Why is rebounding seen so negatively?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I mean, according to one person I spoke with, I shouldn't "show off" going out with other women. I think, who cares? I'm not showing off but I refuse to sneak around either.

This person, who I know used to jump from man to man, has the gall to lecture me because I am organizing a short vacation with a girl I am seeing - according to her its "disrespectful" to my ex. Which is bullcrap because my ex and I already agreed to a "vacation plan" for our separate vacations, shared vacation with our children and work events.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I think it's seen negatively because bandage connections imply that one is a patient, the other is the band-aid. Since no one wants to be used then dropped at the next port, it makes sense to fear this type of connection and socially frown upon it as a result. Especially when this bandage situation is probably not often discussed between the patient and the plaster.

Moral lectures & this dubious concept of respect are funny when this conference is held by a third-party. Because she can only be wrong here. Either she's acting representative for your ex-wife which is infantilizing her, either she just finds your ways disrespectful based on her own definition of what respect should be. Based on a situation she's not involved in anyway.

[Finchie40]

Because it indicates that you really didn’t have feelings for your ex , by you moving on to someone else so fast , basically you didn’t give yourself time to heal, to some people that’s important but not everyone thinks that way , I been in some rebound relationships and they were better than my previous relationship, so just do what’s best for you and don’t care about what other people think or say

[Account]

You should do whatever works for you.
For me rebounding would hinder my healing process.
For you it might work and hell you distract yourself.
We are not all the same and not everyone has the same coping mechanisms.

[Account]

Help you distract *

[Anonymous]

Not judging but sounds like you are changing girls every week. I think you are hurting but don’t wanna admit it

[AI Opinion]

Let's dive into the world of romance rebounds! 💃🏽💔 Sometimes, rebounds get a bad rap because they often happen too soon after a breakup. It can look like you're jumping into the dating pool to distract or comfort yourself rather than addressing any leftover feelings. It's your heart's way of moving on, even if not everyone understands it. If you're being upfront and honest, and it suits both you and your new flame, who cares what others think? Keep doing you and enjoy this new connection without guilt! 🎉 Keep those vacation vibes rolling! 🌴❤️

[OlderAndWiser]

I think rebounding is bad only if you are not candid with your dating partners. Usually, someone rebounding is not “emotionally available” and is not a candidate for a serious relationship. If your dating partner is looking for something long term and they are misled, than that is bad. If they know from the start that you are not looking for a serious commitment, then go for it!

[Nikki1989]

It isn't. The people who say it is are usually the types that struggle to form any real relationship, let alone jump to another one. I don't call it rebounding; I call it making the most of opportunities when they arise. Life is short so why people insist on wasting time is baffling.

[jamesgoldman]

It's seen as callous if you'd been acrimonious in your separation but you not been so I would say going ahead publically is the best way



I started dating my second girlfriend, 3 months after breaking up with my first
She was flirting for two of those months to the point everyone in the restaurant was telling me about it and in the end she made a move that turned things up to 11 that lead to us dating

[Flower7]

It gives off the impression that you didn’t care much about your original partner.

[jazzy34]

Because you’re not taking time to heal from the breakup.

[jahaims]

It's an unhealthy way to cope. Healthy people recognize this.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Rebounding almost always ends poorly