This'll probably sound pretty bad, but I would kick her out. 'You sleep on the couch tonight' in my own house that only I pay for? Come again? I do not mind paying for her, but I do it because I want to, and Not because she expects me to.
Any muslim man who complain about this, have no clue about about their religion. I only heard this a lot by muslim apologists. No man is entitled to her money but he has to provide her. I have never heard by a western woman.
By the way women in asia very materialistic too due to very conservative mindset. So i dont understand why some people shit on western women lool while fetishisize Asian girls for being submissive etc
that's a relationship killer. No guy with a sack would stay in a toxic relationship like that, and the reverse should also be true if a man wants her to share her money while he keeps his to himself.
It's super toxic and borderline manipulative. In a relationship both portion out their pay to cover rent, utilities, bills, and other needed stuff. What is left over is each of your own spending cash, not all hers
I mean im not going to lie I think thag way too 😂 I want us to have a joint account but I also want to have my own account for when I want to buy stuff because after all I’m not working for nothing lol
It just sounds very unnecessary. What do you explain to you? Are you his guardian? Since when is a man having his own bank account untrustworthy now? Is this the new standard? If the guy is the bread-winner, and you have a joint bank account, then he can have is own account. No ifs or buts, and no explanation needed. It's a right.
@Datboi65 we’re both going to work lol. I’d just feel bad that maybe he doesn’t trust me if he didn’t tell me. Communication is very important. I also think this way because I’ve seen my dad keep secrets from my mom and how that messes up relationships
Then maybe you need to work on that trauma before you date people. You are right, communication is important, but so is trust. 2 things you don't do to a man: check his phone constantly, or ask about what he does with his account. I'm sorry you went through that, but not every man is your dad. Personal space should be respected in a relationship.
Right, so that's what I was saying. It's just odd why he should ask for your permission to start his own account. I don't think there's anything wrong with you having your bank account, so why should he not have his? Or to rephrase this better, why does he have to ask for your blessings to start a bank account? It's screams that you are not a very trusting person, and you have some issues that you need to work on.
Well yh I wouldn’t date someone like that. I come from a very wealthy family so I’ll make sure our assets are very far away from each other and that she can’t claim anything
Great because I feel like if I as a man bring in $50,000 to the marriage and my wife brings in a million dollars in the beginning of the marriage. Why we are married we share funds that's just what married people do. If we separate or divorce the first thing to be divided is the $50,000 I brought in and the million that she brought in and then any assets we acquired together should be split up equally.
There are guys out there with a low enough self view that will go along with that. I however believe if I am giving all I have and she is not, than there isn't a relationship to discuss.
Because women are biologically programmed to be selfish to the benefit of both her and her offspring. Add that and desperate beta males who pdestalize women and uit becomes the perfect breeding ground for that mindset.
I understand it. It’s useful having a joint account for joint bills like rent. Then you can see how much you put in vs him etc. And it’s not supposed to be 100% equal all the time. We all go through ups and downs.
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This'll probably sound pretty bad, but I would kick her out. 'You sleep on the couch tonight' in my own house that only I pay for? Come again?
I do not mind paying for her, but I do it because I want to, and Not because she expects me to.
I'd let her sleep on the back stoop outside the house. Maybe she'll shape up after surviving the night.
Any muslim man who complain about this, have no clue about about their religion. I only heard this a lot by muslim apologists. No man is entitled to her money but he has to provide her.
I have never heard by a western woman.
BUT in return she has to obey her husband. I had to forget to mention this
*** No man is entitled to her money but he has to provide her according to the muslim apologists/islam but she has to obey him in return*****
This is not my opinion and I dont think likd this!!
By the way women in asia very materialistic too due to very conservative mindset. So i dont understand why some people shit on western women lool while fetishisize Asian girls for being submissive etc
I think it's bullshit. A whole steamy load of 💩 poop.
society is slowly going down hill
https://www.youtube.com/embed/mICWFTmE440so one day the men are going to destroy and rape the women at a high scale
right now what is happening is we are killing women in small scales not a a group
that's a relationship killer. No guy with a sack would stay in a toxic relationship like that, and the reverse should also be true if a man wants her to share her money while he keeps his to himself.
It's super toxic and borderline manipulative.
In a relationship both portion out their pay to cover rent, utilities, bills, and other needed stuff. What is left over is each of your own spending cash, not all hers
I mean im not going to lie I think thag way too 😂 I want us to have a joint account but I also want to have my own account for when I want to buy stuff because after all I’m not working for nothing lol
But you're still happy with him having his own money as well outside that joint account,. right?
He should be able to buy what he likes too
You didn't answer the question - would you be happy with him also having his own separate account?
I’d be okay with it as long as he gives me an explanation why
And would you give him an explanation why you do the same?
@connemara_crocodile of course I tell him everything
He doesn't need to explain anything to you
Well, as long as you both doing the same, I think is fair.
@Datboi65 well he does it’s important to always be honest with each other. I’d eventually ask about it and I’d understand
It just sounds very unnecessary. What do you explain to you? Are you his guardian? Since when is a man having his own bank account untrustworthy now? Is this the new standard? If the guy is the bread-winner, and you have a joint bank account, then he can have is own account. No ifs or buts, and no explanation needed. It's a right.
@Datboi65 we’re both going to work lol. I’d just feel bad that maybe he doesn’t trust me if he didn’t tell me. Communication is very important. I also think this way because I’ve seen my dad keep secrets from my mom and how that messes up relationships
As long as it's mutual, it's fine.
Then maybe you need to work on that trauma before you date people. You are right, communication is important, but so is trust. 2 things you don't do to a man: check his phone constantly, or ask about what he does with his account. I'm sorry you went through that, but not every man is your dad. Personal space should be respected in a relationship.
@Datboi65 i never plan to check my bf’s phone and i don’t ask about his bank account either
Right, so that's what I was saying. It's just odd why he should ask for your permission to start his own account. I don't think there's anything wrong with you having your bank account, so why should he not have his? Or to rephrase this better, why does he have to ask for your blessings to start a bank account? It's screams that you are not a very trusting person, and you have some issues that you need to work on.
@Datboi65 no he doesn’t have to ask I just expect him to tell me why
I don't ask a woman to tell me why she has a personal account. That's controlling behavior.
Just because it is commonplace does not mean it is not a hypocritical misandrist double standard.
Well yh I wouldn’t date someone like that. I come from a very wealthy family so I’ll make sure our assets are very far away from each other and that she can’t claim anything
She's a Misandrist who other women on here will defend by saying that she is a horrible person but that there are more horrible men
I think it's ridiculous, especially if a woman is earning a lot and can easily support herself.
My money is my money and his money is my money. LOL!
If that's your mindset you'll probably be single a long time and if you're married you probably won't be for long
This is the opposite mindset of mine
Great because I feel like if I as a man bring in $50,000 to the marriage and my wife brings in a million dollars in the beginning of the marriage. Why we are married we share funds that's just what married people do. If we separate or divorce the first thing to be divided is the $50,000 I brought in and the million that she brought in and then any assets we acquired together should be split up equally.
There are guys out there with a low enough self view that will go along with that. I however believe if I am giving all I have and she is not, than there isn't a relationship to discuss.
OH HELLS NO!!! Her money is HER money and my money is MY money
Thats a less harmful version of golddigging mindset. Why is the talk always about we men's money 😥
Sounds like a golddigger. should have 3 accts, hers, his, and joint
Because women are biologically programmed to be selfish to the benefit of both her and her offspring. Add that and desperate beta males who pdestalize women and uit becomes the perfect breeding ground for that mindset.
I understand it. It’s useful having a joint account for joint bills like rent. Then you can see how much you put in vs him etc. And it’s not supposed to be 100% equal all the time. We all go through ups and downs.
I don't think partner should share their income. Mostly because I think I might be capable of making more than him. Let him have his money. 🤗