Is it normal that I feel uncomfortable about my boyfriend watching shows with nudity (I don’t tell him anything)?

[pink_and_inlove]

Like he likes to watch game of thrones and I feel uncomfortable that he’s looking at other women naked and stuff I’ve been watching it with him and it just feels so weird I don’t like him seeing other naked women but I’m not going to say anything but yeah I don’t like that and he knows the actresses height and everything I don't know I just feel weird lol

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Why do I feel this way?

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Have any of you guys watched game of thrones? Also should I tell him that I don’t feel comfortable with him looking at naked women or is that stupid/controlling?

[MountAverage]

I'm sorry, but no. That's not normal at all. That level of insecurity is beyond unhealthy and it has nothing to do with your boyfriend and everything to do with you. You need to figure out what's going on in you and work on it.
You can talk to him about how you feel, but do not make him feel like it's his fault (because it's not) or that he should stop watching nudity. Because that would be possesive, controlling, and outright toxic. I hope you're aware that he also masturbates. That too should not be a problem for you.
I don't mean this in any offensive way, but you have a lot of growing up to do still, because you don't sound like you're mature enough for a grown-up relationship yet. Again, not meant to offend you, just telling you what I think you need to hear.

[pink_and_inlove]

I just feel weirded out that’s it

[pink_and_inlove]

Us watching it together just feels weird

[MountAverage]

Yeah, you already said that. Like I said, you need to figure out the underlying issue and work on it.

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t like women lol I don’t think that’s an issue just seeing women’s naked bodies weirds me out

[MountAverage]

Wait, I don't understand. I thought this was about HIM watching nudity? Now you're telling me this is about YOU watching nudity?

[pink_and_inlove]

Just watching it together was really weird and seeing him look at a beautiful naked woman and many others just and that he knew that actresses height made me feel weird and it made me feel bad. I feel like I let him down now though because it’s his favorite show but at the same time I just felt so bad and uncomfortable I just told him that I felt weird and “ I feel uncomfortable about you looking at other naked women this made me feel bad And it just felt like I’m not sure how to explain it but very weird“ and he apologized many times while feeling uncomfortable since I myself don’t watch nudity I feel a bit bad because it’s his favorite show so I asked him if he could please fast forward those parts.

[MountAverage]

Yeah, you have a lot of issues you need to work on. Your insecurities and immature mindset is not his fault, so don't make him feel bad for it. That's not okay. You really need to work on your issues. What you described sounds extremely unhealthy and toxic. You are being a toxic girlfriend, are you aware of that?

[GayAuthor]

I don't feel that this feeling is unfair at all. Would any guy like it if a Girl was watching nothing but naked guys on the television? No, the masculinity couldn't handle it. This reply more seems like you are have been in a similar situation and not really caring about her side

[GayAuthor]

you aren't being a toxic girlfriend. You are being a normal human being in this situation. He is a straight man, and because of that he will always have those thoughts in his head when it's so easily infront of his face.

[GayAuthor]

If he can't show her more respect and love than someone he will probably never meet or have a chance with then she is NOT the problem

[MountAverage]

@GayAuthor
"Would any guy like it if a Girl was watching nothing but naked guys on the television?"
- Yeah, many would. Why not?

"No, the masculinity couldn't handle it."
- What a nonsensical thing to say.

"This reply more seems like you are have been in a similar situation and not really caring about her side"
- Nope. But nice try.

"you aren't being a toxic girlfriend."
- Yes. she very much is.

"You are being a normal human being in this situation."
- Yes, being extremely insecure and projecting those insecurities onto your partner is indeed, unfortunately, very normal, in the sense that it's very common, sady. But that doesn't make it any less toxic.

So, GayAuthor, I give you the same advice I give her - go to theray, work on your insecurites, and leanr to not project them onto your partners. Good luck.

[rhaemaddy]

do not listen to this childish boy as he tells you that you’re not allowed to feel uncomfortable as sex is being forced down your throat through media. women have been put under a microscope dating back thousands of years, and the whole purpose is to appeal to the male gaze. in fact, I believe that if you bring this issue up with your boyfriend and they get defensive, it is an issue with male maturity, rather than female maturity, as feeling uncomfortable in this situation is a completely normal feeling. the male species aren’t subject to this objectification as much in the media so there for they will NEVER understand how it feels to sit next to your partner and watch a fully clothed man and a naked woman on screen. Women are constantly being asked to be naked in scenes that aren’t necessary to the plot at all, in fact many actresses get black balled in hollywood for speaking against this behavior. it is sad that it has become so normalized, and yet women are told they aren’t allowed to feel emotion or bat an eye to the creepiness that is pushed in a lot of cinema. I’m sorry that you are feeling this way, and i’m sorry you have to listen to men tell you how you’re allowed to react.

[saymyname333]

Do no listen to that guy, he sounds like a porn addicted loser. Nudity should not be as mainstream as it is and it’s perfectly acceptable to feel uncomfortable with your boyfriends watching it. He should not know any specific information about the actresses like height and stuff, that’s weird. He sounds like he needs to do some inner work, not you. Your reaction makes complete sense. Men these days don’t know how to act like men and need to be more loyal and respectful to their relationships. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, I wish you the best of luck.

[saymyname333]

Bro, you need to figure out yourself. You sound like a porn addict.

[Madie_321]

Doesn’t listen to that comment saying it’s not normal what’s not normal about having feelings? If you don’t get upset when your man’s looking at another naked woman then clearly you don’t really like him and if he doesn’t have enough respect for you to not watch naked women when he alr has a woman then he’s a prick I’m tired of men making excuses for the sex habits and then call us woman jealous and insecure. We’re not jealous we just want fucking respect and it would be a hell of a different story if it was switch roles and nobody could argue differently unless their a man who looks at naked woman when he’s alr hitched and play victim

[girlbye2001]

I have no idea when this was posted, i know it has been a while, but for any other girl and guy for that matter reads this response and feels like they are the bad guy, insecure, and toxic. PLEASE do NOT feel that way. This reply is bullshit and clearly coming from someone who has never had to experience it themselves or did but they liked it and their partner didn’t. this is not controlling, this is bottom line respect for your partner. if there is a sex scene in a show i’m watching what exactly does that add to the plot? If they show the woman naked, what does that have to do with the storyline. exactly, it is unnecessary. There are so many ways for directors to insinuate that two people had sex, but they know that naked women will get more views. If any man is feeding into that, I want you to ask him why he thinks that specific scene is important to the storyline and why he feels so inclined to watch it. This response saying this is all coming from insecurity? But how is looking at a woman naked or having sex that has nothing to do with the storyline so important to them. That is why she feels uncomfortable at the root of it and it is completely valid and okay. I am not in the least bit insecure but If my boyfriend fried to argue with me about why he should be able to watch the scenes where women are inappropriately displayed, i would break up with him. Hollywood is fake, every actor you see on tv has probably had a shit ton of work done and it is a misrepresentation of women in general. It may sound controlling to a man the first time he hears it because men’s first response is to be defensive, but a good, loyal, and respectful man would understand this. if he doesn’t then… he can go on AI dates with naked Sydney Sweeney and get the hell away from me.

[girlbye2001]

“theray”

[Peahen279]

@girlbye2001 I so glad someone on here is recent! I literally started watching it bc it’s my bfs favorite show… and as much as I’m uncomfortable with the amount of female nudity, I’m more upset by the fact that his favorite show has very deep roots in misogyny. He doesn’t even notice it, and it bothers me bc we as a society have normalized misogyny/rape/fetishizing women so much in shows when someone expresses actual weird feelings ab it they get called toxic and controlling? Like what
Watching it now I feel insecure but in such a different way than usual. Watching it seeing these incredibly submissive women who, for the most part aren’t key characters, get put on screen just to be seen as boobs and sex. It made me feel less then. Like bc I’m a women the majority of men see my body as sexual and it makes me feel icky. I’ve never wanted to be a woman less in my life.

[Jjpayne]

I think it's something to feel uncomfortable about but I will say nudity is kinda mainstream and unless you both are committed christians, small amounts of nudity might happen... But I will say some nudity especially explicit content or longer than average nude scene I think it's ok to ask him to fast forward it.

[Ozanne]

I'm going to refer to a myTake I wrote about six years ago about porn. I know that's not your specific problem here, but the take-away is the same. It's guys looking at naked women, and how to shift your thinking about it. I hope it helps, and you will feel better after reading that this isn't about you - or about who your boyfriend is looking at.

For the Ladies: Being at Peace with Porn

[GayAuthor]

Porn is toxic for the mind and no woman should be okay with their man looking at porn.

[saymyname333]

@GayAuthor Facts

[saymyname333]

What the hell bro, porn is brain rot. Not a single woman should put up with a “man” that watches that shit. Absolutely disgusting.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Game of Thrones is awesome!

It’s not like it’s porn or anything. And he doesn’t love you or want your body any less because occasionally he thinks about Daenerys naked (NOT while he’s having sex with you). I told you honey. Guys are different that way.

[pink_and_inlove]

I just felt so uncomfortable

[Gwenhwyfar]

I understand

[saymyname333]

Breakup w that guy bro

[Anonymous]

Totally normal. Id feel uncomfortable too if i was in your shoes. It's like you dont necessarily want him paying attention and flaunting them off more than you. You should talk to him about it though because your feelings are valid in the relationship and he should be considerate and respect how you feel if it's bothering you girl.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This is normal for your age, My last girlfriend was age 18 and I was age 35 at the time and she got mad cause I hugged my own great aunts, yes very crazy of her but things happen but my case was different but still my girl at the time was age 18 and you feel the way you do cause your young and this is common, If you saw him hugging 2 women who were age 50's and he never told you who they were, you might get
the wrong idea?

[Peahen279]

Bro you a predator

[Sevenpointfive]

why is your nakedness not enough? why must he watch these beautiful women right in front of you? you might as well be at a strip club

[pink_and_inlove]

Ummmm I don't know about that lol

[f4k4c4]

Im pretty sure he thinks you’re just his “friend with benefits.” If you want a real companion, find a man with self-respect and an intelligent understanding of literally half of the 8 bil people on earth. Don’t settle for stupid, don’t waste your time on men who won’t appreciate your unique needs and wants. “Toxic” is a word that means “nonconforming to politically correct standards.” If you’re toxic, he’s a big boy and he can haul his own a$@ back to his own apartment, cry for 10 minutes, and then go watch Game of Thrones.

[chHaynes]

If you watch a show that has nudity and it was your boyfriend's give him a heads up he should really mind at all he may be a little uncomfortable but normal for the both of y'all to be a little uncomfortable just work through it and talk about if you need to

[chHaynes]

If you mind your boyfriend watching nudity movies let him know and discuss what makes you comfortable

[Anonymous]

Wait so you're also not okay with him watching porn?

My opinion: I personally don't think that's wrong lol. I draw the line at live cams and irl making out/sex. Everything else is completely normal.

[Opinion Owner]

But everyone has their own boundaries. You should talk to him about this... So u can also find out what his boundaries are you know..
I don't think he'll agree with you tho.
I think it's best to find a partner that matches your views and boundaries. Otherwise I don't see how a relationship could work..

[pink_and_inlove]

Yes I talked to him he apologized a lot and he said that he wouldn’t watch those scenes anymore if they make me uncomfortable I also told him that I didn’t feel comfortable with him looking at the naked women on the show

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that's cool! Communication is key!
Proud of y'all

[pink_and_inlove]

I don’t know why I felt so bad I cried and I couldn’t even sleep I know that Emilia Clarke is beautiful but I don’t know I just felt so weird and hurt that he even looked up her height and stuff

[Opinion Owner]

Bro but that doesn't mean anythingggg. What about when u see naked men? (If you're straight) like it's not a big deal or is it?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, it's normal for you to feel that way. But it's not okay for you to keep your feelings to yourself. If it bothers you, you need to tell him.

[pink_and_inlove]

I told him and he told me to put on the other show

[Jamie05rhs]

That's good! That means he listened and he cares! :)

[bannacookies]

I mean, that's nothing. Pretty much all guys watch porn. Its a fact.

[pink_and_inlove]

I just feel weirded out sitting next to him and watching this together

[bannacookies]

Well, you're watching it too, so you are both "guilty" then.

[pink_and_inlove]

I watched it because he said it was his favorite show but in reality I’ve never been interested I don't know what was this feeling that I felt but I was very quiet the whole night I don't know if it was because I was feeling insecure, jealous, or just flat out uncomfortable probably all of the above

[bannacookies]

You can discuss how you feel about it with him. His true colors will come through & hopefully it will be good.

[pink_and_inlove]

I did i told him that I just felt weird watching the show and weird about him looking at other women naked on the show and he told me “you know that you’re the most beautiful woman to me right?” And he just kept talking about how beautiful I am to him and he also told me that he felt bad and told me to put on another show

[bannacookies]

Well then that's good. He acted like a gentleman in this situation.

[Jamie05rhs]

It sounds like you had a positive outcome. I'm happy to hear that!

[rhaemaddy]

that’s not how that works at all 🍌🍪

[Rosej321]

Nowadays most movies contains nudity and its increasing
Have you watched Fifty shades, Aviva, blue is the warmest colour
All have much mire nudity
And guys watch porn so they are already watching too much nudity
P. S in movies they are also showing dicks, blowjobs handjobs full sex video so girls would also enjoy

[slatyb]

Get over it. He isn’t going to leave you for some woman he has little chance to meet and no chance to date.

[Gedaria]

I don't know why , it's difficult to get away from ii...

[Deku2009]

it’s way better than him looking at other random Girls naked not in video games and movies/tv shows

[flashgrandad]

It it disgusts you that much, tell him.
Don't let it tested in you until the argument that makes it worse.

[GayAuthor]

I feel you are perfectly fine feeling that way when he is watching something like that. I would talk with him about it making you feel uncomfortable. If it doesn't solve, find someone that will make you a priority

[thisworldsucks]

This generation has been ruined by sex on tv. And social media. You have every right to feel the way you do. Men have no respect or true love for women any more.

[Pink2000]

Do you feel insecure?

[pink_and_inlove]

Im not sure i just know that when I saw that woman and her body I guess I felt shocked, and very sad, and also very uncomfortable

[pink_and_inlove]

I mostly felt sad and I didn’t even talk and felt weirded out

[Pink2000]

Well she’s just on tv. He has you right there next to him. Even if he wanted her, he could never have her 😂

[TallAnon]

Seems a bit much to me.

[TallAnon]

I've watched games of thrones with my entire family: mother, father and sister. A bit of nudity should be whatever.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him, that’s stupid

[Jmmmfi4]

You're making a big deal of nothing