Why are modern women so unapproachable? (Page 2)

[Cask23]

If she's looking at you she interested. Likely your approaching and she's nervous. It's up to the guy to use banter to relax the girl and get her to open up more.

[JamesRandiDebates]

The modern skank has such a chip on her shoulder that any attempt to approach her in a friendly manner is quickly rebuffed. If you want the pussy, act like an asshole. Women love a Chad. Be the Chad. Just don't get emotionally attached.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

They aren't. When a women doesn't find you physically attractive and doesn't like you they can come off as bitchy or annyoned, not all but a lot do.

Never approach a woman without her giving you signs first that she's interested in you.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think they’re staring at you for the reasons you think they are staring at you 👀

[Asker]

I never stated any reason I think they're staring at me. I appreciate your answer, but try not to create facts, not presented, then treat them as if part of the question.

[1truekhaleesi]

I don't know you and I don't want a conversation. Be rude, be weird, stay alive.

[Anonymous]

I find it hard to believe any man approaching me would be being serious... Like man, I'm ugly AF, are you pranking me? Is this a dare? Better not make a fool of myself and act distant and unapproachable

[Liam_Hayden]

According to my uncle there were women like that when he was my age 30+ years ago. Some people are just odd. When I encounter it I just move on to the next one.

[Thatsamazing]

Because their standards are too high, even if they themselves are not particularly attractive.

[antonio1970]

Because they are stuck up. or just dont trust anyone or think they are gods gift to men.

[YHL6965]

I'm not sure if it's modern women or if it's just because you spoke to basically bad women. You don't need to please every woman, some are not worth it. Focus on the better ones.

[dragoblack]

"The game" got out of hand and guys are so used to the old ways that it is hard to understand women. Also many of us forgot how to instinctively read body language

[Creepazoid]

Its stupid feminism bullshit thats invaded their brain a long time ago.

[Mblee]

Its because everyone is so consumed by social media and living off the phone. I bet if you added her in fb first or sent her a text they might be more complaint. Lol.

[Asker]

I have 10 friends on FB, and Instagram, all close family/friends to keep up with, and no SM apps on smartphone, only computer. This might be part of my issue. I try to minimize social media to what's practical. Maybe they can't relate directly well anymore. I'm not "old", but things were still much different 10 years ago.

[Mblee]

I get it totally.. Im 37. But i believe females now a days are more used to dic pics on line and guys hittong them up all day thirsty af in their inbox.. All the tech and social media has made a ton of people socially awkward in real life.

[Asker]

I grew up reading Crime and Punishment, Les Miserables, Plato, Aristotle, Freud, Jung, listening to/watching all generations of film, read at least probably 30+ nonfiction books per year, and have a lot of perspectives from many cultures/generations, also studied Paul Eckman's work, microexpression reading, body language, etc., with focus around attention span, willpower, discipline, so I feel like I can't relate to this awkwardness.

I built my computer, fully understand tech, along with, having read MRI research, and other experiments its dangers, so I limit it to practical uses, but can balance use of technology, which I'm quite advanced with, but also skills to read others, and communicate in real life, so I guess both come natural to me, maybe I just assume, as it has been for generations, human interaction comes naturally to everyone.

[Anonymous]

So... every single woman is supposed to sit around for you and be absolutely thrilled you approached them?

Sounds like an issue with you.

[Asker]

Repeat where I said anything about how women should react to me, or were obligated to, try not to put words in others' mouths, because I never said anything you just presented. I appreciate your effort to answer, but wish you'd address what's in the question, not a made up distortion of the question created in your head.

[Opinion Owner]

Your entire post reeks of it. Read between the lines.

[Asker]

Again, present where I expect specific reactions, all that's presented here is effort to understand a situation which confuses me, not to demand, nor expect any specific reaction from others, while I did ask why modern women seem so unapproachable, if possible, please present, to help me understand, where I put actual demands on others, or in any way suggest they're not allowed to be.

[Nsalvador]

Its the technological age, the social skills are all in a smartphone. LOL

[Asker]

This is the answer I keep coming to. The amount of attention on social media, more than any woman has ever received before, has warped perceptions reality into something it's not, as if reality accurately mirrors experience on social media.

[Asker]

Many expect a man to jump through hoops, and aren't interested if they don't, on assumption the guy must not "truly" be interested.

[NorthwestRider]

Really lol

My fiancée asked me out to our first date

[NorthwestRider]

Not sure how that's unapproachable

[Asker]

She just walked up, first words out of her mouth were something along lines of "I want to go on a date", otherwise there was initial conversation that preceded this, such as trying to start a typical conversation, say with someone at work, or school, and having women respond coldly, never allowing any further stage to mature.

[Hydrogen]

Reflection of childhood issues. Abused or didn't get love as a child.

[abadaba]

It really depends on what is going on in their life, just be patient and you can eventually find someone that will be generally interested in you

[henju]

Lol they are just confused and lost in modern world. No big issue.

[sp33d]

I don't see any reason why any woman would have to give me their time of day.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's the hair, dawg. You need to cut that shit. Just keepin' it real.

[Reiho_On]

I am like these women lol but it's because I have trust issues

[Asker]

This is what I want to understand more. You don't have to go into more detail than comfortable, but I'm curious what kind of trust issues, where they come from, etc.

[Reiho_On]

Well for me I'm a little paranoid when someone approaches me I can't know what he wants he should prove me that he doesn't have bad intentions

[Asker]

What's solution do you suggest? I'm a nice person, not the "nice until you don't like me with expectations" type, but genuinely interested in others, love hearing their stories, perspectives etc., but how can trust be communicated at the start, from your perspective as a woman?

[Reiho_On]

No i don't expect anything from anyone but since fuckboys are everywhere I don't trust easily but you sure can gain her trust by showing her that you care about her and you don't want to use her I don't say that you chase her a long time but being patient and fighting for her can somehow give you her trust these are the things that fuckboys don't do

[Asker]

It's the vague abstractions like "show care" and "give trust". I'm not sure how to apply, I know what to communicate, won't use her, which is automatic, because I don't use anybody, at work, for example, I enjoy interactions with 70 year old men as much as attractive women, I'm not "after" anything directly, just to connect.

This staring, before and after, along with cold reactions doesn't make sense, although the trust thing helps me begin to understand, just feel like if someone stares like this, when approached, while not an open book, at least an effort will be made to be engaging more.

[Reiho_On]

Yes she has to make an effort so you know she's interested too it's not one sided but if she's interested closed to you and you are tired of her change the woman not all woman are like that

[Anonymous]

because reality tv/social media/bullcr-p womens magazines have repeatedly told them they deserve what they aren't worth

[skeetskeetskeet]

Look in the mirror big dog... you look like scooby doo skull fucked an eraser

[Protein_mate]

No idea. I've never had trouble with approaching women, or people in general. I'm just confident

[Anonymous]

Go to Brazil bro, women there are more direct. That's my fantasy female

[Anonymous]

Entitled, narcissistic, false victim feminist cancer has infested them all and made them impossible to be around.

[Jasminne]

Because now a days everyone lack social skills. Everyone’s a introvert[...]

[Mamamialetmego]

We are doomed to vanish. Everyone is cool in Social Media but in real life everyone insecure introverts.

[Anonymous]

Since the invention of butt plugs it has made it easier for them to walk around in public with something up their ass

[Anonymous]

Because a lot act like they're hot shit & because of that it's really not worth the trouble man since a lot really stuck up bitches

[MzAsh]

They’re not attracted to you.

[Asker]

This doesn't explain lack of approachability, in which case the question becomes, why do women only open to conversation with men they're sexually attracted to? I have not experienced evidence women only communicate with men they're sexually attracted to either.

[MzAsh]

I think as a generation our in-person social skills have taken a huge hit due to the rise of the internet.

Another reason, When guys hit on or approach me in person, even when they are nice, it catches me off guard and I’m embarrassed, both for me and for him because I know I’ll turn him down. Also engaging nicely with some men has resulted in having stalkers and enemies pretty quickly.

[Asker]

I don't want anyone to take this polarization, or judgement. Only effort to objectively present a situation I'm curious to understand. This answer was what I was looking for, just to understand better can hopefully empathize, and relate to a woman's perspective better.

[MzAsh]

It’s a reasonable question. 😊

[BatmansWife]

Some could shy, scared, nervous, etc.

[GreciaJackson]

maybe we have higher standards

[buttcrackjoe]

Approach with intent to do what exactly

[Asker]

Approach with intent to have a conversation, from girls I observe constantly staring, both before and after said cold response is received on attempt to initiate conversation.

[buttcrackjoe]

Maybe you come across as disingenuous i dunno i ain't no pick up artist but some people have gift of gab and can slide into dms like a boss with little effort I have to be in some situation i can comment on like upon first meeting “damn this line is taking forever amirite lets have sex”

[FunkyMonkee]

They're a bunch of self-centered stuck-up cunts!!

[StephenCF]

The “Me Too” feminist assumption 😒

[Rangers]

They have ridiculous standards

[bannacookies]

Because they like..."You can't touch this!" Lol

[IIGrifterSixII]

Liberal entitlement and victim mentality

[StickStickity13]

They have tons of options, not much else to say.

[manish331]

You may sound creepy at the first go

[Asker]

It's possible, but given the number of men who've had this experience, and that it's hard to sound creepy simply walking up to someone, such as at work, or school, and saying "hi", I'd put my odds against it.

[TheFlak38]

They are self-entitled bitches.

[HereIbe]

They aren't. You're just clueless.

[Anonymous]

Feminism

[foriWish]

Yup we're very influential

[Opinion Owner]

@foriWish no modern feminism is cancer

[foriWish]

Feminism is the fight for equal rights and opportunities for women. I don't know what kind of 'feminism' you're referring to

[Opinion Owner]

@foriWish lol. Women have equal rights in the us. Gender pay gap is a myth. I say this who has worked for five years.

[foriWish]

So you know every single woman in the world, how much she's paid, if it's fair, etc? Interesting. Also, do you compare your paid amount with other workers to make sure it's fair? I doubt it lol

[Opinion Owner]

@foriWish what I know is that many hiring managers that I've spoken to state that they don't consider gender when determining pay. It's purely numbers.

Reason that some women get paid less is due to behavious. Women spend one hour during lunch talking to husband kids etc, speak with no confidence. Like they choose words that are softer. Men don't. There has been numerous studies on this.

There are studies that show that women that have what is typically same language and behaviour as men get paid the equal amount.

[foriWish]

Smh ridiculous. I won't even bother breaking your OPINIONS down because they certainly aren't facts

[Opinion Owner]

@foriWish I quoted studies u moron.

[Holy_Ghost_Fire]

Many are selfish and high demanding.

[daddy1995]

because they feel a proche to be men s lol

[lowellster]

They like to be aloof

[Anonymous]

Because they think that being a bitch is cool.

[4spie]

Strangers?

[Anonymous]

Feminism and #metoo

[mermaidia_lol]

I dunno.

[hafinjun]

gunshy?

[Twenty2]

Feminism.

[JamesBlackDragon]

They not

[theFantasticJayy]

Because they hoes

[Anonymous]

Because you're ugly.

[Asker]

Then the question becomes, why are women so shallow, to the point they don't open themselves to conversation with individuals unless they're physically attractive?

[Bman4907]

You speak of the wonderful double standard that exists. Woman doesn't want to talk to ugly guy, her choice. Guy doesn't want to talk to ugly woman, he's sexist.

[Asker]

@Bman4907 the growing standard of narcissism annoys me as well... take 5 seconds to give close attention to someone beyond yourself:

"I'm going to answer my version of the question, based on assertions never made within the actual statement (in this case, any romantic/sexual interest), and answer as if my question was asked."

Then, she used this effort not to offer advice, or any effort in response, only to put another down, based on an imaginary claim they never made.