nailed it. It's the sense of arrogance, entitlement and superiority today's women have, combined with a concurrent sense of victimhood instilled in them by feminism. It is just a manifestation of the shitty character of modern women in general.
Approach us with your penis hanging out of your pants. We like that. Just be sure you aren't erect. It will make you look like a perv.
I would have your lips around mine, guaranteed. I love when women are feisty, with big egos, always easiest to break down.
So women won't let you approach them but you can easily break us down? How? Do you sneak inside neighborhood windows late at night?
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First, I said specific women won't, don't twist my words, then respond to fictional statements as if they're what I said, if you're going to respond, try to do it correctly.
Why bother to criticize me, or try to tear me down? You want my attention. No other reason to respond, unless you're looking for validation/approval/attention of some kind. Keep the criticism coming. Fight for my attention. You won't unless you want it.
I just like teasing goofy people. :)
If you approached me, I would talk to you. I actually like weirdos. At least a weirdo isn't boring.
I am a weirdo. Didn't think I was supposed to take that any other way. Except the blowjob, I would have your lips around my dick.
lol what a weird caveat this is great humor xD
I didn't ask my girlfriend (been together for almost 4 years) out. As a matter of fact, I wasn't approaching any women but she talked to me first at a party. We've been dating ever since.
If she starts one wording answers, it's time to check out. It won't get any better.
We are a bunch of bitches. Do you know the difference between a slut at a bitch? A slut sleeps with everybody. A bitch sleeps with everybody but you. Best I can tell, every woman in your life is a bitch.
Simple answer is because you're chickenshit girl pair buddy have you ever noticed that thinking of you ever went to a mall and you see a really pretty girl with a really ugly guy the reason that really pretty girl is with that ugly guy is because he had enough balls to approach her and nobody else did
It's a possibility among an infinite number of variables, but not enough evidence to assume any sort of conclusion even remotely as factual on
Im unapproachable because the moment im nice, i have a guy thinking im flirting and they get the wrong idea
I dont have time for that
Yet you have time for Facebook haha what a loser statement
Where have i written anything about facebook? by the way, the ultimate loser statement is displaying the one years rent you made in one photo. Thats not a lot hun, i wouldn't brag💋
You have nothing to offer but pussy and you happily display that in your photo for all to see. Must feel good? Ya @SexyAshh don't worry though we don't think your a slut your just wearing a sluts uniform, that's all😄, have a good evening hahaha
And im immature? Okay. One word from someone whom actually grew up in wealth and still has it,, is that people who have it, do not display it., and ones thAt do, dont have it.
Maybe take that into account on your next $10 drug deal since your very old and wise. you're welcome💋
😅😂🤣 @SexyAshh look how mad you got over that comment about Facebook and then right away tried to go after whatever you could about me then jumped to what you have, all confirmations that the Facebook comment was accurate and struck home base. I didn't make you like that but yet you want to take it out on me, only stated the obvious but whatever you say I can tell your hurt and it's sad but I'm not offended I don't even care. Your approachable your just cold and dead inside an men are looking for women not hurt Ls that's why you don't have time, I could name 100 reasons from your photo why you aren't wife material but you already know this and it's childish plus a waste of my time because my time is actually valuable. Since your so used to knowing what people do and don't have by single gestures pherhaps you should write a book and make millions 😂😂😂😂 I'm sure you fan will buy it. But to write it you also have to buy it and with your complaints of no time I don't see that happening but good luck. Haha
No ones mad here but you. Maybe read the little novel you just posted, because i sure won't. Have a good night✌️
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@SexyAshh
Immaturity at its finest. Anyways, you're boring me. Bye
And apparently, the moment you don't act all nice and approachable, you get guys like @bigcuband calling you a slut and "dead inside", sooo I'm beginning to think that women actually can't win either way :S
And you're right on the money about wealthy people not displaying it. Makes me think of those internet marketers doing facebook videos of their rented car and mansion saying "I'll show you how to make all this money too, even if you're thick as pigshit and a lazy fucker with no ambition" xD
(the irony being that most of those internet marketers are broke as shit loL)
@SomeGuyCalledTom glad you caught that as well☺️😄 totally agree. I think the comments speak for theirselves. Odd that im the younger one, he has a lot of growing up to do if he thinks anything he said sounds wise lol especially his “money photo”