My sister inlaw constantly brushes her boobs up against me?

[confusedhusband]

Hi, I have been wanting to asking this question for years but haven't as always convinced myself it was all in my head. I have been with my wife for 10 years now, me and the sister in law are very close and always joke and mess around. But when me and the wife were first together her sister would seem to get jealous if we kissed and hugged and would call me away, sometimes when out my wife would get jealous and say your dating me, not her sister and tbh can't remember the last time we met where she didn't brush her boobs on my arm, back or chest multiple times. Obviously this has happened for years now and just put it down to her poor spatial awareness. When the lockdown rules were relaxed, she came round for a drink as we did before and about halfway through the night we were all in the kitchen, I was facing the sister in law and the wife pulled me backwards for a weird over the shoulder kiss and I moved my hips forward to keep my balance when out of the blue my sister in law used her bum to grind on my groin, obviously I moved back as after 10 years I see her as my sister and was just awkward, when I stood up she just looked at me smiled and asked whether I wanted drink. over the next couple of days I convinced myself it was an accident and we went shopping, the sister in law dragged me to look at some things and she said she liked these plates or platters so bent down to pick them up and she said said was that good for you, did you like it down there? I just awkwardly laughed and we walked to my wife and just before the till, I was carrying some water which I spilt on her by accident as was carrying her stuff and she said you got me wet and grinned and then insisted on squeezing passed me and brushing her boobs on my hands. Am I just over think this or am I right to be thinking this is a little weird.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah that's definitely being done on purpose and overly obviously done with the things she said. I would definitely either tell her she needs to cool it... Or tell your wife what's going on... By saying or doing nothing, sister-in-law might get the impression you like it, enjoy it And things could escalate. Sometimes it's not even about the guy. Some sisters or females get too caught up in rivalry or get jealous of what the other has that they don't, so they try to come between it... Personally I'd talk to the sister in law first, and let her know if it continues, you'll let the wife know..
But then, your wife may wonder why you haven't said anything in 10 years, till now...

[Wise4myage]

I bet wify knows about it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Wise4myage Really? Cuz if I knew my sister was doing that, she'd be told if she wants to keep her tits, she better keep em off, away from my husband...😇🤬

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, I really do and, LOL.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Wise4myage I think if the wife knew, if she didn't mention to her sister, she'd definitely bring it up to the hubby, and probably be saying he probably likes it out is encouraging it...

[Wise4myage]

Its possible she knows and just doesn't care, or thinks not hing more would ever happen.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Wise4myage you could be right 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Wise4myage]

He needs to stop "joking and messing around" with her.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Wise4myage right!

[confusedhusband]

If my wife knew I can assure you she would be going mental. I don't like it as it makes me feel uncomfortable for the rest of the time she is around and makes me anxious because I dont want her to think I'm some sort of pervert and it is just accident. I think that is why it has taken me so much to even ask. I dont want to be seen as a pervert for notcing if that makes sense. Hmm that does sort of make sense they do have quite a bit of rivalry, I'd just rather not be used.

[confusedhusband]

@Wise4myage agreed I might just stop joking around with her and hopefully she will stop.

[BackAgain602]

Your sister-in-law knows exactly what she's doing--I don't know nor have I ever known a woman to "accidentally" brush her boobs against a man THAT many times..."poor spatial awareness"... c'mon.

You DEFINITELY need to tell your wife everything that's going on so she can have a conversation with her sister. If you don't say anything, she's just going to keep pushing the boundaries, so you and your wife need to push back.

Man, after reading your description, I was getting mad for your wife; her sister is just sick and disrespectful--to put it way too nicely😒🤬.

Good luck.

[confusedhusband]

Thank you so much for your reply, I am a little worried that inhave left it so long to saying that my wife will think I've been enjoying it. I've done my best to act normal and avoid any boob brushes but she seems to find a way. I will have a conversation with her over the weekend and see how it goes and update.

[Anonymous]

This is a little weird especially this far into the relationship. I've had similar things with my partner's twin but not as extreme and not as long into the relationship.

I think you need to address it, I know its tough as you dont want to lose your friend but at the same time you dont want to lose your wife and you certainly dont want your wife getting the wrong impression. If you dont address it your wife may feel that you're. comfortable or into it all.

[confusedhusband]

I'm going to speak to the wife this weekend and explain how I feel and how awkward it makes me feel and see what happens.

[andreasderjuengere]

If during the past 10 years nothing 'wrong' happened - I consider you to be safe.
I'm pretty certain that your wife had noticed it anyway.
So by keeping your hands where they ought to be, I see no conflicts coming up.

[EyebrowChewie]

Just consider it flattering. You dont like her flirtatitous vibes obviously and haven't told her to stop, so just tell her to stop and then act normal with her. She'll stop.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like it’s a game to her. Let your wife know.

[MCheetah]

If a chick was to brush her boobs against a man like that, she probably wants the D.

[Anonymous]

None of what she did was an accident and she was being very obvious about it. And it sounds like you must like it or you would put a stop to it.

[art84]

You should tell your wife about her sisters advantages on you.

[Gedaria]

It would seem she is teasing you. Seeing if you react.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I thank you. I have a feeling... I feel feel. It’s like A - ROW or A - OW.

[fantasygirl773]

Does she still do this and do u live with her