Women don't actually seem to want "nice guys" so why do they keep affirming that they do? (Page 2)

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I believe that women, regardless of their political affiliation, are more attracted to men who are more cocky and slightly aggressive then men who are more laid back and passive. Yet many of those same women have waged a war against toxic masculinity, a broken social construct for sure, but one that produced the brutish, confident, emotionally detached men that seem to fair better sexually and romantically.

Sacrilege_is_hawt · Answer

No one wants toby mcguire spiderman "nice guys" or fedora-tipping neckbeard "nice guys." We want an atractive, confident guy who doesn't have to be a saint, just not a dick.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Because they've been burnt by bad boys so they think putting a label on the opposite of that will give them what they want. But women don't understand what they want because most of what attracts them is subconscious.

PaganWarrior · Answer

What you should put is.. "SOME women." not all of us like the arseholes.

Dav1ss · Answer

A few things laid back and passive aren't the same thing as nice and nice isn't always what people think It is

genericname85 · Answer

women do want nice guys but if "being nice" is all you got going for you, then that's not enough. also there's a difference between being a decent person and people that put women on a pepdestal.

Hurlyburly · Answer

Women are attracted to men which are nice. But if you expect them to be all over you just because you act like a decent human being you're probably not as nice as you think.

RHK36 · Answer

Labels like nice guys and bad boys are just to try an give a better explanation of why people do what they do. Fact is, most people don't know what they want and can have a change of heart as quickly as they fall in love.

JaklenHyde · Answer

I think that being laid back and passive as a guy can be interpreted by a female as not caring and/or being a pushover.

tara987 · Answer

Thanks for letting me know that I don't want a nice guy. I always thought that I did.

Poss420 · Answer

There are a lot of girls that love nice guys but you have to put your self out there. Trust me it is shit with the games you mostly put up with especially online but in the end you will find some girl who doesn't want to play around.

BCA6010 · Answer

Lots of women confuse "bad boys" with masculinity. THAT is the problem. And correct, it's pretty irrelevant to political views and other factors.

uniq_username · Answer

They don't want fakers. Either you are a natural jerk, or you are not. If they were to recant the nice guy story, a bunch of losers would try acting like jerks towards them. That's not good for anybody.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Because there are two kinds of nice guys. The doormats/hypocrits and the actually nice guy

arabgoddess · Answer

Women attracted to passive aggressive men.. there's something appealing about arrogant men?

MsElizabeth96 · Answer

'Cocky and slightly aggressive' makes it sound like the guy is. more confident and can stand up for himself.  I Want a man who can look after both me and himsekf

leahzrc · Answer

Jokes on you i dont like anybody but i guess if i did it would be a nice guy

xyz94 · Answer

I don’t think this is strictly true - many women do want to date a caring, honest guy.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Most women are children. They dont want to get in the bath until they do and then they dont want to get out. They dont even know what they want. When you stop treating them like adults and start to treat them like children it all will make sense.

Aphrodite801 · Answer

If you believe that you're obviously pretty ignorant.

Koreantransgender · Answer

Niceness is only one thing out of a lot of other characteristics. With one niceness you can’t attract women. Duh

_SOARER_ · Answer

Its why I dont listen to women on subjects like politics, sociology and relationships.  A man's job is to lead. Not to follow the whims of women.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

They want guys who are nice, but not boring. What they don't want is "nice guys" who are really just faking being kind in order to try to get in their pants.

winterfox10 · Answer

Because the nice guy isn't making women feel like they have earned anything special in receiving his affection.

TheFlak38 · Answer

what women say and what they respond to are two different things. It's them shit testing men all the time.

Omar5881 · Answer

Are nice guys just nice to get girls? Then they're not nice and it shouldn't matter really so what you're gonna just change your behaviour to " make girls like you " that's very childish

Therisinghero12 · Answer

Everybody likes something different, there's nothing wrong with that; just keep in mind that what most people want isn't what everybody wants, so keep chugging along my guy :D

YHL6965 · Answer

I think the biggest flaw in your question is that you put all women in the same bag. I think most good/nice women want nice guys while more shallow women want more shallow men, etc...

GreatnessBack · Answer

There is a disconnect from people's higher self and base self. It's sad really.  A combination of the two is needed to live a happy life.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Because they are pathetic weaklings who being a guy's sperm dumpster while being treated like shit. That's women for ya.

CasaNorba · Answer

because women will say and make up any bullshit to avoid judgment and repercussion.

LogicBomber · Answer

For the same reason children want to be treated like adults but when they are they don't like it.

shayee · Answer

That is sooo not true im a good loyal and faithful female that would love to have a loving loyal, faithful, and caring ass dude.

kobra8874 · Answer

I believe man can be nice, kind and confident at the same time. I feel that confidence is best displayed by making decisions and sticking to them. Also I display confidence by the cloths I wear..

Philyouup · Answer

Me too! Was going to reply then I read this post. She nailed no doubt.

judubniceguy · Answer

Yea I don't get it I'm a hard working provider... sometimes I feel like I need to commit a felony to get girls to actully notice

CT_CD · Answer

They're liars. Just look at the type of guys who are successful with banging lots of women.

wouterv · Answer

They do but the thing is if be saying u a "Nice Guy". U ain't u being a self absorbt prick

Shellyworld · Answer

Because some women want a tough man.. and that means he has to be aggressive.

Xurik · Answer

Because people lie to themselves and others and say what sounds good instead of what they mean to satisfy their own ego.

yourfavperson · Answer

I have a really good take on the definition of nice guys from a womans pov vs a mans. Just haven't written it yet.

BrotherFrost · Answer

Very few women actually know what they want. So far i met only one in my entire lifetime.

WarDaddy1969 · Answer

Now they really want a bad boy that's a fact. They want excitement

Wolkmi · Answer

Nobody, girls and guys, confidence or not, is nice anymore. there's nothing in this world.

Mrblooo · Answer

Yeah it happens when they get raped then they want the laid back n passive

MrDerek · Answer

Because women want to ride the cock carousel till they are 40

Kdude010 · Answer

Women are a lost cause. They can't make up their mind.

smartrider · Answer

Girls see passiveness as idleness. So they don't give a fork.

Ninjazzed · Answer

Nobody wants to be stuck with a douchebag.

Anonymous · Answer

Nice guys tend to not be adventurous enough and women get bored easily, that's all

Dinklex3 · Answer

Cool. What's your definition of a "nice" guy?

Daniela1982 · Answer

Who the hell told you that?

Andéersin · Answer

Sexually yes, but sure as hell not romantically.

buttcrackjoe · Answer

Nice guys always seem to want something...

Rangers · Answer

They don't know what they really want

NewUser19 · Answer

Women don't know what they want

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

What women don't want is a pussy man.

Anonymous · Answer

Noo. I likeee clingy, innocent, cutee men!

Tyase · Answer

They just don't want to admit it. I think 🤔🤔

nerms123 · Answer

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