I caught my boyfriend looking at pictures of his ex girlfriend (naked), is this something most guys do?

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So I caught my boyfriend looking at picture of his naked ex girlfriend, who still hangs out in our group of friends and is friendly with my boyfriend and I. After catching him doing that I don't want him around her anymore, am I out of line for saying that? We've been together for 3 years, and were serious. I find it insulting and disrespectful that he did this, and honestly it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him.

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He doesn't have pictures of her, she has naked "modelling" pictures online.

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Jen10078
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What he did is not right. Honestly, I wouldn't even feel comfortable hanging out with a group of people and she is included. That is the first problem. He may not be completely over her; if he was over her, hanging out with the ex doesn't make your relationship any easier. It just doesn't make sense. You MUST talk to him about it. Be completely honest how you feel. If he gets defensive or tries to tell you you're overreacting, that only confirms he has no shame for what he is doing.

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PiuBelloAmante
Yoda

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You date an asshole by the way

I would be pissed if I had a girlfriend and she was looking at her ex mans dick pics or some shit
I say fuck that, how immature of him

He's not good enough for you... I would never want to my ex's naked again fuck that I left them for a reason

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Anonymous

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I'd say you are within your rights to tell him to stay away from her in this case. His behavior is crossing a line. It's one thing to look at porn, but seriously, nudes of an ex (who he still has contact with) is out of line.

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- Asker
  
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  Yeah and that's the thing I have no problem with him looking at porn sometimes, but by looking at pictures of somebody you have had sex with before who hangs out with our group of friends, it seriously makes me so uncomfortable having them around each other. He says I don't have any right to tell him who he can and can't hang out with, he's making me feel like I'm a crazy girlfriend.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  No, he's out of line. This isn't just looking at porn. There's a realistic possibility he could be tempted to stray, and out of respect for you, he should eliminate that temptation.

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dakraziest
Yoda

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Get a new boyfriend this guy clearly doesn't know how to respect his girl
Unless he doesn't gets to see u naked

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  He does get to see me naked.
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creepycreeper
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Modelling. lol you girls and your excuses to let guys see you naked.

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- Asker
  
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  Yeah I think it's pretty sad she has nude pics of her on the Internet and calls it modelling too.
- creepycreeper
  
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  Yeah it's either that or "Photography" I guess.
Anonymous

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So they weren't even "his" pictures? If she's a naked model, then that's hardly surprising that he'd see pics of her. Who is she?

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- Asker
  
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  She's not just a naked model, she did some theatre art modelling thing and has a couple nude pictures online.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Is she at all famous? Posed in any known magazines, or entirely online.
- Asker
  
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  No she's not famous.
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  Ah--got it. So we wouldn't know the name? At any rate, it seems odd to want to break up over this. It's essentially breaking up because his ex is a nude model--something you should've known a few years ago.
- Asker
  
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  That's not the case at all. I do know her name, like I said we hang out in the same group. I'm not posting her name on here because I don't think that's a very nice thing to do. And I knew she had done "modelling" in the past, and she had a coupe nude pictures on google, but shouldn't my boyfriend refrain from looking at pictures of his ex girlfriend naked?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Well, I doubt it's a problem for her if people know who she is if she's a model. After all, the whole point is for people to know about her. As for your guy, I'm not sure it's so odd--it's someone he knows in your group doing what they do professionally. It'd be like if she were a singer and he heard her music or if she were a writer and he read her articles. When you caught him, was he jacking it to her or something?
- Asker
  
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  When she did this is was a long time ago. It's not like she is currently doing this and was excited about her new "modelling" pictures online that support her career. She has moved on. He shouldn't be looking at pictures, from a long time ago, of his naked ex girlfriend. Period. He's not looking at them to appreciate what she does professionally, I think that's ovbs. No I didn't catch him jacking out, I just went to use the computer after him and her name was still in the search bar. I'm sure he did though.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  OOOOOH! I thought she still was a model and she's still getting naked. Sorry--I misunderstood. Well, I guess he just wanted to have a look down mammary lane! lol! Do you think she's particularly hot? I'm guessing you might compare favorably, no?
phanindra554plus
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That is rely not cool. If she use yours it is good but others it is not acceptble. You should confront bout this or leave him.

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Plumlips
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if this happened to me I would dump him. Because if he's looking at pics of his ex!! Well then he's definitely not loyal.

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Jusjay | 76 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Explorer

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Not a good sign. It is cheating

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MissNowhere
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Ugh, that's not right. I'd be mad too.

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