If that was me, I would feel extremely used and hurt that this entire time, if I was with a lesbian/doudrop. I'd personally be very angry that I was with a woman that didn't love me (or men at all). If a girl is really attracted to girls, then they shouldn't just be with them and not use men (or anyone else) for all the perks and benefits if it's not what their heart and/or genitals wants. Likewise, if a girl is really straight, they should stop using the LGBT identity like a piece of flair on their jacket and exploiting it, and I say that as someone who is largely indifferent to the activities that go on in the LGBT community. It's still not right to be straight and "play gay for pay" because it suits you. Both are gross in so many ways, and I hate it.
I don't know how you feel being with a lesbian, but if it was me, the marriage would be 100% over, right then and there. I'd be furious I devoted time out of my life to a lesbian who just used and exploited me.
Not to mention, you probably are not "pansexual." If you're straight, then it means you're only attracted to straight women, and no one else. (Actual) straight people are not sexually or romantically attracted to gay people (or transgenders). So this is yet another way she used and exploited you. And again, another way I'd feel furious and embarrassed.
You gotta do what's best for you, but if you don't want to be with a lesbian and felt betrayed that you were with a gay woman this whole time, who very VERY much likely wants a woman in her sexual needs, you have all the reason to break up with her. If you choose to stay, you can do that too, but I honestly think that's the biggest cuck move a man can do. To be with a woman who SAYS she doesn't want you and is attracted to women? I mean, where is there to go in the marriage, at that point? You'll never be able to satisfy her, and she'll never be happy being with the "wrong" gender. It seems silly to even stay with a gay woman. But again, you do what's best for you.
Reminds me of my sister. I believe I was like 13 at that time and she was 17? She claimed that she was a lesbian or some something, we had a very strict family, Anyhow she had supposedly dated certain older men to get at my dad for some reason. Quite the troubled gal, I remember her touching me too at one time. Anyhow it seems like both my mom and dad had enough so this is what my parents did. They disowned her pretty much, she still went to school (my dad still sent her money). I believe she came back after 7 months? It was mostly due to my mom who found out and cut off the money. My mom ended up putting a condition for her return.
Why am I telling you this? You see my sister was never a Lesbian, or bisexual or whatever, but back then I really thought all women were bi cus other guys said so. My conversation with her was interesting too, from what I found out was the following, she was confused, apparently she thought her strict life was too suffocating and she tried to be more "free" or at least that is what her "BFF" told her to do. In the end she still liked the shape of a man's tool, I guess? She's now married and no one knows that she touched me in funny places, but ya know what? Women are like that and they get away with it. So you must do the following, let her do it and be a beta and let her suck you dry or you cut her off completely out of your life. Anyhow good luck mate.
If you support that, stick around. I personally do not and would not. Her sexuality doesn't give her the greenlight to cheat on you. So tell her that you can either agree to bring in a 3rd party on occasion OR that she can divorce you if she doesn't feel that you as her husband is enough to fulfill her
Out of every guy out there, she's with you. And out of every girl out there, you're with her. So if it does turn out that she's bi, then the only difference now is that out of every guy/girl out there, she's with you. So not much has changed in my opinion...
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u My ex-girlfriend was bisexual... is not really that complicated.
She was with me, she loved me, she liked me, she wanted me... not others. She was in a relationship with me, not others... yes, she was bisexual, but she still liked and wanted, and we had an exclusive and committed relationship.
It was not significantly different than all other relationships I had with straight women.
What you could now, is just be with her, talk with her about this, talk about this through and try to understand... don't get ahead of things, do not reach to conclusions on your own, do not paint scenarios in your head, just be with her and talk with her. There's still two of you in this relationship, nobody else... so just go there and talk with her, and not with people here at GaG, we're not in a marriage with you, she is
u 1. There is not a way that you are "supposed to" feel or think about this. We all react differently, based on our past experiences, and you and I should not necessarily react identically.
2. She has desires that you cannot fulfill. That is an inherent problem in dating a bisexual person. I know because I married a bisexual girl and, less than two years into the marriage, she cheated on me with another woman.
3. Whether it's over depends on you and your wife. She came out as a bisexual. Does that mean that she wants to try a lesbian relationship? Maybe she wants a divorce so she can be free to go sleep with whoever she wants. Do you have children?
Just because she is bisexual it doesn't mean she needs both men and women to fullfil her... Thats not how it works. This is not a big deal. Her cheating on you with a woman is the same as a straight woman cheating on you with a man. Its not about sexuality. Its about having a healthy relationship.
there's no such thing as sexual identities so you're over thinking this. its not a thing you're born as its just a decision she made to call herself. there is no reason to assume she needs to date a woman and obviously that won't work. don't make the first move here.
Bisexuality means either or, you have the right to leave on the basis she didn't tell you BUT it doesn't mean she doesn't love you
How do YOU think and feel about this whole thing? If you can't accept it dont if you do.. do. but most bisexual women I know marry men
Find a nice girl and give her to her. Problem solved.
Or you could get a cute young thing, move her in, and BOTH do her.
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Your wife is a GIANT FAIL.
If she's bi, and married a man, that means she "turned straight". Unless of course you divorce, and she gets with a girl and marries one. Then she "turned les.", so she could get married to the same sex
The answer is divorce. Wish her the best... and build a new life.
it will mean a third person in marriage. I would divorce
Have a threesome with her and another girl and stfu.
You don't have to do anything. It is not a big deal.
Oof tough break. Tell her to get off the internet before it fucks her brain up even more
You let her do her thing and eventually you ask to watch 🤷♂️
If she came out i hate to say thia the odds will be sje will behind your back
u Leave her she lied to you
Support her.. its who she is
divorce her unless you want her to be a gay
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