Do women of color only find white men attractive only because media influence and money?

[Anonymous]

i feel like the attraction between women of color ( especially if they are Asian ) don't genuinely find white men attractive and as some black men say it's media brain washing or they are gold diggers

so what's going on?

[Oigit]

So I grew up around some people that thought people should only date within their race and other groups they are "part of". A couple went as far as demonizing those who did date outside of their race and other groups. I have always found women of other races and mine attractive. So it was one of the many things that caused me to go against what I was being told.

Also it made me realize a flaw in human physiology. If we hear the some thing enough times, especially when we are growing up, it can very much become a assumption. Also there is a chance it can become a truth in our mind, despite not having any empirical evidence to back it up.

One of the biggest issues with these assumptions and truths is trying to prove them. Yet we never question them or think about how to prove them. Asking ourselves questions such as "How do I prove this is true?" can quickly snap the falsehood of such assumptions and truths into focus.

For example to prove that all women of color who like white men are gold diggers, you would have to create a experiment to prove this. You would have to conduct that experiment on every women of color that like white men. Trying to get a exact number of women of color that like white men is a herculean task that can quickly prove itself to be impossible to accomplish. So you are running a high risk of failing before you even start.

Now, your experiment would have to be validated by many scientists of various disciplines before you even start it or publish it. So you hopefully avoid your experiment being published and quickly being torn apart once it becomes public. Also always remember evidence, evidence, evidence. It does not matter how good a study is, without solid evidence to back it up, you might as well be using it as toilet paper. Gathering verifiable evidence can be a real bitch too.

[Posterboy56]

"so what's going on" uhhh... gee, perhaps humans are attracted to other humans. As in, what's been going on for tens of thousands of years. Huh. Weird.

[mindNsoul]

Not every person of color is poor and not every white person is rich to assume that these women must be gold diggers.

And not everyone is consumed by racial issues. You do you and let others live their lives.

[Asker]

WE KNOW but saying something like that gets us nowhere , how to deal with this specific situation?

[mindNsoul]

It could be the case of external influence and it could be a sexual preference. As I said it is not always about race.

You say how to deal with this specific situation? I mean why do we need to deal with it is what I'm trying to understand. Every person to his own and I couldn't care less what color is dating what color. Also there are many black men dating white women. I don't say why Asian women dating white men should be an issue.

Are you in support or against interracial relationships?

[Asker]

in support but i feel there is a sense of superiority in the races women date

[mindNsoul]

When I was living in the UK I had Chinese, Indians and South African friends. They were only specifically attracted to white guys. But honestly when we were talking it wasn't about superiority. It was mainly that they had enough with how they're own race treated them. I remember them saying white guys actually treated them better.

I think it is a combination of wanting something different, attraction, and social influence. Like almost all of them spoke how culturally withing their own race fairer skin meant more beautiful or better. We can debate all as we like how colonism and media actually worsened this. But in reality media and colonism didn't cause it. If you read history even before the western colonism and the rise of slave trade. These countries had these beauty standards that said a working class woman would be exposed to sun working on fields so therefore will have worst skin and will look darker. So skin tone was an indication of status way before media and western colonism. Same with Korea, Butan, Middle East, Japan India, China, ancient Arab and Egyptian civilization. Racism is a very old thing.

I think all three factors together play a role attraction, wanting a different treatment by a man, and sexual attraction. Now every single person would be different. But it won't be fair to say it is gold digging, white washing, or superiority. Although these things do also exist🌹

[Asker]

well forgive but porn fucked me real good when i was young , it was like all the black guys are superior , any women you date is bound to cheat on them and the aspect of "they are only with you for the money "

and after seeing some real cases , i kinda got scared

[mindNsoul]

If you feel comfortable may I ask you is this about the stereotype of black men having larger packages? Is that what is messing with your head!

[Asker]

oh not that but online stories of how the white wives got pregnant with a black baby despite having a white husband

[mindNsoul]

Well if every possible betrayal online would make you insecure than you will turn out crazy. If you want to use erotic bloggers and porn as reference that all families have incest and all pizza delivery guys are abused. C'mon dude that's not real life. Plus if a man's wife cheat and get pregnant then isn't that a betrayal regardless who she slept with. There are more white women cheating with white dudes than black. That's just irrational and you're too old to be still believing this.

How many of these incidents happened to your friends and family members? (a white woman giving birth to black kid while marring a white dude). That should tell you how uncommon that is. Honestly man find something better to worry about. Or find a woman so you're busy with actual real life issues.

[mindNsoul]

Thanks for the mho 🌹

[Asker]

hey you were the only one who actually engaged the conversation without dismissing the situation

[Asker]

i understand that every form of cheating whether be it with a black guy or a white guy should be painful

but there is something about with a black guy that makes it extra painful , it might be because she's cheating with someone with completely different skin color (something you can't change ) , it has a sense of feeling that she is attracted to someone with physical feature you can never have

[mindNsoul]

I am at peace if a man would prefer a woman of another race. I'm not going to like all men and all men won't like me. I can't change my race so why should I even worry. I would just dump his ass and that's all I need to worry about.

It will only hurt because you are allowing it to. It is all in your head. Many white men have physical advantage to black men. Anyway if you keep speaking about it then you are letting people know exactly how to hurt you the worst. Don't let your fears run your life. No one cares about color the way you do.

You are unreasonable with your fear really. Anyway have a blessed life 🌹

[Asker]

good point , i must say i'm very impressed with you for taking the time to answer my question , most people just dismiss me for being crazy without actually explaining it thank you

[mindNsoul]

that's alright. cheers

[jennifer_bloom]

I think Chinese girls like white guys cause they are less picky than Chinese guys about the girls weight or education or income or social status or sexual history

[Warmapplecrumble]

Nah it's general attraction

[In_Trance]

Pretty much, yes

[Fakehunter]

Gold diggers