Why did she block me after saying that she was still going to speak to me?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend had an argument over a month ago and haven’t spoken since. Long story short, it was all my fault and I’ve been feeling very guilty about it. I’ve apologised and she said “she needed time.” Therefore, I was giving her space and didn’t contact her. Meanwhile, her friend messaged me saying that she had spoken to my girlfriend about the situation and she didn’t know when but apparently she told her “that she was going to contact me again.”

2 weeks later, I was still giving her the time and space she asked for by not contacting her but I noticed that she had blocked me on Snapchat without saying anything at all. This confused me because apparently she said that she was going to speak to me but then randomly blocks me a few weeks later? I wanted to make things right and apologise properly, if she let me and in her own time but I’m guessing she wants nothing more to do with me, despite sounding like she was going to give me one more chance.

I respect her decision and I will try and move on. If she has decided I don’t deserve another chance then I understand but I’m hurt and confused. As I wasn’t expecting things to go back to how they were but to not even get proper closure with her is really painful.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang man, that is super confusing and hurtful. I can understand why you'd feel that way. A few things could be going on here:

- Her feelings may have changed over that time. Even if she initially thought she'd talk to you again, taking space can give new perspective.

- She may not have been fully sure before and blocking is her way of making the decision final without direct confrontation.

- Her friend passing on the message possibly misconstrued or exaggerated what your ex actually said/meant at the time.

Ultimately you may never know her exact reasons. But it does seem like she's chosen not to reconcile the relationship, as painful as that is without closure. The best thing now is to accept her decision and continue moving forward.

Focus on personal growth and learning from this experience. Try not to dwell on the "what ifs" - respect her space and find healthy ways of coping with the hurt. Time will help heal, even if it's difficult now. Hang in there man.

[strateguy632]

she lied so you would hang up the phone disconnect.