All of my exes (and guys I dated for awhile) were great! But then after awhile they lost interest and faded/ghosted. All of a sudden, just like that, without giving me any closure or reason. And this happened with ALL of them. So there is apparently some fucked up pattern here that makes me paranoid with trust issues. It definitely affects my dating life, I feel traumatized. I am so fucked up that I am kind of already "expecting" the next guy to do the same, whether it be after 2 months of dating or after 10 years of marriage. Every little thing he does that could possibly allude to happening it rings this alarm in my head and I run for the hills. I practically sabotage it in the end with my insecurities. I know I am fucked up and am not fit for relationships, I'm too damaged.
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I've had some really caring and great boyfriends and met some genuinely good guys.
But I've also met the opposite.
For a while, I almost have been spoiled by a boyfriend, and the one after really opened my eyes to the reality of things. That just because someone says they care about you or love you, doesn't mean they'll actually mean it or want the best for you etc.
I'm more cautious now. But I know there are great guys out there.
But I'm definitely not as blue eyed and trusting, and naive as I was before.
What Girls Said
Yes. I think this is honestly the case with both sides.
No I think I understand why I had a bad experience and can avoid it in the future.
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