He claims to love me and something triggered me to look on his tiktok he was liking loads of ass shaking videos. Which once a while ago I had a go at him for briefly. I confronted him and he deleted tiktok straight away and I stated this doesn’t change what he was doing he then stated that it was just videos he liked what he saw and liked them and called them honey in a jar basically stating it’s innocent and it didn’t mean anything to him. I expressed I found it disrespectful and he said I’m overreacting by attacking for this and that he didn’t know it would bother me so much am I over reacting or this as serious as I feel it is I can’t get over it
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Trust me when I say this…… guys will always look. It will never change. Don’t get jealous, it’s natural. Now if he’s unsatisfied with you, that’s a different story but I doubt that’s the case. Instead of worrying about him watching other girls, you should be thinking about the way he’s into you. And the attention he gives you. Maybe you can change your thought process and be like, “I noticed you enjoy watching half naked girls….. maybe I can check them out with you”. I mean it’s not for every girl, but I find it much more attractive when a girl is “cool” about the reality that men will always look. I hope this makes sense to you rather than thinking I’m just a creeper. And I’m sure some people will comment about how I’m so wrong etc. just remember that some people understand how relationships will work, and others have that fantasy of how relationships should be. Trust me when I tell you that people are so full of shit that it’s embarrassing. Looking is ok, cheating is not. Focus on how he looks at you and how he treats you.
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In a way it made me feel as though he’s eyes wonder outside he stated when I spoke with him he felt nothing watching these do you reckon that’s how it is in this case?
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I would have to get to know you and him to give you my honest opinions. Like are you attractive? Is he attractive? Are you shy and conservative? Is he outgoing and wild? Basically what he’s saying is that he likes the visuals but that you have nothing to worry about. It’s kinda like looking at a sexy car. It doesn’t mean that you’re not happy with the car you drive, it’s just that you like looking at the exotic car.
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But there are exceptions who don't look? Maybe who are very picky or something
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@CoolCatMar1 nah, I seriously doubt it. If they aren’t looking on tiktok or the internet…. They are looking somewhere. It’s honestly healthy. I would say any guy that isn’t looking is usually too caught up with something else in his life like drugs, alcohol, or something weird.
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Or they genuinely respect their girlfriend?
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@CoolCatMar1 there might be the one in a million chance a guy honestly keeps swiping as soon as he sees a girl shaking her ass on tiktok…. But I’m just saying it right now that it’s more likely that he’s enjoyed watching here and there. And I’m not talking like sexually…. Like not jerking off to it or whatever some of you girls think. But more like damn, she’s nice. It’s so normal, and people need to warm up to that fact.
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I get you!!! Thank you
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1. This is common and in moderation (not daily or occasional) this is normal. Having said this common or not if it effects you this much he should stop.
2. This has given you an insight into his desires and what he likes so practise until your confident and shake your ass for him.
3. These clips have zero emotional impact and he’s only looking so try not to look into it in great detail. I’m sure you pleasure him in ways these girls can’t and he loves you so there is no competition.
I will add that he is definitely turned on by these clips and probably even more so when he views porn and believe me he’s viewing at least a few times a week.
It’s nothing to be overly concerned about if he’s not addicted and the clips he likes are random, it’s a cause for concern if he’s talking to one girl in particular and there is a history of conversation.
All the best.22 Reply- Asker+1 y
There’s no conversation but there was one or two girls where he liked a lot of their videos would that count as a concern?
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Not really, especially if these are random girls he doesn’t know. You partner will always have chemistry with others.
Liking posts is not a cause for concern but my partner and many others wouldn’t approve.
How would he feel if you liked many posts by 2 fit PT’s?
Just let him know how you feel about this and move on, essentially what others think is common or normal means little here this is something that effects you and so he should be will to address this.
This isn’t to say he should never do things you don’t agree with and vice versa.
Its normal
Guys do that
Even if he say he does not do that, it would be a lie.
He can love you and still watch other girls ass.
Just like you watch at your favorite celebrities or porn.
If you feel so uncomfortable, then you should watch videos of other half naked guys besides him and see if he will care much.
So don't take it to the heart, its not serious. And the good thing is that he does that beside you and don't hide it. It would be more weird if he did that in secret.41 Reply
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Is it normal for a boy to look at a girl online... I don't mean to be rude but I find it insanely naive to even have to ask.
Talking to him is a good thing though. Expressing your feelings and communicating is healthy. But you also have to be willing to compromise.40 Reply








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It’s emotional cheating if he’s getting off to it. Yeah definitely a legit concern. He doesn’t take your feelings seriously.
60 Reply - +1 y
Forget the dumb excuses even if the majority agrees on them, because most men are weak. And weak minded. If one is addicted to the internet shit he's weak minded. There is no excuse and he should grow the crap up. The only good thing is that you're under 18 and we don't know his age, for a 13 year old it is to be expected to be dumb, but if he's like 17 tell him to grow the fuck up. It's draining his mind and body, if he gets dopamine fixes from there then automatically it breaks the circuit of how things naturally go between you and him.
It's absolutely worse and less forgivable than a drug addiction in my opinion and he has to spawn more brains and stop it.
71 Reply - +1 y
Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you are blind to attractive people. It's not a good thing if 90% of the videos he watches are sexual in some way, but there's nothing wrong with watching and enjoying some. It doesn't mean he thinks about cheating on you, it doesn't mean he wants other women more than you. However if you have a problem with it, and the two of you had a conversation where he agreed to not do it, then it's a bad thing he continued to. If it is even just something that makes you uncomfortable and he knows that, he should not be doing it.
30 Reply 890 opinions shared on Relationships topic. In general, social media often damages relationships and people that use social media a lot are often bad partners. People shouldn't be liking pictures/videos of a sexual nature while in a relationship on social media. Social media videos are not the same as porn where they just passively watch, because there is another person often responding to comments/communication. The interactivity of it is what is bad. Porn is effectively like a sex scene in a movie. Social media is interacting with another person for sexual or romantic attention.
It is the same for women that post revealing/provocative pictures online for likes and comments. In my opinion, the interactivity of BOTH of those situations equals cheating.
50 Reply- Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 y
wow i'm the exact opposite. whenever i come across a skanks video on tiktok i block her immediately because of her attention seeking bullshit. when some stupid half assed video of look at my tits look at my ass shake videos popup on my feed i go to the whore's main account scroll through a bit to make sure i'm not judging or being to harsh and if it's full of the same damn crap i immediately block the attention seeking skank without hesitation. some have 6 digit followers some have 7 but i could care less
73 Reply- Opinion Owner+1 y
i have hundreds of skanks blocked on my tiktok. way to many to count
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Honestly this is how a guy in a relationship should be do you reckon him doing that is a bad thimg
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here's a crazy and wild idea something you never thought of but why don't you just ASK HIM
It's just my opinion but if u love someone really, u would feel guilty for watching others in this way. Eyes can go yeah, but U should tell immediately dude I have my girl, that's not right
63 Reply- Asker+1 y
That’s what I thought if you actually love someone you would feel horrible but he views it as nothing apparent you
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Apparently****
You're overreacting, but that doesn't mean you don't have a valid reason to be upset.
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After we discussed he deleted and apologised and stated he be isn’t realise I would get affected. Also stated it didn’t excite him just random videos do you reckon this is how he actually views it
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Considering that’s the main reason why males have tik tok?
No.
However I personally never would get that app for how stupid it it, plus. I heard from many accounts that the girls making those videos are minors. That’s all that needs to be said10 Reply - +1 y
I look at videos like that all the time on TikTok. It doesn't mean anything to me. Just entertaining. But I also love the sight of a woman's ass. However, I'm not in a relationship so I don't have to answer to anyone who may feel uncomfortable with me watching these videos. But in my opinion, it doesn't mean anything. Yes, it's a turn on. But who is your boyfriend gonna go after? A woman on TikTok he doesn't know or his girlfriend?
00 Reply 591 opinions shared on Relationships topic. He hasn’t done anything! He’s just watched some girls TikTok! It isn’t a crime. He isn’t talking to them. Isn’t messaging them. Isn’t dating them! He’s dating you. Stop being so jealous and possessive. It’s not a good look and he’ll get tired of it.
00 ReplyHave you ever looked at clothes in a store window, knowing full well you are mot going to purchase or try it on?
thats what he's doing, admiring something that is interesting to him , … does he give you affection?
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Yes he does give affection but at the same time sometimes I feel second plan in his life he deleted the app when I had a go at him but I don’t know why I felt disrespected and made me feel as though he’s eyes are on other females if it makes sense …
728 opinions shared on Relationships topic. You being overjealous it just videos, he don't know those girls, and many guys do that.
00 Reply575 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I've met many men who are in relstionships, tuning into porn channels to please tjemselves when their girl is not around or in the mood.
Girls do this as well. Not all but just many.00 Reply- +1 y
It's normal, female exhibitionism is everywhere.
00 Reply 424 opinions shared on Relationships topic. The best solution is you should be nude for him or as he desires.
My girlfriend at home mostly half nude or just Gstring or Thong.
00 Reply- +1 y
Yeah sorry my boyfriend dpes this as well. You're under 18 so you deserve better. Dump him.
20 Reply 4.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No it is not to me.
13 Reply- Asker+1 y
Does it generally mean he still has interest towards other girls
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He probably doesn’t have interest in other girls but he most definitely has interest in looking at other girls. Get used to it because almost every guy you will ever meet will alway like looking at other girls. It’s not disrespectful unless he openly hits on other girls with the intent on getting with them. If you try to stop him from looking he might feel like you’re controlling him. Guys don’t usually like to be controlled
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It seems pretty standard for your generation just as girls who have boyfriend's are shaking their asses on Tik Thot.
00 Reply - +1 y
Another insecure 304... get over it and stop being a controller, he can do whatever he wants, it's his eyes not yours, work on yourself.
00 Reply - +1 y
Watch with him his favorited videos and hold his junk in you hand. Every time there is a half naked girl give him a squeeze
10 Reply 852 opinions shared on Relationships topic. and why not if you want to stop him be topless when you alone and he will watch you
00 Reply- +1 y
Who are these “naked girl ass videos” on TikTok? I thought nudity wasn’t allowed.
00 Reply - +1 y
Yeah it's normal. would you rather have him watch guys?
00 Reply 2.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Ehh, yeah. It’s just out there. Used to be called window shopping. Now it’s online shopping :)
00 Reply- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
Looks like you just found out, that men watch porn.
00 Reply - +1 y
No, it's not normal, at least in my opinion
10 Reply 10.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Nope
14 Reply- Asker+1 y
Do you reckon even if he stops after I got angry it still justifys what he does and do I leave?
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In your opinion a guy who done this does it mean he’s eyes are wondering elsewhere or can it be unserious in his eyes
- Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 y
He should stop doing it
01 Reply- Asker+1 y
Even though he stopped I can’t seem to forget he said sorry he didn’t see it as anything serious just videos he watched and moved on do you reckon what he states is true or he’s eye is outside
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Yup. Perfectly normal.
00 Reply It doesn’t seem normal to me
10 Reply- +1 y
Possibly he likes their ass not your
00 Reply - +1 y
Does he chat with any of these girls?
00 Reply How’s that on tim tok 💀
00 Reply1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. What else is there on tiktok tbh?
00 Reply- +1 y
Are any of them of you?
00 Reply Nothing wrong, most do
00 Replyyeah i do watch to i admit
00 Reply- 9 mo
Yes all men like naked girls
00 Reply It depends how he is watching it
00 Reply6.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yes, totally normal.
00 Reply2.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Lust honey
01 Reply- Asker+1 y
Is lusting in a relationship mean his eyes our outside or it’s not so harmful
- Anonymous(25-29)+1 y
He just jerk on it
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