If toxic masculinity is real, then what does toxic femininity look like?

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worldscolide · Accepted Answer

- Women forcing men to fight for the right to be involved in their children's lives post divorce.
- Women feeling like its acceptable to falsely accuse men of rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, and domestic violence.
- Women feeling like its ok to hit men, because they can get away with it, because they know damn well that if he hits her back he will go to jail not her.
- Women using the term "Toxic masculinity" To shame things that are traditionally male, and at the same time feminize their male children. A good example of this by the way is a lady in Texas who tried very hard to transition her son to being a girl, and when he is around his dad, he is like a normal little boy.. she's a fucking monster and a perfect example of toxic femininity
- Women only dating men based on how much they make and what they can provide for them.. Seriously if you truly are equal bring more to the table than just sex.. And stop treating men like walking talking ATM's
- Women shunning and hating on women who chose to be stay at home mothers, and house wives.. Some women want to be mothers and wives..
- Women shunning and hating on women for any other occupation choice. Choosing not to have children or a family.. not everyone desires that.
- Women choosing to murder their children (not referring to abortion here).. 71% of all child deaths, child abuse, and child neglect is at the hands of women.. Not men.. A good example of this is a lesbian couple from Brazil i think, who killed their son simply because he was male, and refused to be female.
- Women choosing to silence men, and tell them to man up, when they admit that they have been the victim of sexual assault, Abuse, Domestic violence.. the list goes on..

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Modern feminism (third and fourth wave) is what "toxic femininity" would be. Luckily, "toxic masculinity" nor femininity doesn't exist. If people are acting badly, that's just called being an asshole. And both genders and all demographics of humans are easily capable of that.

Being a jerk doesn't need to be gendered, however what these female feminist assholes refer to as "toxic masculinity" is just normal ACTUAL masculinity. And they dislike that. To them, in all their femsplaining logic, masculinity "should" be being as weak, effeminate, and submissive as possible. That way, these feminists can then feign being the psuedo-alpha-males they think of all men as being and usurp power.

In other words, they want to turn men into what they think of all women as being, weak and helpless damsels with no spine/backbone, and become what they think of all men as being, the cocky powerful rich asshole psuedo-alpha-males (which is especially why they're obsessed with Donald Trump; he's secretly everything they wish they were, and they're ridiculously envious of it). That's why they try so hard to destroy masculinity and replace it with bitch-boy tendencies. (Ironically, even most feminists don't like soy boys as romantic partners.)

Ez-Bri-Z · Accepted Answer

Hey, I almost expected this to get posted after Wowwgirl's post.

Pretty much the same, but basically the over exaggeration of feminine traits and the expectations of men. Holding ideas like; we are only here to serve men, that if we don't try to look as feminine as possible that we are somehow not doing our jobs, the expectation that we shouldn't have careers and that men are only here to take care of us, that we HAVE to start a family, that men who cry are considered weak and not worth our time, and there are plenty more, but I think you get the idea of what I am saying.

victoriaxoxo · Accepted Answer

Toxic femininity to me is when women are overly girly. They embrace their femininity to a point where it incapacitates them. They will go out of their way to refuse to learn things like basic repairs. They cry and complain and are always the damsel in the distress. They take very little responsibility in their actions. To these women it seems cute that they are so fragile but many men eventually find these women too annoying and dependant. These are the same women that mock men for crying or avoiding a fight because these women live to embrace and enforce stereotypes.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Look at the screenshot on this question. The definition of toxic masculinity is basically stereotypical behaviours committed by men that negatively affect society as a whole. Based on that, toxic femininity would be the same thing, except behaviours committed by female. Both do exist, some people are just too stupid to realise the latter one does too or just ignore it, because they hate men and are so hell-bent on being the victim, that they can't take their head out of their ass and open their eyes up to reality and look at things from the other side, the feminazis, aka, certain users on here, including one who's answered this question. It's good that people point this thing out too, instead of acting like only one side is bad and creating a whole gender war.

blank_expression · Answer

Since feminism is the dismantling of femininity, and masculinity for that matter, such that feminists are pseudo-male-conditioned brains with proverbial dead-ovaries, dead-wombs, and dead-femininity essentially, creating terms such as toxic-femininity implies some alternate variant exists. Let’s see what comes out. Femininity is woman’s innate nature for the overall purpose of manipulating the masculine man ensuring survival of the species. It is her true power over him and is significantly more powerful than masculinity as it has been the genesis behind civilizations and major wars. A woman with a good heart and nature will use her femininity sparingly while the evil woman will use it as a weapon with everything from obtaining material possessions to murder. While I don’t agree these terms even exist at all (pc jargon only), toxic femininity (or masculinity) is an abuse of power essentially over the opposite sex. In either case, the toxic-___inity is used to exercise excessive misuse of natural power over the other. Feminism is simply an overreach that seeks to destroy and eliminate both (femininity-masculinity) entirely for the sake of positioning woman in a ruling class position as the optics only while of course; the ulterior motive is the destruction of family so that a dictator government can take over without “nuclear families” getting in the way as it did in previous attempts. This was original creation objective of the Frankfort School of Marxism; it was to find the reason communism failed, conclusion being the “nuclear families.”

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

We are seeing it now with the cancel culture, and all of the false accusations against men, just because they said that a woman looks nice or good. So, men are no longer able to compliment women, with out being accused of being sexist, or too masculine. If a man hears another man planning to do something to a woman that is bad, and they try to warn them; the woman sees the man as a pervert, and needs help, and one who has crossed the line.

Basically, men can no longer do anything that is not sexist according to women, and they need to be cut down to size. There are no good men, there are only closet pervert men who will show their true colors if yo allow them. It has gotten so bad, that a boy child was accused of being too masculine, because he said a woman looked nice. A child!!! For crying out loud!!! What do these toxic women want? No one can say anything good to them or compliment them, whether they are a child or adult male.

All this toxic femininity is beginning to produce men who are very feminine, and beginning to consider other men over the drama of these women!! This is not good; we are killing off our species, by driving a wedge between men and women. Pretty soon there will be no more kids, since none of these women appear to not want a real man; they want a subservient slave man!!! When crap hits the fan, and their lives are in danger; there will be no masculine men to protect them anymore, and they will die lonely, and unfulfilled.

NathanDavis · Answer

*gets neurotic and does everything, more and beyond to provoke you*

" go ahead and hit me, I dare you "

*physically attacks you first*

" go ahead and hit me you %#$%#@^%$^%$ "

I saw this exactly at the super-market, with a couple, nothing involving me... in front of everyone, and of course I don't else and I don't know better, but to me it seemed like those two actually hit each other, if it weren't for the fact that there was people around. His attitude was the same I've seen in other men that I know hit their spouses and stuff... anyway, to me that's just the most toxic people can get... both him and her, men and women, so I don't see this as a gender thing... it's just damned toxic people, in general... messed up stuff... so I am not sure why people has to do this about being a masculine or a feminine thing.

Lionman95 · Answer

Toxic feminity is a a way of treatment where a woman bemothers and tries to control and manipulate to just care about her. I´d argue mom´s boy had a toxic mother because she never showed or let them take responsibility for their lifes.
It´s not just about emasculating or being mean to guys it´s also a way of not letting them take responsibility.
It´s a way of trying to do everything for him, so that he has to spend constantly time with her.
I don´t think it´s feminism in itself but it´s way of being controlling, manipulative and possesive.

Soteris · Answer

"Toxic" in Toxic masculinity/femininity means something that negatively impacts either the individual or society at large. In the case of Toxic Femininity all you have to do is list some of the stereotypes of "femininity" and examine how these things either are negative or can be twisted into becoming negative through circumstances.

For example the claim that men are more logical and women are more emotional which can then be turned around and be used against women to undermine their arguments because they are obviously not based on logical reasoning but flimsy bleeding heart feelings.

There are just as much, if not more examples of toxic femininity as there is female stereotypes.

AndrewMG · Answer

Labels are ridiculous as I've already tried to explain in Wowwgirls post, people are individuals and we should celebrate that fact more than anything else. I'm a guy who hates violence but has travelled from the UK to Vegas to watch a boxing match, I'm a guy who loves football but feels offended by how certain England fans reacted to losing in the final the other day, I'm the same guy who would walk through a wall of fire to reach someone but still not tell them how I feel. Labels hold people back, we should celebrate the individual.

Realvisionary · Answer

Hyper masculinity is definitely a real thing.. Just last week at the store some jackass kept walking around staring aggressively at everyone sizing them up like he owns the place and was talking smack about other people I can't stand people like that.

And there's such thing as hyper feminism which is just females that dislike men and only act nice to other females, I knew a person like that at one of my previous jobs she was so mean to men like the first tike I met her I was super nice and she acted like a total b*tch for no reason and I found out by another who told me she just dislikes men and will only be nice or friendly to other women. Not surprising she soon got let go by the company.

So, Basically most people are good and really cool and some people are jackasses lol

NightHawk99 · Answer

Toxic feminism... Now I don't know what the women's definition of "real woman" is. But I do know this.

Real men don't like women who try to make them jealous.

Real men don't like women who think they can just get away with whatever they want.

Real men don't like when women have double standards (e. g. says women shouldn't be judged but will judge men).

Real men don't like when women have unrealistic standards either. (e. g. Over 6 feet with hulking abs). Blame hollywood for that.

Real men don't like when a woman has a history of bad experiences with other men. Trust me, they have their reasons there. In fact every male who abides by this does.

Real men don't like when women play stupid games to try and "test us". Hear me when I say, the moment we catch on, we will fail by our own free will. Men in general don't like women who play games. And I'm sure the ladies don't like it vice versa.

AdithyaR · Answer

Essentially the same as what toxic masculinity would mean. Limiting what is considered feminine and coercing women to follow those norms to be considered normal.
Like if shaming men for crying is toxic masculinity.
Shaming a woman for having muscles would be toxic femininity.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Toxic Masculinity is a man who imposes other men to be real men. Because your not a real man if you cry or something else whatever. And always needing to be Dominatant.
So Toxic Femininity would be a woman who imposes women to be real women. Because your not a real woman if you don't cook and clean for your man. And always needing to be submissive.

Hans222 · Answer

I voted C... being toxic as a person is not related to being male or female.
It's related to disrespecting people, being unjust, seeking trouble in discussions, playing false games and so on.
The person could be male, female, young, old and any culture.

HugoThe2nd · Answer

The same thing toxic masculinity is - tearing each other down for not possessing the "typically feminine" traits, behaviors and attributes on the basis of which certain fragile individuals like to define themselves and others.

Which in the case of women are typically things such as - "unladylike behavior", promiscuity, preferring the company of men, following academic/career paths instead of homemaking and so on and so forth.

normalice · Answer

In my experience, toxic femininity is usually just toxic masculinity pretending to be feminism to make it look unreasonable.

But outside of that, I would say mothers asking their daughters "when are you going to have children/get married?" is toxic femininity.

JosyJosy · Answer

Why do we have to put a gender on it? Assholes will be assholes. Bitches will be bitches :x it's all the same to me

anonnonaaa · Answer

Using femininity to manipulate others.
Always playing victim and think the world revolves around you because you're a woman.
Not acknowledging men as people.
Bringing down other women.
Treating other women like their your servants.
Thinking being a rude and distasteful person is excused because you're a woman.

Still-alive · Answer

here’s @wowwgirls definition lolsss

Whinnying, being emotional, crying in public, expecting men to know how to fix cars or things around the home. Fears conflict, afraid of a lot including fighting and dirt, I could go on or...

A Weak and spineless girl, worships men and feels unworthy for them, cry's “poor me” all the time, wants to treat men like women. who has no sense of her own dignity or pride. Her only victory as a woman was a participation trophy for track day in 3rd grade.

spuitkaas · Answer

I don't believe it exists, because things that would be toxic feminity, such as saying women need to look more feminine etc can be traced back to patriarchy and therefore is internalized misogyny rather than feminine toxicity. Rules of patriarchy have been established by people in power, which were mostly men to supress women, so the supressed can only gain power by acting like the supressor (aka masculine traits).

topramen1565 · Answer

Toxic feminism is women supremacy. "Men ain't sh*t" or having some really out rageous standards like, "If he don't got a big..." or "If his name isn't moan-able". And that's very sus considering the stereotype that guys are pervs when we just wanna chill and play games. Also bragging about how their a 10 when their personality is ugly and deducts points making them a 1.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

In the same way that toxic masculinty is about creating a narrow, unrealistic ideal for men and then shaming everyone who doesn't try to achieve that standard (like shaming men who are emotional, who enjoy classically "feminine" things, etc)

I would say toxic femininity is that same thing but for women. Shaming women for not meeting unrealistic standards, pushing this idea that there is a "right way" to be a woman and anything less is somehow bad.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Gold digging
Slutly behavior
Catty behavoir
Gossiping
Any woman who is collecting alimony from an ex husband. (Your taking money that you didn't earn. )
These are a few examples of toxic femininity.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s being passive aggressive, toxically competitive or sabotaging other women, making it hard for a man to please you to justify being man or withholding sex instead of being open about feelings or what would get her in the mood.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

When I was growing up we just called the person an asshole, or an idiot, or both. We didn't sit there blaming genders or hormones or calling them toxic. We blamed that particular person and didn't apply it to other people.

jerdanro · Answer

Titles and common phrases created associations between words. "Toxic Masculinity" forms an association between "toxic" and "masculine". No matter how specific the original definition was, it's the association that persists.

I'd say that we should be more careful with language, but it isn't carelessness. Terms like this one are often created or co-opted from their original meaning to be used as weapons.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it exists.

Gold diggers using men for their money by faking their love.
Or using men for any resource whatsoever with their seductive powers but not intending on keeping him.
Or marrying and then divorce-raping the guy. Pretty sure women don't understand this one or aren't going to mention it.

Agape93 · Answer

Feminazis, forcing girls or “encouraging” them to act like the stereotypical vain housewife, reinforcing toxic traits in men like “men don’t cry!” Etc.

Sunworship999 · Answer

Emotionally abusive Nagging Manipulating  Controling Whining Flirting with other guys when your in a relationship Using men

genericname85 · Answer

there's no such thing. there's only toxic people in general. and it's ironically mostly those social justice warriors who professionally get offended on behalf of others.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's basically all of the latest feminism. Especially the one claiming toxic masculinity. Because there is really very little of that. And it's not what theyvpoint fingers on.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Not overall feminism but modern-day feminisn, the new stuff they keep adding. It can make women look less feminine but oh well.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Bossiness, hypercritical, manipulative, bratty, throws temper tantrums, hits people, lies constantly to get her way, uses her looks to take advantage of people.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Body shaming
Constant asking of when you're going to have kids or find a man to settle with
Shaming other women for using different types of menstrual products.
"Real women have curves"
"I'm not like other girls"

Anonymous · Answer

If I had to guess... Anorexia and constant working out to look "better", along with using excessive makeup and various other things within their abilities to keep themselves looking young... Shaming and hurting other women for not looking like a straight up Barbie doll like they want to, and probably do, look like... And generally just being a bitch.

ThisAndThat · Answer

Criminal and family courts biased system biased laws brainwashed society and the destruction of the family unit and abortion is celebrated. All men bad in everything and everything against men to the point men completely turn away from women. That's what toxic femininity looks like.

IronLady6354 · Answer

It's the whole passive aggressive catty backstabbing thing that seems to be drastically more common among women then men.

Sabretooth · Answer

wowgirl is incredibly bias and scared of any who can challenge her beliefs. i'd say in in a word--feminism. here's good showing of toxic masculinity:

Djaay · Answer

Toxic masculinity is ; toxic feminitity in the mirror. Without the equivalent to shame blame , u would only have toxic femininity is really all there is. There's NO such thing as toxic masculinity. But what there really is.. is the notion to exile and deny GOD and his masculine divine commanded commandments by women who despise him to put there needs and desires first and for most.

JackSmy · Answer

Bravo Channel, ANY of the "Housewives" Shows!!! LOL!!!

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Usually, a toxic person is a toxic person, but there are some characteristics for each sex, for women is being victimising and using her femininity to manipulate, double standards and such.

ultimega · Answer

Kicking a guy in the balls over man spreading and then congratulating herself.

FakeName123 · Answer

Plotting the destruction of a persons social reputation would be a common thing of typically toxic female behaviour.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Toxic masculinity is violence and toxic femininity is being a mean bitch.

0cutie-patootie0 · Answer

Its like if a girl sees you being a tomboy and wearing what guys wear and being like them, some girls would tell them "why can't you just act like a girl" or something like that but I don't know this was based on experience

loveslongnails · Answer

The butt of any Kardashian girl. That's reallllly toxic stuff !

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Toxic masculinity is something I see feminists talking about, toxic femininity is not a topic in any political discussion as far as I know, so there's no such a thing from this perspective.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

There's no such thing. If you're born male then by default you are masculine, and born female you are feminine. This toxic masculinity is total nonsense.

boombastik · Answer

Insecurity, jealousy_depression, obsessive thinking

FatherJack · Answer

Any of the feminist leadership cadre is a good start , all are rabid misandrists & extreme loony left wingers & full of hate. They fail to realise all that hate burns THEM up... not the " hated males " .

dolemite89 · Answer

i honestly see more men walking on eggshells these days with their behavior and more women in general acting toxically masculine 😂

Feelicks · Answer

Just search Feminism on twitter and a majority of posts will be toxic hate screeds.

SGTAdam · Answer

I guess the female version is just women and money. I don't know really

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't know what it looks like sorry, these are really hard for me

NerdDG · Answer

They’d never respect their privacy and think it’s okay to whisper with others and didn’t care how I would feel because they’d think we don’t feeling. I’ve been there. They are awful. Cold. Thoughtless.

askandgiveAnswers · Answer

When news and apps demand people to think differently instead of enjoying life and each other. Basic needs of seeing people and talking is the sensational way to live. Not this topic. Being an American or loving where you live or who u r.

blondfrog · Answer

I don't know I guess who doesn't want to cook under any circumstances or do anything traditionally feminine/ I don't know

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

Unhealthy obsession of your appearance leading to conditions like anorexia?

Anonymous · Answer

Toxic masculinity and toxic feminity exist. Both men and women have bad traits

mreber92 · Answer

The options you posted for the vote were very limited and rude first of all. Second of all women can be just as toxic as men. The stereotypical "mean girls". There's a Regina in every school and workplace.

Zelda_5 · Answer

It's what people call "feminazi".

Anonymous · Answer

Reputational destruction is a toxic feminine thing. So look no further than cancel culture to see the impact of toxic femininity today.

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