Why a girl is afraid of getting attached?

[Jack086]

The thing is a girl I used to talk daily asked me for how long we'll talk daily, "I said I don't know", then she said can we talk on alternate days? "I said her yes I think so" and asked her the reason she replied "she's affraid of getting attached and that's dangerous"
What she's really upto?

[SueShe]

There can be various reasons why I person is hesitant to get attached.

In your case, she could have had bad previous experiences with other men and she wants to make sure that she is not doing the same mistake over again.

There is nothing wrong with trying to take some distance to analyze the situation and to take corrective action if necessary. Anyway, people are way too much into talking on a daily basis. Too much communication, just like not enough of it, is not always good. Some people have nothing to say and feel uncomfortable being obliged to talk on a daily basis.

Give this lady the space she needs and see where it is leading. Most probably she does not want to go into a relation right now and you should accept that fact.

[Jack086]

Yes, she told me that she has trust issues, but also she said that I like talking to you, I told you things that nobody expect my best friend knows and she said now we'll talk on Friday what to do know?, I'm really confused because I don't know what she really wanna say.

[SueShe]

If she suggests that you talk with her on Friday, then your only option is to wait those 48 hours. If she sees that you can give her the space she needs, then you give her what she needs and she may learn to trust you in the future.

[Jack086]

Thank you so much 🙇🏻‍♂️💓

[Jamie05rhs]

@SueShe If you don't have anything to say, then you can at least say Hello.

Picture this: If you (not you, personally; because I know how you feel about these things) were married and living with your husband, when he came home from work, would you want him to walk in the door, walk right past you, and head straight to the couch, while completely ignoring you and not saying a word? Maybe he didn't have anything specific on his mind at the moment, but he could at least acknowledge your presence and give you a quick hug or something. He could at least say "how are you doing?"

[Jamie05rhs]

But I agree with the advice that you gave to Jack.

[Anonymous]

There’s a LOT of reasons, but the most likely reason is she has some sort of trauma or trust issues due to a past bad relationship! If you really like her and think you’ll be patient enough to muscle through it- then be kind and prove you’ll treat her right! If you can’t handle someone who needs a little bit more help then I recommend meeting someone else! :)

[Jack086]

Thank you for answering my question🙇🏻‍♂️, yes you're right she have trust issues she told me about that she also said me we'll talk now on Friday what to do now?

[rabbitzzz]

well. If you really liked her you wouldn't agree to the other day arrangement right? You would want her to be attached. Since you didn't. Its a casual hookup.

[Jack086]

I like her, but I'm confused what to do? 🙇🏻‍♂️ I said that because I don't wanna force her to talk to me.

[rabbitzzz]

I am not the best person to ask advice but you gotta talk everyday somehow. eventually. else it will be every weekend, once a month, barely then never.

[Jack086]

Thank you for this 🙇🏻‍♂️💓

[noohair]

If you figure out what women think, you can rule the world.

[Jack086]

and that's ain't easy 😂😂😂

[TrueConfection]

That's code for, "I don't want you to get too attached."

"It's me, not you."

Time to detach!

[Leonharted]

She doesn't want to get into a relationship with you.

[Jamie05rhs]

She's unserious. Drop her.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Jack086 Maybe I was wrong. I apologize.