Girls, have you ever played "HARD-TO-GET"?

[laurieluvsit]

OK, don't lie and don't act surprised... you know what I'm talking about!

I think I am just about to give away some of our secrets with this question, aren't I? ... lol

Q: So, there's this guy that you are thinking you may like, but you're not so sure yet, what do you do?

A: You spur him on a little and try to get him to come on to you so you can get a feeling for what he is like, then you pull back just enough to see what his level of pursuit and interest really is?

I don't have to ask if I am getting close, because I already know that I am, since many, if not most, of us really do this, it's many little tests that we use... lol

Much of this is just instinctively in our DNA, and nothing we are taught, and of course, there are many variations of this, and each girl has her own variation.

Obviously, this is something we do in our earlier dating days, not so much when we get older.

So it's confession time! ... what is your way of doing it, or ways you have done it in the past?

Guys, what ways have you seen girls playing Hard-To-Get without totally shutting you down?

Share your thoughts about this... PLEASE!

A. YES! I confess! I have done that with guys before, it is just a natural pre-dating instinct that we have in order to ferret out guys that we may, or may not, like

B. OMG NO! I would never ever do such a thing to a guy! (fingers crossed behind back... lol)

C. No, seriously, playing hard to get is not something that I have ever done

D. OMG! YES! I have seen, or experienced, girls do this more than once!

E. No, I have never had a girl do this to me

G. OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Playing Hard To Get" survey

[Tylenol]

From a guy's perspective, there are three reasons why we'd pursue a woman.
1. We want an honest friendship (this is almost never the case)
2. We just wanna fuk (a good amount of guys are like this)
3. We want a relationship (I think more guys fit into this category than society would have us believe)

For case 2, if you play hard to get then they'll lose interest in you faster than a kid with ADHD. This is either good or bad, depending on your goal.
For case 3, if you play easy to get then they'll either take their chance with you and run, or they'll think maybe the situation is too good to be true and move on.

It's a lot like fishing. First you have to make sure you bait the hook to suit your fish (strategically attract the guys you want) then when they bite, let them on a little before you yank back on the line to set the hook in the fish's mouth (get the guy to gain more attraction by playing a little hard to get) from there, just reel 'em in.

[Somethingwittty]

This has happens to me and I legit laugh. Everytime. Subtly is cool when we're flirting but if you get distant on me out of the blue I will think I messed up somewhere and move on.

If were dating and you pull this on me and I actually care enough to work on things Ill give it my best but if I ask you what's up and you say "oh I just wanted you to chase me" I will laugh in your face and walk away.

Dont get pissed your games fall flat with me. I have dealt with them many times.

[Somethingwittty]

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[Paulaanderson]

Yes in my late 20s I fancied this guy so much but didn't want to be easy. I knew I was going yo sleep with him but I played hard to get
Let him feel sides of boobs and thighs let him kiss cleavage and this lasted 3 weeks
One afternoon he just said to me it was driving him crazy and wanted to just feel me and see me and he zipped his jeans to show an amazing hard on
I told him he was going to do more than that and I wanted him him in me
Amazing four hours of sex
I was glad as making it wait made it more explosive.
Ended up marrying him

[Cynicaldreamer]

Yeah I'll admit when I was younger I used to play hard to get with guys. I mean that's what most of us are taught right? Don't be too available or easy or guys lose interest...

Yeah that crap doesn't work, LOL.
If anything, I lost guys doing it!!! Because they assumed I wasn't interested in them. Or they just got frustrated and moved on to someone else.

Now that I'm older and not as stupid, if a guy likes me and I like him, he's going to know it! I don't have the time or patience for games anymore, haha.

[Avinash1223]

Ya you was true

[Finchie40]

I had to play hard to get with my ex just to get laid , I hated it. But I know. Guys and girls both do it , I think it’s dumb to be honest , why play games and cause drama , if u like someone u like someone. Why pretend that you aren’t that interested in them

[VIVANT]

No. If I am t in a person I will try to be consistent. I may be a bit shy in the beginning or very shy if I like someone, but I’ll be consistent. I pull back only if he is legit busy , I sense he is not interested, or he rejects me outright.

[VIVANT]

I don’t like games not just bc it can waste people’s time, but

1 it creates way too much confusion.. you begin it is impossible to know if a person is reacting negatively to YOU or to their confusion.

2 And bc I don’t want a guy who likes me bc he can chase me. I want a guy who likes me even if I don’t make him feel doubtful.

3 the kind of person I’m interested in would not put up with it , so I’d lose him to a game.

[VIVANT]

4 I wouldn’t want someone treating me that way so I don’t want to do it.

5 I think there is enough work in getting to know someone and being respectful and kind and trustworthy. Someone chasing me whike I feign disinterest doesn’t tell me ANYTHING about the kind of morals or respect or fortitude or compassion he has in real life situations. Games ate useless very damaging and it prove nothing.

Unless you like them and some people do and they both participate and enjoy it. I mean it’s anyone decision if they will play or not so I don’t hold it against a person for trying if they enjoy it. Bc no one is forcing the other one to respond. That’s their decision.. But I don’t see the point.

[VIVANT]

Sorry

Interested**

[worldscolide]

You my friend are one in a million..

[motownplayer2000]

Yeah I know the game. I learned it after I realized my errors. And when a woman does that. I pull away completely. Until she is ready to show her hand. I dont play mind games with a woman at her own game. I will lose everytime. The best way to win is for her to have played the game by herself.

[Jjpayne]

Something tells me the hard to get girls don't chime in :)

[laurieluvsit]

Yes!

Funny, I was thinking the same thing.

Most are saying "Not Me!" but, like you, I know the ones that do are out there... lol

I think it is such an instinctive act that most girls don't even realize that they do it in so many subliminal ways :)

[Jjpayne]

I think it's the natural feeling of selection. It's like animals in wild, the lady sits back while the men try to impress her and she chooses the winner. But it's slightly different because she's testing him, if he wins he gets the prize, if he loses she moves on. Maybe something like that but it's just a theory

[laurieluvsit]

I think you are close, if not right on! :)

[leahzrc]

So if there was a guy that I think I might like, but I don't know for sure, I wouls probably just act regularly. I am not much a flirt really and I wouldn't be mean to a guy unless he did something mean

[Apple1996]

Yess definitely have done this a few times. I usually do it over text, like text a guy a lot for a few days then all of a sudden stop and see how many times he trys to text me to get my attention 😆😆

[ReplierM]

If someone were to do that I would instantly stop chasing after her. That's not worth my time and I can't tell if she's serious in leaving her alone or not. I'm either boring for not playing the game or a creep for trying but failing to do so. It's a sick way to play with guys' feelings. Stop it.

[gaurwaith]

I agree, I don't try to date anymore because of this and many other things women do, but think I can't pick up on.

[chaeyoungswife]

I did and now its the reason I've never been in a relationship cause I'm a dumb dumb.

[laurieluvsit]

NO, not "I AM" ... it is "I WAS"

... remember, today is a NEW DAY! :)

If you aren't in a relationship, why is "wife" included in your user name Ms Chae?

[chaeyoungswife]

It's just a joke because a girl from a Korean group is named Chaeyoung and she'
s one of my girl crushes so I made my user 'chaeyoungswife'.

[laurieluvsit]

Are you lesbian or bi?

[chaeyoungswife]

I'm bi

[laurieluvsit]

Nice, OK, that makes sense :)

[worldscolide]

When a girl plays hard to get with me, I play impossible to get... As In I drop her, because I font play childish manipulative games..

[311WasAnInsideJam]

I've had guys claim I'm "playing hard-to-get" because I always reject their advances.

But, no, I don't play hard-to-get.

[Nik1hil]

I love it.
When a girl plays hard to get..
But only if she leaves enough bread crumb to follow her..

Or I think she is not interested.
And don't track her..

[D3V1N]

Playing the hard-to-get/chase me game is probably one of the dumbest things we do as people. If you're interested show it, if you're not say you're not. People aren't prizes. If you're constantly find yourself chasing people you should check your self respect.

[Edanurus]

I think what girls don't realise is that guys are measuring you up as much as you are doing the same. We don't do it with tests though we do it through reaction.

To me these tests are stupid since the ones who fail them are the ones who are inexperienced and not sure how to react to it. The players however know the right thing to say to pass these test so thats why you get certian people who say "all men are players" no, you're just filtering out the decent ones with silly games.

[Anonymous]

Boy's logic: if she is so easy to get, she is a slut.
But also: i dont like bitches who are hard to get and so i am not gonna play this mickey mouse shit

[laurieluvsit]

OMG, you just gave me a great idea for a question. Can I steal from you? ... lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, of course

[Opinion Owner]

Haha

[iDontGetPeople]

An equally sweeping statement:

Girl’s logic: I am so attracted to him. OMG he’s so hot. I really want him.
But also: I’d better not let him know how I feel - just in case. I think I’ll wait for him to chase me.

[Opinion Owner]

My first opnion on this post has already explained that

[laurieluvsit]

Just posted it Ms Kim, thank you for the idea! :)

Guys, why are you so repulsed by girls who play "Hard To Get", but then girls who are "Easy To Get" you call sluts? ↗

[Elliegirl]

I’ve done it. When I was younger I enjoyed making guys chase me and work for it.

[_uck_uckGoose]

I don’t play hard to get. I’m very reserved and I don’t share myself with just anyone. There’s only been one person who’s been able to get me.

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Never played that way and am against it. Real women don‘t treat me like a hide and seek game.

[GloriaMc]

Hard to get means something Maybe there is something she wants to know more without even bothering anyone to asked a question.

[Unit1]

If a girl plays hard to get on me, she'll have a hard time getting me back because I have moved on by then.

This seemed to happened to me recently. I won't regret being hard-to-get-back. Ladies don't do that kindergarten games to me.

[TacosRAwesome]

Thought I was but turns out I was playing hard to want not hard to get and only attracted weirdos.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Guilty! Sorry!

[laurieluvsit]

I think it definitely has it's place in the dating and mating realm! Not sorry! ... lol

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Yeah! :D

[Anonymous]

behavior isn't something contained within DNA, it's learned from parents, siblings, friends or others. so I very much disagree with you there, it's based in insecurity with ones surroundings in an attempt to protect yourself.

[nerms123]

I play easy to get and it works pretty well lol

[MzAsh]

Don’t play hard to get. Be hard to get.

[zaharaa]

maybe once 🤣

[deedaysun]

A few times yes