Is it normal that I feel uncomfortable about my boyfriend watching shows with nudity (I don’t tell him anything)?

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Like he likes to watch game of thrones and I feel uncomfortable that he’s looking at other women naked and stuff I’ve been watching it with him and it just feels so weird I don’t like him seeing other naked women but I’m not going to say anything but yeah I don’t like that and he knows the actresses height and everything I don't know I just feel weird lol

MountAverage · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry, but no. That's not normal at all. That level of insecurity is beyond unhealthy and it has nothing to do with your boyfriend and everything to do with you. You need to figure out what's going on in you and work on it.
You can talk to him about how you feel, but do not make him feel like it's his fault (because it's not) or that he should stop watching nudity. Because that would be possesive, controlling, and outright toxic. I hope you're aware that he also masturbates. That too should not be a problem for you.
I don't mean this in any offensive way, but you have a lot of growing up to do still, because you don't sound like you're mature enough for a grown-up relationship yet. Again, not meant to offend you, just telling you what I think you need to hear.

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

I think it's something to feel uncomfortable about but I will say nudity is kinda mainstream and unless you both are committed christians, small amounts of nudity might happen... But I will say some nudity especially explicit content or longer than average nude scene I think it's ok to ask him to fast forward it.

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

I'm going to refer to a myTake I wrote about six years ago about porn. I know that's not your specific problem here, but the take-away is the same. It's guys looking at naked women, and how to shift your thinking about it. I hope it helps, and you will feel better after reading that this isn't about you - or about who your boyfriend is looking at.

For the Ladies: Being at Peace with Porn

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

Game of Thrones is awesome!

It’s not like it’s porn or anything. And he doesn’t love you or want your body any less because occasionally he thinks about Daenerys naked (NOT while he’s having sex with you). I told you honey. Guys are different that way.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

This is normal for your age, My last girlfriend was age 18 and I was age 35 at the time and she got mad cause I hugged my own great aunts, yes very crazy of her but things happen but my case was different but still my girl at the time was age 18 and you feel the way you do cause your young and this is common, If you saw him hugging 2 women who were age 50's and he never told you who they were, you might get
the wrong idea?

Anonymous · Answer

Totally normal. Id feel uncomfortable too if i was in your shoes. It's like you dont necessarily want him paying attention and flaunting them off more than you. You should talk to him about it though because your feelings are valid in the relationship and he should be considerate and respect how you feel if it's bothering you girl.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

why is your nakedness not enough? why must he watch these beautiful women right in front of you? you might as well be at a strip club

chHaynes · Answer

If you watch a show that has nudity and it was your boyfriend's give him a heads up he should really mind at all he may be a little uncomfortable but normal for the both of y'all to be a little uncomfortable just work through it and talk about if you need to

f4k4c4 · Answer

Im pretty sure he thinks you’re just his “friend with benefits.” If you want a real companion, find a man with self-respect and an intelligent understanding of literally half of the 8 bil people on earth. Don’t settle for stupid, don’t waste your time on men who won’t appreciate your unique needs and wants. “Toxic” is a word that means “nonconforming to politically correct standards.” If you’re toxic, he’s a big boy and he can haul his own a$@ back to his own apartment, cry for 10 minutes, and then go watch Game of Thrones.

Anonymous · Answer

Wait so you're also not okay with him watching porn? My opinion: I personally don't think that's wrong lol. I draw the line at live cams and irl making out/sex. Everything else is completely normal.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes, it's normal for you to feel that way. But it's not okay for you to keep your feelings to yourself. If it bothers you, you need to tell him.

slatyb · Answer

Get over it. He isn’t going to leave you for some woman he has little chance to meet and no chance to date.

bannacookies · Answer

I mean, that's nothing. Pretty much all guys watch porn. Its a fact.

Rosej321 · Answer

Nowadays most movies contains nudity and its increasing
Have you watched Fifty shades, Aviva, blue is the warmest colour
All have much mire nudity
And guys watch porn so they are already watching too much nudity
P. S in movies they are also showing dicks, blowjobs handjobs full sex video so girls would also enjoy

Gedaria · Answer

I don't know why , it's difficult to get away from ii...

Deku2009 · Answer

it’s way better than him looking at other random Girls naked not in video games and movies/tv shows

flashgrandad · Answer

It it disgusts you that much, tell him. Don't let it tested in you until the argument that makes it worse.

Pink2000 · Answer

Do you feel insecure?

TallAnon · Answer

Seems a bit much to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to him, that’s stupid

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

You're making a big deal of nothing

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