Backstory:
There is this girl i met during the pandemic through social media. We had a couple of digital dates which went great. So we decided to meet up and had our first physical date. After that date I met her parents, sister and brother in law. they all liked me (her words, not mine). So i think the date was a succes!
Due to a busy schedule i couldn't meet her the week after, so we kept in touch through text and she would often facetime me. If she went out with friends she'd often call me, which i think is super cute! When i messaged her this week asking about a 2nd date she seemed thrilled. But a few days ago she messaged me starting with 'i have to tell u something...'
Why she is not 'ready':
She told me that i was the first guy she dated after breaking up with her 'bad' ex. She also said that she found it really hard to open up again and take the next steps towards a relationship with someone. She told me she really liked me, but that she had a hard time 'breaking down these walls' that she build around herself.
Although she likes me she doesn't know when she will be ready for a relationship, and she hates the fact she feels this way. I told her that i appreciated her honesty and that i am willing to take things slow. Since finals are coming up i suggested to her that we'd take some time 'off' so she could talk to close friends about it and had some time to think about it herself. I said that we could pick things up after the finals (so in about 5 weeks), when we both have vacation. She said 'Yeah lets keep in touch! and i'll let you know <3'
Question (s):
Would you wait for someone that isn't ready for a relationship?
Do you think it's an excuse?
There is this girl i met during the pandemic through social media. We had a couple of digital dates which went great. So we decided to meet up and had our first physical date. After that date I met her parents, sister and brother in law. they all liked me (her words, not mine). So i think the date was a succes!
Due to a busy schedule i couldn't meet her the week after, so we kept in touch through text and she would often facetime me. If she went out with friends she'd often call me, which i think is super cute! When i messaged her this week asking about a 2nd date she seemed thrilled. But a few days ago she messaged me starting with 'i have to tell u something...'
Why she is not 'ready':
She told me that i was the first guy she dated after breaking up with her 'bad' ex. She also said that she found it really hard to open up again and take the next steps towards a relationship with someone. She told me she really liked me, but that she had a hard time 'breaking down these walls' that she build around herself.
Although she likes me she doesn't know when she will be ready for a relationship, and she hates the fact she feels this way. I told her that i appreciated her honesty and that i am willing to take things slow. Since finals are coming up i suggested to her that we'd take some time 'off' so she could talk to close friends about it and had some time to think about it herself. I said that we could pick things up after the finals (so in about 5 weeks), when we both have vacation. She said 'Yeah lets keep in touch! and i'll let you know <3'
Question (s):
Would you wait for someone that isn't ready for a relationship?
Do you think it's an excuse?
