Do boys enjoy when a random girl stares or checks them out?

[CocoFrosty]

I'm not saying like in a complete rude creepy way just causally , & for those that get angry are they not into girls or something?

[WadeDanielSmith]

I get flirted with by older women, but I've never really had women my age "checking me out" very rarely get complimented by women my own age. Well, "Snow" was very nice to me, but ultimately she friend zoned me too, so whatever.

I'd rather the girl stare at me than not stare at me. If she's staring at me then at least she's interested I guess.

[CocoFrosty]

I stared at some boy & I didn't give two flying fucks he caught me but he didn't get bothered it's like he was pleased by me.

[WadeDanielSmith]

Well like I said, at least it means you're interested. I wish more women in my "dating range" would be interested in me.

I've joined a new dating site, and women are messaging me first. I am talking to this lovely 34 years old the past few days. I will try to convince her ot go on a real date with me, but she wants to talk online first.

[PlacentaSalad]

I've never known any males to complain about a female "checking" him out. This is only ever a complaint made by women because she's been led to believe society objectifies her. Most guys are not complimented nearly as often as a female is, so a woman who finds him attractive enough to stare is a boost to his confidence.

[CocoFrosty]

So why the hell he doesn't go up & talk to her , even if he's with another girl?

[PlacentaSalad]

Are you asking why a guy doesn't ditch the woman he is with, to talk to another woman he notices looking at him? It's probably because we're smarter than that and know we'd be murdered. If I am with a girl, especially if I am dating her, I'd never abandon her for somebody else who might be checking me out, or who might just be looking at me because she thinks I look funny. We aren't mind readers so who knows why she is staring especially if she sees a woman in my company. I have noticed women looking at me from across the mall before, but it's also very likely they were looking at the mannequin behind me because it was wearing a dress she liked.

Secondly, if the guy is by himself, then perhaps he either doesn't realize the staring is something positive or perhaps he is too shy to approach, or just isn't interested in the person gazing at him. In the case that he is shy, bravery and courage are not inherently male traits. And a guy who might not get a lot of female attention might not see the opportunity. The real question is, if a woman is checking out a guy, what is stopping her from approaching him if she finds him attractive enough?

[CocoFrosty]

message me & I'll tell you the story

[EGarzona]

In my experience with "boys," most of then have no idea you're checking them out unless you're obvious. Men however love being checked out makes them feel good about themselves.

[Piano_11]

True, we don‘t notice most of the time :D Seems like girls notice every look though... :D

[CocoFrosty]

So if I'm obvious about it what would he think especially if he doesn't seem to mind me looking?

[EGarzona]

@CocoFrosty at your age who knows honestly, he might think your acting weird he might think it's weird your "checking him out" he might like it. Honestly getting the attention of boys is not important and chasing them usually makes them run away tbh.

[_food_lover234]

i meannn i find it a confidence boost when a guy does it so id imagine the same for them

[CocoFrosty]

So if a guy doesn't mind a girls eyes on him but he doesn't smile is dat bad?

[_food_lover234]

wait so he knew you were looking at him but didn't smile back? did he look uncomfortable in any way? I mean its kinda a bad thing, bc I would take it as he doesn't care, or he's not into you. usually they smile back soo i don't think its a good thing

[CocoFrosty]

Well when he caught me looking at him he was talking with someone but he saw me & he was actually with a girl at the time but I didn't care if he caught me.

Also he saw me today walking outside he was with the same girl & he kept looking at me while talking to her

[_food_lover234]

well if he kept looking at you while talking to the other girl that's a good sign because it means you caught his attention, but has he gone up to you or said anything to you?

[CocoFrosty]

Nope cus he rarely gets to see me & it seems he's always with that same girl lol must be his sister

[_food_lover234]

or maybe his girfriend? I don't know. i mean i think he might be curious who you are , but bc he doesn't see you a lot i think that's all it is

[CocoFrosty]

Yeah & since last time he allowed me to look at him taking my sweet time , & I didn't get nervous either.

Well I can't expect him to come talk to me cus he's with her & people tell me they won't ditch whoever their with for someone else what do you think?

[_food_lover234]

do you like him?

[CocoFrosty]

I do like looking at him since I was entertained looking at him prob cause I was bored & he was new to look at

[CocoFrosty]

But if he a lame I don't got time for people with little kid games I'm marvelous for that

[_food_lover234]

lmaooo you go gurl. ok, if you wanna get to know the dude, to see if he's not lame- then just uh figure out a way to ask for homework help lol I'm the worst at this

[CocoFrosty]

This is a random guy HW? Tf 🤣🤣

[_food_lover234]

LMAOOOO IKKKKKK, boi just be like hey i lost my phone, whats the time. and then hell tell you the time

[_food_lover234]

but like maybe also slide yo number in

[CocoFrosty]

what if he don't know the time? 🤭🤷 , Eye contact & a smile always a starter if he don't appreciate he's juss a waste.

There must be a reason he hasn't come up to me yet but he likes me looking

[_food_lover234]

i honestly can't tell ya. i would jsut go for it and play it by ear. you got this!

[jemismyname]

i'm kinda nearsighted but i don't like wearing glasses or contacts. sometimes it's hard to even tell if a girl is looking at me, grr.. it's the one time i don't like having fuzzy vision.

[CocoFrosty]

I rather talk about this privately message me ok :)

[jemismyname]

it didn't work, maybe you have to follow me first or something, or also i think lots of features are disabled until you get to Xper 2 at least. i think it's to keep down spammers.

but i like to talk about topic too

[jemismyname]

*talk about this topic

(apologies, my keyboard is kinda boof, rn)

[CocoFrosty]

Now try msging me

[Anonymous]

It is a sign of female attraction (a positive) but it can't go anywhere for me (a negative). I don't pick up random women, but must know her from work, college, or church. Most women don't share my beliefs, so I don't seek most women. I have to know her to some capacity. So distant yearning is just uncomfortable and awkward.

[Piano_11]

I don‘t care if they take a look :D After all, I‘m guilty of taking looks as well :D

[FilfeeAnimal]

no, were not jus piece of meat for u to sexually objectify and gaze ur thirsty eyes upon.. have some respect!
fkn perverts

[FilfeeAnimal]

also i could ask the same about the 99.9 of girls that hate being checked out by guys.. are they lesbians or something?

[CocoFrosty]

Lord christ 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[FilfeeAnimal]

lol i mean i would have no problem with it if girls was also accepting of guys checking them us out, i would actually love it... but they always say we're objectifying them and being flithy perverts. so im jus being fair lol.

[CocoFrosty]

True I understand

[FilfeeAnimal]

lol y'all want war,
WE HAVE WAR

lol joke

[chriscdi]

they just sometimes find it weird or disrespectful when people stare when there's others that know what it means most of the time so they like it

[CocoFrosty]

So let's say I was staring at sum random boy & I didn't give two flying fucks that he caught me is dat bad?

[chriscdi]

depends on the boy, if it looks more of a mean mug face then hed take it the wrong way, just make sure to look cute while doing it and im sure it would work the way you want it too 🤷🏽‍♂️

[CocoFrosty]

So why the hell he didn't come up & talk to me even though he was with another girl? He clearly didn't mind me putting my eyes on his stupid ass lol

[chriscdi]

maybe he has his eyes on the other girl, if a guy has an eye on a girl, forget about him, he is blinded by that girl, he would most likely not notice you, sorry

[CocoFrosty]

True facts he a lame

[chriscdi]

then find a non lame lol

[perfectchaos]

It completely depends on the girl. Are they hot? Maybe I'm wearing something notable?

[nawtee_me]

I like to be checked out, it boost my ego... ;) What about you? if guys check you out without being rude of course, do you like it?

[7771999]

I get nervous if they're attractive. Otherwise I don't care

[CocoFrosty]

Why get nervous?

[7771999]

Because they're attractive, and I can't deal with attractive women. 😂

[Anonymous]

I don't pay attention to people in public unless I feel some immediate danger
Not to mention beyond my obscure fashion no one is looking at me

[diddlefiddler]

im sure they do, i hate when guys do that to me tho, i feel so objectifyed

[CocoFrosty]

So what does it mean when the guy notices the girl looking & he doesn't mind at all like he's delighted by her?

[CocoFrosty]

And then when he sees her again he stares at her while she's walking by is dat gud? Lol

[diddlefiddler]

it mean she hot lol

[Anonymous]

Off course, the only time it's annoying is when the girl is far too young and outrageously flirting with you because not only am I not interest but people might think that I'm a, well you know.

[CocoFrosty]

So if I guy seems to enjoy the fact a girl is staring at him is that good or bad?

[Opinion Owner]

It's good if you're interested in him.

[CocoFrosty]

But why didn't he smile back when I was staring at him?

Today he saw me walking & he kept looking at me while he was with someone else talking

[ItsTheNephilim]

If the girl's hot, yep.

[CocoFrosty]

So if a guy doesn't mind at all a girl staring at him does dat mean he like her? I bet if a girl was plainly staring at you , you wouldn't get mad right?

[ItsTheNephilim]

No, not necessarily. If the girl is just plainly staring, I'd not mind it, wouldn't think too much of it either.

[Twenty2]

I do! Do you like when boys stare at you?

[CocoFrosty]

Why do u like girls staring

[Twenty2]

Because they are girls who are interested in me which never happens

[CocoFrosty]

message me I wanna tell u something

[Twenty2]

Follow me

[CocoFrosty]

Now can u message me

[Twenty2]

I messages you

[Regal58]

Yeah, it's a big ego boost catching a girl staring

[CocoFrosty]

Why?

[Regal58]

You assume they're staring cos you look good

[CocoFrosty]

So if he seems delighted the fact he's looking is that gud?

[Regal58]

Yep, it is

[CocoFrosty]

Does that mean he finds her disgusting?

[Regal58]

Nah, he's probably interested if anything

[CocoFrosty]

So why wouldn't he go up & talk to her even if he's in the company of another girl?

[Regal58]

Who was the other girl?

[CocoFrosty]

Maybe a friend or relative didn't seem like a girlfriend they weren't holding hands

[Regal58]

Could be embarrassing in front of family and might not want friends talking about it either

[CocoFrosty]

True , well at least he liked the fact I was staring at me him right? Most guys would either laugh at the girl or just look at them disgusted

[Killingmoon]

No, because I don't like being watched in public

[Snakeyes7]

I would unless I am taken.

[slatyb]

Love it.

[CocoFrosty]

Why?

[slatyb]

I think most people want to feel that they are attractive to others. I understand that for women a guy staring can be creepy, because some guys are dangerous.

[CocoFrosty]

True facts