She talked to me then she blocked me was it my attitude?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys I met this girl in the restaurant parking she was beautiful I she did eye contact then I asked her to lower the glass she did then I said good evening she responded then I said you look beautiful just wondering where you from. She said why where are you from then I said I asked you first. She got upset and go away.

I don't like games I'm 30 years old I don't like such an attitude that she doesn't make it easy and wants to play games or complicated long conversation. I'm 6.2 and athlete and thankfully have my things I personally I'm out of the dating market since long time but she started eye contact.

What you think was me? I'm not so funny person and generally Im strict but I was talking about friendly.
Your thoughts?

[btbc92]

Dude, you're creepy. She asked you because she didn't trust you and good thing, you gave her a reason to not bother. You're a complete stranger, she doesn't have to tell you where she's from. It is a restaurant, a business. And you're trying to pick up a "beautiful" woman at the window of a drive-thru restaurant? Only for her to risk getting into trouble by her boss on top of that? She doesn't have to do jack squat. Her eye contact wasn't like that. Get a hobby or something. This isn't a dating market. This is just you not knowing how to be a decent person and speaking to others like a normal person. And please do not use your stoic personality as an excuse. Your narcissistic for you to say you are over 6 feet and an athlete. Guess what? There are plenty of other men who are over 6 feet and an athlete. Whatever her reasons are were her reasons since I wasn't there, I cannot say. But what I CAN SAY. If that is your attitude, you got that right your the problem. You treat others how you also want to be treated.

[Asker]

It was the restaurant parking both of us did buy food from there.
I know she did eye contact or else she would bring her car window down. If she asked me first I wouldn't have any problems answering her but my gut told me she doesn't bring peace to the table. I remember I answered a woman from where I am then she ghosted me ! . Im single and happy enough I won't spend a minute with the wrong women

[btbc92]

Asker, no. You have a problem. If you are happily single, then stay single. Why bother a woman who doesn't need all of that hell? It is very clear you are not happy single. You just want somebody to flirt and mess around with on that level claiming you're not there for games. They are plenty of women who fool around you can mess with. It is very clear these women are not receptive to you and for good reason. No, what your gut is telling you is that you're not getting what you wanted met to feed your ego. What table does a woman need to bring? Nothing. You are responsible for how you get "peace" at your table. Unless you are married, you have no right to be demanding anything from women. These women don't know who you are, what your business is with them, what is their business with you. they are not bothering you. YOU are bothering THEM for no logical reason but it seems to cause trouble because you're not at peace. Eye contact meant nothing at that point but that she reconsigned and acknowledged you were THERE. YOU just wanted an opportunity to use it as a "sign" for her to "Welcome" you there when that isn't IT. YOU were targeting her because she was sexually attracted to you. THAT'S all. Be honest and be real.

[btbc92]

Buddy, your skirt hunting, and it's too obvious no amount of "logical" excuses are going to fix it. Your directness is proof you are looking for a mate, and you need to just stop lying, once again to others acting like you got it made, when you clearly don't. I don't care if you're rich. Your concern is your material, now you want a trophy to say you have. You care about master status, not a woman or feelings and who she is. Just somebody to fit the checklist you desire in your life for the sake of fulfilling a checklist, no different than some women instead of learning to form relationships and building one. It is clear you don't know how to do. No dating experience is going to fix this fundamental fact. I never dated before, even I know better than that. I am a serious oriented myself, I know better not to treat others that way when I am not even involved with them. You not involved with these women. Have some respect. And if this is how treat them "Demanding" like that, most women do not find that attractive in a man especially if their sensitive women like myself.

[SueShe]

I hate those new emojis and therefore, I give you a traditional "like".

[Asker]

Okay okay talk more if you want Because of women like you we quit dating. Have a nice day

[SueShe]

You don't have to quit dating but you can date with enough decency as not to give the feeling to the girl that she is just a piece of flesh.

We are humans too and most of us don't like to be seen solely as a number on a body count or another trophy.

And if a girl says no to your advances, accept it. It is not the end of the world.

[btbc92]

Because of women like ME? NO. You don't quit dating because of women like me. You quit dating because you can't get what you want. You want benefits. NOT a relationship. Let's get the facts straight. Guys like you no offense are not attractive. Period. Any decent man would not respond like that. You are just immature and don't know the keyword RESPECT. Whatever your issue are with women, you need to fix it. Your single you don't want to fix it that's why you have an a nasty attitude for me to talk more. No you just don't want to listen to a woman. You again see women like objects and it's why your single still at 30. Period.

[btbc92]

@SueShe Don't even worry about telling him about "Decency", you know why? Because he doesn't have decency. Doesn't even understand the WORD, to begin with. A decency man doesn't do this. They don't see a beautiful girl just to strick up a convo, ask her where she is from, and it's flat out obvious where it is going and makes women uncomfortable unless she is looking so something sexual or is sexually turned on. That's all. Decent women are not for guys like him, which is why they often don't have anything solid in the long run and blame women like me who aren't giving them what they want. He cares about getting any female easy to "Fall for him" because why? Other than what he says he physically has, in the insides of who he is as a person, there isn't much to offer a woman emotionally. He is too "cold" in his approach and doesn't understand how he socially comes off to females as a whole. Too much pride in him. Until the pride goes, he is closing himself off from having any woman being open to want to get to know who he is basically. And he doesn't want to see that because again, he is insecure as a man. When he gets that in order, then that is a big maybe. Whoever he gets is not my business. But how he is doing this is flat-out harassment and can get him arrested if he is not careful.

[Asker]

I don't issue with women. Women are the issue themselves. As we get older we are not into 1 night stand or just pump n dump I could sugar coat my words and be sweet to her to get into her pants as I can get many women pants but I'm not into it so I was myself I want submissive kind quiet women but she wasn't that kind of women. I think it's not a problem we are just different.

A women like her or like you obviously are not submissive or quiet everyone have own standards , she didn't meet my standards. I know girls which happily wants to be side chicks and for booty call but I'm not into that thing. Quality matters

[btbc92]

Asker, you see what you just said, "we are an issue ourselves!" Do you think any woman in her right mind wants to date a jerk like you who thinks he knows everything about women when you don't? That's why your SINGLE! Buddy, you don't know who the hell I am for you to judge me, because a man like you I wouldn't be submissive to you at all. You're not deserving of it.

I am a very quiet woman, I am an INFJ. And no preferences have 0 to do with it. You are just a jerk and have characteristics and qualities about you that are a TURNOFF. The only "Women" you're going to attract are those who are just like YOURSELF. Your not quality. Your just a pretender. You are not that guy and you need to stop, be honest, and stop pretending. I just learned to not tolerate BS from a man. And all you got is BS. You are easy to spot, weed out and ignore. All you ask, I am. I am just not going to show that to EVERY PERSON. Because every time I do, I get treated poorly. I am a virgin, I never partied, did drugs, drink, I believe in God, I believe in the word of God and his son Jesus, I am a homebody, a caregiver, and always be at home, unless hanging out with friends who ALSO share the same values, and those around me have similar values and desires as I DO. Trust me, somebody like you are not who you say you are.

[btbc92]

Your type, especially with your personality are a turnoff for my personality. I know your an introvert as I am. You are unhealthy in your personality. You either from what I am guessing, not to generalize or type you, But to show you I know a lot more than what you want to let on about me. Either an ISTJ, or INTJ. You are not a "Feeler" type but a "thinker" introverted feeler type that has not yet found healthier ways in expressing himself without coming off like a jerk. You take things way too personal, and your learning anything. You don't want to hear anything from a woman, HOW are you supposed to have a relationship? You don't want a quiet woman because she is "quiet". You want somebody to control who can't think for herself, who you can "lead" without her questioning while she has to suffer through your BS. Sorry, it is not those times anymore where women of low self-esteem have no choice. you want a woman with low self-esteem because you have low self-esteem. I maybe a quiet person but I am also learned and know how to talk and communicate. Guys like you cannot handle it. And you need somebody who is on your level. We're are not on your level, you see somebody like me below you anyway. Why again, would I date such a person who acts like that? Please tell me what woman that is gentle, etc that your looking for DOES? You know she doesn't. BUT, because "we" have "so much love to give", you want our LOVE because it is YOU who doesn't have it within yourself because you expect us to just give, give, give while you take, take, take and still expect us to not want more in return. Because why? Deep down, your actually selfish. I know.

[btbc92]

First of all. If you are not a virgin yourself, if you've been out there smoking, drinking, partying, hopping around, what makes you think at this age or ANY AGE I would be looking for guys with your kind of behavior and pasts? I personally wouldn't whish is why also why I am single because a lot of you cannot meet my standards, don't meet them yourself but your judge those who did when you did it also, and blame your "youth" as an excuse to fool around. I was "young" too, guess what? I did those things you try to accuse me of indirectly. If your not remotely what you say you desire in a woman, forget about it before she realizes too late and then wants to leave you for another man. Those women like myself are only interested in men who are similar to ourselves, and often that means emotionally, psychologically and in personality, not just standards, values and morals besides upbringing. For us, we need more emotional men but who is also balanced. And your not emotionally warm like that for us to express that warmness and affection, so you will get coldness as we reflect what you mirror off.

[btbc92]

I didn't do those things*

[SteveSmith1985]

So... I have an answer for you. But will have to leave it to the ladies to explain why exactly.

But I've had tons of female friends. I can tell you for a FACT that EVER responding with "but I asked you first" will make any woman I've known immediately become extremely angry. The same thing applies to asking a woman to "guess" when she asks how old you are. I cannot give you any insight as to why exactly. But I can tell you that women HATE those two things enough to walk away from a guy they were otherwise interested in talking to. Apparently it's a thing.

I was as surprised as you are to learn this... but it's been reconfirmed dozens of times for me over the years (women talking about dude's other than me to me... not that I've tried to say this over and over to different women).

I wouldn't worry too much that anything else you did or your attitude was off-putting. You just happened to say something that (for some reason I don't understand) causes women to immediately get very upset. So if you just don't say that specific thing next time, you're good. Sorry dude

[IronsKev]

Who thinks approaching women in a car park is a good idea? No wonder you have been out of the dating game for a while

[SueShe]

Personally I would have reacted exactly the same because I am fully aware that a guy that approaches a girl in a parking lot is up to no good.

Girls are aware that guys have only one aim when hitting on a stranger and that is obviously to get in her pants as quickly as possible, mainly if they claim to be Adonis himself.

This kind of behavior is a huge turn off to girls and is indicative that the guy could not care about women as human beings but see only their genitals and what they could do with them.

[Asker]

My car was besides her car I didn't drive to her. Yeah it's huge turn off I know... Next time I should talk to girls in the church 😂😂

[kyleelyn199723]

Don’t take that stuff personally. She showed her true colors by being a bitch when you were asking her simple questions. A beautiful face doesn’t mean a beautiful personality.

[Asker]

Thanks. I was surprised I asked her simple question then she asked me back then I told her I asked you first. I don't like to fake the nice guy I'm not too nice but differently not disrespectful. I just walked away