Several of my coworkers, men and women, think I'm a lesbian due to my mannerisms: how I dress, act, and carry myself. I'm straight.
No, I don't care what others think about me, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to soften my appearance.
I have a work uniform and dress code to follow, so dressing sexy at work is out of the question! Outside of work I dress very casual and comfortable: jeans, shorts, tees, or tank tops with tennis shoes.
I have been told I have a nice, hourglass figure by other women. Yet men see me as, "one of the guys."
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Probably should have added my work attire is scrubs.
There is not much you can do to make scrubs look feminine other than wearing form fitted ones~
You can do certain things to add femininity to your appearance without compromising the comfort that comes with tomboyish attires. Firstly you can add accessories to an androgynous/boyish outfit to have more of a feminine element to it. Opt for daintier pieces if you're too uncomfortable with heavy jewelry. A pair of bold studs, a dainty chain necklace with a cute little pendant, a nice purse or vanity bag, a hair accessory etc can really make you look more feminine, and since you mentioned you have an hourglass figure I believe belts would be an amazing addition. I personally wear a gold chain necklace at all times and I recently pierced my nose so that even if I'm ever in a rush and have no time to put any jewelry on, I still have a nice dainty pendant and a tiny diamond nose ring at all times. Makes me feel good even at the gym, lol.
Wear some makeup if you don't already. It doesn't have to be something crazy, but a small winged eyeliner (use brown or grey if black is too much for you) and some blush and lip color can enhance your face beautifully, they have this thing called lip and cheek stain, they can be nice because you don't have to think too much and one product serves both purposes.
Another thing that can add femininity is good looking hands and feet. You don't need to get crazy manicures and pedicures and you don't even have to paint your nails, just use a nail brush to clean the nails and remove dead skin in the shower, and follow up with an oil or lotion on them. When you clio your nails, also file them even if it's in the shape of your natural nail. This is enough to make the hands and feet look better overtime.
Regarding shoes, you better walk gracefully in a pair of converse than trip over your 6 inch heels if you want to be more womanly. It's really more about the gracefulness of you walk so work on your posture and walk before anything else. Then, you can slowly start wearing more feminine shoes, they don't have to be high heels right off the bat. But if you want to wear heels, better stick to not-so-high options and make sure the heels are wider/bigger instead of the pencil heels, they are easier to pull off.
I hope these tips help you to comfortably incorporate not feminine elements to your appearance. You don't have to go crazy with it, trust me.
You should start doing things that make you feel a more feminine, that might help you to appear more feminine. A light makeup might help, and making sure your hair looks presentable. Also to seem less masculine, be aware of what you're doing, don't do things like cracking knuckles or fidgeting, try to walk in a feminine way and try to speak thoughtfully. Things like how you stand and talk etc will really help.
With dressing, softer colours and fabrics will help. Colours like pink and white and pale blue, silk shirts and any clothes with movement, like flowing dresses will make you look more feminine. Try not to pick things with really harsh cuts and lots of cleavage or strange cut outs, they make your appearance harsh. Lace, any colour is a surefire way to look more feminine. Also, ditch any clunky looking chunky shoes you have.
There are a few ways: - Wear some makeup, if you already do then wear some more brighter colours - Jewellery - Nice perfume - Wear dresses/skirts - Wear heels - When sitting down, cross your leg over the other (the feminine way to sit) - Don’t speak too loud, keep your voice soft - Take care in the way you do your hair - Bring a purse/handbag - Get your nails done/paint them yourself
But girl you don’t need to change yourself, if the way you act and dress doesn’t bother you then don’t bother changing yourself for others
Don’t try to compete with dudes. Don’t move something larger than say 5 pounds without asking a guy to help. But always say thanks or you’ll be seen as a cun*
Don’t boss dudes around. Make polite suggestions ending in a question mark. Unless you’re literally his boss & even then not the best approach.
Try to walk with your feet falling closer to an imaginary line down the middle of your body that goes towards the direction you’re moving in.
Better know how to walk in heels snd platforms.
Wear push up bra sometimes.
Grow your hair out. Dudes prefer long hair.
Smile/be upbeat. Women hate this but hey, if you want to not be seen as a butch a-hole it’s required.
The more you let dudes lead or pretend to the less you will be confused with a feminist carpet muncher.
Oh, yeah be fit. Exercise but not to the point where you look like a boy.
Wear clothes that fit.
Wear shoes mentioned above whenever possible.
Earrings.
Don’t be loud mouthed/vulgar/talking about sex at work or in public
Firstly, I would say dont change how you dress for others, but it sounds like you're interested in at least trying. And hey it never hurts to he versatile.
Secondly, I don't know if that's you in the pic but look great and pull off the first outfit fantastically but if you do want to go for a feminine look, then try some more make up, but keep it natural. Put your hair down, and put something in it like a head hand, cinch that waist with fitted clothes or a belt. keep Jeans tight, elastic, and single tone. Dont go for that blue-green to pale blue wash from the picture. As for jewelry, avoid anything chunky and try something delicate like a single stone necklace, hoop earrings, or a minimalist watch. Try out lower necklines and shoes with a bit more height in the heel.
Finally keep in mind that even if men see you as "one of the boys" that doesn't make you undateable. Keep it flirty and you'll prob score some points for being so able to hang out with guys
As nothing to do what you wear. The tomboy is who you are. Its your personality trait.
My best honest opinion is try get some buddies that are girly and hopes some of it rubs off on you.
I'm going to make a assumption here. So don't made if I guess wrong.
Do you grow up around mosty boys and men? My wife did and is very tomboyish and I was raised always around girls and women so I tend to be girly.
Look I see it your are part of your environment going up.
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No no, your assumption is correct sir! I have had a handful of girl buddies over the years, however they were tomboyish as well.
The rest of my friends have always been guys. And I grew up with older brothers and a dad that treated me like a son, lol. I am pretty sure that had a lot to do with it.
So: you want to be perceived more like 'one of the girls'? I would not make 'drastic' changes - you can't really act (or look) as if you are a different person. You COULD: communicate your 'straightness': with comments, anecdotes and such. And perhaps display a few 'feminine' features, like some make-up, or jew-ellery: little signals that hint at your gender. By the way: looking at the left of the photos, I can say for myself that it looks appealing. Perhaps you just mix with the 'wrong' people...
Those several coworkers might not be people you'd want to be friends with. The most mature and confident thing to do is expressing yourself, People and even guys find this attractive, and those who don't aren't the ones you'd want to be friends with or date either way.
Trust me, there are people out there willing to accept you for who you are, and love you for it too.
Honestly men also enjoy a badass tomboy, it lets a woman know how a man feels at times...
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Most guys in fact prefer tomboyish girls, unless they are brainwashed by the church. Casual clothes like jeans, shorts, tees, or tank tops with tennis shoes are not "men's clothes", those are all unisex clothes, anyone can wear them, regardless of the gender. "Feminine and masculine" are just a social construct, gender roles are stereotype imposed by religion. Only stupid guys think that tomboys are "lesbians".
As long as you weren't spitting tobacco everywhere, I could accept you as you are. Being a Tomboy could be appearance or internal. As long as you are comfortable, it shouldn't matter what you wear. Bibs can be sexy on a girl! As for what you talk about, as long as you know what you are talking about, I don't care what is under those clothes. You are pretty, no matter what others say.
Well first you should love yourself. And sometimes putting a bit of mascara on will help you look nice, and changing the hairstyle. For instance, you could rock a ponytail with curls at the ends. And you dont need to change your personality just for someone to like you! Just know that. But that is my tip, and hope its useful.
I would say go on pinterest or something and look for outfits and hairstyles that you like that look a bit more girly than what you normally wear. Gradually incorporate more feminine elements into your style.
clothing makes a big difference as would make up but i would say you still need to feel comfortable so you should never go beyond that just to please others
Well, smile more, if you have to wear a collared shirt don’t button it up all the way, wear a feminine necklace or hair pin (something near your face), grow your hair longer.
Just be yourself, never change for anyone. This is key to true happiness.
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For me, all a tomboy needs to do to be feminine without changing her habits is to have long hair. Then she's becomes a beautiful woman who is easy to get along with/ has similar interests.
I used to be a huge tomboy when I was younger then I embraced my feminine qualities I'd start by wearing some light makeup whatever makes you feel comfortable, maybe start wearing some cute heels and painting your nails
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