Is bounce back culture wrong?

Question

Or should moms really be expected to bounce back after having a baby?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

not in my culture... not in my family/relatives... not among my friends or neighbours...

honestly... this kind of stuff I only see it on entertainment and with celebrities, is it wrong? yes it's very wrong to pressure anybody to look a certain way, especially right after they've given birth...

matchrestore · Accepted Answer

There's so much pressure on new mothers, "bouncing back" should be the least of their worries.

Anonymous · Answer

Geezus, I can't even imagine anyone telling my sister-in-law to worry about bouncing back as soon as possible seeing as how her son was born with a genetic disorder, and she spent the first three months of his life worrying if he'd live to see another day while simultaneously trying to deal with recovery from a c-section, post partum depression, and dealing with the personal guilt at feeling like she was neglecting her husband and other son who wasn't used to not getting attention being a former only child. But sure, fitting into a size 2 again IS the most important thing in life.  No woman and no man should ever pressure a woman to bounce back. Women aren't yo-yo's. Their priority is and always should be the care of that child or children. One's health is important, but one does not have to be a size 2 again with a tight stomach to be healthy. If any man in particular has an issue with this, they should try to have a baby, deal with the physical and mental recovery, and then they can preach to women how they "should" bounce back.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I think mothers (along with everyone else) should prioritize their health, but it's beyond stupid to expect a mother's body to be exactly the way it was before she had kids. Usually, there are some permanent or long lasting changes.

Obviously, they're going to carry some baby weight for awhile, and it will be hard for them to take off, so I don't believe anyone should expect for it to come off right away. I've never had kids, but I've always heard baby weight is some of the hardest to lose. I do think that everyone (male or female) should do their best to maintain a healthy weight, but not everyone's journey is the same and people shouldn't have unrealistic expectations of each other or criticize someone who is trying their best, but struggling.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I think everyone should do what makes them happy. There's nothing wrong with wanting to get fit and healthy again after having a baby but I don't agree on shaming mums who don't or find it too difficult to. I don't have any children of my own but I can't imagine how hard it would be for a new mother to have the time and energy whilst also caring for a new born to eat healthy and go gym etc. My mum was a size 8 UK before she had me and my two stisters and now she's a size 16. She's still just as beautiful and very glam and my dad still fancies the pants off of her and she's the best at cuddles too because of extra momma padding. I wouldn't have her any other way but if she did ever want to lose weight I'd fully support that I just want her to be happy and healthy.

Lynx122 · Answer

There's also the possibility that some people can do something and others can not do something and both groups can be fine with it. "Puts extreme pressure on women" why? A man went to the moon but I don't feel extreme pressure to go to space. Why do you have to feel threatened by something someone else did and why does it have to become a whole debate where everyone has to take a side and everything has to be a trend or a culture. You live your life the way you want to and if some woman wants to work out after giving birth she can do that.

KingofCups · Answer

It's not only about how you look. It's about your health and how you feel. Exercise doesn't have to be some super intense, over the top practice. I've had some of my clients achieve tremendous results by just skipping rope 15min/day four time out of the week. You have to find what works for you. At the end of the day it's for your relationship, so you can enjoy some super hot sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Having a baby is seriously traumatic to a woman’s body. The good form of bounce back is to treat it like rehab after an injury or surgery. And yes, people do need a kick in the butt sometimes to do that.

Where it goes wrong is when women are expected to get back to where they were as if what they went through was nothing.

Treat it like PT. Treat it like the hard physical trial it was. Acknowledge the accomplishment of bouncing back and push people to do so. Same way you’d encourage someone to learn to walk again after a car accident.

TruthBringer · Answer

I don't think it is wrong. Maybe the way people are pressuring instead of motivating. But the whole idea of getting back in shape is actually something to the benefit of a woman's health and even self-esteem. What matters is that the father is supportive and takes off the load whenever necessary. In the end, there is no excuse to being lazy out of political correctness. Stop making excuses and go to work.

Because if we're going to question bounce back culture, we might as well question the pressure put on a husband to go out there to provide and he STILL has to remain in shape. We all got challenges in life so best to get to it.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Should moms not take shits in the morning? Its time away from the baby. Smh. And why can't mom do some cardio when the baby takes a nap? Its healthy! However there's nothing wrong with having changes to your body with pregnancy but this is the same as the moms who gain 50lbs to have a baby. No the fuck you did not. You gained like 25 lbs, and you also had a baby.

People are so clueless about their own health its ridiculous. A third trimester pregnant woman only needs about 200 extra calories. This is a small snack. Most snack food its one package. Its 6 rits peanut butter crackers. One small normal candy bar. Its a small banana and an apple. Thats it. But most pregnant women go for the tub of ice cream. Smh. Like y'all know ice cream isn't healthy and you know what you eat the baby is getting though you, time to be healthier than ever!

jshm2 · Answer

There is no such "culture" let alone pressure.

Sometimes these things are just dipshit Facebook users who want to make all the drama about them, when there is no real substance.

Like a while back a prospect was bitching on socials about employers not willing to hire people with tattoo's. Of course the higher ups wanted it looked into. Turned out she flunked her interview and had a shitty little tattoo on her wrist. Instead of admitting she fucked up her chance to impress, she doubled down on her assertion.

Eventually one of the interviewers private messaged her, and showed her his full sleeve. She backed away pretty quick after.

HighValue · Answer

If they were in shape before getting pregnant, it would be much easier and quicker to get back in shape afterwards. The problem is that most women are NOT in shape. They think being slim means they are in shape even though they don't exercise and are physically weak, even for their size.

Godsvengeance · Answer

I choose the unlisted third option. Moms should tell others to fuck off and worry about their own bodies. Moms should bounce back if that's what they want and they can pull it off, and they shouldn't if they don't want to or they can't. The culture that is wrong is giving a fuck what others think about your body

PAcc92 · Answer

It is not wrong, and the men in the relationship should be along to help.

It's not about "stretch marks" it's about health, pregnancy is like any form of hard labor - rough on the body. A recovery period is expected, but by no means should you ignore your child. Mental health is important too, and if you put recovery over your child the mental health of all three will degrade.

Moderation is the king of all things.

jasco · Answer

I mean being in shape is always good. Of course dealing with the stress of having a kid could pervent that from happening over a shirt or long period of time so who knows. I feel like a mom should always be willing to stay in shape. Nothing wrong with trying to lose weight when your ready to do so

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Everything is a culture now. Smh.
If a woman seeks to get back in shape after a baby, then so be it, let her be and she's gonna look damn good for it.
If not, then oh well. She's likely focused on or occupied with other things than to lose weight.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

People will have opinions but , it's on the mother's on how they feel about their bodies.

Women do become insecure after giving child birth and project on their husbands.

So if you have reached an optimum health it's good to loose.

BC it's your life your body , you can't dedicate your whole life to your children , it will have side effects on mental health and aging

Andres77 · Answer

It's not wrong. It just might not be appropriate in all cases.
If you have the money and the support and the maternity leave... take your sweet time.
If you don't have all of that and bills are coming due... then you need to.
Society telling you that that's what you should do... fuq society. Do what your family needs.
Some have it easier than others.
You choose based on your life.
Good luck.

Mark987 · Answer

This has been an issue from what I understand for the longest time. Every Woman has a story and should be proud of it. From saying don't show stretch marks to she shouldn't her body like that. We live in 2022 ENOUGH WITH THE BODY SHAMING. Women should be proud

Mangospacho · Answer

I’ve never understood bouncing back after a couple weeks of giving birth. Is the newborn sleeping through the night and changing their own diapers? I don’t understand how people have the time to do that.

crmoore · Answer

I've never heard of bounce back culture but unless they're saying mom's MUST bounce back, and shame those who don't, I don't see it as wrong.

If people want to try to bounce back, that's fine. If people don't bounce back or don't want to try to, that's fine too.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

It's not something that should be expected but it's seen a lot with famous women because they have money for trainers, nannies, and surgery. I don't know any women IRL that has given birth and automatically went into bounce back mode.

TonyV · Answer

Well they don't need to bounce back right after birth.

Ut I am tired of woman that use kids as an excuse to be in bad shape, pregnancy dosent have to put on that much weight for one, and you can't just say "I had a child" for ever, at some point it's not the kids fault your just to lazy to do the work, if you would rather be fat that's fine just admit it, don't make excuses and act like cause you had a kid it's impossible to ever be thin or back to your pre baby weight again.

Cherry234 · Answer

Mothers shouldn't be expected to bounce back right after giving birth. If she wants to bounce back right away, then she can. If it was me, I'd try to bounce back (not immediately though) because I want to stay thin and in shape.

Valso · Answer

Can you explain what "bounce back" means in this context? "Bounce" has quite a few meanings, among which is a song by Busta Rhymes, but none of them fits the context of the question.

COoperativez · Answer

Luckily I bounced back after my kids. But I don’t feel it is necessary to live to anyone standards but your own. Yes bbl and tummy tucks sound and look wonderful. But goodness, loving your natural self is a different kind of self esteem.

Ninania · Answer

I accidentally answered no, because it's contradictory without a comma.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope, it more media , social media bollox. it’s also far harder for some than others and not everyone has a personal trainer, a nanny and home gym.

molonski2 · Answer

Its absolutely vital to get your body back , and giving birth is not an excuse to just become a slob , its a vital culture , and enhances the mothers well being.

You simply must be of correct weight , it makes a MASSIVE difference to overall health , a good guide is how much you monitor weight , bounce back is vital.

Diodoro · Answer

Personal opinion

In a relationship where you have kids. Your partner ultimately comes first ahead of your child and both parents should have this mindset going in.

While yes she should be spending time with her child. Be real. You can spend 30-45 min to workout while the child is sleeping. You find a balance in your schedule with work.

I'd like to think my woman still wants to look good for me after a child, rather than saying "fuck it. I'm a mom now. I'll just be fat".

That's not only not putting me first. That's putting me and her child second and third to her want to be lazy. The less healthy she is the less capable she is to be a good mom and partner.

Doesn't mean she has to be a fitness freak, but there's simple specific work that can prepare a woman for a short bounce back before the child even comes.

Hangry06 · Answer

It's neither wrong nor right. If a mother wants to bounce back to her old body, she should do it. If she doesn't, don't. She will just have to put up with the shaming

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Yes it’s wrong. Being a parent to a newborn is a lot of work, a lot of sleepless nights. mothers don’t even have a moment to themselves after birth, much less time to work out and lose weight.

Elliegirl · Answer

It should not be expected of mothers to “bounce back” from having a baby. However, it is perfectly fine if she wishes to do so for herself.

IMuser · Answer

She should take a minimum of 2-3 years before bouncing back.  Giving birth and tending to the child is an exhausting, painful yet essential process

dustybiker · Answer

I’m fit. Like to stay fit. However it’s personal choice. I’m the one that lives in my body. What others do with theirs is their own business.

annabananna · Answer

Some women will need surgery to get back to normal. If you have diastasis recti or excessive skin that doesn’t shrink so some women can’t get back to pre baby body and I don’t want them to feel bad about it.

VanillaSalt · Answer

There’s 2 of us for a reason. If I’m not physically attracted to you that’s a problem. If I let myself go and gain 100lbs are you gonna ignore it? Na. Besides being fit is healthy and being healthy means your in a better position to help your child and family.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

It's not a binary decision. The body has a natural tendency to return to its pre-pregnancy state and it's okay for women to maintain a healthy regime of diet and exercise while that happens, simultaneously while having energetic unprotected sex to start the next baby.

TCredo · Answer

Every mother's 'bounce back' desire and timeframe if she so desires should be up to that particular mother - just like everything else related to stuff like this :)

AdithyaR · Answer

They can if they want to but should not be expected to. Nobody has the right to put that expectation on them.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

Well, it's a good idea for a girl to still work out her best, but at the same time she doesn't need to be extreme about it.

Surely · Answer

I find it simply amazing that a woman’s body can stretch out to carry a child and yet go back to close to normal after giving birth! No shaming from this guy.

EaterPeter · Answer

No, we should be patience with our selves though. Not all things take same time and not all of us are same either

caitycat21 · Answer

Lol no. Everyone’s bodies are different, so after getting pregnant you might go right back to normal and other people keep their pregnancy weight.

My step mom bounced back quickly after having my half sister

ohshee · Answer

Time out.. first of all we should have nothing to do with that the mom will do it when she's ready

beebella · Answer

I think being a new mom/having a new baby is stressful enough. Getting their body back should be the least of their worries.

BillyBalls · Answer

Why is it a "culture".

Shouldn't women want to live healthy lives after giving birth?

Women bounce back at different rates. And that is okay.

However, being pregnant for 9 months plus the basic aging process changes a woman's body permanently.

A 30 year old who has had a couple kids will never have her 20 year old body back.

IveGotNoName · Answer

I think just having had a baby is an extremely good reason to give your body a break for a while.

OddBeMe · Answer

I think this is where body positivity is a good thing. Especially when post partum despression is a thing.

nawtee_me · Answer

This should be up to the mom what she wants to do and the family should support her decision. The rest of the people don't matter so mom doesn't have to pay any attention to them...

alance99 · Answer

Yes its very wrong coz her body has already been through much during pregnancy and while giving birth that she needs lot of time for rejuvenation and bounce back would just put pressure on her

TheAfrikan · Answer

Women or moms after having a child they should bounce back since I personally would love seeing my wife bouncing back with that attractive body of hers like we met before. I love it when she puts that care into herself just like I try out myself. @apple1996

convo_king89 · Answer

I think it’s an achievement to bounce back but to body shame to bounce back isn’t right.

Juliette1994 · Answer

Mom’s shouldn’t be expected to bounce back right away. It might take a while her body just went through drama.

Anonymous · Answer

Culture? since when has there been a culture about this? I swear you girls make up things in your head... When has anyone ever told a woman with a child that she needs to workout after having a baby?
No one expects a mom to bounce back, that's jus something you conjured up in your head

krin_m · Answer

Those kind of expectations are wrong. Of course, moms should not be pressured to bounce back. They should enjoy time with their new born and take care of their and their baby's health.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm not a woman and I've never been pregnant, so I really have no clue.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

It's great if they do but it's not fair to have it as expectation

JennieF · Answer

I tried to get back as quickly as I could, but it was a choice and you shouldn't have to. And do it in your own time frame.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Yes, because it isn't healthy, and in reality, it also really isn't anyone's business. Of course, ballooning into morbid obesity after birth isn't healthy either. As usual, somewhere in the middle ground lies the answer.

Guy13 · Answer

Yes, unless Momma wants to get Bounced Out…. the door 🚪  🙃.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Yes wrong moms shouldn't have to bounce back after having a baby

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