My wife's sister all ways grabs, pinches or smacks my ass and I'm wondering if I should say something?

[Anonymous]

She is quite a bit younger than my wife and by nature is kind of a flirt. I'm not thinking she's got a thing for me but I am starting to feel uncomfortable. I'll give you an example, about two weeks ago she bought me a pair of pants for my birthday and I tried them on, when I came out of the bathroom she was waiting outside the door and walked behind me and grabbed my butt and said how nice it looks then kissed me on my cheek (which to me isn't a big deal. She always does.)
There are similar examples. What bothers me is she only does it when we're alone which has me wondering if there is more to it and also the fact I wouldn't even think of doing it to her. Not even in a playful way. I know she's young so should I just let go? Do any of you have a relationship like this with a siblings partner? What are your thoughts?

[laraWM]

She's hitting on you at least, you need to tell her to stop first. Then, if she doesn't stop, tell you wife.
It can even be considered assault, it is not really acceptable to let it go in my opinion

[Asker]

Yeah? Maybe I'm just blind. I never thought of her as hitting on me but as a woman you would probably be a little more in tune to that. I will probably tell her that I do like her like a sister and don't want her to feel weird but you need to stop grabbing me all the time. And I really do like her. We do have a good relationship so that's why it such a tough situation.

[laraWM]

Yes tell her. Good point to begin with

[PrettyPriya]

No, you shouldn't just let it go. You need to tell her you don't appreciate it. It could affect your marriage if it continues.

If not stopped, it could also turn into more dangerous behavior.

[Asker]

It's just a tough situation because I do like her sister, and I don't think she means anything by it but like you said my wife probably wouldn't like it. I just don't wanna say anything to put a strain on their relationship, then I'd feel like an asshole in front of the family.

[PrettyPriya]

I get you 100%. Tough situation but I'm sure there is a polite way to go about it. Since you know her better than anyone here, best to think of a good way to approach it.

You could even try to inject some humor into it like "Hey, better stop this or people will get ideas!". I don't know, that is off the top of my head.

[Asker]

I have done that. I'll say things like, "kim, how would you like it if I did that to you?" In a joking manner and she'll literally look at me and say, "I wouldn't care." I think I'll just tell her straight out when we're alone. I don't think my wife needs to know. Do you?

[PrettyPriya]

I would say at this point, no she doesn't need to know if you get it sorted out. If it continues OR if she has an attitude about it, I would immediately tell your wife so her sister can't manipulate the story.

[Asker]

YES!!! That is what I'm afraid of. Suddenly it's me making advances on her. Thank you.

[PrettyPriya]

You are most welcome. I hope it ends up non-confrontational and resolves easily. 😊

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHG ❤️

[Asker]

I talked to her yesterday and it went pretty good. First thing she asked is if I said anything to my wife (her sis) I said no. We do have a somewhat close relationship so it isn't like she was pissed and now we're gonna be uncomfortable with each other. Because I know she isn't flirting with me, mainly 'cause she's never said anything inappropriate or made me feel uncomfortable, just annoyed. Long story short, we're cool and she asked if hugs are okay and I said they are always welcome. Thanks for your help.

[PrettyPriya]

Omg! This is great to hear! So happy you worked it out and not going to be uncomfortable or cause problems.

Truly happy for you. 🙏😊

[VDrago14]

Yeah dude, she's flirting with you and probably wants you in the sack..

[SnakeBoop]

You should have called her out immediately. EVERY TIME.

[Asker]

It was so far and in between in the beginning it honestly wasn't a big deal to me but it is becoming more annoying than anything. I can actually appreciate what woman go through with touchy Feely guys. Although, I don't see it harassment or anything like that, just really annoying.

[SnakeBoop]

still needs to be called out AS SOON as it happens. Its not appropriate and means she will definitively be harassing others too.

[Anonymous]

Just grab one of her titties in return

[Asker]

Don't think I haven't been tempted! And I'm dead serious.

[joeldalton]

You should say “harder”

[lycanthrope3]

Shr wants you

[Asker]

Nope. I don't see it that way at all. She's just a kind of immature girl that likes to tease. She's never said anything inappropriate or went beyond what I've described.