Is going on Craigslist missed connections and casual encounters cheating?

[Anonymous]

I checked my history on my computer looking for a website I had been to and I noticed that my girlfriend had been on craigslist missed connections and casual encounters. I then checked her computers history and it seems that she goes on that website all the time. She searches missed connections for her name, her work, and various local towns. She even searches for her ex-boyfriends name even though she claims to hate him. We have been dating for 2 years and are very serious. Should I be concerned or is she just wasting time on the internet?

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She seems distant sexually, as she always has an excuse for why we can't have sex. She seems to be tired all the time. And there is really no way of asking her about it because I know she will blow up in my face and say that I am spying on her and that I do not trust her. The thing is I kinda don't trust her. I have caught her lying to my face about small things, but it proves that she is capable of being dishonest. She will even cover up a lie with more lies.

[notonmywatch]

First thing is she is unwillingly to communicate. That is worse than the online shit. If she can't talk to you you'll never know more than you know now. Work on communication... if you can't earn it then leave her. She obviously has fantasies she is not sharing. So now you have someone you trust trolling online and who has fantasies she is not making you part of. I'm going through the same stuff right now. Only my gf knows I know. She wants to act like it didn't happen and it was no big deal when she was online. She is wrong. What you need to remember is that SHE made the choice to go online. You are responsible for half your relationship. You are not responsible for what she chooses to do outside your relationship. Get her communication or get out. I am about to get out. She refuses to talk so I am done with her. Follow your own gut.

[MachineMan]

Sounds like a big deal to me... maybe she has some nostalgia for her past lover. To me it is technically not cheating but I would definitely ask her about it, if it is a mature relationship she should be open and explain why she is doing this. Has she seemed distant or not satisfied?

[MachineMan]

Ye sounds bad, it is not good to be in a relationship if you don't really trust the other person.

[shawneedawn]

you know that's funny for the last few months my husband was acting the same way, never wanted to talk if I asked even the simplest question he would flip out, and he hardly ever wanted to have sex, it was like a job to get him to bed. he was very distant with me we never talked. I even have a few questions on here that I asked people about what he was doing those things.

well anyways about a week ago he told me he was seeing another woman, it killed me but I guess in the back of my head I already knew. but he ended it before they ended up doing anything sexualy" that's what he told me" well anyways I really think you need to worry about it, sounds like she maybe cheating on you I would just end it.

well I hope it works out for you hun good luck!

[shawneedawn]

i would be concerned. have you asked her about it? if so how did she react, you can really tell if someone is hiding something by the way the answer and by there body language when you ask.

[Broken_InSide]

i don't think that's cheating otherwise she won't use your computer to access that website.