Why do some women see their friends as competition?

[Anonymous]

Why do some women compete with all of their friends, or their friends they deem as a threat or better than them in some way?

[TheBootyChest]

It's just something that happens when we are in a position where we think we need to be the best or be on the same level as someone else.

REAL friends, don't let you compete with them because you should be supporting them not trying to beat them.

Also I think it's the same for guys too.

[Asker]

Why are some people like that? Why do they need to be “on the same level” as you? Why can’t they just accept that everyone is different?

[TheBootyChest]

Probably their upbringing, or just the friends they are with.

If the group of friends are all rich, it's all about looking their best and not being emotionally close to each other and supporting them. To me, it seems very fake.

I think we all should be friends with each other and find the way to be there for everyone. But also to communicate what we need from people at times.

[Dinklex3]

Insecurities maybe.
I only had one friend like that and she was insecure af.
We grew up in upstate NY, area was predominantly white. As two black females, similar skin tone, and both leos (lol). I guess she wanted to feel special or something.
Was loud and extra to get attention from guys, acted obnoxiously clumsy, always talked about her boobs. At one point she "accidentally" pushed me on the stairs because a friend who she thought was cute had his arm around me.
I think some people just love and crave attention and get upset when others get some.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I have to laugh at this question, cause my college friends and I would not see each other as competition, in fact it was more like we were trying to decide who we should go for, who would be the best match for which one of us.

Sometimes there was a conflict of two or more wanting the same guy, but we never saw each other as a competition because HE had a say in it too. We'd just let him decide.

If they see their friends as competition they aren't really friends, they are frenemies.

[Asker]

Agreed, they’re not really friends because they probably don’t want the best for that other person

[Cubus]

This is how women minds works. You find another woman a threat, because she might win a guy you are interested in. Nature designed women this way, to be more determined to eventually win the guy and have children with him, so our species would nor die.

[Asker]

That’s true

[Anonymous]

These are Fairweather friends the world is full of them. I would classify friends into 3 types. 1. The fake friend. These friends speak the part but will sell you out at the drop of a hat if it advantages them in any way. 2. The second is the fair weather friend. They speak the part, they act the part mostly. The do wish the best for you so long as it is NOT better than them. If it is highly advantageous for them they will sell you out. 3. Three is the rarest kind of friend. They're true blue. When the chips ate down they're there. They want the best for you. Because they truly value you. Always stand by these people because they will always stand by you. And as I said they're rare and usually for life.

[oobidee]

There are just women who are really insecure and they want to be the Regina George of the group. There are women that purposely hang out with less attractive women to make them feel 100 X hotter because they are that insecure with themselves. Sometimes there's a power struggle for whose hotter. It's really stupid. Realy friends don't do that.

[Heartache0405]

Probably because women have this issue with themselves where they compare themselves to other women. Which makes them feel ugly (when they're not) and makes them perceive their friends as perfect. (Which they're not)

[Asker]

Very true

[ally018]

I used to do this myself. Unfortunately I did this because I wanted to feel like I was as beautiful or as beautiful as my friends and it lead to the end our friendship.

[Asker]

It’s good you have self reflection though, some people are incapable of admitting it! Did you do it because of insecurities maybe? No judgement xxx

[ally018]

Definitely was some insecurities there. I learned now that I have destroyed my friendships for this way of thinking.

[Asker]

Well I admire your honesty !!

[Wester1967]

I have had former GFs whose girl friends actively sabotaged our relationships because the girl friends felt jealous and wanted to control the woman I was dating. Worked like a charm twice and both those women and their friends went on to live ridiculous, shallow, horrible lives. Be careful of the bait and switch ladies. Your friends do not always have your interest at heart.

[Starla1234]

Because they’re friends may be into the same type of guys as they are, they might be jealous of they’re friends, they may want to get the hottest guy to maintain their popularity, want to make other people jealous etc..

[jshm2]

That's called "being toxic" and no, those are not friends. If anything those are acquaintances that can turn on you when it suits them.

If your life isn't getting better, that is usually why.

[dustybiker]

Yup. Can’t stand it myself. All my closest friends are male for a reason. All the woman I have befriended are easy going.

[scentoflavender]

Because theyre really not friends. Theyre just women who hang around each other. So in truth, they are in fact competition.

[scooogy]

My crush's friend befriended me before I outed myself as in love with my crush. Her friend is taken, but she still keeps me from asking my crush out, not wanting me to hurt her feelings. On the other hand my crush's now ex had been possessive with her and God knows what more had happened.

I mean, why even let her date people if others want to protect her feelings? 🤷‍♂️

[Diodoro]

Because women are aware that men primarily pick based on attractiveness. Which is why every girl is always asking themselves and sometimes others the question who is prettier.

[Asker]

That’s not necessarily true, there was once a guy who picked my less attractive friend over my stunning model type friend. It was because he “clicked” with her

[Diodoro]

"Primarily" doesn't mean ONLY

it means the prime focus. And a lot of girls are in the threshold of attractiveness. He found your friend attractive and they clicked, had she not been attractive enough she would have never of had the opportunity to click.

Additionally, what girls see has a hot chick and what guys he has a hot chick there he's pretty majorly. Like the overwhelming majority of guys found Megan Fox to be hot back when she was first becoming real famous

Aloooot of girls would say she's not that hot and that there are other girls more attractive that almost no guy would agree is hotter.

[Diodoro]

Guys and girls idea of hit gurks varies* majorly

[Diodoro]

Hot girls* lmao I'm fat thumbing this tonight

[Asker]

Nah my other friend is much more obviously attractive, the other one is average looking and overweight but still cute

[Asker]

Megan fox is stunning. There are girls that both guys and girls will agree are stunning. My friend who wasn’t chosen by the guy is one of them. One of the prettiest girls I know

[Asker]

Most girls would agree Megan fox is hot what u talking about

[Asker]

Also, friend 1 was so much more attractive than the other girl that the other girl was chronically jealous of her looks

[kyliesz]

because they have their own insecurities and they someone else’s success as a treat to them

[FlutteringFeelings]

Society says may the most beautiful when then it becomes a competition. Beauty pageants.

[AmandaYVR]

Insecurity, jealousy, envy, a sense of entitlement. It's all ugly.

[kellytheman]

Some just think hey how did she get to look like that or get a guy like that it not they are really competing is more like I want what she has but can't. But the my opinion and I am a guy so women might know more than me and run deeper than I think.

[Anonymous]

Because they are. You are in sexual competition with all your friends. That's just how it is. First to get married, first to get pregnant, the big ring, the house, it's all competition.

[Asker]

I don’t know, I don’t see my friends as competition personally.

[Opinion Owner]

till they want the same guy tbh

[Seangreen]

Because a lot of men only think with their pee pee and where they're going to put their pee pee and if they can't put their pee pee in that one they will try to put their pee pee in the other one

[FilmGuy93]

Insecurity. It seems like insecurity drives a lot of feminine social behavior.

[Asker]

I agree it’s usually down to insecurity or dissatisfaction with oneself/one’s life

[Nazgol]

For different reasons. To get the guy, attention, popularity, looks , fame

[malwins]

i dont know either. if im jealous of sb id try to get like them

[CasaNorba]

they do say that women love competition. I guess their friends aren't an option

[Anonymous]

Because they ARE in a competition for the attention of the best men.

[Anonymous]

Women, in general, are extremely hypergamous for everything. They only want the best, men take what they can get.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Jealousy and insecurity

[Wise4myage]

Jealousy always plays a role in that.

[WowwGirl]

Insecurity, weak, crazy

[hi_it_is_me123]

These ain't friends

[Daphne00]

The media has us started that.

[emperor90]

Because they want to have a challenge